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JON RG. TURNER 

WHOLE-SELF PSYCHOLOGY

TROYA GN GROOT – TURNER

THE WORKS OF JON RG & TROYA GN TURNER

WHOLE-SELF DISCOVERY & DEVELOPMENT INSTITUTE, Inc. INTERNATIONAL
Jon RG & Troya GN Turner-Groot

“The Prebirth Analysis Matrix© (PAM©)

is the center jewel in the tiara which comprises Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy and Education.

My Prebirth Analysis Matrix takes me back in time to discover and awaken the source of the core patterns I am in my

life to balance. I allow myself to compassionately and safely embark in a conscious regression from before conception moving

forward on an amazing journey which gives me clear images and insights leading to understanding, change and transformation in my life.”

JRG & T

 

Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy and Education:

Prebirth Analysis Matrix© 2001

By Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

Jon RG (John-Richard) Turner, one of the pioneers in holistic medicine now lives in The Netherlands.

While in therapy practice inBeverly Hills,California, he was getting referrals of clients who had been given up as incurable by other therapists. He realized that these people had spent extended time exploring their lives for the cause of their problems and had failed. Turner was inspired to ask those clients to non-hypnotically explore the emotional patterns their mothers and fathers were experiencing during their pregnancies. That was when he discovered that not only is each one of us the synthesis of the physical DNA of our parents which give us our physical characteristics but that we are also the synthesis of the charged emotions which they are experiencing during the nine months of baby’s gestation. Turner calls this the emotional DNA© or eDNA©. In other words, each one us is born with a full menu of emotional patterns. Through Whole Self Psychology, we are able to realize that our lifelong of diminishing feelings and patterns are actually the residue from our parent’s reactions to traumatic events during their pregnancies. For example, if a mother is betrayed during her pregnancy, her child is born with that sense of betrayal and lives life without trust. When the client can recognize that the pattern is her or his mother’s reaction to having been betrayed, the pattern can be released. Whole-Self is more than a therapy in that it offers a philosophical and educational base for a Whole-Life.

Fifteen years ago, while lecturing at a Psychology Conference in England Turner met Troya G.A.M. Groot, a Dutch Psychiatric & Social Nurse. >From Los Angeles then later from Santa Fe, New Mexico, Turner had been teaching the Prebirth Analysis Matrix© or PAM© – 22 sets of questions which reveal the basic patterns which each person keeps living out. 6.000 miles to the east inAmsterdam, Troya had discovered the same questions. She had been anorexic/bulimic and in searching for the possible cause of her eating disorders discovered that her mother had been told by her doctor to expect that her first baby could be born dead. This was later confirmed by her mother. When they met they realized that some 15 years before they both had separately discovered the same basic questions for the psychological foundation which every person experiences. So they teamed up.

Now, some 30 years later, Prenatal Psychology is part of the medical community. Several professional societies have published thousands of scientific studies which prove what the Turners were discovering and developing three decades ago. The Turners are Co-founders of the Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute, Inc. International. They have taught Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy and Education in 28 countries. He has been an two term elected vice-president of the International Society of Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine. He is an ISPPM Executive Board Member and one of the co-editors of the ISPPM Journal and English Language Consultant to The Neuroendocrinology Letters Medical Journal. Troya is Founder of the ISPPM:NL Chapter and is International Consultant to a Dutch Birth Education Society. They are also members of APPPAH – the Association for Pre & Perinatal Psychology & Health, the SMN – Scientific & Medical Network and Honorary Members ANEP:Italia – The Association of National Education Prenatale and the Russian Association of Perinatal Psychology and Medicine. The Turners both lecture internationally, write, teach, train and do individual sessions in Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education.

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An Exclusive Preview Chapter from Birth, Life & More LifeÓ2000

by Jon RG & Troya Turner-Groot

In it’s very simplest terms, Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy &

Education hypothesizes that just as each of us is the synthesis of our

parent’s genetic coding which gives us our physical characteristics

there is also a synthesis of the charged emotional/mental patterns

of our parents from the nine months of their pregnancy. For lack of

a better term, we call it the emotional DNA or eDNA!

Jon RG & Troya Turner

Rebirthing: A Recapitulation©2000

                                                                                          by Jon RG & Troya Turner

Memory is Life! & Life is Memory!

I am sitting at my computer desk. For the last 11 years on the right wall of my office hangs a meter by half-a-meter purple felt banner with white letters. They are the colors of my Alma Mater. The 6½ inch white letters say “Holy Cross 1956”.

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“Getting to know you, Getting to know all about you, Getting to know you …”

Some of you may recognize the lyric from Richard Rogers & Oscar Hammerstein II’s 1951 Broadway hit The King & I. It came from the last decade of the truly great Broadway musicals. What made those singing, dancing spectaculars memorable were the words & music of the featured songs. Almost everyone knew the lyrics because they spoke to everyone’s heart.

“Getting to know you, getting to know all about you. Getting to know you..”

It’s a Sunday afternoon in mid-August 50 years later. I decide to take a break from writing. The pear tree in the back yard calls me. The pears are just coming into sweetness. I pick the roundest I can see. Go into the kitchen for a knife & sit down in front of the TV. The picture comes on.

“Getting to know you, getting to know all about you. Getting to know you …”

How delightful! There she is… Deborah Kerr is Anna singing that song as she leads about a dozen of the multitude of the King of Siam’s large progeny. He had alot of wives & alot of children – 67 including those whose mothers were out of favor. I remember the lyric & start to sing-a-long.

“Getting to know you, getting to know all about you. Getting to know you…”

Suddenly I’m gagging. The words I love so much are choking me! I’m feeling a welling of tears in my eyes. What is happening? “Breathe out!”, I say to myself. I remember that I have to breathe in before I can breathe out. To sing, I have to breathe. Anna & the Siamese ensemble are joyously celebrating getting to know each other with full voices & I am reduced to a gasping whisper “Getting to know you, getting to hope you like me.” “Breathe out!”

Something very powerful is triggering a very strong reaction. The words? The melody? The picture? All have combined to take me back to a time & a place in my memory. What year is it? Easy! I glance down to the TV guide on the table – The King & I made 1956! I breathe out!

Spring of 1956… 22 years old…Last months of four years at the College of the Holy Cross in Worcester, Massachusetts…Senior Thesis – two weeks over deadline… final Philosophy oral exams – if I don’t pass I don’t graduate… then the final written exams – have to pass to graduate…my father has an ulcer & ¾ of his stomach is removed…a month before graduation the radio station where I’ve worked six hours every night since 1955 is sold – the new owner is changing the programs & doesn’t want me even though I have the only number one rated show…a month after graduation we’re to marry… we’ve already rented an apartment & bought a new car – how can I tell her & her parents I no longer have a job…. By the standards of the day we were doing it so perfectly! Except now I don’t have a job. 1956 – quite a year!

So I reviewed what I had believed was going to be, as Frank Sinatra reprieved “a very good year”. I watched. I felt my feelings. I understood my diminishing self-judgments & I recalled my diminishing decisions about myself & my life. I worked with all of it. I changed the lyric just abit with apologies to Oscar Hammerstein II. “Getting to know me, getting to know all about me.” &, I could breathe & sing & even join in with Anna & all the King of Siam’s children. “Getting to know you, getting to know all about you. Getting to know you…”

So, from a breathwork point of view what happened? My physical/emotional reaction in not being able to breathe & sing normally clearly demonstrated that something was out of balance – & on a very deep level. My body had most effectively acted as a biofeedback instrument. In Whole-Self Psychology it also signaled a message from my Whole-Self bringing to my attention non-conscious information which I very much needed to be aware of on a conscious level & once recognized to release myself from.

Some breath workers may be wondering, when I so clearly knew the events of 1956, why I didn’t breathe & submerse myself in emotional catharsis. The truth is, emotional catharsis would not have released me from the emotional patterns my personality had locked into when those events happened. Yes, I could have summoned an emotional acting out reducing myself to tears of helplessness, hopelessness & powerlessness. But, emotionally acting out would not have released me – it would have locked me deeper into the trauma. My Whole-Self had effectively helped me to uncover an emotional reactiveness about such seemingly overwhelming events all happening within one year. The answer is that I didn’t become emotionally upset about the events at the times when they occurred. You see, because of early developmental disabilities my personality did not experiences those events as particularly overwhelming. They were simply normal events placed in my path to be overcome. Interesting word – overcome instead of overwhelm.

The point is that now, looking back 50 years, I could observe the events, feel the emotional patterns, understand them & release them without having to become emotionally diminished & depleted by acting them out. I didn’t have to imagine an immature reactive mechanism to clear my breathing. I could look back at the events of what was probably the most charged year of my life & from 50 years down the road understand& them & clear them. The truth is I am somewhat in awe that the whole pattern was exposed by a song & that 50 years later I could heal it.

“When I’m with you, hoping to know what to say.” is another line from the lyric of Getting to Know You. &, that is the interesting point of how my Whole-Self brought me to the point of this exercise – writing this today. I have something to say & I’m aware that some of you won’t like me for saying it.

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One fact 30 years of working in Prenatal Psychology has taught me is that charged emotional patterns which come up during life usually have a prenatal source. My above described experience is a clear example. A brief explanation of the Whole-Self model is necessary first. Let us go back some 30 years ago. For ease of understanding the Whole-Self model is described in the first person – I. In Los Angeles, California, I was inspired to teach how emotional patterns are initiated at various points during the nine months of gestation. As she describes in her book Seeking a Miracle, 6,000 miles to the east, Troya in Amsterdam, The Netherlands discovered how to heal herself of the eating disorders anorexia & bulimia nervosa when she was meditating & seeing that her suicidal patterns were the result of her mother being told by her doctor that her first baby would be born dead. We were both inspired with this discovery of basically the same questions which developed into the Prebirth Analysis MatrixÓ or PAMÓ.

The PAM is a simple blueprint of 22 sets of questions which precisely helps me to discover or decode charged emotional/mental patterns inherited from my mother & father programmed into me during the nine months of my gestation. Genetic research shows that I am the synthesis of the genetic coding of my parents which results in my physical characteristics. The Prebirth Memory DiscoveryÓ, another name for the PAM hypothesis, describes a parallel system which comprises the foundation for my basic emotional/mental patterns. This last sentence means the menu of emotions I am born with. My PAM, in a gentle regression to before conception, takes me back to explore the charged emotional/mental patterns being experienced by my mother, & father through mother, at significant moments in their pregnancy. It is during this nine months threshold when I began my emotional discovery & development.

First German Rebirthing Congress – 1989

In almost all systems, there is a moment when certain questions simply will not go away. Ultimately, those questions need to be addressed. That time may have arrived for what we prefer to call rebreathing therapies since the breathing patterns locked in during trauma trances are far more frequent than recreating of birth breathing patterns. In the spirit of seeking a dialogue, I present some of these questions & offer some hypotheses intended to bring genuine understanding, reappraisal & support to rebreathing practitioners. As we proceed some breathing coaches may be reminded of the schism which occurred in the rebirthing community when some practitioners felt that they were inducing people to have a traumatic births when those clients had not held that reality. It was Rebirthing Founder Leonard Orr, who because of his own birth recovery, insisted that everyone’s birth was traumatic. Maybe this exposition will clarify the issue.

Two questions came to a head in 1989. Troya & I were invited to present a paper on Prebirth Memory Recovery at the First German Rebirthing Congress at theUniversityofOsnabruckinGermany. Up to that time, in some 20 years of guiding over 10,000 persons in over 20 countries (now close to 30,000 people in 28 countries), we had found that very, very few people experienced having a traumatic birth. In fact, these people confirmed studies reported to us by Joseph Chilton Pearce, noted American researcher & educator, that shortly before birth if there is no medication administered, the baby’s body is saturated with endorphins which act as an anaesthetic for the actual birth.

Preparing for theOsnabruckmeeting we had two questions about rebirthing which simply would not go away:

First, why do some people keep repeating emotionally acting out

a traumatic birth in successive rebreathing sessions?

Second, why do some people seem unable to stop being victims of

their prebirth & birth patterning?

Our task was formidable! First, theOsnabruckaudience was divided into several factions. Some, as mentioned above, found themselves in the position which echoed back to the original split between those rebirthers who had from their own practice experienced that all people did not experience birth as traumatic; & those rebirthers who sided with Leonard Orr who from his own birth recreations insisted that all births are traumatic.

There were 600 rebirthers atOsnabruckmost of whose methodology was suggesting to people that they go back to gestation & to experience being inside their mother’s womb. How could Troya & I possibly tell them that this methodology may, in fact, have been a problem? The probing question was:

Was your client – was anyone – ever inside their mother’s womb

fighting to get out?

From our decades of experience sharing the Prebirth Analysis Matrix the only people who came with in utero gestational memories were people who had been through rebirthing sessions.

Emotive therapies may provoke me to react as an unborn infant would act;

Whole-Self invites me respond as an adult would act

in the original situation.

My childish emotional behavior locks me into adrenal reaction;

My adult mature experience frees me.

The idea that there is a human consciousness desperately struggling to get out of mother’s pelvic prison is tenable if I hold two premises:

First, that the little body growing inside mother’s womb

is my body & not her body;

&, secondly, that I, as a consciousness, somehow am actually

inside that little body inside my mother’s womb.

So, how do I discover the truth of these two realities or beliefs?

What are the facts?

The first fact is that there is a little body growing inside my mother. Because I know that the body I have now was conceived & grown inside my mother’s body, it is natural to for me to say,

‘When I was inside my mother’s womb……’.

But, biologically that little body growing inside mother is, in fact, part of mother’s body. It is fed by her oxygen, her nutrients, her blood supply. All of her systems are supporting the part of her body which mother is preparing for me to use after my birth. Biologically, it seems reasonably clear that the little body developing in her womb is part of her body until expelled at the birth when that body begins it’s, or should I say, my “independent life”. My baby’s body is basically functional in about three months. This is why very early preemies can survive under life support in neonatal intensive care units. The next six months are spent practicing so that after birth I can function normally.

Where do “I” Come From?

So, if all the physical part of me is actually my mother’s body during that nine months of her pregnancy where do I come from? It is such a profound philosophical question. The source of me is a mystery that has been debated for thousands of years. Having gotten my BA in Greek/English, the obvious point of the search is to go back to the birthplace of philosophy; to sit at the knees of the Greek philosophical giants themselves, Aristotle & Plato.

Here on the right is Aristotle speculating that all I can be conscious of is basically biologically based. I start as a blank slate – a tabala rasa as it was called in ancient Latin. Aristotle would have me believe that it is only my experiences in this life which teach me everything I know. Perhaps this biologically centered theory is where modern medicine erroneously identifies my consciousness with my brain.

There on the left is Plato espousing a reactivation of all knowledge & consciousness as remembrances from past lives. Perhaps regression therapists who find their clients spontaneously or even intentionally propelled into past life dimensions of consciousness may be proving Plato’s past life hypothesis.

A number of speculations about pregnancy & birth psychology have been presented in the last 75 years of the 20th Century. It might even be said that the 20th Century was the Age of Enlightenment of the Emotions & Consciousness if you will allow such a linking… The previous Age of Enlightenment was identified by the reawakening of creativity & arts inEurope. In the last 100 years, the beginnings of exploration & discovery of emotions & consciousness pushed the frontiers further. In the pantheon of visionaries in the development of what was to become prenatal & perinatal psychology, one of the first to be acknowledged in 1924 is S&or Ferenzi who looking at the faces of newborns perceived a resistance to life & a wish to return to the peace & happiness it had experienced in the wombs of their mothers. Here can be found the first tracings of the happy womb & good mother theory which has since been disproved. Otto Rank laid the foundation connecting trauma with birth. Sigmund Freud supported him with a theoretical superstructure & Nandor Fodor fleshed out the psychological spaces by describing the consecutive stages of Rank’s trauma theory.

Some of those early prenatal & perinatal psychology theories have been replaced. But, the important point is that the theories where conceived & brought into the spotlight of awareness during the 20th century. In 1976, Prof. Drr. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh, Honorary Life President of the International Society for Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology, painted pioneering creativity most eloquently:

There are truths in life as well as in science. Ancient truths are

resurrected while new prophets burn on stakes. One has to be

partially blind in order to see the essential. The only maxim of

the scientist & doctor is tolerance & understanding based on the

past, looking into the future.  It is not important for something

to be true today but that the person stating the truth believes

in it & that the truth will produce constructive help to others.

Another prenatal & perinatal theory proposes an hypothesis of a reposing consciousness. Resonating to that thought, over a quarter of a century ago, Dutch analyst, Dr. M. Lietaert Peerbolte bravely published in Amsterdam one of the first hypotheses comparing the accepted analytical approach with his prebirth research. His search for the question where consciousness comes from & what we know is described in his classic Psychic Energy. Peerbolte writing about the concept of a reposing consciousness before conception says:

Psychoanalytical investigations have made it clear that this

consciousness concerning the condition of repose already

existed before the merging of the ovum & spermatozoa during

the act of fertilization created the germ of the new individual.

Before the biological fertilization has taken place there is

present a force of attraction between the ovum & the sperm,

i.e. a field of attraction that in a biological sense may be

termed pre-conceptual. In this pre-conceptual field of force

there already exists a consciousness-at-rest, a special

consciousness that in the adult may be reactivated during

mental states of consciousness expansion.

Regression recall if you will allow.

In June 2000, the 13th International Congress of the International Society for Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine was held inCagliari,Sardinia,Italy. I became very excited with the paper presented by Grigori I. Brekhman of theStateMedicalAcademy,Ivanovo,Russia. The title was:

The conception of the multiple‑level co‑ordinated action

between the mother & her unborn child:  

the methodological approach & the methods of research.

Prof. Fedor-Freybergh has advocated the importance of the mother, father, unborn child dialogue for many decades. This was the first time, in attending many Prenatal & Perinatal Congresses, we had heard anyone – let alone such an eminent researcher – present a multilevel concept between mother & her unborn child which included this particular emotional/mental aspects. It was a model which we had been teaching for 30 years. Quoting Brekhman:

Nowadays a lot of data obtained has confirmed the hypothesis that

the psycho-emotional interrelationships between the mother & her

unborn child is the reality…. we (Brekhman) offered to examine

the mother‑unborn child relationships based on the idea of a

permanently functioning multiple‑level polyphonic system. It has

been assumed that if mother is a multiple‑system embracing such

levels as biological, energetical, astral, mental, etc, to have

intimate & fruitful interplay between her & the unborn, he must

already possess the same levels beginning with the zygote.  Such

a methodological approach proved to be fruitful. The subdivision

of this system into the various levels is very relative since it is

able to live & develop harmoniously only if all its components

properly interact.

In this last sentence the word ‘only’ signals the operative word, the significant concept. Dr. Brekhman states that if there is such a process as a mother-unborn child dialogue long advocated by Prof. Fedor-Freybergh, there needs to exist complementary resonant cohesive media systems which can recognize each other messages. In it’s very simplest terms, Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education hypothesizes that just as each of us is the synthesis of our parent’s genetic coding which gives us our physical characteristics, there is also a synthesis of the emotional/mental patterns of our parents from the nine months of their pregnancy. This is exactly the multiple system Brekhman’s research proved exist.

Prenatal & perinatal psychology & medicine shows that the little body growing inside mother is a part of her body which is growing & practicing so that at birth it can function independently. Here is the Whole-Self hypothesis supporting Brekhman’s idea of a permanently functioning multiple‑level polyphonic system. It says, again in the first person, connecting with Plato’s theory that:

When I die in a past life dimension of consciousness with

charged, diminishing, unresolved emotional/mental patterns,

those patterns were created in this three dimensional world.

1)   I cannot release myself from those charged diminishing patterns

until I am actively feeling & experiencing them.

2)     In order for my consciousness to be released from those

unresolved emotional/mental patterns, I need to be actively

living in this 3-Dimensional world.

3)     Life is not just fate of chance. I must enter into a situation which will

allow me to activate those feeling patterns in order to than have the

opportunity through awareness & transformational intention to release

myself from those energy patterns.

4)   The proposed Whole-Self method by which this could be implemented

is on an energetic level.

5)   My consciousness is energetically attracted to my mother & father –

through my mother – who are resonating with those same emotional/

mental charged feeling patterns.

6)     In others words, the feelings I was experiencing when I die are the same

feelings mother/father are experiencing & it is this mutuality of feelings which energetically draws or attracts me to my mother.

Mother’s consciousness is not inside her body.

1)   Mother’s consciousness is in the emotional/mental bio-energetic field

which is surrounding & animating her physical body.

2)   It can have many different names: consciousness, awareness, aura,

energetic field, bio-energetic field.

3)   Again, this is in conformity with Brekhman’s idea of a permanently

functioning multiple‑level polyphonic system.

4)  So, as my consciousness is attracted to my mother’s consciousness,

it does not enter into her body but into her aura –

her emotional/mental levels of consciousness.

As my consciousness energetically enters my mother’s emotional/mental bioenergetic field – which is called mother’s aura –

 

1)      I energetically enter a state of forgetfulness of previous existence

& previous specific events. But I do retain memories of past feelings.

 

2)     The more charged my original emotions, the greater the degree of

event residue – feeling memories -I bring with me. I no longer remember

the events but I retain the feeling patterns from the past waiting to be

activated or stimulated by mother’s pregnancy experiences (& by me

after my birth).

 

3)     This residue of usually diminishing feeling patterns vibrationally resonates with similar diminishing feeling patterns in my mother.

4)     Now, having attached to mother’s consciousness, as mother experiences

her life, my consciousness is simultaneously experiencing & being educated by her experiences.

The Whole-Self analogy we can use is that it is as if mother is a desktop PC computer & I am a notebook laptop connected to mother by a kind of laser energy link.

1)     So, just as the little unborn body as part of mother’s body is being

educated during the second & third trimester so that it can function

independently after birth, my emotional/mental body is likewise being

      educated.

2)     My emotional/mental energy field becomes educated to my mother’s

feelings & attitudes in order to receive the training it will need to

experience & resolve its diminishing emotional/mental patterns after

birth.

3)     These diminishing feeling patterns are rehearsed through mother’s

thoughts & feelings which become the emotional basis or foundation

through which I interpret & respond or react to in my new life.

In other words,

as mother exercises her emotional/mental bodies,

   I am also experiencing & being educated as to how

   these bodies will function for me after my birth.

 

This is where & how every human being

  begins life in Symbiosis with mother

1)  Because mother’s physical body is the instrument of her experiencing in

               this 3-Dimensional world, as mother exercises her emotional/mental

bodies, her physical body is affected by specific thought patterns.

2)    The stronger mother’s thought & feeling patterns, the more powerful the

trigger that can send hormones  surging through her body in reaction.

3)    Because that little body is growing as part of her body, it is also being

encoded by these emotional/mental bodies reactions & the expressed

hormones passing through the connecting placenta.

4)  This is why I can use my body now as a port, matrix or threshold

to reconstruct my mother’s emotional/mental patterns from her body.

Here is point of all this:

1)    If it is correct to state that everything that mother’s body is experiencing

is effecting all the parts of her including her emotional/ mental bodies

than everything she is experiencing is also effecting my developing &

learning physical & emotional/mental bodies.

2)  If that is so, it would be correct to say that in body rebreathing & all

other prebirth psychotherapeutic systems what I am reconstructing is not

my individuated experiences but the recreation of my mother’s patterns?

3)  If that is correct, than there are some very significant hypotheses about

emotive therapies which need to be rethought.

4)  If I am not inside my mother’s body during gestation but in her auric

field, her consciousness, the memories of trauma which I am able to

reconstruct are not in what will become my body after birth but simply

remembrances of mother’s emotional/ mental bodies as accessed through

her body which we simultaneously shared during her pregnancy – my

gestation.

The question is do those patterns belong to mother or to me?

In Rebirthing sessions where people are emotively acting out, what

they are actually expressing is not the memory of their own pain of

birth, but the emotional/mental patterns of mother’s labor.

 

When Troya & I presented this concept at Osnabruck it received a  

standing ovation. This was because it explained why people could never

be free of the emotions after repeated sessions & therefore continued to   

be victims of the misconception that they had been trapped in mother’s

physical bodies .

 

1)  If I accept that the patterns are mother’s emotional/mental patterns

than what I am experiencing during some regression therapies are not

actually my experiences – because I was not wholly me yet, but are

mother’s physical & mental/emotional prebirth & labor feeling patterns.

2)  So, this brings us back to the two questions posed inOsnabruck:

First, why do some people keep repeating emotionally acting out

a traumatic birth in successive rebreathing sessions?

Second, why do some people seem unable to stop being victims of

their prebirth & birth patterning?

3)  The answer is that because:

what people are experiencing are not their own experiences

but the memories of mother’s emotional/mental experiences

people are not able to be released from them

by emotively acting them out.

4)  By doing rebirthing sessions where emotional/mental patterns

are repeatedly acted out people are not freed from them but

become more & more deeply encoded with mother’s patterns.

5)  As long as I believe that those emotional/mental bodies are mine

I cannot be free of them but once I acknowledge them as mother’s,

I no longer need them & I am released
from them.

6)  In order to be released from them I do not need to act them out

since they are not mine but mother’s.

Using the computer analogy again, I simply need to tap into & read the document & either edit, delete or save again as appropriate to my growth, development & evolution at this moment in my life.

As long as I keep believing that I am encased in my mother’s womb & that those emotional/mental bodies are mine & I keep activating them, I am trapped in endless replay loop accumulating more & more pain & suffering.

When I express my mother’s emotional/mental bodies, I am simply reactivating
the replay loop of her adrenaline & noradrenaline & other hormonal addictions

& ultimately accumulating the same emotional/mental bodies patterns.

So the path to healing is not through acting out mother’s emotional/mental bodies

but to recognize them as mother’s, acknowledge them as mother’s & thanking mother for creating them for me to work through during my life so that I can grow, mature, develop & evolve as a whole person.

Faking it!

There is one other point which often confounds those breath practitioners who induce their clients with the suggestion that they are inside their mother’s womb fighting to get out. How does one tell if a client is actually experiencing a life & death struggle to get out mother ‘s womb or – faking it? Some people are extremely suggestive & are easily able to give a very convincing performance. But again the struggling does not free people from any emotional/mental patterns. The emotional acting out simply locks people more deeply into the “dysillusion”.

Conclusion

What Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education is saying is:

as mother experiences her feelings/thoughts

she is encoding me, her unborn child,

with the feeling patterns I need for my growth, development & evolution.

Brekhman’s

Conception of the Multiple Level Co-ordinated Action Between

          the Mother & her Unborn Child:

The Methodological Approach & the Methods of Research

gave a very comprehensive scientific explanation of our very simply stated hypothesis.

Basically, my little body was complete enough in the first three months of gestation so that my various organs & system’s can practice for the next six months so that after my birth my little body is able to function on its own.

My consciousness is also gestating for this life but not inside my mother’s body.

It symbiotically resides in her consciousness which we now know exists in the energy field around her body, not inside her body.

So, as mother experiences her life, my consciousness, temporarily residing as a part of her aura or bio-energetic field, is also experiencing, learning & practicing

her emotional & mental states during that nine months period.

These are the emotional/mental patterns I am born with & as I mature begin activating & acting out in my life.

We had to understand why people could hold on to traumatic feelings even after many rebirthing sessions. Why could they not be free of them?

The answer is because they are not specifically that person’s trauma.

We discovered that these people were reliving the pain of their mother’s labor.

This idea brought a standing ovation from the 600 German Rebirthers who realized that it was very easy to suggest directly or indirectly to people that they were inside mother’s body fighting to get out. Recreating their mother’s labor experience explained why they were holding on to physical expressions or pain.

 

They were unable to release that pain because it was not their own at all.

They were repeating their mother’s labor patterns which were encoded in both the cellular memory & in the emotional/mental patterns their mother’s had experienced in their labors & deliveries.

And, the more that those patterns were repeated in rebirthing sessions, the more adrenaline & noradrenaline was released locking the person deeper into their mother’s labor patterns.

To complete, let us just mention how the Whole-Self approach can help heal these patterns.

First of all, we discovered that there are 22 specific moments in the gestation & delivery & shortly after birth which are encoded into the baby’s memory of that period.

These can be easily  accessed through the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix – 22 sets of questions which give the specific source of patterns which are being lived out over & over again.

By recovering this Emotional DNA information & by completing 21 days of easy balancing exercises these eDNA patterns are able to be changed.

We say easily, because my Whole-Self wants me to remember & release any diminishing patterns I may have ever encoded into myself.

And, by doing so, I come into co-operation & alignment with my level of enhanced consciousness – my Whole-Self.

Finally, I replayed ‘Getting to Know You’ & sang it with full enthusiasm. I had in fact, gotten to know me!

You are welcome to contact us at Whole-Self@quicknet.nl

& to visit our websites at Website: www.Whjole-Self.co.uk & http://www.Whole-Self.info.

Much Peace & Much Love!

Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

WHOLE-SELF DISCOVERY & DEVELOPMENT

    

                        INSTITUTE, Inc. INTERNATIONAL

       Jon RG & Troya GN Turner, Co-Founders / Co-Directors

Waterrad 92, 1613 CR  Grootebroek, NL

Tel:  (31) 228 513 630

Email: Whole-Self@quicknet.nl

                                       International Medical Director: Dr. Ellis Snitcher

                         Websites: www.Whole-Self.info &http://www.Whole-Self.co.uk

UKCo-Director: Michael Reginald Whitley

                                                       GermanyCo-Director: Sigrid Westermann

Greece/Cyprus Co-Director: Olga Gouni

                                               ItalySerbia/Croatia Co-Director: Smilja Janjatovic Pugliese

                                                                                      Mexico Co-Director: Maria de Leon Crowhurst

Psychological Responsibility Bringing Babies

to the WorldÓ2001

           by Jon RG & Troya GN Turner-Groot

Presented at the 4th International Conference On Natural Birth February 1-3, 2001

Organized by The Czech Association of Midwives, Czech Medical Society for

Gynaecology & Obstetrics – Section of Perinatal Medicine, The Open Fund for

Prague- Healthy Parenting Programme &The Movement for Active Motherhood

ABSTRACT

The good news is that there are beginning to be marked changes in attitudes towards birthing in our Western culture. Some medical technology practices are being genuinely questioned not just because of physical impacts to tiny babies but because of demonstrable psychological damage inflicted both on us as being-born-babies but also on our parents.

The very essence of being human is to experience bonded relationships with other human beings. That bonding process begins before birth, possibly even before conception, as part of the mother/child dialogue called for by Prof. Drr. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh, Honorary Life President of the International Society for Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine and Chair of Child Psychiatry here at the Charles University in Prague.

In the first person I, bonding initiates an attunement between myself as a baby & my parents which lasts  a lifetime. The bonding that naturally takes place when I, as a newly emerged infant is placed on mother’s bare belly. This instant of bonding is the singularly most important event of our entire lives. It is in that moment, as all of my psychic/spiritual instincts are activated crawling up to mother breast for my first physical food, which will have the greatest formational patterning for my life

There is now ample evidence that the emotional/psychological deficit for all of us, even young children comes when this bonding & attachment does not happen. This deficiency could be leading to the large numbers of murders, even by child murderers, reported in the news. These children simply do not experience love, compassion or empathy for other human beings.

The most essential formational patterning or bonding as reported by Michel Odent is when newly born, I & mother exchange soul recognition through our eyes. This gaze opens my mother’s abilities & my abilities to experience love, compassion & empathy for each other & for every other human being.

But, before that dynamic moment, for nine months, my baby body has been growing, developing & maturing in my mother’s womb. And, what is even more impactful, my emotional body also has been growing, developing & maturing in my mother’s mind & emotions, being educated through the emotional experiences of my mother & father through my mother’s experiences of him. This is one of the basic principles of Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education. Namely, that I not only inherit the genetic coding which gives me physical characteristic, but I am also the synthesis of the charged emotional/mental patterns of my parents from the nine months of my gestation. It would be very strange for “mother nature” to give my little body months of practice & rehearsal so that after birth my little body could live functionally, &, for her to throw me out into the world with no experience of emotional existence.

The Turners will share the Whole-Self model of their Prebirth Analysis Matrix which offers clear understanding of the significance of our psychological development in the nine months of gestation – the time when our ability to feel love, compassion & empathy begins.

WHOLE-SELF DISCOVERY & DEVELOPMENT

    

                        INSTITUTE, Inc. INTERNATIONAL

            Jon RG & Troya GN Turner, Co-Founders / Co-Directors

Waterrad 92, 1613 CR  Grootebroek, NL

Tel:  (31) 228 513 630

Email: Whole-Self@quicknet.nl

                                                    International Medical Director: Dr. Ellis Snitcher

                                     Websites: www.Whole-Self.info & http://www.Whole-Self.co.uk

UKCo-Director: Michael Reginald Whitley

                                                        GermanyCo-Director: Sigrid Westermann

Greece/Cyprus  Co-Director: Olga Gouni

                                                                                  ItalySerbia/Croatia Co-Director: Smilja Janjatovic Pugliese

                                                                                                         MexicoCo-Director: Maria de Leon Crowhurst

 

Whole-Self Perinatal Psychology TherapyÓ2001

By Jon RG & Troya GN Turner-Groot

7 June, 2001 Keynote Address for

The All Russia Conference Perinatal Psychology & Medicine:

Psychosomatic Disorders in Obstetrics, Gynecology, Pediatrics & Therapy

Ivanovo   State Medical Academy, Russian   Federation

6 – 8 June 2001

Keywords: Whole-Self; Prenatal; Prebirth; Prebirth Analysis Matrix; Prenatal Educator; Mother – Father – Unborn Baby Dialogue; Birth; Birth Shock; Bonding; Perinatal; Psychology, Philosophy; Education; Trauma Trance; Abortion Survivors; Psychosomatic Medicine; Behavioral Medicine; Emotional DNAÓ; Human Evolution; Cyclic Vomiting Syndrome (CVS); Symbiosis.

ABSTRACT

There are beginning to be marked changes in attitudes towards birthing in Eastern & Western cultures. Some medical technology practices are being genuinely questioned not just because of physical impacts to tiny babies but because of demonstrable psychological damage inflicted both being-born-babies & on our parents. The very essence of being human is to experience bonded relationships with other human beings. That bonding process begins before birth, possibly before conception, as part of the mother/child dialogue called for by Prof. Drr. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh, Honorary Life President of the International Society for Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine & Chair of Child Psychiatry at theCharlesUniversityinPrague.

Bonding initiates an attunement between us, as babies, & our parents which lasts a lifetime. Bonding naturally takes place when I, as newly emerged infant am placed on mother’s bare belly & crawl up to her breast for my first physical food. I gaze into her eyes as she gazes into mine. This instant of bonding as all of our psychic/spiritual instincts are activated, which will have the greatest singular formational patterning for life.

A brief history of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology is also presented. The most essential formational patterning or bonding as reported by Dr. Michel Odent is when baby & mother exchange recognition through their eyes which opens mother’s abilities & baby’s abilities to experience love, compassion & empathy for each other & for every other human being. There is now ample evidence that not bonding is an emotional/ psychological deficit for all of us, even young children, which could be leading to the large numbers of murders, even by children, reported in the news. These children simply do not experience love, compassion or empathy for other human beings.

But before that dynamic moment of physical bonding, for nine months, our baby bodies have been growing, developing & maturing in mother’s womb. &, as Prof. Grigori I. Brekhman of theIvanovoRussiaMedicalAcademyhas reported our emotional/mental/energetic bodies also have been growing, developing & maturing, being educated through communication on all levels through the experiences of our mothers. This is one of the basic principles of Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education. Namely, that each person not only inherits the genetic coding which gives each of us our physical characteristic, but we are also the synthesis of the charged emotional/mental/energetic patterns of our parents from the nine months of our gestations. It would be very strange for “mother nature” to give our little bodies six months of practice & rehearsal so that after birth our bodies could live functionally, &, for her to throw us out into the world with no experience of emotional/mental existence. The Whole-Self Psychology model of the Prebirth Analysis Matrix which offers clear understanding of the significance of psychological development in the nine months of gestation – the time when either pathological symbiosis begins or the respectful ability to feel love, compassion & empathy is initiated.

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Whole-Self Perinatal Psychology TherapyÓ2001

By Jon RG & Troya GN Turner-Groot

 

Prof. Drr. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh gives our keynote:

Remember that the prenatal stage of life in the mother’s consciousness

& womb is our first ecological position as human beings. This is our first

human encounter where we as children found ourselves involved in a

creative dialogue with our mothers & their biological, psychological &

social environment.

We are deeply honored to be able to share some ideas with such an esteemed audience. Some of these ideas may seem difficult to comprehend, but there are thirty years of experience by Western Prenatal Psychology & Medicine to confirm these ideas. I appreciate your attention & welcome dialogue about them.

There are beginning to be marked changes in attitudes towards birthing in Western Medicine. Some medical technology practices are being genuinely questioned not just because of physical impacts to tiny babies but because of demonstrable psychological damage inflicted both on us as being-born-babies as well as on our parents & on Society itself.

Psychosomatics & Prenatal Psychology

 

The theme word of this Congress is Psychosomatic. Just this past month we were fortunate to have received an example which perfectly illustrates the connection between psychosomatic medicine & prenatal psychology.

A request came by email from a young mother we will call K who had read one of our papers Prebirth Memory Therapy: Including Prematurely Delivered Patients on the Association for Pre- & Perinatal Psychology & Health website. This mother has a three year old daughter, we can call C, suffering from Cyclic Vomiting Syndrome (CVS). The vomiting spells happen every 28 days & last for about 48 hours. Mother reports that all medical tests show normal. Medication, homeopathic remedies & herbal medicine have had no effect to arrest the child’s periodic vomiting. K had recognized that the cyclical nature of the CVS episodes matches the 28 day emotional biorhythm. So she suspects that there could be an emotional cause to her daughter’s illness. K reports that she actually has twin daughters born at 35.5 gestation. The sister we can call B is larger at birth & has normal development without any CVS symptoms.

K presents that during her pregnancy, she was depressed & suffering from hyperemisis & was hospitalized for nausea & vomiting.  C spent 10 days in hospital; the first five in an incubator because of jaundice & eating problems.

Because vomiting is a form of rejecting, Jon RG asked mother K:

JRG: Who or what were you rejecting during the pregnancy?

K:     I’m not sure, maybe the reality that I was pregnant with twins?

JRG: What was the situation with C’s father?

K:     We were having difficulties, lack of sexual interest on my part.

He was excited about having twins, also worried.

JRG: What were you experiencing about your situation at that time?

K:     Depression & extreme nausea that lead to profuse vomiting,

& trying to cope with a difficult pregnancy

& a very active two year old first daughter.

JRG: What was your actual feeling about being pregnant?

K:     I was in so much pain in my groin. I was very tired.

I was overwhelmed. I just wanted the pregnancy part finished.

I wanted to eat again. I wanted my body back.

JRG:  What were your feelings about twins?

K:      I was plain scared because my first daughter, A, was very difficult.

She was active & spirited; very close to me;

strong separation anxiety; nursed until she was two years old.

She still sleeps with us.

I couldn’t imagine having two babies as active as A.

I just didn’t have the strength to deal with two babies.

I had to take medication to prevent early labor.

JRG: Where you experiencing a lot of anger during your pregnancy?

Where you experiencing a lot of sadness during your pregnancy?

K:        I was extremely upset that I was having twins.

I dreaded having to take care of them.

I made comments about taking the other away – aborting one of them.

I was upset that I was so sick. I was so nauseated that I couldn’t eat.

&, I took hot, hot baths three times a day to relieve my nausea.

My husband & I did go through a very hard time for a while.

But I can say we both loved each other very much during that time,

although I may have felt otherwise on the surface.”

Abortion Survivor

“I made comments about taking the other away – aborting one of them!”

This then, is the core issue of the case. John C. Sonne & several others have written about Abortion Survivors. There is the possibility that C may be demonstrating Abortion Survivor behaviors. The most important point Sonne reveals are the diminishing self-judgments typical of Abortion Survivors.

From the Whole-Self Psychology point of view, all of K’s emotional trauma & self-judgments during her pregnancy were being symbiotically encoded into C’s consciousness. Because C’s consciousness was being ‘educated’ in mother K’s mind & emotions, C was being  impactfully conditioned with her mother’s charged thought & intention that she should be taken away – even though an actual abortion did not happen. K did not realize how her thought of rejection could be affecting one of her unborn babies. Twin B never identified herself as being unwanted. Whole-Self Psychology proposes that during that pregnancy, C was resident in her mother’s consciousness being emotionally/mentally rejected by her experiences so that after birth ‘rejection’ would be the foundation upon which C would build her life. C has been more reactive against life because she symbolizes the part of K which was rejecting herself. C is the child who believed herself to be the child that K wanted taken away – to be aborted.

K:      I talked to my mother & I too had a difficult gestation & post-birth.

My bilirubin got above dangerous levels

& they did a manual blood transfusion on me.

My blood was tested so many times that my fingers & toes

were black & blue when I got home.

As I did with the twins my mother, too,

had to take a drug to stop contractions starting at 5 months…..”

And so, life goes on generation after generation after generation. The number one Principle in Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education says:

I cannot change something until I know what needs to be changed.

Now K knows what she has to work on in her therapy – the patterns of her own gestation & birth. As she heals herself, her daughter C, will no longer need to mirror those familial patterns from her grandmother, her mother & herself. All three can be healed. This is just one example of Psychosomatics & Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology being linked.

Being Wanted or Being Welcomed

Olga Gouni has written about the difference between a baby being wanted & a baby being welcomed.  A most interesting fact is that the twin who was not ‘endangered with rejection’ is described by K as being normal. Because Twin B was neither welcomed nor wanted, we can project that there will also be some behavioral  problems with Twin B which mother K may not yet have seen because of her attention to C.

The key for healing for both mother K & C, is for K to talk with C & to tell her in absolute & total truth what she was experiencing during her pregnancy with the twins. She has to speak absolute truth because C already knows what he mother was experiencing & will know if mother K is telling the truth or lying to her. Because of the symbiosis between C & K, C is unable to distinguish between her own feelings & her mother’s feelings. And, C is still experiencing that the pregnancy of her mother is still happening. And, she is non-consciously believing that her only hope for survival is not to be born but is still in gestation.

The Bond That Binds

One of the most important words in Perinatal Psychology & Medicine which we would like to introduce to you is ‘Bonding’. The very essence of being human is to experience bonded or connected relationships with other human beings. That bonding process begins before birth, possibly before conception, as part of the mother/ father/child dialogue called for by Prof. Drr. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh, Honorary Life President of the International Society for Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine & Chair of Child Psychiatry at theCharlesUniversityinPrague.

Bonding initiates an attunement between us,

as babies, & our parents which lasts a lifetime.

The initiation of bonding naturally starts when we, as newly emerged infants are placed on mother’s bare belly & instinctively begin to crawl to mother’s breast for our first physical food. The most essential formational patterning or bonding as reported by Dr. Michel Odent is when baby & mother exchange a recognition through their eyes. This powerful moment opens a DNA packet in mother’s & baby’s brains which give both their abilities to experience love, compassion & empathy for each other & for every other human being. This moment of bonding is the singularly most important psychological event of our entire lives. It is in that instant, as all of our most human mental & psychological instincts are activated which will have the greatest formational patterning for our lives. There is now ample evidence that when bonding is denied by entrenched hospital or other procedures, the emotional/psychological deficit for all of us, even young children, could be leading to the large numbers of murders even by children, reported in the world news. These children simply do not experience & are incapable of experiencing love, compassion or empathy for themselves or for other human beings.

Transition from Gestation to Birth

For nine months before that dynamic moment when the first breathe enters the baby, mother’s body has been growing, developing & maturing that little body within her womb. &, what is just as important is that baby’s emotional/mental/energetic body also has been growing, developing & maturing; being educated, if you will, through the emotional/mental/energetic experiences of mother, & father through mother’s experiences of him. This is one of the basic principles of Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education; namely, that each person not only inherits the genetic coding which gives each of us our physical characteristic, but we are also the synthesis of the charged emotional/ mental/energetic patterns of our parents from the nine months of gestations. It would be very strange for “mother nature” to give our little bodies six months of practice & rehearsal so that after birth our bodies could live functionally, &, for her to throw us out into the world with no experience or competence of emotional existence. We will share the Whole-Self model of the Prebirth Analysis MatrixÓ or PAMÓ which offers clear understanding of the significance of our psychological development in the nine months of gestation – the time when our ability to feel love, compassion & empathy is generated.

Some of you may ask why prenatal psychology is important. The case of mother K not realizing the impact of her charged thoughts & emotions on her unborn twins is a very clear reason. Society needs to teach mothers what the result of her thoughts, emotions & environment have on the Psychological development of her baby.

In this short time, allow us to offer some possible answers. While birth, & wisdom about birth, goes back a very long way, through all of human history, in fact, Prenatal Psychology is actually a Twentieth Century phenomenon. Thousands of studies have been published in the medical literature. There is absolute scientific proof of what some of the horrific practices in the birthing are doing to our next generation. And, we wonder why violence is increasing even among children. If someone asked medicine to create a generation of violence much of the last 125 years of ‘modern’ medical procedures would be the perfect answer. We referred to John Sonne’s analysis of Abortion Survivors in our first case. William Emerson has described the ‘shock’ experienced & remembered by newborns as they enter a terrifying world. We will give you a very brief history of this new science. But the intent of our presentation is to give you case histories to illustrate what we most want to share with you about these last three aspects: the Psychological beginnings & the development of baby’s mind, & emotions.

Resistance to take Responsibility for Life

 

Our theme is the therapeutic aspect of Perinatal Psychology. Here is a case which supports Dr. David Chamberlain when he describes babies who have an amazing amount of awareness & control. We would like to share a case reported by Whole-Self Facilitator Sigrid Westermann inGermany.

The life of my client Ursala, 26 years of age, working as a physiotherapist was ruled by fear. She presented anorexia nervosa which gave her a great need to be in control. The paradox was that she was consumed with fear of everything. Fear to be liked; fear to be seen; fear not to be able to live very long. But most debilitating was her FEAR TO BREATHE. Ursala had never been able to take full deep breaths. We went through her Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix – her PAM questionnaire of 22 points regarding gestation to shortly after birth.

A few days later, Ursala returned & told me that in our session when she had taken the first breath, she discovered that her consciousness had resisted taking responsibility for her life in that little body. She discovered that her first thought – her belief – her reality had not allowed life to fully encompass her body. Having recognized that resistance to take responsibility for her life & by releasing & changing that belief & allowing a full breath, from that moment on, Ursala felt she had been taking breaths to the full capacity of her lungs. She did not want to tell Sigrid that had happened on the session day because she was not sure that she would be able to continue breathing deeply. The fact is, Ursala’s ability to breathe deeply has stayed with her & she was very happy.

Ursala’s case illustrates that at the very moment of the first breath, consciousness is able to begin to control the physical functioning of baby’s little body. How many times have you found yourself holding your breath in a moment of crisis or trauma? How many times have you looked into the eyes of the baby you have just assisted into life & were sure it was thinking something? Prebirth Psychology as David Bodella has described, is able to recover non-verbal awareness even from birth & before.

Historical Beginnings of Prenatal Psychology

 

One of the first moments in the development of what was to become prenatal & perinatal psychology, occurred in 1924 when Sandor Ferenzi looking at the faces of some newborns perceived a resistance to life & a wish, he interpreted, to return to the peace & happiness they had experienced in the wombs of their mothers. Even this year, as described in the case above, we discover the kind of resistance to take responsibility for life described by Ferenzi. While the happy womb & good mother theories have since then been disproved, we must still honor Ferenzi’s bravery at that time. After Ferenzi, Analyst Gustav Hans Graber, pushed back the consciousness curtain by advocating that children experience prebirth as well as post birth memories. Graber founded the International Studysociety in Prenatal Psychology.

The foundation connecting trauma with birth was laid by Otto Rank. Theoretical superstructure supporting Rank was built by Sigmund Freud. And, Nandor Fodor topped off Rank’s trauma theory by describing the consecutive stages of development theorized by Rank. Over a quarter of a century ago, Dutch analyst, M. Lietaert Peerbolte integrated a reposing consciousness before conception theory & the accepted analytical approach. His search questioned where consciousness comes from & what we know. In the 1970s, the authors of this paper pioneered in Prebirth Memory Therapy.

In 1986, in Badgastein, Austria, through the vision of Prof. Peter Fedor-Freybergh, Graber’s ISPP was transformed into the trans-disciplinary International Society of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine. After the ISPPM was birthed in Badgastein, Dr. Thomas Verny in Toronto, Canada founded the Pre & Perinatal Psychology Association of North America later renamed the Association for Pre- & Perinatal Psychology & Health, & made the first major step in public awareness of babyhood with his book The Secret Life of the Unborn Child. Dr. David Chamberlain progressed this impact with his book Babies Remember Birth.

The transmitter (mother) & the receiver (baby)

must be attuned to each other

Through thousands of studies, early prenatal & perinatal psychology theories about pregnancy & birth have been proved or corrected. We must gratefully acknowledge those pioneering theories conceived during the last century. Now in the 21st Century Prebirth & Birth theory & practice are advancing rapidly. At the 13th ISPPM Congress held in Cagliari, Sardinia, Italy in June 2000, Prof. Grigori I. Brekhman of this esteemed Institution, the Ivanovo State Medical Academy, Russia Federation described his research on The conception of the multiple-level co-ordinated action between the mother & her unborn child. Brekhman described that the relationship between her unborn child & mother exist on the physical, mental, emotional & energetic levels. Brekhman’s pioneering research confirmed Prof. Fedor-Freybergh’s original hypothesis of nearly three decades ago when he advocated the importance of the mother/father/unborn child dialogue. Brekhman’s research also validated what Whole-Self Psychology has been teaching for 30 years.

Quoting Professor Brekhman:

Nowadays a lot of data obtained has confirmed the hypothesis that

the psycho-emotional interrelationship  between the mother & her

unborn child is the reality…. we (Brekhman) offered to examine the

mother-unborn child relationships based on the idea of a permanently functioning multiple-level polyphonic system. It has been assumed

that if mother is a multiple-system embracing such levels as biological, energetical, astral, mental, etc, to have intimate & fruitful interplay

between her & the unborn, he (the unborn) must already possess the

same levels beginning with the zygote. Such a methodological approach

proved to be fruitful. The subdivision of this system into the various

levels is very relevant since baby is able to live & develop harmoniously

only if all its components properly interact.

In this last sentence the word “only” is the operative word. Prof. Brekhman states that if there is such a process as a mother-unborn child dialogue – long advocated by Prof. Fedor-Freybergh – there needs to exist complementary resonant cohesive media systems which can recognize each others messages. In its very simplest terms, Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education is confirming that just as each of us is the synthesis of our parent’s genetic coding which gives us our physical characteristics, there is also a synthesis of the emotional/mental/energetic patterns of our parents from the nine months of their pregnancy. This is exactly the multiple system Brekhman’s research proved to exist. Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine shows that the little body growing inside mother is a part of her body which is growing & practicing so that at birth it can function independently & that baby’s mental & emotional faculties are practicing within mother’s mind & emotions so that after birth they also can function independently.

People often ask how Troya & I, co-founders of our Institute, discovered & developed interest in Prenatal Psychology. Troya’s discovery of the significance of the Prebirth period dates to her teen years when she became anorexic & bulimic when she was a nurse. Wanting to stop those behaviors, Troya got the inspiration that she might find the cause of her suicidal behaviors by going back to discover if something had happened at her birth that made her not want to be alive. She closed her eyes & tried to visualize her birth. She was surprised to see her mother in her doctor’s office. She felt her mother’s joy at being pregnant & felt that joy crushed as the Doctor told her that because of previous surgery she should prepare herself for this first baby to be born dead. That was when Troya realized that her suicidal eating disorders were her attempts to fulfill his prophecy.

I asked Troya if she had ever mentioned this information to her parents. She told me she had not because she did not want to upset them. But the next time we visited her parents she told them what she had imagined. Her father laughed & said the pregnancy was fine & they were so happy that they would have a baby. Her mother was stunned, “I never told anybody, not even your father, what the doctor said!”

 

My own history began when my mother, as a teenager, contracted TB. When she recovered her doctor told her that she should never have children. Years later when she had married, I was conceived & born by a forceps delivery. This resulted in brain damage. As I grew I had learning disabilities, short term memory deficit & I was hyperactive. The main point of all this was that I was living out my mother’s pattern that it was inappropriate for her to be pregnant. Therefore, it was also inappropriate for me to be alive. It took me 50 years to overcome her patterns.

In 1970, I was in therapy practice inBeverly HillsCalifornia& was getting referrals from psychologists & psychotherapists who had given up on people they concluded were incurable. I realized that those people had spent many years – some decades exploring their lives. The inspiration came to me to lightly regress those persons to explore what their mothers, & in some cases fathers too, had been experiencing during the nine months of their pregnancy. That is when I discovered personally that not only had I inherited the genetic coding of my parents which gave me my physical characteristics but also the charged emotions of my mother when she discovered that she was pregnant – I as inappropriate.

Symbiosis; Your Feelings or Mine?

 

Symbiosis can be a psychological problem in which people unable to tell if what they are feeling are someone else’s or their own feelings. Symbiosis begins with mother in pregnancy as baby’s emotional body is practicing within mother’s emotions, mind & energy field.

Troya reports a recent case. A man she calls Ronald, 40, is divorced & wants a relationship with a new partner. His concern is his sexual power, his potential, his future. Ronald expects too much from his partner. This expectation is what caused the breakdown of his first marriage. His present partner makes him aware of this & therefore wants a ‘living apart together’ relationship. Because of his symbiotic neediness this is not satisfactory for Ronald. It is his neediness which creates conflict in relationship for him, too. He feels consumed! Feeling himself a victim he closes down. His is impotent to stay connected . This is also his relationship pattern with his children since his divorce.

Ronald feels responsible in life & looks forward to make new beginnings. His desire is freedom, independence & to express those in a close (symbiotic) relationship. ‘But, not today, maybe tomorrow.’

Through his Prebirth exploration Ronald discovers that:

  • He      is not conscious of himself, his emotions, his feelings, including his feelings

of lust.

  • He      admires other people, men & women, in a way that he discounts himself.
  • These      patterns appear to be based on a symbiotic relationship with his mother.
  • His      passion is handcrafts, working with his hands at home, all by himself.

Ronald’s parents where divorced & his mother raised him. He dislikes his father for leaving them. The last appears to be the most important discovery!

  • Difficulties      between his parents where present during the pregnancy causing his

mother to cling to her child Ronald from his birth on.

  • With      his mother, Ronald keeps blaming his father for their identical lack of

self-love & self-respect. His opposition to his father leaving them set him up

for the same experience of a divorce pattern.

  • Through      the absence of his father, Ronald could not identify with any male model      leaving him impotent to erect himself seeable – to manifest himself.

Worst Traumas are Deaths & Betrayals

The most common trauma patterns babies inherit are mother’s reactions to death of a loved one or betrayal by the father of their child. Katharina Honey another German colleague shares another case. She names her Susan. Susan had cried a lot in her life & continually expressed her sadness with this crying behavior. She often went to the cinema where she could safely express her tears watching tragic dramas. The sadder the drama, the more she could cry.

In her Prebirth exploration, Susan visualized her mother during the pregnancy receiving the news that her mother, Susan’s grandmother, had died. Susan described the very deep bereavement of her mother. She was extremely sad. Susan’s mother’s non-conscious decision was:

‘I have to deal with these feelings. This is life & life will go on!’

Susan discovered that the extreme deep sadness which had consumed her all her life was actually her mother’s reaction to the death of her grandmother at the very time she was pregnant with Susan. Like her mother, Susan was not a self-judging person. Whenever she had new challenging experiences, Susan had reconfirmed the same decisions her mother had made during the pregnancy:

‘I have to deal with these feelings. Life will go on!’

Susan is very successful in her life. She is married with a kind, loving, supportive man. Both are very creative & are committed to continuing personal development. Her profession is medicine. Susan is a doctor.

Factual or Symbolic Memories Still Work

 

Sometimes information about trauma can be symbolic rather than factual. Sigrid Westermann offers another case. She gives the name Angela to her client who did the Whole-Self PAM – Prebirth Analysis Matrix. Basically, Angela has been happy in her life, but her work is very exhausting for her. Angela wants to find deeper insights into her life. She also is looking for personal development to make her life easier. In her PAM, Angela visualizes her mother bicycling to her parent’s house. For no apparent reason, her mother is having bad feelings & is trying to understand those feelings. When she arrives, Angela’s mother goes directly to the kitchen where she sees her sister crying disconsolately. Her sister sobs the news that Gisela, her little daughter, is dead. The two sisters are very close – just 14 month apart. In childhood, they were together almost all the time. So close, in fact, that people thought that the sisters were twins.

Angela says that little Gisela was a special, talented child with high intelligence. She was a happy & lovable little girl. Already, at the age of two & a half years, she was going with her brother to the Kindergarten where she was learning very long poems & songs. Everybody loved Gisela more than other children. Somehow, Gisela contracted an infection & was taken to the hospital. By the next day, she had recovered & should have gone home. So the doctor thought. Then without warning, for no apparent reason, Gisela died. Now Angela describes her mother’s incredible pain. She has lost her wonderful little niece.

Because they were so close physically, mentally & emotionally, Angela’s mother was very sensitive of her sister’s feelings of loss & despair. Wanting to be able to help her sister deal with her tragedy, Angela’s mother was determined to help her sister. But, unable to do so, she non-consciously judged herself to be not good enough. Not only were neither sister’s traumas released, but they were passed on to Angela. What kind

of work did Angela do? She became a Psychologist.

What is interesting about this case is that after the Prebirth work, while talking about what she had seen in her visualization, Angela realized that there had been a death in her aunt’s family during her mother’s pregnancy. But consciously, Anna was sure, that it was her aunt’s husband who died. The daughter, her cousin, died just three years ago. Anna had forgotten that her mother had told her that her sister’s husband had died at the time of her pregnancy & that she was not allowed to go with the funeral because their grandmother had declared:

‘It is not good for the unborn child when a pregnant woman goes to a funeral.’

Because Anna had been working in a slightly altered state of conscious she was responding to the pain of the more recent death of her cousin. The exploration about her prenatal period showed her pictures & feelings from the imagined death of her cousin, instead of the actual death of her uncle. The reason can be that the aunt had not released her shock at the trauma of the death of her husband. This is what Anna non-consciously had carried with her all her life. When her cousin died, Angela’s personality which had been suppressing her mother’s pain was activated. In other words, for Angela’s mother because she was so close to her sister, her pain at loosing her brother-in-law & Angela’s pain three years ago loosing her cousin,  were the same

intensity of pain.  Symbolically, for Anna’s personality  the deaths were interchange -able . As a result of her Prebirth discovery, Angela stopped her work for a while. After three month, she began working with clients again but in an easier, more relaxed way, no longer trying to take away their pain. She was relieved that her work was no longer exhausting.

We trust that these cases give you an idea about how the charged emotional patterns which mother is experiencing are implanted into the conscious of the baby. In some therapies people experience birth as traumatic & painful. In 1989. Troya & I were invited to present a paper on Prebirth Memory Recovery at the First German Rebirthing Congress at theUniversityofOsnabruckinGermany. Up to that time, in 20 years working all over the world, we had found that very, very few people experienced having a traumatic birth. In fact, these people confirmed studies reported to us by Joseph Chilton Pearce, noted American researcher & educator, that shortly before birth, if there is no medication administered, the baby’s body is saturated with endorphins which act as a kind of anaesthetic for the actual birth. We proposed that what people experienced as traumatic was not the memory of their own trauma but the memory of mother’s labor & delivery.

For the future of humanity, as Prof. Fedor-Freybergh has urged, it is imperative that we all dedicate ourselves to create the most enhancing circumstances & conditions in which a pregnant dialogue takes place. We have offered just a sampling of cases which support the concept of Prenatal Psychology& Perinatal. We trust that these cases will give you pause & inspiration in understanding that many of the problems which people are dealing with are sourced in the reactions to stresses or traumas which their mothers & fathers experience during pregnancy & birth. It is these feeling patterns which continue to be lived out as pathology by their children. It is these feeling patterns which when explored in Prebirth Memory Discovery can be healed.

One incredibly simple step we can all make that can help babies, mothers & fathers, future generations, all of humanity is to allow babies to stay with their mothers for appropriate bonding. A second incredibly simple step is to allows fathers to be with their wives & babies after the birth. There is so much more to share about Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology but now we have to leave you with this important message: Medicine has responsibility not just for the physical condition of baby during gestation & birth but also psychological responsibility for how that baby is born & has a whole life to live! Thank you!

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Email: Whole-Self@quicknet.nl

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Notes from a visit to the New Aquatic Maternity Centre,Ostend,Belgium

Published in Midwifery Today Magazine Summer 2000 Number 54

Birth In the 21st CenturyÓ2000

                                                               by Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

The real art of obstetrics and midwifery is to know 

when the right moment has come to use classical

medical interventions. You have to create a perfect

balance between letting nature do its work and

          medical interference. 

Dr. Herman Ponette

Of close to 8,000 births over 2,500 were water-births! For Dr. Herman Ponette, Belgian Obstetrician/Gynecologist, his mothers and their babies, aquatic deliveries were the most healthful, successful and satisfying. Government audited statistics from 1983 to 1999 confirm it.

 

The Aquatic Maternity Centre at the Henry Serruys Hospital was established inOstend,Belgium more then ten years ago by Dr. Herman Ponette. He was inspired by Igor Tcharkovsky’s adaptation inRussia of ancient water birthing inChina,Korea andMongolia.  And, closer to home, he saw introduction of water birthing at Dr. Michel Odent’s hospital inPithiviers,France. Dr. Odent had observed Berber women inNorth Africa reduce their labor pain by soaking in warm water. In 17 years, over 2,500 aquatic births have been done at theHenrySerruysHospital with no infections or deaths from drowning (a false accusation against water births by those who have not studied the statistics). Dr. Ponette recalls that

Too often I saw childbirths happen in a violent, non-relaxed atmosphere

where  technical acts  which where not necessary  dominated  the  whole

process.  All this  sometimes  even led to further physical and psycholog-

ical complications for mother and baby.

In seeking a more ideal circumstance for helping women to deliver their babies he envisioned a system which would let

..mothers deliver in a medically safe place, where an intimate, relaxing,

non-medical and non-aggressive atmosphere can be created for mother

and for baby as well.

And, according to Dr. Ponette, father and family play an important supporting role. The positive results of his vision are impressive. Caesarian and vacuum extraction rates are half and his perinatal mortality for premature infants is under the national average 7 per thousand. He believes that patience is the key to less violence and more attunement to the natural slower pace which nature created for birthing; patience for helping mother to be more empowered: and for the birth assistants, helping their hearts and reducing their stress levels. Induction interventions are reduced. For strict government auditing, the figure of 336 inductions includes even small amounts of medication. Here is the history of founding of this prototype 21st Century birthing center.

THE PAST

For the first years of pioneering water births at theHospitalHenrySerruysHospital, Dr. Herman Ponette was alone. The Chief of Ob/Gyn forbid midwives to give him even the slightest  assistance.  He had to fill the birthing tub and afterwards to wash it out himself.

A 21ST CENTURY PRESENT

When Dr. Ponette became Head of Obstetrics in the maternity unit, midwives finally were allowed to help him. At first, these midwives were doubtful but after seeing the benefits of aquatic delivery they became very enthusiastic. A skeptical but courageous hospital administration which committed 400,000 Guilders (365,000 DM, $240,000, £175,000) to build The New Aquatic Maternity Unit within the fifth floor maternity section can be justly proud of this pioneering step into 21st Century Birthing. The cost was high because of the need for structural reinforcement to support the large pool and for the design, engineering development and fabrication of purpose built equipment for maximum safety and security.

ORIENTATION MEETINGS

Inaugurated at the beginning of 1996, the New Aquatic Maternity program is functioning effectively. A series of introductory evenings for expectant families has begun. The evening we attended, about 100 pregnant people mostly couples were standing room only in a large conference room. In fact, the program had to split in two. Half the group sat and listened to an educational slide presentation about birth by a staff Ob/Gyn. The other half went on an immediate tour of the fifth floor maternity department. This includes the neo-natal intensive care unit and a traditional medical delivery operating room with a separate room where babies are placed away from their mothers after birth.  Dr. Ponette’s original aquatic delivery room, the first in the whole world, used for the last ten years, is now called The Museum. It is now a backup unit if more than one water baby is coming up for air at the same time.

THE AQUARIUS BIRTHING SUITE

The highlight of the tour is the new, modern aquatic birthing suite. This warmly designed and furnished aquatic birthing room is kept between 25 to 30 degrees C. temperature. It consists of a large Jacuzzi pool at 34 to 35 degrees C. which very comfortably holds six to eight people, including the fathers, during labor. Parents can bring their own favorite music and relaxation tapes. When their pregnancy is close to term, mother supported by father is able to slip into her own private custom designed and built clear Plexiglas tub. In the New Aquatic Maternity Centre philosophy, both mother and father enter labor together. Sterilized sea salt added to the water 9/1000 to approximate mother’s amniotic fluid and is monitored at 37 degrees C. Water temperature is very important. Too warm water could reduce labor contractions. The tub is configured in such a way that the mother is able to see the actual birth reflected off a movable panel. The father and the birth assistants have easy access to the mother by a special lift, which elevates the tub to a comfortable height. The entire ensemble is created to give mother a sense of being in a safe space with human support and not being ill in a hospital. Should there be a medical emergency a special operating table opens from the wall next to the tub and hidden intensive lighting opens and beams down from the ceiling above.

MOTHER EMPOWERMENT

Mother is empowered and supported by her partner and the birth team. Aquatic birth is so natural and labor as relaxed as possible that young children are encouraged to stand at the end of the tub to see their new brother or sister emerge and begin to explore their newly expanded water world. Children are not in any way harmed by witnessing the birth of their siblings and in fact benefit by having a better understanding of birth. Because the environment is similar to the amniotic fluid in utero, baby is gently, softly able to adjust for wider movement. After about a minute of non-traumatically opening its body within the suspending envelop of the water, baby is gently lifted out of familiar supporting water, usually by its mother’s own hands to be embraced and cuddled in her welcoming arms and breasts. Baby naturally starts breathing without abusing stimulation when air gently kisses her/his forehead. Baby is placed lovingly in mother arms for vital bonding without any urgency to cut the umbilical cord. Because of the supporting water, the umbilical cord does not flatten but stays fully round allowing more complete transfer of immune supporting material to baby. Dr. Ponette is delivering breach babies as well. These are much safer in water as the water suspends and supports the baby’s body in an horizontal position until the head pops out. And, when he delivers twins it seems almost ‘miraculous to observing birthing professionals’. When the time comes, father or the oldest child or both together are invited  to cut the cord. A most memorable event.

After the birth, there is no traumatizing separation between baby and mother. Father is invited to bond with and to wash baby.  While mother emerges out of the birthing tub, baby is kept within sight while being washed and returned to her waiting arms. The tours are well received. Of about 50 couples each session 52% to 54% elect for aquatic birth.

THE AQUARIUS AQUANATAL ASSOCIATION

But the birth itself is only the middle part of  a comprehensive birthing program developed by the Aquarius Aquanatal Association which supports international research in aquatic birthing. Resistance, stress and tension create pain.  The first and most

important intention is to bring as much relaxation of body and a feeling of mental ease between mother, father and baby as possible. According to the Aquarius Aquanatal Association, the three fundamental ways to enhance birth in aquatic prenatal preparation are through self mastery, breathing and positive thinking. Spokesmen Yves De Smedt says,

We must be careful  that parents  are  not  afraid  because fear transmits

immediately through the water medium  Nervousness because of entering

a new,  powerful  and life changing  threshold;  fear of not knowing what

will happen are normalized  by prebirth  education  through  exercise and

breathing in water.

 

 Pregnancy is not an illness but a state of being!

 

Returning to her own source, mother reacquaints herself to her feelings about water; both above and under water. Floating, exercising and breathing in water establishes a strong bond of communication and support with herself, her partner and her baby. Professor Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh, Honorary Life President of the International Society for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine says,

Remember that the prenatal stage of life in mother’s consciousness and

womb is our first ecological position as human beings.   This is our first

human encounter  where we as children  found ourselves  involved  in a

creative dialogue  with our mothers and their  biological,  psychological

and social environment.

Mother learns to stay more conscious and present between labor contractions. Ruth van der Scheer of the De Sprengkt Health Centre inTilburg, theNetherlands, put this separation experience poetically,  ‘Mother leaves her body to go out to get her baby and bring it back!’ Ruth and her psychologists husband Dolph joined the orientation evening because they are planning a water birth center at De Sprengk modeled after theOstendproject.

Yves De Smedt described to us how he became committed to the Aquarius Aquanatal Association. After 40 hours of labor, his wife Isabelle entered a tub of warm water. She became so relaxed that she was able to deliver in just two hours. Isabelle was so pleased with the effect of warm water as the catalyst for the birth of their son that she is now a trained Aquatic Pre & Post Natal Instructor. She is one of several trained instructors who lead pre & post birth groups at a nearby sea water swimming pool. Parents love to bring their babies to the classes for a weekly swim. Their nine month old granddaughter has been in the water pool since shortly after birth. Isabelle urges parents to introduce their babies to the water as soon as possible.

The sooner baby joins mother and father in the swimming pool the better.

Babies  cannot  actually  swim  because  it takes up to a year  to  develop

the muscles  to  do that. But they can float above and  below the water in

perfect  safety        for rather long periods of time  protected  by  their parents

who  continue  projecting  confidence  to their baby  just as before  she/he

was born.

Yves says that their nine year old son spends more time swimming underwater than on top of the water. This confidence and self-assurance was evident when we met Ilja. Baby cannot drown because the throat naturally closes automatically. In other places research is being conducted with babies and children who seem to be a newly evolving human species which aquaist Jacques Mayal calls ‘Homo Delphinus’. These aquakids can actually stay underwater for several minutes before surfacing for air.

CONCLUSION: JUST THE BEGINNING

There are now four water birth centers in Belgiumand the Aquarius Aquanatal Association is in contact with researchers in Great Britain, The Netherlands, Germany, France, Switzerland, Malta, Russia, the USA, Australia, and Brazil. A professionally produced 26-minute comprehensive documentary video in English directed by Thierry Deveillet called Water Babies: The Aquanatal Experience in Ostend is available from the Aquanatal Association. It shows several water births illustrating the benefits of this gentle and conscious 21st Century Birthing model. In this video. Dr. Ponette acknowledges his mentor, Professor Dr. G. J. Kloosterman of theNetherlands who said:

The less we interfere with childbirth the better it goes!

Dr. Ponette adds, ‘That’s the principle which guides the New Aquatic Maternity Centre.’ While believing in the importance of sound medical intervention in emergencies he realistically foresees a 21st Century vision of birthing:

 ‘Childbirth has been turned over to medicine.

But it doesn’t belong there … it belongs to nature!’

For information about the New Aquatic Birth Centre & Video  please contact:

Mr. Yves De Smedt      Aquarius Aquanatal Association

Strandlaan 6,  8670Koksijde,Belgium. Tel. (32) 59 51 15 58

Or the Main Office: aquanatal.skynet.be

The Authors

The Turners are Co-Directors of the Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute, Inc. in Amsterdam, The Netherlands and Santa Fe, NM, USA. Jon RG Turner has been an elected Vice-President of the International Society of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine and is one of the co-editors of the ISPPM Journal. Troya Turner-Groot is Founder of the ISPPM:NL Chapter and author of Seeking A Miracle! They have pioneered Prebirth Memory Therapy as a part of Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education. They are members of the APPPAH – The Association of Pre & Perinatal Psychology & Health, and the Scientific & Medical Network and Honorary Members of both ANEP:Italia – the Association for National Education Prenatale and the Russian Association of Perinatal Psychology and Medicine.  They can be reached by Tel/fax: (31) 228 513 630 or Whole-Self@quicknet.nl

  WHOLE-SELF DISCOVERY & DEVELOPMENT

INSTITUTE, Inc. INTERNATIONAL

    

Jon RG & Troya GN Turner, Co-Founders / Co-Directors

Waterrad 92, 1613 CR  Grootebroek, NL

Tel:  (31) 228 513 630

Email: Whole-Self@quicknet.nl

        International Medical Director: Dr. Ellis Snitcher

Website: www.Whole-Self.info

UKCo-Director: Michael Reginald Whitley

GermanyCo-Director: Sigrid Westermann

GreeceCo-Director: Olga Gouni

  Violence & Pregnancy:

  A Whole-Self Psychology PerspectiveÓ2001

By Jon RG & Troya GN Turner (Doctoral Candidates)*

ABSTRACT

This paper focuses on violence as pathology occurring primarily during pregnancy and explains the resulting impact on one’s life, using Whole-Self Psychology & Educational philosophy and principles.   It addresses this specific theme, and does not include the violence found in some medical birth procedures, or violence generated by gender.     This paper is based upon a presentation by the authors in March, 2001, at the  OMAEP [World Organization of Prenatal Education] & ANEP [Association of National Prenatal Education] Congress in Puerto laCruz,Venezuela. entitled “Violence & Pregnancy.”  This congress brought  together leading experts from South and North America, and Europe,  many  of  whom  are  also  members  of  APPPAH.

 

Saddam Hussein

 

John C. Sonne strikes our keynote; Hussein’s mother attempted suicide when she was seven months pregnant with Saddam, and she tried to kill him by bumping her stomach against the wall.  Saddam’s father had died just before that, and another sibling had died around this same time.  So this was the prenatal environment prior to Saddam’s birth in April, 1937:  an abortion minded and attempting to abort suicidal mother, no father, and the death of a sibling. (2002)

INTRODUCTION

Whole-Self Psychology  Philosophy and Education  postulates  that:

All experiences enter the realm of violence the instant respect is breached.

This includes any and all forms of disrespect that may occur during the prenatal/inter-uterine dialogue experience. It is important to understand how these issues and dynamics  contribute to violence as pathology and the significant impact it has on one’s life.   Case histories  illustrating typical  trauma  will  be  given as examples.  We will also address how the  Whole-Self Psychology Therapy  is  used  to  help  heal  these  disasters  and  traumas.

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* Jon RG (formerly John-Richard) & Troya GN Turner are pioneers in Prebirth Memory RecoveryÓ – Prebirth Analysis MatrixÓ or PAMÓ.  Co-Founders & Co-Directors of Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute, Inc., International, they have presented Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy and Education in thirty countries. They are ISPPM Life Members; JRG is an ISPPM Board Member and had been twice elected a VP. He is a co-editor of the IJPPPM and English language co-ordinator for the Neuroendocrinology Letters Medical Journal. The Turners are members of APPPAH; Honorary Members of both the Association for National Educazione Prenatale:Italia and the Russian Association of Perinatal Psychology & Medicine and members of The Scientific & Medical Network. They have over 40 papers and articles published worldwide. Communication: W-SDDI, Waterrad 92, 1613 CR Grootebroek, The Netherlands  Telephone (31) 228 513 630   Email: Whole-Self@quicknet.nl                    Web: www.Whole-Self.info

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HISTORICAL PERSPECTIVE ON WOMB LIFE

& THE ORIGINS OF CONSCIOUSNESS

The idea of the once blissful womb proposed by Sandor Ferenzi (1913) inBudapest,

Hungaryhas long ago been disproved.   After Ferenzi, analyst Gustav Hans Graber, MD

(1924), Founder of the International Study Society in Prenatal Psychology, pushed back the

consciousness curtain by advocating that children experience pre-birth and well as post

birth memories.  Sigmund Freud  (1918) developed the theoretical superstructure

that inspired Otto Rank, but then  reversed himself.  It was Rank, MD (1924), who

was the first to actually advocate and develop the psychiatric theoretical framework

connecting trauma with birth.  Nandor Fodor (1949) topped off Rank’s trauma theory by

describing the consecutive stages of development theorized by Rank.   Over a quarter of a

century ago, Dutch analyst, M. Lietaert Peerbolte (1975) integrated a reposing

consciousness before conception theory and the accepted analytical approach. His search

questioned the etiology of consciousness and what we know.   In the early 1970s, the

authors of this paper pioneered Prebirth Memory Therapy (Turner, 1988; Turner & Turner,

1993) to gently recover and release traumas, including those that were violent,

experienced by mother during her pregnancy.  Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh (1993) exhorts us

to remember that the prenatal stage of life in the mother’s consciousness and womb is our

first ecological position as human beings.  This is our first human encounter where we, as

children, found ourselves involved in a creative dialogue with our mothers and their

biological, psychological and social environment.  The nature and quality (peaceful, loving,

nurturing, hostile, violent) of that dyadic relationship and dialogue will have a profound

effect on the health and well being outcome for that unborn child after birth.

UNDERSTANDING VIOLENCE

As stated above, Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy, and Education postulates that:  All experiences enter the realm of violence the instant respect is breached.  This includes any and all forms of disrespect that may occur during the prenatal/inter-uterine dialogue experience.   What if that pregnant dialogue is filled with verbal or physical abuse?  Understanding how such abuse contributes to violence as pathology, and its  resulting  impact  on  one’s  life,  is  critical  if effective change and healing are to occur.

In order to discuss violence and pregnancy, it is helpful to establish a mutual understanding to the meaning of the word, violence.  According to Webster’s Dictionary (1986,  Ottenheimer Publishers) the word violence is derived from the Latin violentus,  which means force.   Adjunct words to violence are the verb, to violate, and the adjective, violent.   To violate means to profane, to treat with disrespect, to break, to transgress.   There is not much emotional charge or hormonal response to these definitions.  The word violent is more potent.   Violent means acting with or characterized by physical force of strength, especially unlawfully so, or, produced by force (e.g. death, end).    Violent can also have an emotional component.    It can mean moved by strong feeling, passionate, intense (e.g. pain).  These two words can evoke more emotions in us as they lead us to our focus word, which is violence.  Webster says violence is the quality of being violent, force, or intensity.  Within this definition, Webster leads us to vehemence, unjust force, outrage,  profanation,  injury,  rape.   These words are more potent and evoke intense emotional, and resulting hormonal, responses in us.

In this document, we will be equating the word trauma with the word  violence.    Two other word concepts that will be used herein are diminishing  in place of negative, and enhancing,  to mean positive or affirming.

Attachment & Bonding  & The Brain

Thomas Verny. MD (2001), describes experience as the chief architect of the brain.  Alan Schore, PhD (1996, 1997), defines attachment as a regulatory process in brain development, which determines its developmental and functional outcome.   In his research, Bruce Lipton, PhD (2001), has found that experience and perception are the key factors in determining genetic and DNA outcome as relates to cellular function and memory, and relates this to the father influence/input.    When the experience prenatally, as well as postnatally, is violent, then the brain develops in a different way.  It becomes “wired,” for survival and responds to all life experiences, including those that are non-violent, from the fight, flight, or freeze mode, activating  the  adrenals  and  secreting  the  related  adrenocorticosteroids  and other  neurohormones  in  response  to  the  real  or  perceived  danger (Perry, Pollard, Blakely, Baker & Vigilante, 1995; Perry, 1997; Schore, 1996; Schore, 1997).

The  FIRST Whole-Self Principle says:

I cannot change something until I know what needs to be  changed.

From the Whole-Self Psychology,  Philosophy and Education perspective, violence, itself, while abhorrent in its various shades, may not be the problem.  Whole-Self Psychology suggests that violence, when connected with anger, is a learned behavior (Turner, 1990).    We also suggest that the problem of violence is not the violence but the hormonal addiction created when the fight, flight, or freeze mechanism is triggered.   It is this hormonal addiction which locks people into violent behavior in order to get the hormonal addiction satisfied.    This happens on both sides.  The violator gets a charge of adrenaline, noradrenaline, and a cocktail of other addictive hormones, resulting in a hormonal hit.    The victim, because of the danger, also experiences a hormonal hit.   This may explain why abused women often attack their police rescuers and refuse to prosecute their violators.

Whole-Self Psychology also proposes that when physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual violence occurs during pregnancy, the hormonal saturation gets passed through the placenta and does two things:

1)    The danger hormones , adrenalin, noradrenaline, cortosol, etc., have a damaging and diminishing effect on baby’s brain and neurological development, and

2)    The danger hormones addict baby to the same addictive substances which are afflicting mother.

In Whole-Self Psychology,  therapy starts by discovering the beginning of the emotional life of the client.   These patterns are called the emotional DNAÓ [eDNAÓ] (Turner & Turner, 1995).  Through a questionnaire, consisting of 22 sets of questions, the client discovers the source of their emotional feelings, their eDNA, and the source of the reactions which they have experienced all through life. The questionnaire is called the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis MatrixÓ or PAMÓ(Turner, 1988).

Case  Example:   Adrenaline to survive instead of living a life!

Masochism  and  sado-masochism  are  often  traceable  to prenatal trauma.   This is evident in the case of Olivia, a 50 year old woman whose life pattern exhibits the belief that “Pain equals love!”   The  “pain = love” patterns had been active in her parents’ relationship during their pregnancy with her.   World War II had begun, and her father was sent to the Russian Front during this pregnancy.   In her Prebirth Analysis Matrix (PAM), Olivia sensed that in the 5th month of pregnancy her mother was tense, nervous and anxious.    A message arrived that her father will not return home – he had been captured at the Russian Front and shipped toRussia for the duration of the war.   When her mother got this devastating news she experienced despair and shock, sadness and insecurity.   She felt abandoned and forsaken.   During the PAM process, Olivia recognized  these as very familiar feelings in her own life.   Recovering control, her mother determined to not give up.   She retreated into herself as she realized that now she had to have trust only in herself .  She was responsible for all her children and must take their care into her own hands.  Olivia also recognized this responsibility position in her own life as she was recalling this information.  Five years later, her father returned home.   The trauma was resolved for her mother, but not for four-and-one-half-year-old Olivia.   She was still locked in the reality [her belief] that her father had abandoned her.   Olivia is still emotionally arrested at the prenatal age (infantile) when the trauma occurred.

As a result of this prenatal experience, Olivia has had the belief that men who love her abandon her, and, therefore, does not trust them to care for her, as much as she wants to have that happen.   The distancing of herself from men, the want/need to be taken care of and the need to control for survival has been a familiar infantile trance pattern in her relationships, activating the survival [fight, flight, freeze] hormones.  Olivia is now working to resolve the conflicts of not trusting men, the want/need to be taken care of, and needing to be in control. IN other words, she is no longer locked in  pain = love;

She is developing experience that pleasure = love.

The Whole-Self Four Laws of Life

In Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy, and Education, there are four basic laws that define how overwhelming, diminishing patterns (negative thoughts/beliefs) come into  existence,  dominate  one’s  life,  and  continue  to  perpetuate  the  early  prenatal  trauma:

1)    The Law of Opposition                     Whatever I am opposed to  …   I have to experience!

2)    The Law of Confirmation              Whatever I really believe about myself,

I will keep proving to myself!

3)    The Law of Decisions                          Whatever I decide creates my future!

4)    The Law of Repetition                        Whatever I don’t learn, I have to repeat

How many times have I said I would never do something?   The more I am opposed to something, the stronger I experience it.   On a non-conscious level, when I resist what I am opposing, I make it stronger and more powerful, and, as a result, make  judgments  against  myself.

These self-judgment words are relegated to the unconscious and are reflected through such concepts as:

Unlovable   Unimportant   Worthless   Unfulfilled   Unworthy

Worthless    Unacceptable    Unsupportable    Not Good Enough

Inferior      Inappropriate      Irresponsible     Guilty

Bad   Wicked   Terrible   Horrible   Dirty   Disgusting   Despicable

Dumb   Stupid   Inept   Incapable   Incompetent   Inadequate   Incomplete

Unrecognized   Insecure   Helpless   Hopeless   Powerless

After making any of these non-conscious self-judgments against myself, non-conscious diminishing decisions are also made.  For those of us who were held upside down at birth and slapped on the bottom by a male doctor, common decisions can be:  “Men hurt me!”   “Men are dangerous!”

 

CASE EXAMPLE

Not wanting to be pregnant can lead to another form of violence in pregnancy

To be wanted or not to be wanted?  That is the true question!

Cecile presents insecurity, a pattern carried down generations from her grandmother, mother, and aunt.   Cecile is living with a partner who is eight years older.   He is proud to have a relationship with “the beautiful young women.”   Looking well is important for Cecile, but this creates a conflict in her when she wants to become pregnant.  She fears she will lose her slim appearance.   There are also issues of anorexia nervosa present in her life.  This need for slimness is not just Cecile’s problem.  This conflict is mirrored by her partner, who also wants a child, but does not want Cecile to grow fat.  Cecile’s slim appearance is the cover-up for their co-dependent lives.

Two emotionally violating traumas that were experienced during her own gestation left  Cecile to deal with the question: “Do I give away my own life in order to survive?”  The paradox is, ‘How can I live my life when I give it away?

In her Prebirth Analysis Matrix, Cecile discovered two traumas her mother experienced:   One in the 1st month and the other in the 7th month of her pregnancy.   In the 1st month of the, as yet unrecognized pregnancy, her mother discovered that her father was fooling around with other women.   “It is not serious,” he would say as he went with another woman to a bar and arrived home late at night.   The next day at work, although doing her job, mother felt loneliness, insecurity, fear, abandonment, and betrayal.   She judged herself to be unworthy, worthless, dumb, stupid, not good enough, incapable, incomplete, helpless, hopeless, and powerless.   She felt deep shame but kept up appearances, and tried to hide the sadness she was feeling.   Mother determines that life is a burden, so she will just take care of her husband and he will love her, a one-sided and non-communicated contract.

In the 7th month of pregnancy, mother was at a party with friends and felt uncomfortable because of her pregnancy.   Her bulging belly made her feel unattractive and misplaced.  In looking for her husband, mother found him behind a closed door kissing another women.   She was suffused with pain and rage and declared, “I want to leave the party with or without him, just leave!  This baby will be born with or without a father!”    Father kissed the other women again and said that it did not mean anything, that mother was over-reacting.   Mother left the party in despair, finally realizing she could no longer trust her husband!    The tragedy was that because of her rage, her utter helplessness, hopelessness and powerlessness in relation to the father of her child, this mother took revenge on her daughter by becoming a child beater and abuser, including forcing Cecile under a cold shower whenever she wet her pants.   In her therapy Cecile has worked to heal identified self-judgments and diminishing decisions that resulted from her prenatal experience, and is working to change her attitude towards her abusive mother.

According to the second of the Ten Commandments (Chapter 20 Verse 5  Hebrew Bible) the sins [i.e., trauma patterns] of the fathers can be passed down through four sons before they are released.  Rhonda Howard Corio informs us seven generation  in the Native American Tradition before they are released .   Sigrid Westermann of  Hamburg, Germanyhas also studied the influence of previous generations on prenatal patterns (1996, 2000).  Related to this, Sauci Bosner, of Amsterdam, The Netherlands, is a world authority working with KZKonzentration Kamp Syndromen.   Sauci is using Whole-Self therapy in working with fourth generation KZ survivors who exhibit prison camp syndrome.   This syndrome originated before the concentration camps of the Third Reich of Nazi Germany and the Japanese during WW II.  These camps were creations of the British Government during the Boer War inSouth Africa.

CASE EXAMPLE

Anna, aged 39, is a woman and mother who represents two generations of trauma.   She encoded the traumas of her mother, and then froze them within the birth trauma she experienced in the delivery of her two sons [now of preschool age].   By doing this she passed the trauma on to them and reinforced it by naming them WIND and STORM.   She has stunted her sons’ psychological development by constantly reminding them of the pain they caused her during the pregnancies and births.   Her intention was to not allow her boys to grow beyond the violence of their names.   Anna made two suicide attempts within a six months period of time.   She was drinking three to six bottles of beer daily, smoking two to three packs of cigarettes per day, and using cocaine when available.

After starting a new study in Information Technology and meeting a man with whom she is developing a relationship with him, Anna came to work with Sauci.   She had two goals she wanted to achieve in therapy:

1)   I want to finish something for the first time in my life!

(referring to her IT study)

2)    I don’t want to make the same mistakes in this relationship

which have destroyed  my relationships in the past.

Through her PAM session, Anna experienced her mother’s internment in a Japanese Prison Camp.   Conditions in those Far East Camps were just as horrendous as in the Nazi Konzentration Kamps.   Anna discovered that her mother had been sexually abused by her biological father and semi-abandoned by her biological mother in the Jappen Kampe.   Upon liberation, Anna’s mother was reunited with a Dutch school friend, who later became her husband.   The two returned toHolland and started a family, having five other children prior to Anna’s s conception and birth.

Her mother’s trauma happened years before Anna was conceived and born.   Yet, the trauma trance which locked into mother during her imprisonment years still had an affect on Anna’s life.    From the Whole-Self Psychology point of view, we say that, years later, Anna, emotionally like her mother, was destructively living as if she were still in that Japanese prison camp.   Of her five siblings, Anna was the child who most precisely replicated her mother’s survival behaviors from the Japanese imprisonment.

What were the prebirth emotional patterns and behaviors Anna received as a psycho/spiritual inheritance from her mother?    During the pregnancy with Anna, her mother smoked two to three packages of cigarettes per day and exhibited a pattern of alcohol abuse, which still continues.    Her mother took painkillers throughout the pregnancy with Anna, and was in labor for 32 hours before she was born.    After delivery, her mother lost two liters of blood.    Because of this medical crisis, Anna was not placed on her mother’s breast to nurse.   She was isolated from both her mother and father until the next day.   Bonding did not occur.

Anna also told Sauci that she had lost her virginity at the age of 11 years.   She had been raped while living in a squatter’s community inAmsterdam.   This replicated her mother’s sex and survival life in the Japanese prison camp when she was also in puberty and entering adolescence.  After having discovered the source of her self-destructive behaviors as replicating  her mother’s history, Anna chose to take a break from therapy to process what she had learned thus far.   As a consequence, she is still living a life of Wind and Storm.   Anna’s case illustrates that simply becoming aware of traumas does not release them.   This is where therapy actually begins.

A  Computer  Analogy

How do mother’s feelings become symbiotically encoded in my new consciousness?

An analogy to explain the encoding process is to imagine that mother is a desktop personal computer and the preonate is a laptop notebook connected to mother.   As this little baby body grows and develops in utero, it is basically functional by the end of the first trimester.    This is why some micro-premature infants can survive in NICU, even as young as 4 months gestation and weighing at l pound  (450 grams) or less.   The second and third trimesters are, in general, practice and rehearsal time so that at birth the little body has is computerese – a warm start. Here is a hypothesis supported by research conducted by Russian Prof. Grigori I. Brekhman (2000) :

(Given in the first person for ease of understanding.)

125-      Just as my little unborn body, as part of mother’s body, is being educated during the second and third trimester so that it can function independently after birth,

126-      My emotional/mental body is likewise being educated.   (My eDNA)

127-      My emotional/mental consciousness resides in my mother’s energy field and becomes educated through her feelings and attitudes. This is necessary for putting the whole life I will live into perspective. I need this emotional/mental training in order to experience and to resolve my own challenging emotional/mental patterns after birth. Italian researcher, Gino Soldera (2002) calls this the Individual Life Project.

128-      I experience my mother’s enhancing or diminishing feeling patterns and continually experience life through her thoughts and feelings.   They become the emotional basis or foundation through which I interpret and respond, or react, to in my new life.

In other words, as my mother experiences her emotions and her mind,

while residing in her aura,  I am also experiencing them and being educated

as to how these feelings and thoughts will potentially function in me after my birth.

In Whole-Self Psychology, this dynamic is described in the following way:

1)    Mother’s physical body is the instrument of her experiencing everything

that she experiences in this 3-Dimensional world.

2)    As mother exercises her emotional/mental bodies, her physical body is

effected by specific thought patterns.

3) The stronger mother’s thought and feeling patterns, the more powerful

the trigger that can send adrenaline and noradrenaline hormones

surging through her body in reaction.

4) That little body is growing as part of her body.   As mother has feelings

and thoughts,  they reactively trigger hormones in her body.   Those

hormones passing through the connecting placenta are also saturating

and encoding the little body with hormones.

In the first person again:

129-      This is why I can use my body now as a port or threshold — an access

to reconstruct my mother’s emotional/mental patterns that dwell

within  her from the time she was pregnant.

MOTHER  &  UNBORN  CHILD  ATTUNEMENT

The transmitter (mother) & the receiver (baby) must be attuned to each other.

A key to understanding the true nature of violence in pregnancy is to explore the nature of consciousness during pregnancy.   At the 13th International Congress of the International Society for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine [ISPPM] held in Cagliari, Sardinia, Italy in June, 2000, Prof. Grigori I. Brekhman, Head of the Obstetrics & Gynecology Department of the State Medical Academy, Ivanovo, Russia, presented a paper entitled, “The  Conception  of the  Multiple‑Level  Coordinated  Action  Between  the  Mother  and  Her  Unborn  Child:   The  Methodological  Approach  and  the  Methods  of  Research, “  in which  he explained how such dialogue occurs.   Prof. Brekhman suggests a multi-level concept of the relationship between mother and her unborn child, which includes these particular emotional / mental aspects.   Prof. Brekhman said:

Nowadays a lot of data obtained has confirmed the hypothesis that the psycho-emotional inter-relationship between the mother and her unborn child is the reality. …  We [Brekhman] offered to examine the mother‑unborn child relationships based on the idea of a permanently functioning multiple‑level polyphonic system.   It has been assumed that, if mother is a multiple‑system embracing such levels as biological, energetical, astral, mental, etc, to have intimate and fruitful interplay between her and the unborn, baby must already possess the same levels beginning with the zygote.  Such a methodological approach proved to be fruitful.   The subdivision of this system into the various levels is very relevant for baby since it is only able to live and develop harmoniously if all its components properly interact.

In this last sentence the word only is the operative word.   The significant concept Prof. Brekhman addresses is: if there is a process such as a mother-unborn child dialogue, there needs to exist complementary resonant cohesive media systems in both mother and her baby which can recognize each others messages, e.g. the radio transmitter analogy mentioned above.   In other words, mother and baby must be able to communicate with and understand each other on all levels with the same symbols/language.

It is a model which, for 30 years, Whole-Self Psychology had been describing as where symbiosis begins.  Whole-Self Psychology has hypothesized that just as each of us is the synthesis of our parent’s genetic coding, which gives us our physical characteristics, there is also a synthesis of the emotional / mental patterns of our parents from the nine months of their pregnancy, our individual eDNA, as mentioned above.   This eDNA is precisely the mutuality system which Prof. Brekhman has demonstrated in his laboratory.

ROLE  OF  PERSONALITY

One of the basic functions of my personality is to keep me from feeling pain.

This is why my personality does not want me to remember past traumatic events.    Therefore, actual violent events may not remembered,  . . .  but the feelings I experienced when they happened are remembered.   This includes feeling any feelings of violence toward, or by, my mother during her pregnancy, in whatever form they may have happened.

One type of violence can be a wished for, or failed, clinical abortion.   Abortion survivors are a clearly defined group, according to John C. Sonne, MD (1994a, 1994b, 1996).  Dr. Sonne says that even a thought of abortion in mother’s or father’s  (through mother’s energy field) emotional bodies is perceived by my developing personality as life threatening.   This is not because of my intelligent consciousness, but because of mother’s reactiveness to the thought of abortion and its resonance through our mutual symbiotic energy fields.

Dr. Sonne’s landmark analysis of two mass murderers (2000), who profile as possible abortion survivors, is an example of what can result from an unwanted pregnancy, an incomplete abortion.   In his analysis of the two boys responsible for theColumbineHigh School[Colorado,USA] massacre in 1999, Sonne hypothesizes that they both bore the clinical profiles of being abortion survivors.   Among Sonne’s listed anti-social profile patterns we find the second Whole-Self Law of Life, Self-judgment, which, for them, included being outcasts, unwelcome, unloved, undeserving, unlovable, unattractive, and worthless.   It was the Whole-Self Third Law of Life, the boys’ diminishing decisions, that led to the massacre.   A year before that tragic event, one of the boys posted his diminishing decisions on a website:

 “I don’t care if I live or die in the shoot-out, all I want to do is kill

  and injure  as many of you pricks as I can, and  — god damnit.

  DEAD PEOPLE DON’T ARGUE!  God damnit, I am pissed!”  (Sonne, 2000

  Fall; Affidavit: Columbine Shooter Posted Threat on Web April 10, 2001)

                   CNN Web posted at: 3:55 PM EDT (19:55 GMT)

Sadly, it is the statistics about the massacre that makes big news:  twelve students dead, twenty-four students injured, one teacher dead, and the two shooters suicided.  The prebirth dynamics that were the causal factors of their mental / emotional state is not even addressed, much less viewed as tragic or problematic.  The pain these 2 two boys experienced within themselves was definitely acted out, causing great pain in their community and to society at large.

Whole-Self Psychology maintains that simultaneously, while my personality makes every attempt to block painful memories to avoid feeling pain, my Whole-Self wants me to remember and release those diminishing memories and feel connected to those patterns I may have encoded into my personality self from my mother.  By remembering and non-emotively releasing those memory symbiotic feelings, I come into alignment with my Whole-Self level of enhanced consciousness.

For over thirty years, the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix (Turner & Turner, 1991) has demonstrated that each person is the synthesis of the charged emotional/mental patterns that their mother and father experienced during their pregnancies with them.  Through the Whole-Self PAM, everyone is able to discover that they not only have the eDNA synthesis, but also have their mother’s emotional experiences available for recovery.    By discovering those memories and recognizing that each of us has been repeating our mother’s patterns, both we and our mothers can be released from them, often at the same time.   In releasing or transforming those diminishing patterns of self-judgments and personal decisions I had made early in life, I create the converse of the Four Laws of Life, so that if:

I don’t oppose what I am experiencing,

I don’t make non-conscious diminishing self-judgments against myself,

I don’t make non-conscious diminishing decisions against myself or life,

Then  . . .  I don’t have to Try It Again !!

Rising  above !

It is important to remember that trauma patterns are not the only ones that become encoded.   Neutral, even enhancing patterns, can be found to overlay the diminishing patterns.  It is important to discover these neutral and enhancing patterns and integrate them when resolving the diminishing patterns.

CASE EXAMPLE

Psychologist Smilja Janjatovic Pugliesi, a Whole-Self Facilitator inRome,Italy, reported a case in which the mother of her client confirmed every detail the daughter had discovered in her PAM work.   The client, Donna, had a growth on her nose.   Her mental attitude in life, which in Whole-Self Psychology is called her “reality pattern”, was,   “no matter the obstacles, no matter her fear, no matter her fatigue, she would sleep and when she awoke, she had the determination to work through the challenges of her fear”.

In her work, Donna discovered that from the third month of pregnancy, her mother’s emotional patterns were the result of the continuing concern about a hard growth on her nose.   In her PAM recapitulation, Donna sees her mother at her doctor’s office.  The doctor is examining her mother’s nose.   She is worried because she doesn’t know what it is.  The worry increased.  Donna experienced her mother’s feelings of horror and desperation.    Donna says, “I have a feeling of hardness – like a rock – and then I fall asleep”.

First, Donna experienced some kind of battle to overcome the fear, then fatalism,  ‘Things will go as they have to!’   This is a familiar decision for her.   Then suddenly, in the regression, Donna said  that she can no longer feel or imagine her mother’s emotional reactions. She says,

“I fell asleep, so I don’t know.  I slept for a while and then I woke up happy, at ease.   It was towards the end of the pregnancy.   It was dark.   And, at first, I felt a bit afraid, but then, even with fatigue, I went ahead, because I needed to see, to check.”

Donna’s mother confirmed that this event had happened, and these were the feelings and behaviors she had in the latter part of her pregnancy.

ORIGINS  of  CONSCIOUSNESS

Where does consciousness come from is one of life’s unfathomable questions.   One possibility which comes to mind is reincarnation.  Whole-Self calls this possibility the Past Life Dimension of Consciousness (Turner & Turner, 1995).   Winafred Blake Lucas (1993) has published a two-volume anthology, Regression Therapy: A Handbook for Professionals, which explores extensively this concept of continuation of consciousness.  For over 40 years we have been researching this hypothesis in Whole-Self Psychology.  Our findings show that when a person dies in one of these Past Life Dimensions of Consciousness with charged unresolved emotions, the consciousness is locked into these emotions.   Since these emotions were created in this world, the consciousness must come back into this world to activate these emotions in order to resolve them.   This process is possible through the concept of Symbiosis.

Symbiosis:   are  those  feeling  patterns mother’s  or  mine?

We propose that symbiosis begins before  conception,  when my consciousness is energetically attracted to my mother’s consciousness because she and/or my father are feeling the same feelings I was feeling at the time I died in a previous existence.   My emotional/mental matriculation takes place in mother’s emotional/mental bodies during the nine months of gestation when my consciousness is attached to my mother’s aura.   I am unable to discern my feelings separate from my mother’s feelings.  Whole-Self Psychology has discovered that, in therapy sessions where people are emotively acting out birth trauma, what this behavior they are actually expressing is not the memory of their own pain of labor and birth, but the physical as well as emotional/mental resistance patterns of mother’s labor (Turner 1989).   Later, this symbiotic magnetism can be acted out in life as psychological symbiosis pathology.   When I am unresolved in my prebirth Symbiosis with my mother, I then transfer into co-dependant relationship with others.

The Whole-Self hypothesis is that there are two memory tracks:   The cellular memory of that little body growing inside mother’s womb; and The psycho-spiritual memory of my consciousness residing in mother’s consciousness.

  1.  “I,” my consciousness, my sense of myself, is not inside my mother’s body during gestation, but in her auric field, her consciousness.   The memories of trauma which I am able to reconstruct are not just stored in the cellular memory in what will become my body after birth, but are also the remembrances of mother’s emotional/mental bodies simultaneously shared (Symbiotically) by me during her pregnancy and labor.
  2. If it is correct to state that everything that mother’s body is experiencing is effecting all the parts of her, including her emotional/mental bodies – then everything she is experiencing is also effecting my developing physical and emotional/mental bodies.
  3. Therefore, in psychotherapeutic systems that address birth trauma, what is being reconstructed is not my own, not yet individuated experiences, but the recreation of my mother’s pregnancy and labor pain patterns.
  4. If my consciousness was never inside my mother’s body, then there are some very significant hypotheses about emotive therapies in which people are urged to fight to get out of the womb that need to be rethought.  Are these therapeutic modalities facilitating and enhancing resolution of trauma or reinforcing the fantasized false memory trauma patterns and further entrenching the adrenaline addictions [“hormone ‘hit’” need] within the person?

VIOLENCE  &  PREGNANCY  & THE MASS  MEDIA

Whole-Self suggests two kinds of violence in pregnancy:

subjective  violence in which I am either the perpetrator or the victim, and

objective  violence where I am the observer of the violence.

Because the very essence of violence is diminishing to the body, mind, emotions and spirit both kinds of violence are damaging.    For some 2000 years Mass was a key ceremonial word of the Catholic ritual commemorating the crucifixion throughout the world.   Today, the same word, Mass, is also a power word in the consciousness of human communication.    While there are many forms of violence, special concern needs to be directed towards the Mass Media and its role in propagating violence in the world.   Mass Media is a leading edge factor in the evolution of society.    Its impact on pregnant women and their mates is part of the forging factors in the development of the body, mind, emotions and spirit of each future human on earth, and,  with the Mier Space Station, possibly including our vast planetary system.

Impact of  Entertainment Violence on  Children

TheUnited Stateshas been plagued with children murdering children.    In 2001, a 15 year old boy in the State ofFlorida, was sentenced to life imprisonment for murdering a little girl. He said all he was doing was imitating a wrestling move he had seen on television.   Her little body could not withstand the action, and she died. (CNN)

While shocking, this kind of violence is not unknown to health care professionals, in both mental and physical health fields.  On July 26, 2000, at the United States Congressional Public Health Summit held inWashingtonD.C., The American Academy of Pediatrics  and five other prominent medical groups issued a Joint Statement on the Impact of Entertainment Violence on Children, citing the connection between media and violent or aggressive behavior in some children (AmericanAcademyof Pediatrics, 2000).  Because Mass Media is such an important factor in the atmosphere of violence, including during the time of pregnancy, their declaration is relevant here:

We, the undersigned, represent the public health community.  As with any community. there exists a diversity of viewpoints – but with many matters, there is also consensus. Although a wide variety of viewpoints on the import and impact of entertainment violence on children may exist outside the public health community, within it, there is a strong consensus on many of the effects on children’s health, well-being and development.

Television, movies, music, and interactive games are powerful learning tools, and highly influential media. The average American child spends as much as 28 hours a week watching television, and typically at least an hour a day playing video games or surfing the Internet. Several more hours each week are spent watching movies and videos, and listening to music. These media can, and often are, used to instruct, encourage, and even inspire. But when these entertainment media showcase violence – and particularly in a context which glamorizes or trivializes it – the lessons learned can be destructive.

There are some in the entertainment industry who maintain that 1) violent programming is harmless because no studies exist that prove a connection between violent entertainment and aggressive behavior in children, and 2) young people know that television, movies, and video games are simply fantasy. Unfortunately, they are wrong on both counts.

At this time, well over 1000 studies – including reports from the Surgeon General’s office, the National Institute of Mental Health, and numerous studies conducted by leading figures within our medical and public health organizations – our own members – point overwhelmingly to a causal connection between media violence and aggressive behavior in some children. The conclusion of the public health community, based on over 30 years of research, is that viewing entertainment violence can lead to increases in aggressive attitudes, values and behavior, particularly in children.

Its effects are measurable and long-lasting. Moreover, prolonged viewing of media violence can lead to emotional desensitization toward violence in real life.

The effect of entertainment violence on children is complex and variable. Some children will be affected more than others. But while duration, intensity, and extent of the impact may vary, there are several measurable negative effects of children’s exposure to violent entertainment. These effects take several forms.

  • Children who see a lot of violence are more likely to view violence as an effective way of settling conflicts. Children exposed to violence are more likely to assume that acts of violence are acceptable behavior.
  • Viewing violence can lead to emotional desensitization towards violence in real life. It can decrease the likelihood that one will take action on behalf of a victim when violence occurs.
  • Entertainment violence feeds a perception that the world is a violent and mean place. Viewing violence increases fear of becoming a victim of violence, with a resultant increase in self-protective behaviors and a mistrust of others.
  • Viewing violence may lead to real life violence. Children exposed to violent programming at a young age have a higher tendency for violent and aggressive behavior later in life than children who are not so exposed.

Although less research has been done on the impact of violent interactive entertainment (video games and other interactive media) on young people, preliminary studies indicate that the negative impact may be significantly more severe than that wrought by television, movies, or music. More study is needed in this area, and we urge that resources and attention be directed to this field,

We in no way mean to imply that entertainment violence is the sole, or even necessarily the most important factor contributing to youth aggression, anti-social attitudes, and violence. Family breakdown, peer influences, the availability of weapons, and numerous other factors may all contribute to these problems. Nor are we advocating restrictions on creative activity. The purpose of this document is descriptive, not prescriptive: we seek to lay out a clear picture of the pathological effects of entertainment violence. But we do hope that by articulating and releasing the consensus of the public health community, we may encourage greater public and parental awareness of the harms of violent entertainment, and encourage a more honest dialogue about what can be done to enhance the health and well-being ofAmerica’s children.

Donald E. Cook, MD
President
American Academy of Pediatrics

Clarice Kestenbaum, MD
President
American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry

L. Michael Honaker, PhD.
Deputy Chief Executive Officer
American Psychological Association

Dr. E. Ratcliffe Anderson, Jr. MD
Executive Vice President
American Medical Association

American Academy of Family Physicians

American Psychiatric Association          (Reprinted with permission – March 2003)

The prenatal and perinatal psychology education, health, and medicine communities need to also declare that the concerns given above puts the unborn child at risk when their pregnant mother is exposed to these views of violence.   Mother’s also have a responsibility to not expose their unborns to fearful and disastrous Mass Media.    And what about the tens, perhaps hundreds of thousands of babies carried by mothers who are the victims of natural disasters, wars and terrorism throughout the world?   The task is massive  . . .  but the goal is clear, and the benefits to society are monumental.  A hopeful sign is that the Mass Media is beginning to carry story of pregnancy and birth research.

To complete, let us share again the Whole-Self Principle mentioned near the beginning:

All experiences enter the realm of violence the instant respect is breached.

So respect is one key to overcoming violence.    It is necessary to address healing violence in pregnancy by healing the addictions to the danger hormones.   One of the most ancient principles of pregnancy is that mothers must be protected from not only scenes of violence but also thoughts of violence.   However, more immediately, we can begin to attend to this simple statement:

All experiences enter the realm of violence the instant respect is breached.

Let us respect ourselves as we respect our pregnant parents and our societies will respect us!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Violence & Pregnancy: A Whole-Self Psychology PerspectiveÓ2001

 

Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

 

ABSTRACT:  This paper focuses on violence as pathology occurring primarily during pregnancy and explains the resulting impact on one’s life. It addresses this specific theme, and does not include the violence found in some medical birth procedures, or violence generated by gender. This paper is based upon a presentation by the authors in March 2001, at the OMAEP [World Organization of Prenatal Education] & ANEP [Association of National Prenatal Education] Congress in Puerto laCruz,Venezuela. entitled “Violence & Pregnancy.” This congress brought together leading experts from South and North America, andEurope.

KEY WORDS:  violence, consciousness, attachment and bonding, mother/child attunement

Introduction

Whole-Self Psychology Philosophy and Education postulates that: All experiences enter the realm of violence the instant respect is breached. This includes any and all forms of disrespect that may occur during the prenatal/inter-uterine dialogue experience. It is important to understand how these issues and dynamics contribute to violence as pathology and the significant impact it has on one’s life. Case histories illustrating typical trauma will be given as examples. We will also address how the Whole-Self Psychology Therapy is used to help heal  these disasters and traumas.

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Jon RG & Troya GN Turner-Groot are pioneers in Prebirth Memory RecoveryÓ and Co-Founders & Directors of Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute, Inc. in Grootebroek, The Netherlands. They have published over 40 papers worldwide. For more information, please see: www.Whole-Self.info

                                                                                                                                                                                             

 

Historical Perspective on Womb Life & the Origins of Consciousness

 

The idea of the once blissful womb proposed by Sandor Ferenzi (1913) in Budapest, Hungaryhas long ago been disproved. After Ferenzi, analyst Gustav Hans Graber, MD (1924), Founder of the International Study Society in Prenatal Psychology, pushed back the consciousness curtain by advocating that children experience pre-birth and well as post birth memories. Sigmund Freud  (1918) developed the theoretical superstructure that inspired Otto Rank, but then reversed himself. It was Rank, MD (1924), who was the first to actually advocate and develop the psychiatric theoretical framework connecting trauma with birth. Nandor Fodor (1949) topped off Rank’s trauma theory by  describing the consecutive stages of development theorized by Rank.   Over a quarter of a century ago, Dutch analyst, M. Lietaert Peerbolte (1975) integrated a reposing consciousness before conception theory and the accepted analytical approach. His search questioned the etiology of consciousness and what we know. In the early 1970s, the authors of this paper pioneered Prebirth Memory Therapy (Turner, 1988; Turner & Turner, 1993) to gently recover and release traumas, including those that were violent, experienced by mother during her pregnancy. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh (1993) exhorts us to remember that the prenatal stage of life in the mother’s consciousness and womb is our first ecological position as human beings. This is our first human encounter where we, as children, found ourselves involved in a creative dialogue with our mothers and their biological, psychological and social environment. The nature and quality (peaceful, loving, nurturing, hostile, violent) of that dyadic relationship and dialogue will have a profound effect on the health and well being outcome for that unborn child after birth.

Understanding Violence

Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy, and Education postulates that: All experiences enter the realm of violence the instant respect is breached. This includes any and all forms of disrespect that may occur during the prenatal/inter-uterine dialogue experience. What if that pregnant dialogue is filled with verbal or physical abuse? Understanding how such abuse contributes to violence as pathology, and its resulting impact on one’s life, is critical if effective change and healing are to occur.

In order to discuss violence and pregnancy, it is helpful to establish a mutual understanding to the meaning of the word, violence. According to Webster’s Dictionary (1986, Ottenheimer Publishers) the word violence is derived from the Latin violentus, which means force. Adjunct words to violence are the verb, to violate, and the adjective, violent. To violate means to profane, to treat with disrespect, to break, to transgress. There is not much emotional charge or hormonal response to these definitions. The word violent is more potent. Violent means acting with or characterized by physical force of strength, especially unlawfully so, or, produced by force (e.g. death, end). Violent can also have an emotional component. It can mean moved by strong feeling, passionate, intense (e.g. pain). These two words can evoke more emotions in us as they lead us to our focus word, which is violence. Webster says violence is the quality of being violent, force, or intensity. Within this definition, Webster leads us to vehemence, unjust force, outrage, profanation, injury, rape. These words are more potent and evoke intense emotional, and resulting hormonal, responses in us.

In this document, we will be equating the word trauma with the word violence. Two other word concepts that will be used herein are diminishing in place of negative, and enhancing, to mean positive or affirming.

Saddam Hussein

While many experts are attributing various psychological causes to the aberration which is Saddam, none of them even considers his prebirth foundation to his inability to experience love, compassion or empathy with any human being. He has no conscience. Saddam illustrates perfectly Reactive Attachment Disorder. John C. Sonne (2002) strikes our keynote: Hussein’s mother attempted suicide when she was seven months pregnant with Saddam, and she tried to kill him by bumping her stomach against the wall. Saddam’s father had died just before that, and another sibling had died around this same time. So this was the prenatal environment prior to Saddam’s birth in April, 1937: an abortion minded and attempting to abort suicidal mother, no father, and the death of a sibling.

 

Attachment & Bonding and The Brain

 

Thomas Verny. MD (2001), describes experience as the chief architect of the brain. Alan Schore, PhD (1996, 1997), defines attachment as a regulatory process in brain development, which determines its developmental and functional outcome. In his research, Bruce Lipton, PhD (2001), has found that experience and perception are the key factors in determining genetic and DNA outcome as relates to cellular function and memory, and relates this to the father influence/input. When the experience prenatally, as well as postnatally, is violent, then the brain develops in a different way. It becomes “wired,” for survival and responds to all life experiences, including those that are non-violent, from the fight, flight, or freeze mode, activating  the  adrenals and secreting the related adrenocortico steroids and other  neurohormones in response to  the  real or perceived danger (Perry, Pollard, Blakely, Baker & Vigilante, 1995; Perry, 1997; Schore, 1996; Schore, 1997).

The first Whole-Self Principle says: I cannot change something until I know what needs to be  changed.  From the Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy, and Education perspective, violence itself, while abhorrent in its various shades, may not be the problem. Whole-Self Psychology suggests that violence, when connected with anger, is a learned behavior (Turner, 1990). We also suggest that the problem of violence is not the violence but the hormonal addiction created when the fight, flight, or freeze mechanism is triggered. It is this hormonal addiction which locks people into violent behavior in order to get the hormonal addiction satisfied. This happens on both sides. The violator gets a charge of adrenaline, noradrenaline, and a cocktail of other addictive hormones, resulting in a hormonal hit. The victim, because of the danger, also experiences a hormonal hit. This may explain why abused women often attack their police rescuers and refuse to prosecute their violators.

Whole-Self Psychology also proposes that when physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual violence occurs during pregnancy, the hormonal saturation gets passed through the placenta and does two things: The danger hormones , adrenalin, noradrenaline, cortosol, etc., have a damaging and diminishing effect on baby’s brain and neurological development, and the danger hormones addict baby to the same addictive substances which are afflicting mother. In Whole-Self Psychology, therapy starts by discovering the beginning of the emotional life of the client. These patterns are called the emotional DNAÓ [eDNAÓ] (Turner & Turner, 1995). Through a questionnaire, consisting of 22 sets of questions, the client discovers the source of their emotional feelings, their eDNA, and the source of the reactions which they have experienced all through life. The questionnaire is called the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis MatrixÓ or PAMÓ(Turner, 1988).

Case  Example:  Adrenaline to survive instead of living a life!

Masochism and sado-masochism are often traceable to prenatal trauma. This is evident in the case of Olivia, a 50 year old woman whose life pattern exhibits the belief that “Pain equals love!” The “pain = love” patterns had been active in her parents’ relationship during their pregnancy with her. World War II had begun, and her father was sent to the Russian Front during this pregnancy. In her Prebirth Analysis Matrix (PAM), Olivia sensed that in the 5th month of pregnancy her mother was tense, nervous and anxious. A message arrived that her father will not return home – he had been captured at the Russian Front and shipped to Russia for the duration of the war. When her mother got this devastating news she experienced despair and shock, sadness and insecurity. She felt abandoned and forsaken. During the PAM process, Olivia recognized  these as very familiar feelings in her own life. Recovering control, her mother determined to not give up. She retreated into herself as she realized that now she had to have trust only in herself. She was responsible for all her children and must take their care into her own hands. Olivia also recognized this responsibility position in her own life as she was recalling this information.  Five years later, her father returned home. The trauma was resolved for her mother, but not for four-and-one-half-year-old Olivia. She was still locked in the reality [her belief] that her father had abandoned her. Olivia is still emotionally arrested at the prenatal age (infantile) when the trauma occurred. As a result of this prenatal experience, Olivia has had the belief that men who love her abandon her, and, therefore, does not trust them to care for her, as much as she wants to have that happen. The distancing of herself from men, the want/need to be taken care of and the need to control for survival has been a familiar infantile trance pattern in her relationships, activating the survival [fight, flight, freeze] hormones. Olivia is now working to resolve the conflicts of not trusting men, the want/need to be taken care of, and needing to be in control. IN other words, she is no longer locked in  pain = love; She is developing experience that pleasure = love.

The Whole-Self Four Laws of Life

In Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy, and Education, there are four basic laws that define how overwhelming, diminishing patterns (negative thoughts/beliefs) come into existence, dominate  one’s life, and continue to perpetuate the early prenatal trauma:

The Law of Opposition               Whatever I am opposed to  …   I have to experience!

The Law of Confirmation                  Whatever I really believe about myself,

I will keep proving to myself!

The Law of Decisions                  Whatever I decide creates my future!

The Law of Repetition                Whatever I don’t learn, I have to repeat

How many times have I said I would never do something? The more I am opposed to something, the stronger I experience it. On a non-conscious level, when I resist what I am opposing, I make it stronger and more powerful, and, as a result, make judgments against myself.

These self-judgment words are relegated to the unconscious and are reflected through such concepts as: Unlovable – Unimportant – Worthless – Unfulfilled – Unworthy – Worthless – Unacceptable – Unsupportable – Not Good Enough – Inferior – Inappropriate – Irresponsible – Guilty – Bad – Wicked – Terrible – Horrible – Dirty – Disgusting – Despicable – Dumb – Stupid – Inept – Incapable – Incompetent – Inadequate – Incomplete – Unrecognized – Insecure – Helpless – Hopeless – Powerless.

After making any of these non-conscious self-judgments against myself, non-conscious diminishing decisions are also made. For those of us who were held upside down at birth and slapped on the bottom by a male doctor, common decisions can be: “Men hurt me!” “Men are dangerous!”

Not wanting to be pregnant can lead to another form of violence in pregnancy. To be wanted or not to be wanted? That is the true question!

 

Case Example

Cecile presents insecurity, a pattern carried down generations from her grandmother, mother, and aunt. Cecile is living with a partner who is eight years older. He is proud to have a relationship with “the beautiful young women.” Looking well is important for Cecile, but this creates a conflict in her when she wants to become pregnant. She fears she will lose her slim appearance. There are also issues of anorexia nervosa present in her life.This need for slimness is not just Cecile’s problem. This conflict is mirrored by her partner, who also wants a child, but does not want Cecile to grow fat. Cecile’s slim appearance is the cover-up for their co-dependent lives.

Two emotionally violating traumas that were experienced during her own gestation left Cecile to deal with the question: “Do I give away my own life in order to survive?” The paradox is, ‘How can I live my life when I give it away?

In her Prebirth Analysis Matrix, Cecile discovered two traumas her mother experienced: One in the 1st month and the other in the 7th month of her pregnancy. In the 1st month of the, as yet unrecognized pregnancy, her mother discovered that her father was fooling around with other women. “It is not serious,” he would say as he went with another woman to a bar and arrived home late at night. The next day at work, although doing her job, mother felt loneliness, insecurity, fear, abandonment, and betrayal. She judged herself to be unworthy, worthless, dumb, stupid, not good enough, incapable, incomplete, helpless, hopeless, and powerless. She felt deep shame but kept up appearances, and tried to hide the sadness she was feeling. Mother determines that life is a burden, so she will just take care of her husband and he will love her, a one-sided and non-communicated contract. In the 7th month of pregnancy, mother was at a party with friends and felt uncomfortable because of her pregnancy. Her bulging belly made her feel unattractive and misplaced.  In looking for her husband, mother found him behind a closed door kissing another women. She was suffused with pain and rage and declared, “I want to leave the party with or without him, just leave! This baby will be born with or without a father!” Father kissed the other women again and said that it did not mean anything, that mother was over-reacting. Mother left the party in despair, finally realizing she could no longer trust her husband!    The tragedy was that because of her rage, her utter helplessness, hopelessness and powerlessness in relation to the father of her child, this mother took revenge on her daughter by becoming a child beater and abuser, including forcing Cecile under a cold shower whenever she wet her pants. In her therapy Cecile has worked to heal identified self-judgments and diminishing decisions that resulted from her prenatal experience, and is working to change her attitude towards her abusive mother.

 

Case Example

According to the second of the Ten Commandments (Chapter 20 Verse 5  Hebrew Bible) the sins [i.e., trauma patterns] of the fathers can be passed down through four sons- seven in the Native American Tradition (personal communication from Rhonda Howard) before they are released sons before they are released. Sigrid Westermann of Hamburg, Germanyhas also studied the influence of previous generations on prenatal patterns (1996, 2000).  Related to this, Sauci Bosner, of Amsterdam, The Netherlands, is a world authority working with KZKonzentration Kamp Syndromen.  Sauci is using Whole-Self therapy in working with fourth generation KZ survivors who exhibit prison camp syndrome. This syndrome originated before the concentration camps of the Third Reich of Nazi Germany and the Japanese during WW II. These camps were creations of the British Government during the Boer War inSouth Africa. The following case illustrates the trans-generational transmission of trauma.

Anna, aged 39, is a woman and mother who represents two generations of trauma. She encoded the traumas of her mother, and then froze them within the birth trauma she experienced in the delivery of her two sons [now of preschool age]. By doing this she passed the trauma on to them and reinforced it by naming them WIND and STORM. She has stunted her sons’ psychological development by constantly reminding them of the pain they caused her during the pregnancies and births. Her intention was to not allow her boys to grow beyond the violence of their names. Anna made two suicide attempts within a six months period of time. She was drinking three to six bottles of beer daily, smoking two to three packs of cigarettes per day, and using cocaine when available. After starting a new study in Information Technology and meeting a man with whom she was developing a relationship, Anna came to work with Sauci. She had two goals she wanted to achieve in therapy: 1) I want to finish something for the first time in my life! (referring to her IT study) 2) I don’t want to make the same mistakes in this relationship which have destroyed my relationships in the past.

Through her PAM session, Anna experienced her mother’s internment in a Japanese Prison Camp. Conditions in those Far East Camps were just as horrendous as in the Nazi Konzentration Kamps. Anna discovered that her mother had been sexually abused by her biological father and semi-abandoned by her biological mother in the Jappen Kampe. Upon liberation, Anna’s mother was reunited with a Dutch school friend, who later became her husband. The two returned toHolland and started a family, having five other children prior to Anna’s s conception and birth. Her mother’s trauma happened years before Anna was conceived and born.Yet, the trauma trance which locked into mother during her imprisonment years still had an affect on Anna’s life. From the Whole-Self Psychology point of view, we say that, years later, Anna, emotionally like her mother, was destructively living as if she were still in that Japanese prison camp. Of her five siblings, Anna was the child who most precisely replicated her mother’s survival behaviors from the Japanese imprisonment. What were the prebirth emotional patterns and behaviors Anna received as a psycho/spiritual inheritance from her mother? During the pregnancy with Anna, her mother smoked two to three packages of cigarettes per day and exhibited a pattern of alcohol abuse, which still continues. Her mother took painkillers throughout the pregnancy with Anna, and was in labor for 32 hours before she was born. After delivery, her mother lost two liters of blood. Because of this medical crisis, Anna was not placed on her mother’s breast to nurse. She was isolated from both her mother and father until the next day. Bonding did not occur.

Anna also told Sauci that she had lost her virginity at the age of 11 years. She had been raped while living in a squatter’s community inAmsterdam. This replicated her mother’s sex and survival life in the Japanese prison camp when she was also in puberty and entering adolescence.  After having discovered the source of her self-destructive behaviors as replicating her mother’s history, Anna chose to take a break from therapy to process what she had learned thus far. As a consequence, she is still living a life of Wind and Storm. Anna’s case illustrates that simply becoming aware of traumas does not release them. This is where therapy actually begins.

A Computer Analogy

How do mother’s feelings become symbiotically encoded in my new consciousness?

An analogy to explain the encoding process is to imagine that mother is a desktop personal computer and the preonate is a laptop notebook connected to mother. As this little baby body grows and develops in utero, it is basically functional by the end of the first trimester. This is why some micro-premature infants can survive in NICU, even as young as 4 months gestation and weighing at l pound  (450 grams) or less. The second and third trimesters are, in general, practice and rehearsal time so that at birth the little body has is computerese – a warm start. Here is a hypothesis supported by research conducted by Russian Prof. Grigori I. Brekhman (2000) :

(Given in the first person for ease of understanding.)

Just as my little unborn body, as part of mother’s body, is being educated during the second and third trimester so that it can function independently after birth,

My emotional/mental body is likewise being educated (my eDNA). My emotional/mental consciousness resides in my mother’s energy field and becomes educated through her feelings and attitudes. This is necessary for putting the whole life I will live into perspective. I need this emotional/mental training in order to experience and to resolve my own challenging emotional/mental patterns after birth. (Italian researcher, Gino Soldera (2002) calls this the Individual Life Project.) I experience my mother’s enhancing or diminishing feeling patterns and continually experience life through her thoughts and feelings. They become the emotional basis or foundation through which I interpret and respond, or react, to in my new life.

In other words, as my mother experiences her emotions and her mind, while residing in her aura, I am also experiencing them and being educated as to how these feelings and thoughts will potentially function in me after my birth. In Whole-Self Psychology, this dynamic is described in the following way: Mother’s physical body is the instrument of her experiencing everything that she experiences in this 3-Dimensional world. As mother exercises her emotional/mental bodies, her physical body is effected by specific thought patterns. The stronger mother’s thought and feeling patterns, the more powerful the trigger that can send adrenaline and noradrenaline hormones  surging through her body in reaction. That little body is growing as part of her body.   As mother has feelings and thoughts, they reactively trigger hormones in her body.  Those  hormones passing through the connecting placenta are also saturating and encoding the little body with hormones.

In the first person again:

This is why I can use my body now as a port or threshold — an access to reconstruct my

mother’s emotional/mental patterns that dwell within  her from the time she was pregnant.

Mother & Unborn Child Attunement

The transmitter (mother) & the receiver (baby) must be attuned to each other. A key to understanding the true nature of violence in pregnancy is to explore the nature of consciousness during pregnancy. At the 13th International Congress of the International Society for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine [ISPPM] held in Cagliari, Sardinia, Italy in June, 2000, Prof. Grigori I. Brekhman, Head of the Obstetrics & Gynecology Department of the State Medical Academy, Ivanovo, Russia, presented a paper entitled, “The Conception of the Multiple-level Coordinated Action Between the Mother and Her Unborn Child:  The Metyhodological approach and the Methods of Research,” in which he explained how such dialogue occurs. Prof. Brekhman suggests a multi-level concept of the relationship between mother and her unborn child, which includes these particular emotional / mental aspects. Prof. Brekhman said:

Nowadays a lot of data obtained has confirmed the hypothesis that the psycho-emotional inter-relationship between the mother and her unborn child is the reality. …  We [Brekhman] offered to examine the mother‑unborn child relationships based on the idea of a permanently functioning multiple‑level polyphonic system.   It has been assumed that, if mother is a multiple‑system embracing such levels as biological, energetical, astral, mental, etc, to have intimate and fruitful interplay between her and the unborn, baby must already possess the same levels beginning with the zygote.  Such a methodological approach proved to be fruitful.   The subdivision of this system into the various levels is very relevant for baby since it is only able to live and develop harmoniously if all its components properly interact.

In this last sentence the word only is the operative word. The significant concept Prof. Brekhman addresses is: if there is a process such as a mother-unborn child dialogue, there needs to exist complementary resonant cohesive media systems in both mother and her baby which can recognize each others messages, e.g. the radio transmitter analogy mentioned above. In other words, mother and baby must be able to communicate with and understand each other on all levels with the same symbols/language. It is a model which, for 30 years, Whole-Self Psychology had been describing as where symbiosis begins. Whole-Self Psychology has hypothesized that just as each of us is the synthesis of our parent’s genetic coding, which gives us our physical characteristics, there is also a synthesis of the emotional/mental patterns of our parents from the nine months of their pregnancy, our individual eDNA, as mentioned above. This eDNA is precisely the mutuality system which Prof. Brekhman has demonstrated in his laboratory.

Role of Personality

One of the basic functions of my personality is to keep me from feeling pain. This is why my personality does not want me to remember past traumatic events. Therefore, actual violent events may not remembered, but the feelings I experienced when they happened are remembered. This includes feeling any feelings of violence toward, or by, my mother during her pregnancy, in whatever form they may have happened. One type of violence can be a wished for, or failed, clinical abortion. Abortion survivors are a clearly defined group, according to John C. Sonne, MD (1994a, 1994b, 1996). Dr. Sonne says that even a thought of abortion in mother’s or father’s  (through mother’s energy field) emotional bodies is perceived by my developing personality as life threatening. This is not because of my intelligent consciousness, but because of mother’s reactiveness to the thought of abortion and its resonance through our mutual symbiotic energy fields. Dr. Sonne’s landmark analysis of two mass murderers (2000), who profile as possible abortion survivors, is an example of what can result from an unwanted pregnancy, an incomplete abortion. In his analysis of the two boys responsible for theColumbineHigh School[Colorado,USA] massacre in 1999, Sonne hypothesizes that they both bore the clinical profiles of being abortion survivors. Among Sonne’s listed anti-social profile patterns we find the second Whole-Self Law of Life, Self-judgment, which, for them, included being outcasts, unwelcome, unloved, undeserving, unlovable, unattractive, and worthless. It was the Whole-Self Third Law of Life, the boys’ diminishing decisions, that led to the massacre. A year before that tragic event, one of the boys posted his diminishing decisions on a website:

“I don’t care if I live or die in the shoot-out, all I want to do is kill

and injure  as many of you pricks as I can, and  — god damnit.

DEAD PEOPLE DON’T ARGUE!  God damnit, I am pissed!”  (Sonne, 2000 Fall;

& Affidavit: Columbine Shooter Posted Threat on Web April 10, 2001

CNN Web posted at: 3:55 PM EDT (19:55 GMT)

Sadly, it is the statistics about the massacre that makes big news: twelve students dead, twenty-four students injured, one teacher dead, and the two shooters suicided. The prebirth dynamics that were the causal factors of their mental / emotional state is not even addressed, much less viewed as tragic or problematic. The pain these 2 two boys experienced within themselves was definitely acted out, causing great pain in their community and to society at large.

Whole-Self Psychology maintains that simultaneously, while my personality makes every attempt to block painful memories to avoid feeling pain, my Whole-Self wants me to remember and release those diminishing memories and feel connected to those patterns I may have encoded into my personality self from my mother. By remembering and non-emotively releasing those memory symbiotic feelings, I come into alignment with my Whole-Self level of enhanced consciousness. For over thirty years, the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix (Turner & Turner, 1991) has demonstrated that each person is the synthesis of the charged emotional/mental patterns that their mother and father experienced during their pregnancies with them. Through the Whole-Self PAM, everyone is able to discover that they not only have the eDNA synthesis, but also have their mother’s emotional experiences available for recovery.  By discovering those memories and recognizing that each of us has been repeating our mother’s patterns, both we and our mothers can be released from them, often at the same time. In releasing or transforming those diminishing patterns of self-judgments and personal decisions I had made early in life, I create the converse of the Four Laws of Life, so that if:

I don’t oppose what I am experiencing,

I don’t make non-conscious diminishing self-judgments against myself,

I don’t make non-conscious diminishing decisions against myself or life

Then . . . I don’t have to Try It Again !!

Rising Above!

 

It is important to remember that trauma patterns are not the only ones that become encoded.   Neutral, even enhancing patterns, can be found to overlay the diminishing patterns. It is important to discover these neutral and enhancing patterns and integrate them when resolving the diminishing patterns.

Case Example

Psychologist Smilja Janjatovic Pugliesi, a Whole-Self Facilitator inRome,Italy, reported a case in which the mother of her client confirmed every detail the daughter had discovered in her PAM work. The client, Donna, had a growth on her nose. Her mental attitude in life, which in Whole-Self Psychology is called her “reality pattern,” was; no matter the obstacles, no matter her fear, no matter her fatigue, she would sleep and when she awoke, she had the determination to work through the challenges of her fear.

In her work, Donna discovered that from the third month of pregnancy, her mother’s emotional patterns were the result of the continuing concern about a hard growth on her nose. In her PAM recapitulation, Donna sees her mother at her doctor’s office. The doctor is examining her mother’s nose. She is worried because she doesn’t know what it is. The worry increased. Donna experienced her mother’s feelings of horror and desperation. Donna says, “I have a feeling of hardness – like a rock – and then I fall asleep.” First, Donna experienced some kind of battle to overcome the fear, then fatalism, “Things will go as they have to!” This is a familiar decision for her. Then suddenly, in the regression, Donna said that she can no longer feel or imagine her mother’s emotional reactions. She says, “I fell asleep, so I don’t know. I slept for a while and then I woke up happy, at ease.  It was towards the end of the pregnancy. It was dark.  And, at first, I felt a bit afraid, but then, even with fatigue, I went ahead, because I needed to see, to check.” Donna’s mother confirmed that this event had happened, and these were the feelings and behaviors she had in the latter part of her pregnancy.

Origins of Consciousness

Where does consciousness come from is one of life’s unfathomable questions. One possibility which comes to mind is reincarnation. Whole-Self calls this possibility the Past Life Dimension of Consciousness (Turner & Turner, 1995). Winafred Blake Lucas (1993) has published a two-volume anthology, Regression Therapy: A Handbook for Professionals, which explores extensively this concept of continuation of consciousness. For over 40 years we have been researching this hypothesis in Whole-Self Psychology. Our findings show that when a person dies in one of these Past Life Dimensions of Consciousness with charged unresolved emotions, the consciousness is locked into these emotions. Since these emotions were created in this world, the consciousness must come back into this world to activate these emotions in order to resolve them. This process is possible through the concept of Symbiosis.

Symbiosis: Are those feeling patterns mother’s or mine?

We propose that symbiosis begins before conception, when my consciousness is energetically attracted to my mother’s consciousness because she and/or my father are feeling the same feelings I was feeling at the time I died in a previous existence. My emotional/mental matriculation takes place in mother’s emotional/mental bodies during the nine months of gestation when my consciousness is attached to my mother’s aura. I am unable to discern my feelings separate from my mother’s feelings. Whole-Self Psychology has discovered that, in therapy sessions where people are emotively acting out birth trauma, what this behavior they are actually expressing is not the memory of their own pain of labor and birth, but the physical as well as emotional/mental resistance patterns of mother’s labor (Turner 1989). Later, this symbiotic magnetism can be acted out in life as psychological symbiosis pathology. When I am unresolved in my prebirth Symbiosis with my mother, I then transfer into co-dependant relationship with others.

The Whole-Self hypothesis is that there are two memory tracks: The cellular memory of that little body growing inside mother’s womb; and The psycho-spiritual memory of my consciousness residing in mother’s consciousness. “I,” my consciousness, my sense of myself, is not inside my mother’s body during gestation, but in her auric field, her consciousness. The memories of trauma which I am able to reconstruct are not just stored in the cellular memory in what will become my body after birth, but are also the remembrances of mother’s emotional/mental bodies simultaneously shared (Symbiotically) by me during her pregnancy and labor. If it is correct to state that everything that mother’s body is experiencing is effecting all the parts of her, including her emotional/mental bodies – then everything she is experiencing is also effecting my developing physical and emotional/mental bodies. Therefore, in psychotherapeutic systems that address birth trauma, what is being reconstructed is not my own, not yet individuated experiences, but the recreation of my mother’s pregnancy and labor pain patterns.  If my consciousness was never inside my mother’s body, then there are some very significant hypotheses about emotive therapies in which people are urged to fight to get out of the womb that need to be rethought. Are these therapeutic modalities facilitating and enhancing resolution of trauma or reinforcing the fantasized false memory trauma patterns and further entrenching the adrenaline addictions within the person?

Violence & Pregnancy & the Mass Media

Whole-Self suggests two kinds of violence in pregnancy: subjective violence in which I am either the perpetrator or the victim, and objective  violence where I am the observer of the violence.

Because the very essence of violence is diminishing to the body, mind, emotions and spirit both kinds of violence are damaging. For some 2000 years Mass was a key ceremonial word of the Catholic ritual commemorating the crucifixion throughout the world. Today, the same word, Mass, is also a power word in the consciousness of human communication. While there are many forms of violence, special concern needs to be directed towards the Mass Media and its role in propagating violence in the world. Mass Media is a leading edge factor in the evolution of society. Its impact on pregnant women and their mates is part of the forging factors in the development of the body, mind, emotions and spirit of each future human on earth, and, with the Mier Space Station, possibly including our vast planetary system.

Impact of Entertainment Violence on Children

TheUnited Stateshas been plagued with children murdering children. In 2001, a 15-year-old boy in the State ofFlorida, was sentenced to life imprisonment for murdering a little girl. He said all he was doing was imitating a wrestling move he had seen on television. Her little body could not withstand the action, and she died (CNN). While shocking, this kind of violence is not unknown to health care professionals, in both mental and physical health fields. On July 26, 2000, at the United States Congressional Public Health Summit held inWashingtonD.C., The American Academy of Pediatrics and five other prominent medical groups issued a Joint Statement on the Impact of Entertainment Violence on Children, citing the connection between media and violent or aggressive behavior in some children (AmericanAcademyof Pediatrics, 2000). Because Mass Media is such an important factor in the atmosphere of violence, including during the time of pregnancy, their declaration is relevant here:

We, the undersigned, represent the public health community.  As with any community. there exists a diversity of viewpoints – but with many matters, there is also consensus. Although a wide variety of viewpoints on the import and impact of entertainment violence on children may exist outside the public health community, within it, there is a strong consensus on many of the effects on children’s health, well-being and development.

Television, movies, music, and interactive games are powerful learning tools, and highly influential media. The average American child spends as much as 28 hours a week watching television, and typically at least an hour a day playing video games or surfing the Internet. Several more hours each week are spent watching movies and videos, and listening to music. These media can, and often are, used to instruct, encourage, and even inspire. But when these entertainment media showcase violence – and particularly in a context which glamorizes or trivializes it – the lessons learned can be destructive.

There are some in the entertainment industry who maintain that 1) violent programming is harmless because no studies exist that prove a connection between violent entertainment and aggressive behavior in children, and 2) young people know that television, movies, and video games are simply fantasy. Unfortunately, they are wrong on both counts.

At this time, well over 1000 studies – including reports from the Surgeon General’s office, the National Institute of Mental Health, and numerous studies conducted by leading figures within our medical and public health organizations – our own members – point overwhelmingly to a causal connection between media violence and aggressive behavior in some children. The conclusion of the public health community, based on over 30 years of research, is that viewing entertainment violence can lead to increases in aggressive attitudes, values and behavior, particularly in children.

Its effects are measurable and long-lasting. Moreover, prolonged viewing of media violence can lead to emotional desensitization toward violence in real life.

The effect of entertainment violence on children is complex and variable. Some children will be affected more than others. But while duration, intensity, and extent of the impact may vary, there are several measurable negative effects of children’s exposure to violent entertainment. These effects take several forms.

Children who see a lot of violence are more likely to view violence as an effective way of settling conflicts. Children exposed to violence are more likely to assume that acts of violence are acceptable behavior.

Viewing violence can lead to emotional desensitization towards violence in real life. It can decrease the likelihood that one will take action on behalf of a victim when violence occurs.

Entertainment violence feeds a perception that the world is a violent and mean place. Viewing violence increases fear of becoming a victim of violence, with a resultant increase in self-protective behaviors and a mistrust of others.

Viewing violence may lead to real life violence. Children exposed to violent programming at a young age have a higher tendency for violent and aggressive behavior later in life than children who are not so exposed.

Although less research has been done on the impact of violent interactive entertainment (video games and other interactive media) on young people, preliminary studies indicate that the negative impact may be significantly more severe than that wrought by television, movies, or music. More study is needed in this area, and we urge that resources and attention be directed to this field,

We in no way mean to imply that entertainment violence is the sole, or even necessarily the most important factor contributing to youth aggression, anti-social attitudes, and violence. Family breakdown, peer influences, the availability of weapons, and numerous other factors may all contribute to these problems. Nor are we advocating restrictions on creative activity. The purpose of this document is descriptive, not prescriptive: we seek to lay out a clear picture of the pathological effects of entertainment violence. But we do hope that by articulating and releasing the consensus of the public health community, we may encourage greater public and parental awareness of the harms of violent entertainment, and encourage a more honest dialogue about what can be done to enhance the health and well-being ofAmerica’s children.

Donald E. Cook, MD
President
American Academy of Pediatrics

Clarice Kestenbaum, MD
President
American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry

L. Michael Honaker, PhD.
Deputy Chief Executive Officer
American Psychological Association

Dr. E. Ratcliffe Anderson, Jr. MD
Executive Vice President
American Medical Association

American Academy of Family Physicians

American Psychiatric Association

(Permission to reprint granted by Marjorie Tharp, public affairs manager, AAP

Dept. of Federal Affairs.)

The prenatal and perinatal psychology education, health, and medicine communities need to also declare that the concerns given above puts the unborn child at risk when their pregnant mother is exposed to these views of violence. Mothers also have a responsibility to not expose their unborns to fearful and disastrous Mass Media. And, what about the tens, perhaps hundreds of thousands of babies carried by mothers who are the victims of natural disasters, wars, and terrorism throughout the world? The task is massive, but the goal is clear, and the benefits to society are monumental. A hopeful sign is that the Mass Media is beginning to carry story of pregnancy and birth research.

To complete, let us share again the Whole-Self Principle mentioned near the beginning:

All experiences enter the realm of violence the instant respect is breached. So, respect is one key to overcoming violence. It is necessary to address healing violence in pregnancy by healing the addictions to the danger hormones. One of the most ancient principles of pregnancy is that mothers must be protected from not only scenes of violence but also thoughts of violence. However, more immediately, we can begin to attend to this simple statement:

All experiences enter the realm of violence the instant respect is breached. Let us respect ourselves as we respect our pregnant parents and our societies will respect us!

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Memory is Life! Life is Memory!

I am sitting at my computer desk. For the last 11 years on the right wall of my office hangs a meter by half-a-meter purple felt banner with white letters. They are the colors of my Alma Mater. The 6½ inch white letters say “Holy Cross 1956.”

…………………………………………………………………………………..

“Getting to know you, getting to know all about you. Getting to know you..”

Some of you may recognize the lyric from Richard Rogers & Oscar Hammerstein II’s 1951 Broadway hit The King & I. It came from the last decade of the truly great Broadway musicals. What made those singing, dancing spectaculars memorable were the words and music of the featured songs. Almost everyone knew the lyrics because they spoke to everyone’s heart.

“Getting to know you, getting to know all about you. Getting to know you..” It’s a Sunday afternoon in mid-August 50 years later. I decide to take a break from writing. The pear tree in the back yard calls me. The pears are just coming into sweetness. I pick the roundest I can see. Go into the kitchen for a knife and sit down in front of the TV. The picture comes on.

“Getting to know you, getting to know all about you. Getting to know you..” How delightful! There she is… Deborah Kerr is Anna singing that song as she leads about a dozen of the multitude of the King of Siam’s large progeny. He had a lot of wives and a lot of children – 67 including those whose mothers were out of favor. I remember the lyric and start to sing-a-long.

“Getting to know you, getting to know all about you. Getting to know you…” Suddenly I’m gagging. The words I love so much are choking me! I’m feeling a welling of tears in my eyes. What is happening? “Breathe out!”, I say to myself. I remember that I have to breathe in before I can breathe out. To sing I have to breathe. Anna and the Siamese ensemble are joyously celebrating getting to know each other with full voices and I am reduced to a gasping whisper “Getting to know you, getting to hope you like me.” “Breathe out!”

Something very powerful is triggering a very strong reaction. The words? The melody? The picture? All have combined to take me back to a time and a place in my memory. What year is it? Easy! I glance down to the TV guide on the table – The King & I made in 1956! I breathe!

Spring of 1956… 22 years old…Last months of four years at the College of the Holy Cross in Worcester, Massachusetts… Senior Thesis – two weeks over deadline… final Philosophy oral exams – if I don’t pass I don’t graduate… then the final written exams – have to pass to graduate…my father has an ulcer and ¾ of his stomach is removed…a month before graduation the radio station where I’ve worked six hours every night since 1955 is sold – the new owner is changing the programs and doesn’t want me even though I have the only number one rated show…a month after graduation we’re to marry… we’ve already rented an apartment and bought a new car – how can I tell her and her parents I no longer have a job…. By the standards of the day we were doing it so perfectly! Except now I don’t have a job. 1956 – quite a year!

So I reviewed what I had believed was going to be, as Frank Sinatra reprieved “a very good year”. I watched. I felt my feelings. I understood my diminishing self-judgments and I recalled my diminishing decisions about myself and my life. I worked with all of it. I changed the lyric just abit with apologies to Oscar Hammerstein II. “Getting to know me, getting to know all about me.” And I could breathe and sing and even join in with Anna and all the King of Siam’s children. “Getting to know you, getting to know all about you. Getting to know you…”

 

Breathwork vs. Whole-Self Perspectives

From a breathwork point of view what happened? My physical-emotional reaction in not being able to breathe and sing normally clearly demonstrated that something was out of balance – and on a very deep level. My body most effectively acted as a biofeedback instrument by setting me into an arresting emotional reactive mode. It shut down my body function to verbally express cognitively known but emotionally unresolved patterns. In Whole-Self Psychology it also signaled a message from my Whole-Self bringing to my attention non-conscious information which I very much needed to be aware of on a conscious level and, once recognized, to release myself from.

Some breath workers may be wondering, when I so clearly knew the events of 1956, why I didn’t breathe and submerse myself in emotional catharsis. The truth is, emotional catharsis would not have released me from the emotional traumatizing patterns my personality had locked into when those events happened in that pivotal year. Yes, I could have summoned an emotional acting out reducing myself to tears of helplessness, hopelessness and powerlessness. But, emotionally acting out would not have released me – it would have locked me deeper into the trauma. A colleague, Barbara Smith, in response to this idea calls it ‘Regression Retraumatisation.’

Regression Retraumatization

 

Regression re traumatazation happens when I am taken back and emotively repeat my reactiveness in the same way as when I first experienced a traumatic inducing event and simply keep repeating that reactiveness in subsequent regressions. Each time that I repeat the emotive cycle I keep being traumatized by the memory thus I am retraumatized. When I am asked to go deeper into my feelings, I am becoming more and more locked into my trauma induced trance. This is because the emoting becomes the method and the means of keeping the trauma alive – not of releasing myself from it. This reactiveness triggers hormones in my body which are extremely addictive. Carol Tavris offers extensive Notes and Bibliography of scientific studies on this topic of Adrenal Addiction regarding anger and fear studies. The consequence of the hormonal saturation is I become more and more emotive in all aspects of my life and become unbearable to live with.

Another aspect of emotive therapies is that they are dangerous for my regressionist. It takes a tremendous amount of energy for my regressionist to protect herself or himself from my highly charged diminishing emotive assaults. This is an aspect which as far as I know has never been professionally acknowledged nor dealt with. Again, in simplest terms, my aggressive behavior assaults the aura or bioenergetic integrity of my therapist and if she or her does not know that it is even there or how it is affecting them, they have no way of protecting themselves from the negative energy and even other possible consciousness which can attach to them through the psychic assault they are victims of my emotive acting out of anger session.
In Whole-Self Psychology, in very simple terms, the key to releasing myself from my trauma induced trance – my trauma trance – is to be aware of the feelings I originally had when I resisted the event without reaching the point of reactiveness; recognizing the judgments I made against myself – my self-judgments and how my diminishing decisions about myself, life and the world set into motion the self-imposed restrictions I have struggled against ever since that traumatic event occurred.

We have often said that there is no such thing as forgiveness. There is only understanding. When I understand my reactive feelings, my diminishing self-judgments and my diminishing decisions I no longer have need to blame myself or others for how my life has been. By recognizing and understanding my patterns of my Life’s Streams of Consciousness I am free to take responsibility for my growth, development and evolution as a whole person.
In my self regression, my Whole-Self had effectively helped me to uncover an emotional reactiveness about such seemingly overwhelming events all happening within one year. The answer is that I didn’t become emotionally upset about the events at the times when they occurred. You see, because of early developmental disabilities, my personality did not experience those events as particularly overwhelming. They were simply normal events placed in my path to be lived and overcome. Interesting word – overcome instead of overwhelm.

The point is that now, looking back almost 50 years, I could observe the events, feel the emotional patterns, understand them and release them without having to become emotionally diminished and depleted by acting them out. I didn’t have to imagine an immature reactive mechanism to clear my breathing. I could look back at the events of what was probably the most charged year of my life and from 50 years down the road understand them and clear them. The truth is I am somewhat in awe that the whole pattern was exposed by a song and that nearly half a century later I could heal it.

“When I’m with you, hoping to know what to say.” is another line from the lyric of Getting to Know You. And that is the interesting point of how my Whole-Self brought me to the point of this exercise – writing this today. I have something to say and I’m concerned that some Rebirthers won’t like me for saying it.

The Whole-Self Model

One fact, 30 years of working in Prenatal Psychology has taught me, is that charged emotional patterns which come up during life usually have a prenatal source. The experience I described above is a clear example. A brief explanation of the Whole-Self model is necessary first. Let us go back some 30 years ago. For ease of understanding the Whole-Self model is described in the first person – ‘I’. In Los Angeles, California, I was inspired to teach how emotional patterns are initiated at various points during the nine months of gestation. As she describes in her book Seeking a Miracle, 6,000 miles to the east, Troya in Amsterdam, the Netherlands discovered how to heal herself of the eating disorders anorexia and bulimia nervosa when she was meditating and seeing that her suicidal patterns were the result of her mother being told by her doctor that her first baby would be born dead. We were both inspired with this discovery of basically the same questions which developed into the Prebirth Analysis Matrix© or PAM©.

The Prebirth Analysis Matrix© (PAM©) is the center jewel in the tiara which comprises Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy and Education. My Prebirth Analysis Matrix takes me back in time to discover and awaken the source of the core patterns I am in my life to balance. I allow myself to compassionately and safely embark in a conscious regression from before conception moving forward on an amazing journey which gives me clear images and insights leading to understanding, change and transformation in my life.

The PAM is a simple blueprint of 22 sets of questions which helps me to discover and very precisely decode charged emotional-mental patterns inherited from my mother and father. The patterns were programmed into me during the nine months of my gestation. Genetic research shows that I am the synthesis of the genetic coding of my parents which results in my physical characteristics. The Prebirth Memory Discovery©, another name for the PAM hypothesis, describes a parallel system the emotional DNA© or eDNA© which comprises the foundation for my basic emotional-mental patterns. This last sentence means the menu of emotions I am born with. My PAM, in a gentle regression to before conception, takes me back to explore the charged emotional-mental patterns being experienced by my mother and my father through my mother’s relationship with him at significant moments in their pregnancy. It is during this nine months threshold that I began my emotional discovery and development.

First German Rebirthing Congress – 1989

In almost all systems, there is a moment when certain questions simply will not go away. Ultimately, those questions need to be addressed. That time may have arrived for what Whole-Self prefers to call rebreathing therapies. Speaking in the first person, the breathing patterns, often holding my breath, are locked into me during trauma trances experienced prebirth and at birth yet the trauma trances encoded into me after birth during my infancy, childhood, adolescence and adult life are far more frequent than those that replicate my initial birth breathing patterns. The essence of breathing therapies is to replicate the breathing pattern and to learn new, freer breathing patterns. So what I am doing is rebreathing and relearning healthier and more vivacious ways of being alive. In the spirit of seeking a dialogue, I present some of these questions and offer some hypotheses intended to bring genuine understanding, reappraisal and support to rebreathing practitioners.

As we proceed some breathing coaches may be reminded of the schism which occurred in the rebirthing community when some practitioners felt that they were inducing people to have a traumatic birth when those clients had not held that reality. It was Rebirthing Founder Leonard Orr, who because of his own birth recovery, insisted that everyone’s birth was traumatic. Maybe this exposition will clarify the issue.

Two questions came to a head in 1989. Troya and I were invited to present a paper on Prebirth Memory Recovery at the First German Rebirthing Congress at theUniversityofOsnabruckinGermany. Up to that time, in some 20 years of guiding over 10,000 persons in over 20 countries (now 20,000 people in 28 countries), we had found that very, very few people experienced having a traumatic birth. In fact, these people confirmed studies reported to us by Joseph Chilton Pearce, noted American researcher and educator, that shortly before birth if there is no medication administered, the baby’s body is saturated with endorphins which act as an anaesthetic for the actual birth.

Preparing for theOsnabruckmeeting, we had two questions about rebirthing which simply would not go away. The first question was:

Why do some people keep repeating emotionally acting out

a traumatic birth in successive rebreathing sessions?

and the second question was:

Why do some people seem unable to stop being victims of their prebirth and birth patterning?

Our task was formidable! Primarily, theOsnabruckaudience was divided into several factions. Some, as mentioned above, found themselves in the position which echoed back to the original split between those rebirthers who had from their own practice experienced that all people did not experience birth as traumatic; and those rebirthers who sided with Leonard Orr who from his own birth recreations insisted that all births are traumatic.

There were 600 rebirthers atOsnabruckmost of whose methodology comprised suggesting to people that they go back to gestation and to re-experience being inside their mother’s womb. How could Troya and I possibly tell them that this methodology may, in fact, have been a problem? The probing question was:

Was your client – was anyone – ever inside their mother’s womb fighting to get out?

From our decades of experience sharing the Prebirth Analysis Matrix the only people who came with in utero gestational memories were people who had been through rebirthing sessions. Put in the first person as is consistent with the Whole-Self approach:

Emotive therapies may provoke me to react as an unborn infant would act;

Whole-Self invites me respond as an adult would act in the original situation.

My childish emotional behavior locks me into adrenal reaction;

My adult mature experience frees me.

The idea that there is a human consciousness desperately struggling to get out of mother’s pelvic prison is only tenable if I hold two premises. The first is that the little body growing inside mother’s womb is my body and not her body; and, the second is that I, as a consciousness, somehow am actually inside that little body inside my mother’s womb.

How do I discover whether there is any truth in these two realities or beliefs?

What are the facts?

 

The first fact is that there is a little body growing inside my mother. Because I know that the body I have now was conceived and grown inside my mother’s body, it is natural to for me to say, “When I was inside my mother’s womb……” But, biologically that little body growing inside mother is, in fact, part of mother’s body. It is fed by her oxygen, her nutrients, her blood supply. All of her systems are supporting the part of her body which mother is preparing for me to use after my birth. Biologically, it seems reasonably clear that the little body developing in her womb is part of her body until expelled at the birth when that body begins its, or should I say, my “individual independent life.” The growing baby body is basically functional in about three months. This is why very early preemies can survive with life support in neonatal intensive care units. The next six months are spent practicing so that after birth I can function normally.

Where do “I” Come From?

If all the physical part of me is actually my mother’s body during that nine months of her pregnancy where do I come from? It is such a profound philosophical question. The source of me is a mystery that has been debated for thousands of years. Having gotten my BA in Greek/ English, the obvious point of the search is to go back to the birthplace of philosophy; to sit at the knees of the Greek philosophical giants themselves, Aristotle and Plato.

Here on the right is Aristotle speculating that all I can be conscious of is basically biologically based. I start as a blank slate – a tabula rasa as it was called in ancient Latin. Aristotle would have me believe that it is only my experiences in this life which teach me everything I know. Perhaps this biologically centered theory is where modern medicine erroneously identifies my consciousness with my brain.

There on the left is Plato espousing a reactivation of all knowledge and consciousness as remembrances from past lives. Perhaps regression therapists who find their clients spontaneously or even intentionally propelled into past life dimensions of consciousness may be proving Plato’s past life hypothesis.

A number of speculations about pregnancy and birth psychology have been presented in the last 75 years of the 20th Century. It might even be said that the 20th Century was the Age of Enlightenment of the Emotions and Consciousness if you will allow such a linking… The previous Age of Enlightenment was identified by the reawakening of creativity and arts inEurope. In the last 100 years, the beginnings of exploration and discovery of emotions and consciousness pushed the frontiers further.

In the pantheon of visionaries in the development of what was to become prenatal and perinatal psychology, one of the first to be acknowledged in 1924 is Sandor Ferenzi who looking at the faces of newborns perceived a resistance to life and a wish to return to the peace and happiness they had experienced in the wombs of their mothers. Here can be found the first tracings of the happy womb and good mother theory which has since been disproved. Gustav Hans Graber, after becoming an Analyst, pioneered in proving his thesis that children experience prebirth and well as post birth memory. His belief moved him to found the International Studysociety in Prenatal Psychology, which in 1986 would become the International Society of Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine. Otto Rank laid the foundation connecting trauma with birth. Sigmund Freud supported him with a theoretical superstructure and Nandor Fodor fleshed out the psychological spaces by describing the consecutive stages of Rank’s trauma theory. Some of those early prenatal and perinatal psychology theories have been replaced. But, the important point is that the theories were conceived and brought into the spotlight of awareness during the 20th century.

In 1976, Prof. Dr. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh, Honorary Life President of the International Society for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology, painted pioneering creativity most eloquently:

There are truths in life as well as in science. Ancient truths are resurrected while new prophets burn on stakes. One has to be partially blind in order to see the essential. The only maxim of the scientist and doctor is tolerance and understanding based on the past, looking into the future. It is not important for something to be true today but that the person stating the truth believes in it and that the truth will produce constructive help to others.

Another prenatal and perinatal theory proposes an hypothesis of a reposing consciousness. Resonating to that thought, over a quarter of a century ago, Dutch analyst, Dr. M. Lietaert Peerbolte bravely published in Amsterdam one of the first hypotheses comparing the excepted analytical approach with his prebirth research. His search for the question where consciousness comes from and what we know is described in his classic Psychic Energy in Prenatal Dynamics Parapsychology Peak Experiences.. Peerbolte writing about the concept of a reposing consciousness before conception says:

Psychoanalytical investigations have made it clear that this consciousness concerning the condition of repose already existed before the merging of the ovum and spermatozoa during the act of fertilization created the germ of the new individual. Before the biological fertilization has taken place there is present a force of attraction between the ovum and the sperm, i.e. a field of attraction that in a biological sense may be termed pre-conceptual. In this pre-conceptual field of force there already exists a consciousness-at-rest, a special consciousness that in the adult may be reactivated during mental states of consciousness expansion.

Regression recall if you will allow.

In June 2000, the 13th International Congress of the International Society for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine was held in Cagliari, Sardinia, Italy. I became very excited with the paper presented by Dr. Grigori I. Brekhman of the State Medical Academy, Ivanovo, Russia. The title was: The conception of the multiple-level co-ordinated action between the mother and her unborn child: the methodological approach and the methods of research.’

Prof. Fedor-Freybergh has advocated the importance of the mother, father, unborn child dialogue for many decades. This was the first time, in attending many Prenatal and Perinatal Congresses, we had heard anyone – let alone such an eminent researcher – present a multilevel concept of the relationship between mother and her unborn child which included this particular emotional-mental aspects. It was a model which we had been teaching for 30 years. Quoting Brekhman:

Nowadays a lot of data obtained has confirmed the hypothesis that the psycho-emotional interrelationships between the mother and her unborn child is the reality…. we (Brekhman) offered to examine the mother-unborn child relationships based on the idea of a permanently functioning multiple-level polyphonic system. It has been assumed that if mother is a multiple-system embracing such levels as biological, energetical, astral, mental, etc, to have intimate and fruitful interplay between her and the unborn, he must already possess the same levels beginning with the zygote. Such a methodological approach proved to be fruitful. The subdivision of this system into the various levels is very relative since it is able to live and develop harmoniously only if all its components properly interact.

In this last sentence the word “only” signals the operative word, the significant concept. Dr. Brekhman states that if there is such a process as a mother-unborn child dialogue long advocated by Prof. Fedor-Freybergh, there needs to exist complementary resonant cohesive media systems which can recognize each others messages. In its very simplest terms, Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy and Education hypothesizes that just as each of us is the synthesis of our parent’s genetic coding which gives us our physical characteristics, there is also a synthesis of the emotional-mental patterns of our parents from the nine months of their pregnancy. This is exactly the multiple system Brekhman’s research proved to exist.

Prenatal and perinatal psychology and medicine shows that the little body growing inside mother is a part of her body which is growing and practicing so that at birth it can function independently. Here is the Whole-Self hypothesis supporting Brekhman’s idea of a permanently functioning multiple-level polyphonic system. It says, again in the first person, connecting with Plato’s theory that:

A basic Whole-Self Psychology principle says: When I die in a past life dimension of consciousness with charged, diminishing, unresolved emotional-mental patterns, those patterns were created in this three dimensional world. Therefore

  1. I cannot release myself from those charged diminishing patterns until I am actively feeling and experiencing them.
  2. In order for my consciousness to be released from those unresolved emotional-mental patterns, I need to be actively living in this 3-Dimensional world.
  3. Life is not just fate or chance. I must energetically enter into a new life situation which will allow me to activate those unresolved, diminishing feeling patterns from my past life dimension of consciousness. Then my consciousness will have the opportunity, through awareness and transformational intention, to release myself from those diminishing energy patterns.
  4. The proposed Whole-Self method by which this could be implemented is on an energetic level.
  5. My consciousness is energetically attracted to my mother, and father through my mother, as they are resonating with those same emotional-mental charged feeling patterns.
  6. In others words, the feelings I was experiencing when I die are the same feelings mother/father are experiencing and it is this mutuality of feelings which energetically draws or attracts me to my mother.


The location of mother’s consciousness

Mother’s consciousness is not inside her body. Her consciousness is in the emotional-mental bio-energetic field which is surrounding and animating her physical body. This field has many different names: consciousness, awareness, aura, energetic field, bio-energetic field. As my consciousness is attracted to my mother’s consciousness, it does not enter into her body but into her aura – her emotional-mental levels of consciousness which surround her physical body. Again, this is in conformity with Brekhman’s idea of a permanently functioning multiple-level polyphonic system.

What happens when I enter my mother’s consciousness?

As my consciousness energetically enters my mother’s emotional/mental bioenergetic field – which is called mother’s aura –

  1. I energetically enter a state of forgetfulness of previous existence and previous specific events. But I do retain charged diminishing memories of past feelings.
  2. The more charged my original emotions, the greater the degree of event residue – feeling memories – I bring with me. I no longer remember the events but I retain the feeling patterns from the past waiting to be activated or stimulated by mother’s pregnancy experiences (and by me after my birth).
  3. This residue of usually diminishing feeling patterns vibrationally resonates with similar diminishing feeling patterns in my mother.
  4. Now, having attached to mother’s consciousness, as mother experiences her life,          my consciousness is simultaneously experiencing her experiences.

A Computer Analogy

The Whole-Self analogy we can use is that it is as if mother is a desktop PC computer and I am a notebook laptop connected to mother by a kind of laser energy link. Then:

  1. Just as the little unborn body as part of mother’s body is being educated during the second and third trimester so that it can function independently after birth,  my emotional-mental body is likewise being educated.
  2. My emotional-mental energy field becomes educated to my mother’s feelings and attitudes in order to receive the training it will need to experience and resolve its diminishing emotional-mental patterns after birth.
  3. These diminishing feeling patterns are rehearsed through mother’s thoughts and feelings which become the emotional basis or foundation through which I interpret and respond or react to in my new life.

In other words, as mother exercises her emotional-mental bodies, I am also experiencing and being educated as to how these bodies will function for me after my birth. This happens in the following way: Because mother’s physical body is the instrument of her experiencing in this 3-Dimensional world, as mother exercises her emotional-mental bodies, her physical body is affected by specific thought patterns. The stronger mother’s thought and feeling patterns, the more powerful the trigger that can send adrenaline and noradrenaline hormones surging through her body in reaction. Because that little body is growing as part of her body, it is also being encoded by these emotional-mental bodies’ reactions and the expressed hormones passing through the connecting placenta. This is why I can use my body now as a port, matrix or threshold to reconstruct my mother’s emotional-mental patterns from her body.

The point of all this is symbiosis

  1. If it is correct to state that everything that mother’s body is experiencing is effecting all the parts of her – including her emotional-mental bodies – than everything she is experiencing is also effecting my developing and learning physical and emotional-mental bodies.
  2. If that is so, it would be correct to say that in body rebreathing and all other prebirth psychotherapeutic systems what I am reconstructing is not my individuated experiences but the recreation of my mother’s patterns.
  3. If that is correct than there are some very significant hypotheses about emotive therapies which need to be rethought.
  4. If I am not inside my mother’s body during gestation but in her auric field – her consciousness, the memories of trauma which I am able to reconstruct are not in what will become my body after birth but simply remembrances of mother’s emotional- mental bodies as accessed through her body which we simultaneously shared during her pregnancy – my gestation.


The question is, do those patterns belong to mother or to me? Symbiosis with my mother begins in the nine months of my gestation when my consciousness is energetically attracted and attached to mother’s aura. In symbiosis I am unable to discern my feelings with my mother’s feelings. Whole-Self takes the position that in Rebirthing sessions where people are emotively acting out, what they are actually expressing is not the memory of their own pain of birth, but the emotional-mental patterns of mother’s labor. Later this symbiotic magnetism can be acted out in life as a psychological pathology.

When Troya & I presented this concept of the replication and repetition of mother’s labor at Osnabruckit received a standing ovation. This was because it explained why some people could never be free of the emotions after repeated session and therefore continued to be victims of their births. Our conclusion is that, If I accept that the patterns are mother’s emotional-mental patterns then what I am experiencing during some regression therapies are not actually my own experiences – because I was not wholely me yet – but are mother’s prebirth and labor feeling patterns.

This brings us back to the two questions posed inOsnabruck, namely, why do some people keep repeating emotionally acting out a traumatic birth in successive rebreathing sessions? And, why do some people seem unable to stop being victims of their prebirth and birth patterning? The Whole-Self Psychology answer is that what people are experiencing are not their own experiences but the memories of mother’s emotional-mental experiences and therefore people are not able to be released from them by emotively acting them out. By doing rebreathing sessions where emotional-mental patterns are repeatedly acted out people are not freed from them but become more and more deeply encoded with mother’s patterns. In the first person again: As long as I believe that those emotional-mental bodies are mine I cannot be free of them. But once I acknowledge them as mother’s, I no longer need them and I am released from them. In order to be released from this symbiotic relationship I should not need to act them out since they are not mine but mother’s.

Using the computer analogy again, I simply need to tap into and read the document and either edit, delete or save again as appropriate to my growth, development and evolution at this moment in my life. This is, in fact the key to resolving symbiotic pathology. As long as I keep believing that I am encased in my mother’s womb and that those emotional/mental bodies are mine and I keep activating them I am trapped in endless replay loop accumulating more and more pain and suffering. When I express my mother’s emotional-mental bodies I am simply reactivating the replay loop of her adrenaline and noradrenaline and other hormonal addictions and ultimately accumulating the same emotional-mental bodies patterns. Therefore, the path to healing is not through acting out mother’s emotional-mental bodies but to recognize them as mother’s, acknowledge them as mother’s and thanking mother for creating them for me to work through during my life so that I can grow, develop, mature and evolve as a whole person.

Faking it!

There is one other point which often confounds those breath practitioners who induce their clients with the suggestion that they are inside their mother’s womb fighting to get out. How does one tell if a client is actually experiencing a life and death struggle to get out mother’s womb or – faking it? Some people are extremely suggestive and are easily able to give a very convincing performance. However, the struggling is based on an untrue fact, it does not free people from any emotional-mental patterns. The favorite emotion, because it is so easy to generate, many regressionists are consciously or non-consciously inducing in their clients is anger. We have referred to Carol Tavris’ outstanding research on Anger. Let us add here a good summation by Harriet Goldhor Lerner says:

If feeling anger signals a problem, venting anger does not solve it. Venting

anger may serve to maintain, and even rigidify, the old rules and patterns

in a relationship, thus ensuring that change does not take place.

This fake anger has an even worse impact on the client when the anger is in the mental body more than in the physical-emotional body. The emotional acting out of an emotional pattern based on a circumstance which is not true simply locks people more deeply into, coining a new word, their ‘dysillusion’.

Conclusion

In its very simplest terms, in the first person, Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy and Education hypothesizes that just as I am the synthesis of my parent’s genetic coding which gives me my physical characteristics, there is also a synthesis of the charged emotional-mental patterns of my parents from the nine months of their pregnancy. For lack of a better term, Whole-Self calls it the emotional DNA or eDNA! As my mother experiences her feelings and thoughts she is encoding me, her unborn child, with the feeling patterns I need for my growth, development and evolution.

Brekhman’s Conception of the Multiple Level Co-ordinated Action Between the Mother and her Unborn Child: The Methodological Approach and the Methods of Research gave a very comprehensive scientific explanation of our very simply stated hypothesis. Basically, my little body was complete enough in the first three months of gestation so that my various organs and systems can practice for the next six months so that after my birth my little body is able to function on its own. My consciousness is also gestating for this life but not inside my mother’s body. It resides in her consciousness which we now know exists in the energy field around her body, not inside her body. So, as mother experiences her life, my consciousness, temporarily residing as a part of her aura or bio-energetic field, is also experiencing, learning and practicing her emotional and mental states during that nine months period. These are the emotional-mental patterns I am born with and as I mature begin activating and acting out in my life.

In Whole-Self Psychology theory, Troya and I had to understand why people could hold on to traumatic feelings even after many rebirthing sessions. Why could they not be free of them? The answer is because they are not specifically that person’s trauma. We discovered that these people were reliving the pain of their mother’s labor. This idea brought a standing ovation from the 600 German Rebirthers who realized that it was very easy to suggest directly or indirectly to people that they were inside mother’s body fighting to get out. Recreating their mother’s labor experience explained why they were holding on to physical expressions or pain.

They were unable to release that pain because it was not their own at all. They were repeating their mother’s labor patterns which were encoded in both the cellular memory and in the emotional-mental patterns their mother’s had experienced in their labors and deliveries. And, the more that those patterns were repeated in rebeathing sessions, the more adrenaline and noradrenaline was released locking the person deeper into their mother’s labor patterns.

To complete, let us just mention how the Whole-Self Processes approach can help to heal these patterns. First of all, we discovered that there are 22 specific moments in the gestation and delivery and shortly after birth which are encoded into the baby’s memory of that period. These can be easily accessed through the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix – 22 sets of questions which give the specific source of patterns which are being lived out over and over again. By recovering this emotionalDNA information and by completing 21 days of easy balancing exercises these eDNA patterns are able to be changed. I say easily because my Whole-Self wants me to remember and release any diminishing patterns I may have ever encoded into myself. And, by doing so, I come into co-operation and alignment with my level of enhanced consciousness – my Whole-Self.

Finally, I replayed Getting to Know You and sang it with full enthusiasm. I had in fact, gotten to know me!

 

Footnotes

  1. 1.         Rogers & Hammerstein II (1956), The King & I.  20th Century Fox, Williamson Music, NYC.
  2. 2.         Green, Elmer (1977), Beyond Biofeedback. NYC: Delacorte.
  3. 3.         Kellerman, Stanley (1981), Your Body Speaks Its Mind!Berkeley,California: Center Press.
  4. 4.         Turner, JR (1988) ‘Birth, Life and More Life: Reactive Patterning Based On Prebirth Events,’ Chapter 27, pp. 309-316 Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine: Encounter with the Unborn. Editors: Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh & ML Vanessa Vogel. N.J: Parthenon Publ.
  5. 5.         Turner, Jon RG (1990), There Is No Such Thing As Anger (It is Something Else!)Santa Fe: Life’s Streams.
  6. 6.         Tavris, Carol (1982), Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion. NYC: Touchstone, Simon & Schuster.
  7. 7.         Ibid
  8. 8.         Ibid.
  9. 9.         Baldwin, William J. (1991), Regression Therapy: Spirit Releasement Manual Self Published, CA: Camel.
  10. 10.       Goleman, Daniel 1996 Emotional Intelligence London:Bloomsbury.
  11. 11.       Turner, JR & TGN (1991), ‘Prebirth Memory Therapy.’ International Journal of Pre and Perinatal Studies, Vol.3 #1/2, Sept.1991, pp. 111-118.
  12. 12.       Ibid.
  13. 13.       Turner, JR & TGN (1992), ‘Discovering the Emotional DNA: The Emotional Continuity for the Unborn Child Through Prebirth Memory Therapy.’ 11th ISPPM International Congress,Kracow,Poland, 15-17 May 1992.
  14. 14.       This word was rejected by Leonard Orr in a personal discussion inAmsterdam,Netherlands.
  15. 15.       Turner, JR & TGN (1993), ‘Prebirth Memory Therapy Including Prematurely Delivered Patients,’ in Pre and Perinatal Psychology Journal, Vol.7 #4, Summer, pp. 321-332
  16. 16.       Joseph Chilton Pearce 1996 shared this information at a Touch The Future Conference inSan Raphael,CA
  17. Kafkalides. Zephyros (2000), ‘Knowledge As An Emotional & Intellectual Realization of the Unconscious –
  18. 18.       Gnosiology, Psychedelic Drugs & Prenatal Experiences,’ International Society for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine Congress,Cagliari,Sardinia, IT 22-24 June
  19. 19.       Ibid.
  20. 20.       Cornford, FM, (1979) Plato’s Theory of Knowledge.London: Routledge.
  21. 21.  Turner JRG & TGN (1995), Past Life Echoes© Regression Therapy is a key element of Whole-Self
  22. 22.       Birth, Life & More Life! Santa Fe: Life’s Stream Books.
  23. 23.       Ferenzi, Sandor (1913), Entwicklungssufen des wirklichkeitssinnes (Stages in the Development of the Sense of Reality) Int. Zietscrift fur Psychoanalyse, 1, pp. 124-138. Transl. (1924) Psycho-Analysis, Chapter 8,London: Maresfield Reprints.
  24. 24.       Graber, Gustav Hans (1924), Die Ambivalenz des Kindes (The Ambiance of Children).Vienna: Psychoanalytic Press.
  25. 25.       ISPP was transformed into the ISPPM at the 1986 International Congress inBadgastein,Austria in the Presidency and Chairmanship of Prof. Drr. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh. It marked the establishing of the ISPPM as an interdisciplinary organization. Shortly afterwards Prof. Fedor-Freybergh established the International Journal of Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine now in it 11th year of publication.
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Abbreviations:

ISPPM: International Society for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine

About the Authors:

Jon RG & Troya GN are pioneers in Prebirth Memory Recovery and Death and Bereavement Healing. Co-Founders of Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute, Inc., they have presented Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy and Education in twenty-seven countries. They bring a balance of psychological experience, spiritual wisdom, light and humor to their powerful Whole-Self transformational educational process through lectures, workshops and individual sessions. They are Members of the Association for Pre & Perinatal Psychology & Health (APPPAH ); Life Members of the International Society for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine; Founding Members of the Hellenic Union of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine; Honorary Life Members of the Association for National Educazione Prenatale:Italia (ANEP:IT); and members of The Scientific & Medical Network. They have over 30 articles and papers printed in specialist and medical publications including The International Journal of Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine and the Journal of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Health and. A complete list can be found on www.whole-self.info . The Turners live in The Netherlands.

Jon RG – formerly John-Richard – holds a BA degree in Greek/English from the College of the Holy Cross in Worcester, Massachusetts, USA. He is a Board Member and has been an elected Vice-President of the International Society for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine and is one of the co-editors of the International Journal of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology and Medicine. He has been a consultant to the Board of Directors of the Villaggio della Madre e del Fanciullo (Mother & Child) inMilan,Italy. He has been listed in Who’s Who & Leaders of Achievement. A New Englander, Jon RG has been a journalist and a pioneer broadcaster in the exploration of human consciousness with over 300 interviews at WBUR Boston University Radio and at KPFK-Pacifica Foundation inHollywood,California,USA. He is one the first to teach safe and gentle Regression Therapy in theUSA andCanada 40 years ago. While in practice inBeverly Hills,California, he discovered that not only do we inherit the genetic coding from our parents which give us our physical characteristics but we are also the synthesis of their charged emotional patterns from that nine month’s gestation.

While Jon RG was conceiving and developing Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy and Education in Los Angeles, in Amsterdam… Troya studied nursing and specialized in Cardiology, Psychiatry and Social Psychiatry. While treating anorexia & bulimia nervosa she discovered she also had those eating disorders. At the same time, through basically the same prebirth regression that Jon RG was teaching in Los Angeles, she pioneered in changing those eating disorders. Over 20 years ago, she was diagnosed with a terminal melanoma which she also overcame through prebirth and past life regression. The cancer has never returned. She is Founder of ISPPM: Netherlands Chapter. An International Consultant and writer to the Dutch Association for Prenatal Education. Her book Seeking A Miracle! describing how she transcended those challenges, as well as a crippling pan-arthritis, is translated in several languages also available through www.whole-self.org.

Email: whole-self@quicknet.nl

Websites at: www.Whole-Self.co.uk & www.Whole-Self.info .

W-SDDI: Waterrad 92, 1613 CR Grootebroek, NL.

Whole-Self Discovery & Development Publications by Jon RG & Troya Turner-Groot

1) Birth, Life & More Life! 1987 TheBaltimore New Age Magazine Vol.1 #1 Spring

2) The Whole-Self Databank 1988 ParaVisie Dutch Magazine March

3) Birth, Life and More Life: Reactive Patterning Based On Prebirth Events 1988

Chapter 27 p 309-316 8 pages Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine: Encounter    

    with the Unborn Editors: Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh & ML Vanessa Vogel, Parthenon

Publ.N.J.

4) Prebirth Memory Therapy Kindred Spirit Magazine UK Vol.2 #10 4 pages

5) Round Pegs in Square Wholes New Woman MagazineAustralia Edition

6) The Law of Opposition & Anger 1988 New Humanity MagazineUK Oct-Nov.

7) Birth Life & More Life: Implications of Prenatal Psychology In the Structuring Processes of

    Consciousness 1989 Prepared for the Seeking the True Meaning of Peace ConferenceSan Jose

Costa Rica 1989 & IJPP Studies Dec.

8) There Is No Such Thing As Anger: It is Something Else 1990 Whole-Self Publishing

Santa Fe, NM, USA In revision

9) Abortion: Issue is Empowerment 1990 Int. J. Prenatal & Perinatal Studies p.241-243

10) Prebirth Memory Therapy Int.J.PPStudies Vol.3 #1/2 Sept.1991 p. 111-118.

11) Discovering the Emotional DNA: The Emotional Continuity for the Unborn Child Through

      Prebirth Memory Therapy 1992 11th ISPPM International CongressKracow,Poland 15-17

May 92.

12) Prebirth Memory Therapy Including Prematurely Delivered Patients 1993 Pre and Perinatal

Psychology Journal Vol.7 #4 Summer p 321-332

13) Prebirth Awakenings: Releasing Womb Memories Caduceus Mag.UK Issue 20

14) John-Richard Turner: Discovering His Whole-Self 1994 Int.J.PP&Med. Vol.6 #1 p 123-125

15) The Control Trance: An Issue of Life & Death published as Why Do I Have To Die? March

1994 in TheAmsterdamConnection

16) Review: The Drive for Self Alfred Adler 1994 Addison-Wesley Publ. Co. 8 pages

17) La Therapia Della Memory Prenatale 1 #3 1994 Educazione Prenatale Italy Anno

18) Once Upon A Time: A Tale About the Emotional DNA 11-14 May 1995 Presented at the 11th

International Congress of ISPPMHeidelberg,Germany,

19) A New Conception For Elda: Celebrating Her 90th Birthday March 95JISPPM

20) Bewustwordig van de periode voor de geboorte Som ’95 Educare Dutch Quarterly

21) Whole-Self Therapie: Van subjective realiteit naar objective waarheid February 95 Dutch

Homeopathisch Bekeken (Journal) nr 27 2 pages

22) Het Onddekken van de Emotionele DNA-Structuur 1995 Cyclus Dutch Quarterly 23) Birth in

       the 21st Century 1996 Water Birth Center 5 with photos

24) Personal Growth in Parenting: A Vital Link to Prevention in Prenatal Psychology Sept.

1997 Int. J. PPM Vol. 9 #3 p 275-286

25) Conceiving the Whole-Child 1998 Chap. 1, ‘First Touch’ Editor: Dr. Caron Goode

26) Conception: A Vital Link in Prenatal Psychology Mar.1998 Int. J. PPM Vol.10 #1

27) Holistic Psychomedicine No.59 Winter 1998/9 Holistic Health – British Holistic Medical

Assoc. Journal 4 pages

28) Birth in the 21st Century 1999 p.19-23 ‘Waterbirth in the 21st Century’ published in English,

French and Dutch by The NPO Aquarius,Oostende,Belgium5 ps

29) Prebirth Memory Discovery in Psychotraumatology, 2000, International Journal of Prenatal 

       & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine Vol. II No. 4 17 pages

30) Prebirth Memory Discovery in Psychotraumatology 2000 ISPPM CongressSardinia, IT

31) Holistic Death & Bereavement 1999 insert in Hospice Information ServiceUK 3 ps

32) Interview on Whole-Self Psychologie/Therapie Januari 2000 in “Het Droomjournal” van de

NLVereniging (Assoc.) voor de Studie van Dromen Amsterdam, p 6-8

33) Prenatale Herinnneringen en Psychotraumalogie Spring 2000 ISIS journal, informatieblad

over bewuste begeliding van het ongeboren kind. 6 pages

34) Seeking A Miracle! Rev.2000 Troya Turner A Life’s Streams Book, W-SDDI 54p

35) ALLA RICERCA DI UN MIRACOLO ! 2000 Italian transl: Smilja Janjatovic 47p

36) Rebirthing or Rebreathing: A Reconciliation. Chapter in Birth, Life & More Life! 2000 A

Life’s Streams Book, Santa Fe, in the online journal, The Healing Breath: a Journal of

      Breathwork Practice, Psychology and Spirituality, at www.i-breathe.com.

This list does not include other Book Reviews and ISPPM Conference Reports printed in the International Journal of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine.

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WHOLE-SELF DISCOVERY & DEVELOPMENT

INSTITUTE, Inc. INTERNATIONAL

    

Jon RG & Troya GN Turner, Co-Founders

Waterrad 92, 1613 CR  Grootebroek, NL

Tel:  (31) 228 513 630

Email: Whole-Self@quicknet.nl

        International Medical Director: Dr. Ellis Snitcher

Website: www.Whole-Self.info or www.Whole-Self.org.uk

UKCo-Director: Michael Reginald Whitley

GermanyCo-Director: Sigrid Westermann

GreeceCo-Director: Olga Gouni

HOW TO RECOVER MEMORIES FROM BEFORE BIRTH!

DISCOVERING THE EMOTIONAL DNA

THROUGH  PREBIRTH MEMORY THERAPY

                                                          by John-Richard & Troya Turner ©1994

Presented at the 2nd World Congress of Prenatal Education (ANEP)

under the authority of the Ministry of Health & Providence

under the theme

THE PRENATAL EDUCATION:

FROM ANCIENT GREECE TO THE 21ST CENTURY

1994  The Year of the Family

Athens,Greece12 -14 May 1994

First, Troya and I would like to thank the honorable Chair, Dr. Thomas R. Verny and all the convenors of this Congress. We are most grateful to be here in historic Athens, Greece. We extend greetings to all of you from Professor Dr. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh, Honorary President and Professor Dr. Rudolf Klimek, President of the International Society for Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine.

In school, we learned that the Olympic Games were born in Greece and that Greece is the Cradle of Democracy. It is interesting that the words born and cradle are innately attached to this land. It is entirely appropriate that the Ministry of Health and Providence should be granting its blessing to this gathering of people from all over the globe concerned with birth and health. And we are especially appreciative to the lecturers fromGreece who have given us the opportunity to learn so much about the wisdom and rich heritage concerning Greek Prenatal Education from ancient to contemporary culture.

*****

Troya:

When I was working as a psychiatric nurse at the Valerius Clinic of the Free University of Amsterdam, a colleague went to our Director and said, “I would like a day off from work. My wife is going to have a baby!”  “Fine!”, said our director, “You should take two days off.”  Three days later when the colleague returned to work the Director asked him, “Well, was it a boy or a girl?”  My Colleague replied, ” We don’t know yet. We will let you know in 9 months!” A boy or a girl? This story illustrates the uncertainties to be found in the nine months preceding the birth of a baby.       Today, we would like to touch briefly on some hypotheses, some ideas which we believe could take some of the uncertainties out of what is going on emotionally and mentally during that nine months. Some of you may have already seen these in your work; others may find them interesting concepts to explore.  The history of how Jon RG and I became involved in prebirth discovery is an important part of our development.

Jon RG:

Our paper is entitled ‘How To Recover Memories Before Birth’. Two questions come to mind. What are these memories before birth? Why is it important to recover them? The memories we are working with are the charged, that is high energy or impacting feelings experienced by mother and father, in the nine months of the pregnancy. Some are called traumatic. It is important to recover them because as in most charged events we are non-consciously living at the effect of them. That is, we are living and reacting emotionally as if the event is still happening. To release from the impact of the event it is necessary to return, revision, and release from it. This is the basis of our Whole-Self Psychology model. Perhaps the easiest way to answer these questions is by giving you some examples of cases we have worked with. I can begin to by telling you how I became interested in Prenatal Psychology.

My case began many years before my birth. My mother was  stricken with tuberculosis when she was in her early teens. This was very common in the waves of immigrants going to Americaat the turn of the century. Because of her slight build my mother was told by her doctor that she should never have any children. Years later,  she married and ultimately I was conceived and born. Birth was with forceps and my aunt confirms that my head was severely damaged. As a result I did not begin speaking till I was over 3 and a half years of age. I had learning disabilities, short term memory disorder, dyslexia and reading deficiencies and I was hyperactive. I have often said that my brain just did not give me anything to say.  Our number one Whole-Self Principle says, I cannot change something till I know what needs to be changed.  By exploring my prebirth memories I was able to discover my non-conscious belief that it was inappropriate for me to have been conceived and born. I’m am sure my parents must have wished they had taken that doctor’s advice. Through Recovering my Prebirth memories, I was able to heal those psychic wounds which I had inherited or perhaps borrowed from my mother.

In the 1970’s, I had a therapy practice in BeverleyHills, California. I started getting patients who had been given up by their therapists. I knew that those people had spent five, ten, twenty years exploring their lives attempting to discover the cause of their emotional and/or mental problems. I thought, “How can I help these people?” The inspiration came to me that if I could take them back to explore the emotional and mental patterns which their mothers and fathers were experiencing during their pregnancy with the patient, the patient would experience a very rapid recovery. What we did was to discover that each of us is not only the synthesis of the genetic coding of our parent’s DNA, but that we are also the synthesis of the charged mental and emotional patterns being experienced by our parents during that nine months period. We call it the emotional DNAÓ or EDNAÓ.

Through 22 specific moments in their gestation those patients were able to recognise from within themselves that the unresolved and non-productive patterns they had been living were actually the effect of charged emotions and reactions they had ‘borrowed’ from their parents. Whatever charged emotions mother, and father through mother, are experiencing become part of the offspring’s emotional repertoire. That is how, we propose, babies have emotions when they are born.

The baby’s body as part of mother’s body is basically developed in about three months; the remaining six months is rehearsal for living independently. The emotions which are part of mother’s consciousness are also being developed so that at birth there is a considerable range of emotions for baby to feel and express when it takes charge of that little body with it’s first breath.

But this may have been a little theoretical and I said we would give more cases. I would like to invite Troya to tell her story which illustrates our point about the importance or recovering prebirth memories. What is interesting is that as I was starting the prebirth work inLos Angelesalmost 6,000 miles away inAmsterdam,Holland, Troya was getting the same inspiration.

Troya:

I mentioned earlier that I was working as a psychiatric nurse. I was assigned to a section attempting to treat anorexia and bulimia nervosa eating disorders. I could not understanding why my colleagues were having such difficulties dealing with those women. I totally agreed with those women. Suddenly, I realised that I was agreeing with them because I had spent the previous 12 years with those same eating disorders. I knew that the treatments we were giving to those patients did not work. I had started to meditate and got the idea that perhaps the cause of my eating and control behavior might be connected with my birth.

          I was sitting in my living room with my eyes closed expecting to see myself as a little baby. You can imagine my surprise when I saw my mother sitting in the doctor’s office. I heard him say,

“Because of this problem with your tipped uterus this first baby could be born dead!”

I instantly realized that the expectation of my life was that I should be born dead. I experienced my mother’s emotional shift from happiness to fear, to terror, to panic and to disaster. Mother’s reaction to his words had been very familiar feeling, emotional reactions in my life. Most startling was the realization of the source of my self-sabotaging behavior when some good thing was about to happen in my life. I projected back several times into my prebirth period and made many more correlations.

years  You are probably asking was it true. Ten years later, when I told him about the experience, Jon RG asked me the same question. I had not asked my parents anything about it because I had not wanted to upset them. So, on our next visit I told them what I had seen in my meditation. Father laughed and said it had been a great pregnancy. Mother calmly covering her shock, asked, “How did you find out? I never told anybody, not even your father, what the doctor had said.”

So, my mediation was confirmed. The anorexia and bulimia nervosa were my non-conscious ways of fulfilling a prophecy that I should be born dead. The thought which had triggered mother’s charged reaction created my pathology before I was born.

Jon RG:

It is so profound when we are able to help people identify the prebirth source of their continuing pain and suffering and to release from it. The most common reaction is “I did not do something bad or wrong! I am not guilty!”

I am reminded of a case of a 57 year old woman inLondonwho had felt totally rejected as a child. As an adult she experienced total obsession resulting in torturous agony if her male friend did not call her every night  She continuously chose men who could not take her out in public. She remembered that her father’s first wife had died and he had remarried eight weeks later. Although her father had a fish and chips shop he kept her mother hidden in the background. All this patient’s male friends did exactly the same thing. Her mother was so despondent she threw herself down the stairs in an attempt to abort the pregnancy. This was a typical case of the tragedy of the unwanted child from before birth living out the rejection in shame and humiliation throughout life. Remember I said her father remarried eight weeks after his first wife died. I wonder if that had any correlation to this woman being born eight weeks prematurely?

In another case, a 57 year old man born in England in 1943 during World War II had lived his whole life in a sense of disconnectedness, of having no place. He discovered in his Prebirth Analysis MatrixÓ or PAMÓ that in the fifth month of her pregnancy his mother was stricken with an overwhelming fear for the safety of her husband who was in a war business in Bristolwhich was being bombed. Beside feeling disconnected and cut off from her husband, his mother became suddenly terrified when she realized that her two previous pregnancies had disconnected in miscarriages.

Since I’ve mentioned two cases related to WWII, I remember another. This woman was born in 1939 as war came toEngland. She came for a session because she had been feeling depressed. In her PAM, this woman discovered that her mother had been suffering a chronic depression because of her anxiety and fear that her husband would be drafted into the British army. Correlating it to the present she described it as a kind of bleakness; a feeling of powerlessness; no choice; things just happening to her. She has a choice now of staying in the pattern or taking responsible action to move from victimness to self-empowerment regarding the circumstances of her life.

We have given a number of cases in which a mother’s trauma or chronic feeling during the prebirth period had a profound and lasting affect on her child. We thought that it might be valuable for those  who wish, to experience how to recover prebirth memories from your own lives. Before we begin, we should explain that when doing this exercise we are not working with your personality. The reason is, we have found that one of the basic functions of people’s personality is to keep them from feeling pain, so personality keeps painful memories suppressed. Today, as in all of our Whole-Self Therapy work, we will be inviting your Whole-Self to let you experience the answers. This process is very simple.

For those who would like to explore a memory before birth please think of a familiar thought or feeling which may feel discomforting or unpleasant, or has created a non-productive behavior during your life. We realize that all of you may not have such patterning so just go along as best you can with the questions.  If it feels comfortable to do this please close your eyes and keep them closed until I finish the complete series of questions.

Please think of the thought or feeling for a moment (pause) and feel how it feels in your body. The first question is answered with a yes or no.

Please allow your Whole-Self to let you experience:

during her pregnancy did mother experience any traumatic feelings?

There may not have been a specific incident

but there could have been a pervasive situation or circumstances.

Next Question:

Please allow your Whole-Self to let you experience

even if you heard no

if mother had experienced a trauma or circumstance

would it have happened during the 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th 8th 9th month?

Even if you had heard ‘No!’, if a number had popped out,

Please allow your Whole-Self

to take you to the place where your mother is in that month.

Please allow your Whole-Self to let you see

what mother is doing just before the event strikes.

Please allow your Whole-Self to let you feel the feelings,

mother is having just before the event strikes.

Please allow your Whole-Self to let you experience

what happens and to feel how mother’s feelings change

in that instant emotional reaction to the event.

As mother experiences the situation and emotionally opposes her feelings,

on a non-conscious level she makes judgements against herself.

Judgement words can be: unlovable, unimportant, unworthy, worthless,        unacceptable, unsupportable, not good enough, inferior, inappropriate,

bad, wicked, terrible, horrible, dirty, disgusting, despicable,

dumb, stupid, inept, incapable, incompetent, incomplete,

insecure, helpless, hopeless, powerless.

Please allow your Whole-Self to let you experience

are these familiar feelings in your life?

are these familiar self-judgements in your life?

Now you know where those familiar feelings and those non-conscious self-judgements come from!

Please thank your Whole-Self for this information and because you have been very conscious and very wide awake,  when you want you can gently open your eyes.

~~~

A very common answer to these questions is that mother is feeling happy, good, relaxed and these feelings dramatically change at the moment the event strikes. Do you know anyone who shuts off their happiness just when things are going well? It is a form of protection from prebirth memory. Mother’s happiness was shut off by someone else. So my personality shuts off happiness now so that no one else can shut it off for me.

This is just one of 22 sets of questions in the Prebirth Analysis Matrix. or PAM. We trust that even in this single experiment you may have discovered one component of the emotional DNA or EDNA which you inherited from your mother while you were still unborn within your family. Thank you for letting us share with you.

We would be pleased to receive any questions or comments at

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WHOLE-SELF DISCOVERY & DEVELOPMENT

INSTITUTE, Inc. INTERNATIONAL

    

Jon RG & Troya GN Turner, Co-Founders

Waterrad 92, 1613 CR  Grootebroek, NL

Tel:  (31) 228 513 630

Email: Whole-Self@quicknet.nl

        International Medical Director: Dr. Ellis Snitcher

Website: www.Whole-Self.info or www.Whole-Self.org.uk

UKCo-Director: Michael Reginald Whitley

GermanyCo-Director: Sigrid Westermann

GreeceCo-Director: Olga Gouni

The Waters of TimeÓ 2000

                                                by Jon RG & Troya Turner-Groot

Is it possible to remember before our own births? And is it important? Our answer to both questions is yes! Prebirth and Birth memory is a part of our personal histories. In preparation for birth, reviewing the birth of both pregnant parents can lead to easier, more natural delivery for mother and baby. So, if the information is there, how is it there and how can it be made use of to make birth easier? The answer is water!

Water is the source of life. Life includes consciousness. If water is the source of life and life includes consciousness, than water is in some way associated with consciousness. As the source of life, water and birth have been inseparable for as long as mammalian life has existed on our planet. Michel Odent, MD, in his delightful little book Water & Sexuality explores water and birth and birthing in water in a number of cultures. Water has many meanings including as a symbol for our emotions. Research inParisby famous scientist, Jacques Benveniste shows that water can hold memories. So, it seems reasonable that the cells of our bodies which are mainly composed of water can hold memories as well – including memories of our births.

As members of the International Society for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine we learned of a study which showed two interesting facts. No matter what painful feelings, patterns or traumas may have been experienced:

If parents do not seek help and support to balance diminishing feelings or trauma          patterns, baby inherits the inability to ask for and receive help during its life.

If parents do seek and receive help to balance diminishing feelings or trauma      patterns before or during  pregnancy, baby  inherits the to ask for, receive and

accept help during its life.

Sometimes when there has been a good deal of pain and unhappiness in our lives we try to suppress memories of such feelings. This affects our babies’ emotions as strongly as it affects our own. One of our most important discoveries at the Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute (W-SDDI) is that very often the most persistent painful patterns are not from our own lives but are the acting out of reactions which our mothers or fathers had to unhappy, depressing or even traumatic events during the nine months before we were born (our gestation). And we have learned how to quietly, quickly, gently and non-traumatically release those borrowed or inherited feeling patterns which we brought with us in our own births.

One of the basic functions of our personalities is to keep us from feeling pain. So, the reason we suppress painful memories is that our personalities believe that we will experience pain if we remember a painful event. The truth is the exact opposite. It is not re-seeing the trauma which causes pain. It is not seeing and not talking about trauma which creates the pain. In other words, pain comes from resistance to review the painful event. The greater the resistance – the greater the pain. In any case, we are still non-consciously suffering from the event as long as we resist and suppress or do not allow ourselves  to re-see, revise and release from the hurtful memories. Sometimes in pregnancy there is a greater sense to suppress to avoid pain. Again, the truth is the exact opposite. Nature wants us to be free of these painful patterns as a positive model of healing to baby. In releasing painful patterns baby will not have to keep repeating mother’s painful feelings throughout its life without knowing where they came from.

As mother and father join together, the emotions which they are feeling within themselves and towards each other are forming the basis upon which baby’s emotions  will develop during the nine months of gestation. From the moment of conception mother and father’s DNA strands intertwine and combine to develop into our individual physical characteristics such as eye, hair and skin color. Intensive research is decoding this DNA looking towards healing disease.

25 years ago, in Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy and Education, we discovered and developed a simple matrix or blueprint questionnaire to decode prebirth memory. Since these memories were already encoded in cellular memory, we can bring these memories to full awareness simply by asking the right questions. The relevant questions are found in the Prebirth Analysis MatrixÓ (PAM). This PAM is composed of 22 set of questions covering the period between just before conception to shortly after birth. When the questions are answered we discover that not only have we synthesized our parent’s genetic coding, but in some way, had also inherited our parent’s charged emotional patterns and reactions. For lack of a better word we call this EDNA – the Emotional DNA. These Emotional DNA patterns create feelings which we carry with us all through life until released.

Coming back to water, we remember primarily our mother’s charged emotional and mental patterns. This charge may range from extreme happiness, to fear, to extreme depression. Thoughts which stimulated strong emotional reactions are hormonally charged with emotional energy. When mother has a strong thought and feels strong emotions with that thought, this energy charges the amniotic water in her womb. It is these charged thoughts and emotions during the nine months of gestation which we inherit from mother. Baby, as part of mother’s mind and emotions is developing. The body it will inherit at birth, is growing as part of mother’s body; her blood, oxygen her nutrients. Baby’s emotional development and education also takes place while floating in the protective envelope of mother’s emotionally charged amniotic fluid. So, baby is born with the full spectrum of enhancing and diminishing charged emotions which mother, and father through interaction with mother, had felt during the nine months of their pregnancy. And we can learn how to safely, gently change inappropriate ones.

So, what benefits can we receive by exploring our own and especially the emotional

Prebirth Patterns we inherited from our parents?

  • As mentioned  at  the beginning,  by seeking help  to  resolve  our  painful  patterns,     we model to baby that seeking and accepting help is beneficial to good health.
  • Acknowledge  and  release  from  inherited  family  history and memories or painful       or traumatic,  labor or death during birth  in both mother and father’s  families.
  • Birth itself is not painful but we carry with us the memory of our mother’s inherited      labor and in the  PAM  we can  release this memory  so that we are happier and       healthier and the birth of our own child can be shorter and easier.
  • Release ourselves from diminishing feelings, self-doubts and behaviors.
  • Recognize and release sabotaging self-judgments.
  • Identify and release from diminishing thoughts, decisions and beliefs which have been

restricting us and causing unhappiness and holding back delivery.

  • Increase our levels of safe, trusting intimacy with our partner before and during birth.
  • Release and relax stress levels before and during labor and birth which baby inherits.
  • Eliminate irrational fears, phobias and panic attacks around birth and in life.
  • Quietly release from beliefs that we and our baby are trapped; and that life is     controlled by fate, chance or an accident.
  • And, we begin to live self-empowered lives supported by our Whole-Selves.

We are pleased to be able to offer Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix as an optional program in the birth preparation training for both standard and water births.

WHOLE-SELF DISCOVERY & DEVELOPMENT

INSTITUTE, Inc. INTERNATIONAL

    

 Jon RG & Troya GN Turner, Co-Founders & Co-Directors

Waterrad 92, 1613 CR  Grootebroek, NL

Tel:  (31) 228 513 630

Email: Whole-Self@quicknet.nl

        International Medical Director: Dr. Ellis Snitcher

               Websites: www.whole-self.info & www.Whole-Self.co.uk

UKCo-Director: Michael Reginald Whitley

GermanyCo-Director: Sigrid Westermann

GreeceCo-Director: Olga Gouni

ItalyC0-Director: Smilja Janjatovic Pugliesi

MexicoCo-Director: Maria de Leon Crowhurst

 

Thanks Jon – can you say HOW the Whole-Self PAM  works?   Simon.

Dear Simon,

You asked a powerful question. Trust this may give you the answer you find of value.

The question is asked ‘How does the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix work?’

The first point is to distinguish the difference between Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy

& Education & most other therapeutic systems.

Most therapies work with the personality of the client on the assumption that

1)    pathology is lodged in the personality

2)    – specifically only from events which have occurred during the client’s life.

There are two fallacies in these two assumptions:

Firstly:

1)    My personality is not where my pathology is lodged. My personality is the ‘expressing

aspect’ of my Whole-Self where my pathology expresses its unique sense of power,

or more significantly, my non-conscious sense of my lack of power.

2)    One of the main functions of my personality is to keep me from feeling pain.

3)    The stronger my personality, the more talented & skilled my personality is in keeping

the cause of my pathology from being recognized. This is why most therapies fail.

4)  When a pathology creating event occurs, my personality goes into an hypnotic trance

& exists, that is ‘lives’ from that moment on, as though that traumatizing event is

still happening continually even to the present moment.

5)   This energy resides in all aspects of myself  – My physical, through cellular memory –

–          My mental, through my beliefs – My emotional, through reactive trauma trances –

–          My spirit, through my Whole-Self.

6)   So, since one of the primary functions of my personality is to keep me from feeling

pain, my personality does everything it can to keep me from remembering the painful

causative event because it holds that if I remember the event I will feel even more

pain.

7)    In Whole-Self Psychology, the traumatizing principle is that even when I do not

remember the causative event, my personality is non-consciously behaving under the

hypnotic trance that the causative event is still happening.

8)    The feelings my personality non-consciously believes are still happening, create my

behaviors, one of which is to block me from remembering the painful causative event.

9)    So, the conundrum is, that even when my personality is blocking me from seeing the

causative event, I still am being affected by my non-conscious belief – my reality –

that the event is still happening. I am non-consciously living as though that event is

still happening to me even to this moment.

10) While my personality wants to block me from seeing the causative event, my Whole-Self

knows that the only way to break my hypnotic trauma trance is to return, recognize,

review, revise & release myself from my trauma trance reality.

This switch over from the control of my personality to the guidance of my Whole-Self

is the beginning of my healing process. This healing is constructed on the recognition of

the impact of the Whole-Self Four Laws of Life which helped lock me into my pathology

based on my non-conscious belief – my reality – that the causative event or events are

still happening. I say ‘events’ based on the fourth Law.

As I give these four laws, I emphasize the word ‘non-conscious’ because this is how my

feelings stimulate & causes my behaviors.

1)    When I am, consciously or non-consciously, resisting my feelings, I trigger the

   Law of Opposition which says ‘Whatever I am opposed to I have to experience’.

So, as my personality is opposing my seeing my causative event, this law keeps me

locked in my trauma trance pattern.

2)    When I resist my painful feelings, on a conscious or non-conscious level, I make

judgments against myself not against others. Some Self-judgment words can be:

Unlovable  Unimportant  Worthless  Unfulfilled  Unworthy  Worthless  Unacceptable

Unsupportable  Not Good Enough  Inferior  Inappropriate  Irresponsible  Guilty

Bad  Wicked  Terrible  Horrible  Dirty  Disgusting   Despicable

Dumb  Stupid  Inept  Incapable  Incompetent  Inadequate  Incomplete

Unrecognized  Insecure  Helpless  Hopeless  Powerless

The most frequently mentioned are ‘helpless, hopeless & powerless’.

These self-judgments trigger the second Whole-Self Law of Life – The Law of

            Confirmation which says ‘Whatever I really believe about myself I will keep proving

to myself (through my life’s experiences)’.

3)    When I consciously or non-consciously resist my feelings & consciously or non-

consciously make judgments against myself, I non-consciously trigger the third Whole-

Self Law of Life – The Law of Decisions which says ‘My conscious & non-conscious

diminishing decisions determine or create my future.

4)    When I keep non-consciously opposing my feelings, making diminishing judgments about

myself, making diminishing decisions about my life, I trigger the Law of Repetition

which gently says Try It Again!  Try It Again!  Try It Again!

When through my Whole-Self instead of my personality, these Whole-Self Four Laws of Life

are recognized within the context of my life experiences, I no longer need to keep non-

consciously opposing my feelings, making diminishing judgments about myself, making

diminishing  decisions about my life. And, subsequently, I do not have to Try It Again!

Regarding the second fallacy mentioned above:

Most therapies hold vehemently that pathology can only come from events which have

occurred during the client’s life.

Fortunately, this fallacy is being corrected by Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine.

Over the last 35 years, there are now an increasing number of National & International

Associations & Societies; the most recent the Hellenic Union of Prenatal & Perinatal

Psychology & Medicine. Some of these, The International Society of Prenatal & Perinatal

Psychology & Medicine, The Association of Pre & Perinatal Psychology & Health, The

Association of National Education Prenatal of Italy, offer Professional Journals which

continue to publish thousands of scientific studies proving the importance of innate

emotional patterns from gestation, birth, infancy & early childhood.

Since 1970, the Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute International has pioneered

Prebirth Memory Therapy© through the Prebirth Analysis Matrix©. This therapeutic

model was discovered inBeverly HillsCaliforniawhen clients, who in other therapies had

been rejected as incurable, found that their pathology was actually a replication of

mother’s, & sometimes father’s, charged reactions to traumas during their pregnancies.

Information on the Whole-Self model is available on www.Whole-Self.co.uk &

www.Whole-Self.info .

Having to give thought to what to send you has been a profound challenge.

What it has brought to our attention is some individuals who have been particularly important

in the 35 years we have been on this path.

One consideration is that there are many research papers exploring the impact of the events

before, during & after conception & gestation, but there are far fewer theories & practices

on how to change the innate patterns of behavior encoded in babies.

Prof. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh, Life President of ISPPM, named our work  Prebirth Memory

Therapy. Prebirth Memory Therapy is a simple, effective systems for identifying, then

nullifying or balancing these innate diminishing patterns.

On entering our website www.Whole-Self.info, see quote from ISPPM President Ludwig Janus:

“The Whole-Self© Model has the potential to change the course of human evolution”

 

For the Scientific proof of our hypothesis we are indebted to Prof. Grigori I. Brekhman

   in his paper: ‘The conception of the multiple‑level co‑ordinated action between

the mother & her unborn child: the methodological approach & the methods of

research’.

Why are Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education such powerful & effective tools

for individual Discovery & Development?

The key to Life’s Streams® of Consciousness found in the simple Whole-Self discovery

that not only did I inherit my parents’ DNA, which gave me my physical characteristics,

but I am also the synthesis of their charged mental & emotional patterns during the nine

months before my birth which gave me the emotional DNA© (eDNA©)with which I was born.
It is these charged mental & emotional patterns which have non-consciously controlled my

life. It is these non-conscious patterns which I come into life to change.

* Whole-Self Discovery & Development is an active process to Discover & Develop myself.
* My Whole-Self connects on my physical, mental, emotional & spiritual levels

all at the same time.
* Whole-Self Discovery & Development helps me to immediately identify my problems.

* Whole-Self Psychology helps me to discover my non-conscious diminishing beliefs

about myself.

* Diminishing beliefs about myself inhibit my energy & block me from success in relationships,

work & life.
* Whole-Self Discovery & Development offers me effective tools to help me to change

my diminishing beliefs.
* Whole-Self Philosophy is a continuous inspiration for my individual growth & evolution!

If I want to change my life, my Whole-Self is waiting to support me!

Much Peace & Much Love & Much Health! JRG&T


Prebirth Dynamics in the Formatting of Relationships

    

& Reactive Attachment Disorders©2005

By Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

      Presented at the 16th International Congress of the ISPPM

            The Anthropology & Psychology of Pregnancy & Birth

              Heidelberg,Germany2-5 June 2005

Attachment & Bonding is critical in human development. When a newborn enters the world & healthily attaches to mother/father during infancy & toddlerhood, the effects generate essential neurological development, as well as appropriate social skills & behaviors & emotional balance. Such early attachment relationship creates health & trust – yielding lifelong, safe & trusting relationships & success.

Increasing numbers of infants & children are floundering in a sea of neurological underdevelopment, dysfunctional & uncontrollable emotions which can generate various degrees of inappropriate, unsocial even anti-social behaviors. See news reports of children murdering their classmates or families. Because of inappropriate or non-existent attachment in the infant & blocked bonding in the parents, the American Psychiatric Association DMS-IV identifies this pathology as Reactive Attachment Disorder.

In Prenatal Psychology the imperative is that the child be wanted & welcomed into the family even before conception, but minimally, during pregnancy. That is the beginning of appropriate Attachment. When the child is not wanted; when mother is emotionally unavailable during pregnancy & through the first 3 years of life; when there is separation through early hospitalization & adoption; when there is early abuse on any level – such failures can result in anti-social, abhorrent, destructive even murderous behavior in these afflicted children & teens.

Now, Attachment & Bonding Theory is recognizing that healthy, trusting behaviors are not just conditioning after birth but can be traced back to pregnancy. Life begins symbiotically in the parent’s physical, mental, emotional & spiritual ecologies. In Whole-Self Psychology, baby’s health & balance of body – particularly essential neurological development – mind & emotions come together, making gestation, not only the first, but also most vital environment.

One aspect of treating these RAD afflicted children is through Prebirth Memory TherapyÓ. Science has proven that each of us is the synthesis of the genetic coding of our parent’s DNA giving us our physical characteristics. 35 years ago, the Turners discovered the emotional DNAÓ (eDNAÓ). The Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis MatrixÓ [PAMÓ] helps us to discover that we also are the synthesis of our parent’s charged mental, emotional & psychological patterns.

Based on their workshop presented at the 16th International Association for Treatment & Training in the Attachment of Children (ATTACh) in October, 2004, the Turners discuss the link between Reactive Attachment Disorder& prebirth Memory. They describe the formation of the emotional DNA (eDNA©), its influence & the possibilities to change innate prebirth relationship patterns in RAD children & adults.

Contact: Jon RG & Troya GN Turner, Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute (W-SDDI) Waterrad  92   Grootebroek, NL   Tel: 31 228 513 630

Email:  Whole-Self@quicknet.nl ; Websites: www.Whole-Self.info

& www.Whole-Self.co.uk  ; www.ionianet.gr/cosmoanelixis – 30 210 272 0015

In the nearly four decades of contemporary Prenatal & Prenatal Psychology key theoretical elements include Attachment & Bonding. First hypothesized by John Bowlby, Attachment was concerned with baby’s ability, after birth, to develop safe and secure relationship abilities.

In Whole- Self Psychology, Attachment is the prenatal psycho-spiritual communication between baby & mother. Bonding is the physical as well as psycho-spiritual process of communication & loving connection between mother & baby sometimes from before the moment of conception                  to the first three years of his/her life.

When this process is interrupted Reactive Attachment Disorder of Infancy & Early Childhood (American Psychiatric Assoc. DSM IV 313.89) can appear.

Looking at Reactive Attachment Disorder on the Internet one can discover

a number of symptoms indicating RAD.

In this paper, we propose that like Janus, the ancient God of the thespians,

Reactive Attachment has two faces:

Reactive Attachment Disorder – RAD

& Reactive Attachment Order – RAO

Both RAD & RAO babies do not have healthful bonding & attachment patterns.

Both have diminished emotional capacity for not having feelings.

& both move into the mental body to compensate

for their diminished emotional capacity.

In Reactive Attachment Disorder

RAD babies move into abhorrent behavior.

But instead of moving into abhorrent behavior,

RAO babies become little Mr. Spocks.

Through enhanced mental functioning, without emotional overlays,

they ‘learn’ how people, who would have emotional capacities,

would function and literally put on a good act.

One simple example of this is an RAO mother who says, ‘I have this beautiful baby but I do not have any feelings of love for this baby!’

She says ‘…this baby’, not ‘…my baby’ because there is no emotional connection.

As Thomas Verny has pointed out, some mothers & fathers are ‘managers’ & some are ‘parents’. An RAO mother is a manager. She can take care of the physical needs of ‘this baby’ but she has no emotional capacity to love ‘her baby’.

At the 2004 ATTACh Congress in theUSA, we presented a Whole-Self Psychology  Workshop where we offered a number of observations about RAD children. We would like to share these with you:

1)      When we look at RAD children with aberrant, even murderous behavior, parents of these ‘little criminals’ can be in great anguish because they believe that their child is acting against them.

2)      RAD children

 

 

 

Common Causes of Attachment Problems

1. Sudden or traumatic separation from primary caretaker (through death, illness, hospitalization of caretaker, or removal of child)

2. Physical, emotional, or sexual abuse

3. Neglect (of physical or emotional needs)

4. Illness or pain which cannot be alleviated by caretaker

5. Frequent moves and/or placements

6. Inconsistent or inadequate care at home or in day care (care must include holding, talking, nurturing, as well as meeting basic physical needs)

7. Chronic depression of primary caretaker

8. Neurological problem in child which interferes with perception of or ability to receive nurturing (i.e. babies exposed to crack cocaine in utero)

Behaviors Associated with Problematic Attachment

A. Unable to engage in satisfying reciprocal relationship:

1. Superficially engaging, charming (not genuine)

2. Lack of eye contact

3. Indiscriminately affectionate with strangers

4. Lack of ability to give and receive affection on parents’ terms (not cuddly)

5. Inappropriately demanding and clingy

6. Persistent nonsense questions and incessant chatter

7. Poor peer relationships

8. Low self esteem

9. Extreme control problems – may attempt to control overtly, or in sneaky ways

B. Poor cause and effect thinking:

In this paper, we propose that like Janus, the ancient God of the thespians,

Reactive Attachment has two faces:

Reactive Attachment Disorder – RAD

& Reactive Attachment Order – RAO

Both RAD & RAO babies do not have healthful bonding & attachment patterns.

Both have diminished emotional capacity for not having feelings.

& both move into the mental body to compensate

for their diminished emotional capacity.

In Reactive Attachment Disorder

RAD babies move into abhorrent behavior.

But instead of moving into abhorrent behavior,

RAO babies become little Mr. Spocks.

Through enhanced mental functioning, without emotional overlays,

they ‘learn’ how people, who would have emotional capacities,

would function and literally put on a good act.

One simple example of this is an RAO mother who says, ‘I have this beautiful baby but I do not have any feelings of love for this baby!’

She says ‘…this baby’, not ‘…my baby’ because there is no emotional connection.

As Thomas Verny has pointed out, some mothers & fathers are ‘managers’ & some are ‘parents’. An RAO mother is a manager. She can take care of the physical needs of ‘this baby’ but she has no emotional capacity to love ‘her baby’.

At the 2004 ATTACh Congress in theUSA, we presented a Whole-Self Psychology  Workshop where we offered a number of observations about RAD children. We would like to share these with you:

3)      When we look at RAD children with aberrant, even murderous behavior, parents of these ‘little criminals’ can be in great anguish because they believe that their child is acting against them.

4)      RAD children

 

 

1. Difficulty learning from mistakes

2. Learning problems – disabilities, delays

3. Poor impulse control

C. Emotional development disturbed: child shows traits of young child in “oral stage”

1. Abnormal speech patterns

2. Abnormal eating patterns

D. Infantile fear and rage. Poor conscience development.

1. Chronic “crazy” lying

2. Stealing

3. Destructive to self, others, property

4. Cruel to animals

5. Preoccupied with fire, blood, and gore

E. “Negative attachment cycle” in family

1. Child engages in negative behaviors which can’t be ignored

2. Parent reacts with strong emotion, creating intense but unsatisfying connection

3. Both parent and child distance and connection is severed

Dear Stefan, Good work! This is a particularly challenging case. Please see how we have made comments about H’s case.  The idea is to add observations representative of your understanding of Whole-Self in your next supervision cases. Here is our whole supervision.

Much Peace & Much Love! JRG&T

Pam Mr H.    34 years old   22.4.2005    Stefan Jendert

Some questions were not on the translation sheet so they are not answered.

(V’s F) Nothing

(FF) No

(V>M) Nothing at all

(FRP) No

(M’s F) Not possible, there is nothing, same as fathers

(FF) feeling is there at the whole life

(M>V) nothing

(FRP) No

JRG&T: When a client gives ‘Nothing’ or ‘No feeling’ as answers to these first four questions, even though there can be an answer that she/he has had feelings all through this life, the first thing we do is to ask that person if she/he has ever experienced an event of some importance & was a bit confused that they were not feeling feelings. There may, in fact, have been a relief that there were no feelings or reactions.

It seems that H is living in a state of trance of not feeling! Don’t forget, whatever patterns a person is setting up for this life, the patterns are probably based on trauma initiated from a previous lifetime, potential during gestation & activated early in this life to be balanced during this life. This first four answers are the potential four cornerstone patterns to be to be acted out in life. So, none are ever bad or wrong, they simply are.

(Sp F) Better not! It’s a good feeling! Happy not to make it

JRG&T: Here we have a conundrum, a contradiction of major proportions. Resistance feels good/safe? When there is an answer with this kind of warning to not do something especially something important – even a destiny, & not doing it feels good even happiness to not act, we need to explore a possible basic pattern of self-sabotage – even failure. As the sperm represents H’s male aspect there could also be a pattern of not being successful as a man in ‘Man Events’ or activities.  There is a possible hint here of being gay oriented.

(O’s F) Inexperience!, Don’t want it!

JRG&T: Of course there is inexperience. But the main patterns here could be inflexibility & stubbornness. Does H ever willingly want to experience anything new !

Don’t want to start anything in my life! Happy if there is no challenge!

JRG&T: H wants to stay in trance! In English, there is a phrase ‘Don’t rock the boat!’ H’s conservatism could extend to not reaching out to any relationship. Does H express loneliness as one of his presenting problem?

Refusing yin & yang.

JRG&T: Here we now see that the ovum which represents H’s female aspect & his sperm which represents his male aspect are both out of balance. We see a conflict with both his male & female polarities. Both he & she are refusing balance/harmony/growth & evolution!

There may be another perspective here as well. We know there are male & female orientations; there are bi-sexual – orientation to both male & female at the same time

which includes most human beings. There is also another grouping which is a-sexual – those who have little or no sexual orientation or interest at all. All three are normal. So a-sexual orientation, as in gay or lesbian orientation are not abnormality, simply another way of being. We point this out because while there are indications of gay orientation in H, he could well be representative of a-sexual orientation.

(O sees Sp) ‘Fuck!’ Feeling attacked! Anxious!

JRG&T: First a vulgar expletive. She experiences herself being unsafe, triggering adrenaline & a primitive defense by focusing on destruction towards self & others on the sexual most vulnerable level. H’s female aspect is feeling attacked even when she is not.  H has great stress feelings in seeing people in general or individually. Again, aloneness & loneliness are highly indicated here.

(Sp sees O) ‘Let’s scram!’ Dangerous! It’s a good feeling to move away.

JRG&T: ‘Scram’ is a street word meaning to leave quickly – to escape. H’s male aspect

believes meeting people in general or individually is dangerous! By adding an ‘e’ to scram we get ‘scream’. Screaming, making noise, helps to keep people at distance or to give himself a good reason to move away. Does H use screaming or behaviour of anger as a defense strategy for survival? Screaming triggers adrenaline which is strongly addictive.

To be in contact makes me anxious. Avoiding contact is a good feeling

JRG&T: H is certainly reinforcing aloneness which is a good feeling. (Is there a special meaning for women(7) and men (7a) ? )Yes, see attached document.

(O Engulfed)  Defending! Don’t want to show myself when I’m with other people or with my partner.

JRG&T: Defending is the opposite of vulnerability. H is unable to be vulnerable based on his fear of getting wounded again. He is still in trance from the last time he was wounded, &, therefore, non-consciously believes that that trauma is still happening. When he is willing to come out of the trance, by experiencing his vulnerability, he has the opportunity to discover & develop himself in order to grow, develop mature & evolve as a whole person. The need to hide could be significant but what is most important here is the word ‘partner’. Is this a code word for partner being a man?

Is this a hint for H being gay?  There is the possibility of being gay but more from his previous answers.  We would in general say No to your question. But it is clear that  gay men who are not in trance have discovered their identity & are willing to go forward in order to grow, develop, mature & evolve.

(Sp Egg) ‘Hope someone else will make it!’ Hopeful that I am not the choice – the winner! JRG&T: The male aspect is unaware of himself. He totally lacks self-esteem, otherwise he would have experienced the support of their champion by all the other sperm for him to ‘make’ it.

(Concept) ‘Fuck’

JRG&T:  Again, does this street vulgarity reveal his non-conscious belief that relationship is only about destructive sex?

(Sp C) ‘Better not!’ -> ‘It is to late! Anxious! Threatening!

           Relationships are dangerous & it is better to avoid them

JRG&T:  Again, a clear warning! H’s male aspect is speaking very clearly. Do destructive sexual experiences take away the identity of the individual? Is H giving us code words hinting at having been sexually abused as a child?

(O concept) Dangerous -> its too late -> hopeless

JRG&T: Again, do vulnerability to destructive sexual experiences take away the identity of the individual?

More dangerous than Sp’s Concept

JRG&T: Is it more dangerous because the egg represents the feelings?

Both sides don’t want it, but, they cannot avoid; No melting desired; If I cannot avoid it I have to give up myself, problems with his partner.

JRG&T: One enhancing point here is that both sperm & egg are In agreement. On a psycho-spiritual level there is no harmony within for either the egg & the sperm. At the same time, they are mirrors of each other. The vibration is helpless, hopeless & powerless.

(Pop) Bad, maturing and development is negative

JRG&T: Here H is also very clear that he does not want to develop. It is much safer to stay in his trance.

(FLT)Threatening, falling in a deep hole.

JRG&T: This reactivates the previous trauma – probably a past life echo.

(Anc) I do not know.

JRG&T: H is not able/willing to experience the previous trauma without professional help.

A past life regression is indicated even more clearly.

Don’t have any power in this world.

JRG&T:  H knows & believes that he is a victim. & He does not want to take responsibility to change.

(Lands) ‘Random’ towards ‘sucked in’

JG&T:H is a victim -> see attached doc.

the best is to be alone & do not have any responsibility

(Ms React) Relieved, happy (maybe thinking she doesn’t have to have sex anymore)

(Vs React) Surprised, happy

(Ms>Vs) Apathetic = trance…

JRG&T: Apathy is a perfect word to summarize H’s ‘victim’ problem. Here we discover that relief, surprise & happiness also cause trance for H. This is very important because… maybe the previous trauma was not that traumatic…

H. told me that his mother did not like to have sex with father, so he may use it against his father/sexuality. (See following answers.)

JRG&T: Based on the next question re Trauma ‘Mother did not like to have sex with father!’ is in English called an understatement. H could certainly have been programmed against his masculinity & sex as revenge against her husband.

(Trm) Yes, in the 9th month in their bedroom she is feeling anxious.

Mother is raped by father.

JRG&T: We are not given details about this rape. Father certainly does not respect mother’s physical condition. In Whole-Self Psychology we know that H’s consciousness is not inside his mother’s body, but being in his mother’s consciousness it is certainly experiencing her incredible distress & despair. These feelings become H’s most familiar reactive feelings. They are impacting on both mother’s & H’s beingnesses & individualities which then confirms their most frequent diminishing self-judgments as reported:

Disgusting, dirty, terrible, helpless, hopeless, powerless;

Their most frequent diminishing decisions which H reports as ‘Do nothing!’

(Anyone in this life) No!

(JRG&T) No is an expected answer because H does not allow anyone in his life!

(Resolved) No! I don’t want to know anything else because it will be something very bad from my father.

JRG&T:  Whether H learns if or how the situation was resolved he is still at the effect of whatever may have happened. The only way to be free of whatever that may have been is by retrieving the information & then releasing from it.  Also, at the same time that H refuses to know & understand what happened he is refusing to know himself!

(Where M)  Hospital bed   (1st Contract) Pain

JRG&T: Pain comes from resistance. Part of mother’s anguish may be that she does not know if the rape has harmed or damaged her baby. The next answers are very clear.

(S-Js)  Helpless, hopeless, powerless

(Ms Dec) ‘I don’t know!’ ‘I don’t want that!’

(F Dec) Yes!    (F React)  Yes!

(Cbe4) H says he doesn’t have any consciousness but then adds that he is outside his mother.

JRG&T:  This is important for H to realize that he was not inside his mother. The reason for this, is that he can he can recognize that his consciousness while in symbiosis with his  mother’s consciousness (as are all human beings) & not her body. What is becoming clear is that as further work is done with H, he can become separated from the symbiosis which has kept him bound to his mother his whole life. We also can see that H’s trance is related to previous lifetimes.

(1st Br) Feels good! Agreement to life, (maybe the reason why he did not commit suicide) JRG&T: Correct! And, it shows that he is responsible for his life! So it is up to him to make a decision to change!

(1stT) ‘Where I am?’ Curious, positive, enhancing, interesting in the world and his place (motivation for therapy?)

JRG&T: Yes! &, on a non-conscious level H does want to change !

(Con>M) no feeling.

JRG&T: Body experiences, mind evaluates, emotions judge… When he changes his self-judgments through the Whole-Self Fourth Dimension Balancing he will feel his feelings & start living in this world.

(Cord Cut) No feeling!

JRG&T: No feeling for the world! H cannot assess what the “world” is doing to him.

Here we have a repeat & activation of H’s first four emotional patterns.

(Else) Nothing

(Placed with mother) H is taken by his mother to avoid things that are painful. Likes to give things up – resignation.

JRG&T: Well, the key word here is ‘resignation’ isn’t it? This can translate into all the other diminishing patterns H has been dealing with in his life.  Pain = resistance = pain etc… vicious circle = trance.

(Crib) No feeling! (Emot nds) To not be alone. To be aware.

(Nds met) No! (SJs) Unlovable, inept, insecure, helpless, hopeless, powerless

(Dec) No decision just sadness.

JRG&T: The separation from mother is the trauma of birth. For H, because of the pathological symbiosis he had with his mother polarized to her emotional body & her charged hatred toward her husband/male/son this was particularly devastating. This is the main pattern H needs to balance.

(SJs) Same

(F Dec) Do not know! Withdraw!

JRG&T: Just another repeat of his patterns.

(Else) Nothing

(Food) Good!

(1st feeding) Good! Good reactions to food. H has a problem with binge eating!

JRG&T: This is predictable & understandable. H has to control feelings. Food helps him to control feelings. Does he also have a presenting problem of binge spending leading to money problems? We suspect that is so. As he balances his feelings his body & his finances will grow, develop, mature & evolve appropriately!

(React>M) Happy! Basically good feelings for women.

JRG&T: This, of course is because of his symbiosis with mother & other women.

Woman probably complain that he gets to close or overbearing towards them.

(C>M) No contract.

JRG&T: Without a contract with mother there can be no relationship with women.

A contract is a function of the mental body. H needs to integrate his mental & emotional bodies.

( M’s React>me) Good, sweet, nice feelings women have towards him.

JRG&T: Here we may have another conundrum. We must recognize that mother certainly did not have loving feelings toward her husband & most likely transferred those hateful feelings to H. In the last month of her pregnancy we need to explore her attitude toward H. What was the labor like? What was the actual delivery like? Was he caesarean born? It would seem most probable that her labor was long & painful because the vaginal area of mother had been traumatized & she would most likely have a behavior to keep her vagina as tightly closed as possible. Mother’s possible rejection could have set up a powerful & obsessional need for H to be accepted be her & subsequently by all woman.

(MsContract>me) None!

JRG&T: This is expected. But it is very hopeful! Help him to make enhansive contracts !

(My React > V) No feelings

(C>V) No contract

(Vs R>me) Nothing

(Vs C>me) Nothing

JRG&T: This shows that H probably has no friendship with men.

You can help him to release his mother’s hatred to his father to make enhansive relationships & contracts with his father/men!

Sadness & withdrawal is his reaction, when he doesn’t get awareness

JRG&T: The word ‘sadness’ here could be indicative of depression which may be one of his presenting problems. Certainly, depression is expected.

(Purpose of life): life has no meaning!

Oh yes… it does !

His challenge is to discover & develop his trance, to experience his feelings & containment & based on his own individual existence he will meet other individuals & to respect their individuality so they can relate in order to grow, develop, mature & evolve together !

 

H. doesn’t have any guidelines to be with other persons. That may be the main reason for his anxiety disorder. He doesn’t know how to behave & has no idea what the behavior of other people means. Insecurity produces anxiety.

He wants to live, but the emotional DNA of his parents doesn’t want it. His parents did not want him. He was used by his mother against his father, but she was helpless & was raped by him.

JRG&T: His emotional world uses his personality to prove to himself that he is helpless, hopeless & powerless based on no self-respect.

I don’t wonder why he has these problems.

JRG&T: We are sure that through his Whole-Self he will discover & develop in such a way that will take his challenges to grow, develop, mature & evolve!

There are two fallacies in these two assumptions:

Firstly:

4)    My personality is not where my pathology is lodged. My personality is the ‘expressing

aspect’ of my Whole-Self where my pathology expresses its unique sense of power,

or more significantly, my non-conscious sense of my lack of power.

5)    One of the main functions of my personality is to keep me from feeling pain.

6)    The stronger my personality, the more talented & skilled my personality is in keeping

the cause of my pathology from being recognized. This is why most therapies fail.

7)    When a pathology creating event occurs, my personality goes into an hypnotic trance

& exists, from that moment on, as though that traumatizing event is still

continuing to happen – even to the present moment.

8)    This energy resides in all aspects of myself :

–   My physical – through my cellular memory

–   My mental –  through my beliefs, my realities

–   My emotional – through my reactive trauma trances

–          My spirit, through my Whole-Self.

6)   Since one of the primary functions of my personality is to keep me from feeling pain,

my personality does everything it can to keep me from remembering the painful

causative event. It blocks this memory because it holds that

if I remember that event, I will feel even more pain.

10)  In Whole-Self Psychology, the traumatizing principle is that even when I do not

remember the causative event, my personality is non-consciously behaving

under the hypnotic trance that the causative event is still happening.

11)  The feelings my personality, non-consciously, believes are still happening to me

create my behaviors. One strategy for my survival is to block me from remembering

the painful causative event. Michael Mendizza calls personality a defense structure.

12)  So, the conundrum is, that even when my personality is blocking me from seeing

the causative event, I am still at the effect of the belief that the event is still

happening. I am non-consciously living as though that event is still happening

to me at this moment.

13)  While my personality wants to block me from seeing the causative event,

my Whole-Self knows that the only way to break my hypnotic trauma trance

is to return, recognize, review, revise & release myself

from my trauma trance reality.

This switchover for transfer from the control of my personality

to the guidance of my Whole-Self is the beginning of my healing process.

This healing is constructed on the recognition of the impact of the Whole-Self Four Laws of Life. These Whole-Self Four Laws of Life helped lock me into my pathology. This is based on my conscious &  non-conscious belief – my reality – that the causative events is still happening at this moment.

As I give these Whole-Self Four Laws of Life below, I emphasize the word ‘non-conscious’

because this is how my feelings stimulate & cause my behaviors.

1) When I am, consciously or non-consciously, resisting my feelings, I trigger

 the Whole-Self First Law of Life – The Law of Opposition which says:

                      ‘Whatever I am opposed to I have to experience.’

So, as my personality is opposing my seeing the causative traumatic event,

this law keeps me locked in my trauma trance pattern.

When I resist my painful feelings, on a conscious or non-conscious level, I make

judgments against myself not against others. Some Self-judgment words can be:

Unlovable  Unimportant  Worthless  Unfulfilled  Unworthy  Worthless  Unacceptable

Unsupportable  Not Good Enough  Inferior  Inappropriate  Irresponsible  Guilty

Bad  Wicked  Terrible  Horrible  Dirty  Disgusting   Despicable

Dumb  Stupid  Inept  Incapable  Incompetent  Inadequate  Incomplete

Unrecognized  Insecure  Helpless  Hopeless  Powerless

The most frequently recognized & mentioned are ‘Helpless, Hopeless & Powerless’.

2)   These self-judgments trigger the Whole-Self Second Law of Life

            –  The Law of Confirmation which says:

‘Whatever I really believe about myself I will keep proving to myself

                                             (through my life’s experiences).’

3)   When I consciously or non-consciously resist my feelings

& consciously or non-consciously make judgments against myself,

I consciously or non-consciously trigger the third Whole-Self Law of Life

 –  The Law of Decisions which says:

       My conscious & non-conscious diminishing decisions determine or create my future.

4)   When I keep consciously or non-consciously opposing my feelings,

making diminishing judgments about myself,

making diminishing decisions about my life, I trigger

the Whole-Self Fourth Law of Life

–  The Law of Repetition which gently says:

Try It Again!  Try It Again!  Try It Again!

When through my Whole-Self instead of my personality, these Whole-Self Four Laws of Life

are recognized within the context of my life experiences,

I no longer need to consciously or non-consciously keep opposing my feelings,

making diminishing judgments about myself,

making diminishing  decisions about my life.

So, subsequently, I do not have to Try It Again!

Regarding the second fallacy mentioned above:

Most therapies hold vehemently that pathology can only come from events which have

occurred during the client’s life.

Fortunately, this fallacy is being corrected by Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine.

Over the last 35 years, there are now increasing numbers of National & International

Associations & Societies; the most recent the Hellenic Union of Prenatal & Perinatal

Psychology & Medicine. Some of these, The International Society of Prenatal & Perinatal

Psychology & Medicine, The Association of Pre & Perinatal Psychology & Health, The

Association of National Education Prenatal of Italy, offer Professional Journals which

contribute to the thousands of scientific studies already published proving the importance

of innate emotional patterns from gestation, birth, infancy & early childhood.

As mentioned above, since 1970, beginning with the Siddhartha Foundation on to the

Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute International, Troya & I have pioneered

in Prebirth Memory Therapy© research & practice through the Prebirth Analysis Matrix©. This therapeutic model discovered that clients & patients, who in other therapies had been

rejected as incurable, found that their pathology was actually a replication of mother’s,

& sometimes father’s, charged reactions to traumas during their pregnancies were able to

heal themselves.

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Dear Simon,

Having to give thought to what to write to you has been a profound challenge. One

consideration is that there are many research papers exploring the impact of the events

before, during & after conception & gestation, but there are far fewer theories & practices

on how to change the innate patterns of behavior encoded in babies.

What it has brought to our attention are several individuals amongst many, many colleagues

who have been particularly significant in the 35 years we have been on this quest.

Firstly, Prof. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh, Life President of ISPPM, who originally named our

work ‘Prebirth Memory Therapy’. Prebirth Memory Therapy is a simple, effective system for

identifying, then nullifying or balancing these innate diminishing patterns.

Secondly we are appreciative to ISPPM President Ludwig Janus. On entering our website www.Whole-Self.info, see the quote from him:

“The Whole-Self© Model has the potential to change the course of human evolution”

               

Thirdly, for the Scientific proof of our hypothesis we are indebted to Prof. Grigori I. Brekhman in his paper presented at an ISPPM Congress in Sardinia & published in the IJPPPM: The conception of the multiple‑level co‑ordinated action between the mother & her unborn child: the methodological approach & the methods of research.

Quoting Brekhman:

Nowadays a lot of data obtained has confirmed the hypothesis that the

psycho-emotional interrelationships between the mother and her unborn

child is the reality… we (Brekhman) offered to examine the mother-unborn

child relationships based on the idea of a permanently functioning multiple-

level polyphonic system. It has been assumed that if mother is a multiple-

system embracing such levels as biological, energetical, astral, mental, etc,

to have intimate and fruitful interplay between her and the unborn, he

(the unborn) must already possess the same levels beginning with the zygote.

Such a methodological approach proved to be fruitful. The subdivision of this

system into the various levels is very relevant since baby is able to live and

develop harmoniously only if all its components properly interact.

In this last sentence the word “only” is the operative word. Dr. Brekhman states that if there is such a process as a mother-unborn child dialogue – long advocated by Prof. Fedor-Freybergh – there needs to exist ‘complementary resonant cohesive media systems’ which can recognize each other’s messages. In its very simplest terms, the analogy is that for communication between them to exist, the unborn baby’s radio frequency is tuned to mother’s same radio frequency. Prof. Brekhman has proven that it does. Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education is confirming that just as each of us is the synthesis of our parent’s genetic coding which gives us our physical characteristics, there is also a synthesis of the emotional-mental patterns of our parents from the nine months of their pregnancy. This is exactly the multiple system Brekhman’s research proved to exist.

Why are Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education such powerful

& effective tools  for individual Discovery & Development?

.As in familial diseases, there can be psycho—spiritual generational patterns inherited in families as well. I value the answers to the Whole-Self PAM Questions & their meanings because they help me to understand the ‘parable’ or ‘mythos’ of my family psycho-history. The key to my Life’s Streams® of Consciousness is found in the simple Whole-Self discovery that not only did I inherit my parents’ DNA, which gave me my physical characteristics, but I am also the synthesis of their charged mental & emotional patterns during the nine months before my birth which gave me the emotional DNA© (eDNA©).

Did Mother have a Trauma?

Perhaps you would like to experience a simple example how this Whole-Self PAM works.

Read the Question below & close your eyes to hear the answer. ‘Yes’ or ‘No’.

‘Please allow your Whole-Self to let you know if your mother

                        experienced any trauma or continuous diminishing circumstance

                                    &/or feelings during her pregnancy. YES or NO?’

In the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix exploring this question in some detail

helps me to discover the innate non-conscious source of

                        my most frequently felt reactive feelings,

                              my most frequent diminishing self-judgments,

                                     & my most frequently diminishing decisions in my life.

The familiar, even pathological patterns, feelings, self-judgments, conclusions

& decisions that I have repeated all through my life, may in fact,

have been inherited from my mother’s ‘emotional DNA’.

 

One final point: Studies in behavioral medicine show that it takes 21 consecutive days to

change a belief or a behavior. At the completion of the Whole-Self PAM we instruct in a

simple technique called the Whole-Self 4th Dimensional Balancing to facilitate change.

Usually reinforced after my birth by living in that family, my Whole-Self PAM Patterns are the

charged beliefs, the mindsets & emotions with which I was born. It is these charged reactive

mental & emotional patterns which have consciously & non-consciously controlled my life.  Because feelings create behaviors, the Whole-Self Prebirth questions are particularly valuable

to develop when dealing with Reactive Attachment Disorder & other disruptive behaviors.

Completing with Michael Mendizza again:

‘We inherent our skin, hair & eye color from our parents, along with allergies & a

million other past life traits. The key to the whole past life business is that these

obvious qualities & related behaviors are not past lives, they are expressing now.

There is no past life. It is all happening now. You & I are expressing traits that

fade off like a very long tail to the first spark of life on the planet & we are

expressing all this right now.’

 

These innate charged patterns are precisely what I come into life to change.
* Whole-Self Discovery & Development is an active process to Discover & Develop myself.
* My Whole-Self connects on my physical, mental, emotional & spiritual levels

all at the same time.
* Whole-Self Discovery & Development helps me to immediately identify my problems.

* Whole-Self Psychology helps me to discover my conscious & non-conscious

diminishing beliefs about myself. Diminishing beliefs about myself inhibit my energy &

block me from success in relationships, work & life.
* Whole-Self Discovery & Development offers me effective tools to help me to change

my diminishing beliefs.
* Whole-Self Philosophy is a continuous inspiration for my individual growth, development

& evolution as a Whole Person!

We close with a simple fact: Mother Nature gives my little body – which is part of mother’s body – the ability – with support – to survive after three months, the next six months of my gestation is for my little body to practice & rehearse so that after birth it can live on its own.

We close with a simple question for you: How can Mother Nature provide

practice & rehearsal for my little body as part of my mother’s body

& not provide practice & rehearsal of my mental body inside her mind

& not provide practice & rehearsal of my emotional body in her emotions?

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Information on the Whole-Self model is available on www.Whole-Self.co.uk  &  www.Whole-Self.info , www.whole-self-methode.de  ,  www.ionianet.gr/cosmoanelixis
‘If I want to change my life, my Whole-Self is waiting to support me!’

Much Peace & Much Love! Jon RG & Troya GN Turner (Email: Whole-Self@quicknet.nl)

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Whole-Self Psychology Perspectives

on Violence & PregnancyÓ2005

Jon RG & Troya GN Turner (The Netherlands)

 

Violence at a distance may attract attention, but when it touches us, it effects us on the physical,  mental,  emotional,  spiritual, – all levels. And so, it was for people all over the world when those two giant airplanes crushed into the twin towers of theWorldTradeCenterinNew York City. Terrorism struck at the solar plexus ofAmerica. A new code word was created —- 9/11! We trust the following may help to understand violence and its close cousin terrorism.

The repeated message being propagandized is that terrorism is the problem and must be destroyed. The problem is not just terrorism. The problem is generations of human beings, who have experienced not having a diminished identity.

The question is what produces human beings incapable of feeling love, compassion or empathy towards themselves or anyone else, and, thereby, becoming destroyers of their own species? What happened that human beings could become so psychologically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually distorted that they could believe that Islam, a most dedicated religious path, could advocate murder of innocents and suicide bombings to gain bizarre heavenly reward. On the psycho-spiritual level, such lies in the name of Allah, have allowed for the first time in human evolution, for such suicide bombers to annihilate their own human souls.

The conditions which give terrorists dysfunctional identities often are the terrible circumstances which their mothers endured during the pregnancies, the births and after the births of their sons. The core of the problem can be traced to the circumstances of helplessness, hopelessness and powerlessness; of emotional fear, terror and panic of pregnant mothers which prevented their babies being born into a safe and loving environment including trusting relationships with their mothers and their fathers and their world. The processes are called Attachment and Bonding.

Symbiosis

Every human being begins life in symbiosis with mother by being psycho-spiritually energetically attracted to her mind and by sharing her feelings and emotions even before conception. This symbiotic attachment relationship should have begun to mature into individuation by the age of seven. When individuation does not occur in childhood, the child cannot tell if feelings being felt are her/his or mother’s feelings. This is when symbiosis can become pathological.

Energetic Communication

In Whole-Self Psychology, Energetic Communication begins between mother and baby on all levels (Brekhman) through their symbiotic relationship initiated before the moment of conception either through mother’s desire to become pregnant or baby’s need to become educated through mother’s and father’s charged mental and emotional experiences – or both.

It is at the moment of symbiosis not the moment of conception

when the consciousness of baby can begin communicating

with the mother to whom baby is energetically attached.

When this process is interrupted Reactive Attachment Disorder locks into the child, and can develop into today’s children, teens and adult sexual and murderous preditors and terrorists.

Understanding Violence

Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy, and Education postulates that: All experiences enter the realm of violence the instant respect is breached. This includes any and all forms of disrespect that may occur especially during the prenatal/intrauterine dialogue experience. What if a pregnancy dialogue is a violent monologue filled with verbal or physical abuse or both? Saddam Hussein, the butcher of Baghdad, is an example. While many experts attribute various psychological causes to the aberration which is Saddam, none even considers his prebirth conditioning as a source of his misogynist  behavior. Saddam has no conscience. He illustrates perfectly Reactive Attachment Disorder. John C. Sonne (2002) reports: “Hussein’s mother attempted suicide when she was seven months pregnant with Saddam, and she tried to kill him by bumping her stomach against the wall. Saddam’s father had died just before that, and another sibling had died around this same time. So this was the prenatal environment prior to Saddam’s birth in April, 1937: an abortion minded and attempting to abort suicidal mother, no father, and the death of a sibling.” Death and violence were Saddam’s keynotes.

RAD & Terrorism

A tragic illustration of Reactive Attachment Disorder and terrorism can be seen in alleged terrorist Yasin Hassan Omar. In June 2005, the London Underground was rocked by three bombs and a bus was destroyed killing over 50 people. A week later, three further bombings where attempted but failed. One of the alleged failed bombers was Yasin Hassan Omar. Little is known of his life in Somalia but years in foster care are suggestive of RAD formation. Quoting Robert Mendick in the British News Section of the Cyprus Mail: ‘Much of Omar’s early life was spent on the move. He arrived in Britain from Somalia at the age of 11 with his elder sister in 1992 and was put in foster care. Omar passed through a succession of foster families until he turned 18 when he was assessed as a “vulnerable young adult ….’ Being serially foster-homed made attachment and bonding almost impossible.

Whole-Self Prenatal Psychology & Therapy

Saddam’s prebirth environment created a despicable Iraqi despot. But the violence can just as powerfully impact a family. We received an email from a grandmother. Imagine her heartbreak, ‘I was just talking to my daughter who has a very angry 3 year old. When she was pregnant she was beaten by the baby’s father. Then right after birth, it happened again and again. After 8 months she final left him. Now my little granddaughter is very angry… and it is mainly directed against her mom.  I know it is due to prebirth violence trauma.’

Understanding how such beatings contribute to violence as pathology, and its resulting impact on one’s life is critical if effective change and healing are to occur. This 3 year olds little body was life threatened at the very time her mother’s body was growing that little body for her to use after birth. More critically, the baby’s consciousness was in her mother’s mental and emotional bodies being educated through mother’s fear, terror and panic causing deep encoding of helplessness, hopelessness and powerlessness. And, these were the diminishing lessons being prenatally lashed at her by her father. After birth, paternal violence was proving to her that the world is a violent place. She must lash back as a strategy for survival.

 

Attachment & Bonding

‘Attachment’ and ‘Bonding’ are key words in Prenatal Psychology. The very essence of being human is to experience connected relationships with other human beings. Attaching begins before birth – even before conception as part of the mother/child dialogue, when baby’s consciousness is energetically attracted to mother’s consciousness by her feelings. Bonding initiates an attunement between baby and parents which can last a lifetime. The initiation of bonding naturally starts when newly emerged infants are placed on mother’s bare belly and crawl instinctively to mother’s breast. The most essential formational bonding as reported by Michel Odent is when baby and mother exchange recognition through their eyes. This powerful moment opens DNA packets in both their brains which give both abilities to experience love, compassion and empathy for each other and every other human being. This instant of Bonding is the singularly most important event of our entire lives. In that moment, as millions of years of DNA genetic shaping are activated, all of our mental and psychological instincts initiate the most fateful formational patterning for our existence as human beings. When Attachment and Bonding at birth are denied by hospital rules and procedures, the emotional/psychological deficit for all of us is immense. These children can have incredible challenges to ‘know’ love, compassion or empathy for themselves or for other human beings.

Attachment & Bonding & RAD

An imperative in Prenatal Psychology is that baby be wanted and welcomed into the family, even before conception, but minimally, during pregnancy. That is the beginning of Attachment. When the child is not wanted; when mother is emotionally unavailable during pregnancy and the first 3 years of life; when there is separation through early hospitalization and adoption; when there is early abuse on any level – such failures can result in anti-social, abhorrent, destructive even murderous behavior in these afflicted children and teens.

Increasing numbers of infants and children are floundering in a sea of neurological underdevelopment, dysfunctional and uncontrollable emotions which can generate varying degrees of inappropriate, unsocial anti-social behaviors. We see news reports of children murdering classmates or families because of inappropriate or non-existent Attachment and blocked Bonding. The American Psychiatric Association DMS-IV identifies this pathology as Reactive Attachment Disorder of Infancy and Early Childhood – RAD.

Violence

The first Whole-Self Principle says: ‘I cannot change something until I know what needs to be changed!’ Violence itself, while abhorrent in its various shades, may not be the only problem. Violence, when connected with anger, is a learned behavior (Turner, 1990). The problem of violence is not just the violence but hormonal addiction triggering  the fight, flight, or freeze mechanism. This happens when the violator gets a charge of adrenaline, noradrenaline, and a cocktail of other addictive hormones, resulting in a hormonal hit. The victim, because of the fear, terror and panic in the moment of life-threatening danger also experiences a hormonal hit. This may explain why abused women often attack police rescuers and refuse to prosecute violent perpetrators. It is hormonal addiction which can lock both violators and victims into violent behavior in order to get their hormonal addictive imperatives satisfied.

When physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual violence occurs to mother during pregnancy, the hormonal saturation gets passed through the placenta and does two things: Danger hormones adrenalin, noradrenaline, cortosol, etc., damage and diminish baby’s brain and neurological development; and danger hormones entrain baby to the same addictive substances triggering over-reactive behaviors afflicting mother.

Case #1: Adrenaline to Survive Instead of Living a Life!

Prenatal trauma is traceable to Wars. This is evident in Olivia, aged 50 years, whose life pattern exhibits “Pain equals love!” The ‘pain = love’ patterns were active in her parent’s relationship during their pregnancy with Olivia. During this pregnancy World War II had begun, and her father was sent to the Russian Front. In her Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix (PAM), Olivia sensed that in the 5th month of pregnancy her mother was tense, nervous and anxious. A message arrived that her husband had been captured and shipped to a Russian prison camp. With this news Mother experienced despair, shock, sadness and insecurity. She felt abandoned and forsaken. During her PAM, Olivia recognized very familiar feelings in her own life. Recovering self-control, her mother determined to not give up. She realized she could only rely herself. She was responsible for all her children. Olivia recognized this responsibility position in her life.

Five years later, father returned home. The trauma was resolved for her mother but not for four-and-one-half-year-old Olivia. She was still locked in her reality that her father had abandoned her. Olivia remained emotionally arrested at the prenatal age (infantile) when the trauma occurred. As a result of this prebirth experience, Olivia lived  locked in the belief that men who love her abandon her. As much as she wanted to be cared for she could not trust men to care for her. The distancing of herself from men, the want/need to be taken care of and the need to control for survival have been familiar infantile trance patterns in her relationships activating the survival fight, flight, freeze hormones. She is no longer locked in ‘pain = love’; she is developing a reality that ‘pleasure = love’.

Case #2: Resistance to take Responsibility for Life

Sigrid Westermann, Whole-Self Co-Director forGermany, offers a case which supports David Chamberlain when he describes babies having amazing amounts of awareness and control.

The life of Ursala, 26 years of age, working as a physiotherapist, was ruled by fear. She presented anorexia nervosa which gave her a great need to be in control. The paradox was that she was consumed with fear of everything. Fear to be seen; fear to be liked; fear not to be able to live very long. But most debilitating was her FEAR TO BREATHE. Ursala had never been able to take a full deep breath. A few days after her W-S Prebirth Analysis Matrix Ursala returned to me. She told me that in her PAM session that at her birth when she had taken the first breath, she discovered that her consciousness had resisted taking responsibility for her life in that little body. She discovered that her thought, her belief, her reality had not allowed life to fully fill her body. Having recognized that resistance to take responsibility for her life and by changing that belief and allowing a full breath, from that moment on, Ursala felt she could take breaths to the full capacity of her lungs. Ursala’s ability to breathe deeply has stayed with her and she is very happy. Her case illustrates that at the moment of the first breath, consciousness is able to begin to integrate physical mental, emotional and spiritual functioning through that little baby body. How many times have you held your breath in moments of crisis?

Attachment & Bonding & The Brain

Studies in prenatal and perinatal psychology about pregnancy and birth have been proved significant. There is overwhelming evidence that violence during pregnancy and birth creates violence in life. Thomas Verny (2001), describes experience as the chief architect of the brain. Alan Schore, PhD (1996, 1997) defines attachment as a regulatory process in brain development which determines its developmental and functional outcome. In his research, Bruce Lipton, PhD (2001), has found that experience and perception are the key factors in determining genetic and DNA outcome relating to cellular function and memory. He relates this to father’s influence/input. When the experience prenatally – as well as postnatally – is violent, then the brain develops in a different way. It becomes ‘wired’ for survival and responds to all life experiences, including those that are non-violent, from the fight, flight, or freeze mode, activating the adrenal glands and secreting related adrenocortico steroids and other neurohormones in response to real or perceived danger (Perry, Pollard, Blakely, Baker and Vigilante, 1995; Perry, 1997; Schore, 1996; Schore, 1997).

 

Prebirth Communication

We must gratefully acknowledge prebirth psychology pioneering theories conceived during the last century. Now in the 21st Century theory and practice are advancing rapidly. At the 13th ISPPM Congress inCagliari,Sardinia,Italy in June 2000, Prof. Grigori I. Brekhman (Ivanovo State Medical AcademyRussia) described his research on ‘the conception of the multiple-level co-ordinated action between the mother and her unborn child’. Brekhman’s research hypothesized that the relationship between the unborn child and mother exists on the physical, mental, emotional and energetic levels. He states that if there is such a process as a mother-unborn child dialogue there needs to exist ‘complementary resonant cohesive media systems’ which can recognize each others messages. This means baby and mother must both have compatible transmitters and receivers whose frequencies recognize each others messages. Whole-Self Psychology holds that just as each of us is the synthesis of our parent’s genetic coding which gives us our physical characteristics, there is also a synthesis of the emotional-mental patterns of our parents from their nine months of pregnancy. Brekhman’s mutual communication research helps us to understand how this interface can exist on all levels.  The little body growing inside mother is a part of her body which is growing and practicing so that at birth it can function independently. Within mother’s mind and emotions baby’s mental and emotional faculties – baby’s new personality – also are practicing so that after birth they also can function independently.

Role of Personality

As Thomas Verny stated, ‘It takes much neglect, rejection, humiliation, physical maltreatment and sexual abuse to transform a tiny, trusting, innocent human being into a callous, cruel and vicious youth and adult.’ One of the basic functions of my personality is to keep me from feeling pain. It is why my personality does not want me to remember past traumatic events. While actual violent events, for example father beating mother, may not be remembered, the feelings mother and I as part of her emotional/mental structure experienced, are remembered by both of us.

Abortion Survivors

One type of violence can be a thought for, or failed clinical abortion. John C. Sonne (1994a, 1994b, 1996) identifies abortion survivors are a clearly defined group. He says that even a fleeting thought of abortion in mother’s or father’s emotional/mental bodies is perceived by my developing personality as life threatening. This is not because of my intelligent perception, but because of mother’s maternal emotional reactiveness to the thought of abortion and its resonance through our mutual symbiotic energy fields. Dr. Sonne’s landmark analysis of two teen mass murderers (2000), who profile as possible abortion survivors, is an example of what can result from unwanted pregnancies, and a possible failed abortion. In his analysis of the two boys responsible for theColumbineHigh School(Colorado,USA) massacre in 1999, Sonne hypothesizes that they both bore the clinical profiles of being abortion survivors. Among Sonne’s listed anti-social profile patterns we find the second Whole-Self Law of Life, Self-judgments, which, for those malcontents, included being outcasts, unwelcome, unloved, undeserving, unlovable, unattractive, and worthless. It was the Whole-Self Third Law of Life, the boy’s diminishing decisions, that led to the massacre. A year before that tragic event, one of the boys posted on a website: ‘I don’t care if I live or die in the shoot-out. All I want to do is kill and injure as many of you pricks as I can, and  — god damnit. DEAD PEOPLE DON’T ARGUE!  God damnit, I am pissed!’  (Sonne, 2000; and Affidavit: Columbine Shooter Posted Threat on Web April 10, 2001 CNN.)

Sadly, it is the statistics about the massacre that made big news: twelve students dead, twenty-four students injured, one teacher dead, and the two shooters suicided. The prebirth dynamics that were the causal factors of their mental / emotional state are not recognized, much less viewed as tragic or problematic. The pain these two boys experienced within themselves was definitely acted out, causing incredible pain in their school, their community and society at large.

Case #3: Mirror, Mirror On The Wall

Cecile presents insecurity, a pattern carried down generations from her grandmother, mother, and aunt. Cecile is living with a partner who is eight years older. He is proud to have a relationship with “a beautiful young woman.” Looking well is important for Cecile, but this creates a conflict in her when she wants to become pregnant. She fears she will lose her slim appearance. There are also anorexia nervosa issues present in her life. This need for slimness is not just Cecile’s problem. This conflict is mirrored by her partner, who also wants a child, but does not want Cecile to grow fat. Cecile’s ‘slim’ appearance is the code word for their co-dependent lives.

In her W-S PAM, Cecile discovered mother’s two emotionally violating traumas: In the 1st month of the as yet unrecognized pregnancy, her mother discovered her husband fooling around with other women. ‘Not serious!’ he would proclaim as he went with another woman to a bar and arrived home late at night. Next day at work, mother felt loneliness, insecurity, fear, abandonment and betrayal. She judged herself to be unworthy, worthless, dumb, stupid, not good enough, incapable, incomplete, helpless, hopeless, and powerless. She felt deep shame but kept up appearances, and tried to hide the depression. Mother decided ‘life is a burden, but she will just take care of her husband and he will love her’- a one-sided and not communicated contract. In the 7th month of pregnancy, mother was at a party with friends. Her bulging belly made her feel unattractive and out of place. Mother found  her husband behind a closed door kissing another women. Suffused with pain and rage she declared, ‘I want to leave with or without him – just leave! This baby will be born with or without a father!’ Father kissed the other women again and said that it did not mean anything, that mother was over-reacting. Mother left the party in despair, finally realizing she could no longer trust her husband! The tragedy was that because of her rage, her utter helplessness, hopelessness and powerlessness to her husband, Cecile took revenge on her daughter becoming a child beater and abuser including forcing Cecile under a cold shower when she wet her pants.

 

Case # 4: Verbal Violence

Troya discovered the Prebirth period in her teen years when she became anorexic and bulimic while in nurse training. Wanting to stop those behaviors, Troya got the inspiration that she might find the cause of her suicidal behaviors by looking back to her birth. She closed her eyes but was surprised to see her mother in the doctor’s office. She felt her mother’s joy at news of being pregnant and then tragically felt that joy crushed as he told her that because of previous surgery she should prepare for this first baby to be born dead. That was when Troya realized her suicidal eating disorders were her infantile attempts to fulfill his prophecy. I asked Troya if she had ever mentioned this information to her parents. She said she had not because she did not want to upset them. Next time we visited her parents she told them her inspiration. Her father laughed and said, ‘The pregnancy was fine and we were so happy that we would have a baby!’ Her mother was stunned, ‘I never told anybody, not even your father, what the doctor said!’

Conclusion: Whole-Self Psychology Therapy starts by discovering the beginnings of emotional life – the emotional DNAÓ (eDNAÓ) through the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis MatrixÓPAMÓ(Turner 1988, 1995).  Much Peace & Love!  JRG&T   www.Whole-Self.info .

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Abortion: The Issue Is Empowerment!©2005

                                                                                                   by Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

On August 20, 2005, Dutch TV telecast Stephen Frears’ year 2000 remarkable remake of the 1964 classic film Fail-Safe. The newer film Fail Safe portrays the mind – some might say – soul wrenching story of what could go wrong in the nuclear race during the cold war between the entranced opposing ideologies of Democracy (the USA) & Communism (the USSR). Less than a week later, we received an email from Rupert Linder, President of the International Society of Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine. He was requesting an intelligent discussion concerning a proposed ISPPM Resolution – a position document about the rights of the unborn child.

Background

In June 2005, at the 16th ISPPM International Congress, inHeidelberg,Germany, a  Resolution document concerning the rights of the unborn had been presented to the membership by outgoing President Ludwig Janus. It generated considerable concern that the ISPPM, while endorsing the rights of the unborn, was opposing & denying the rights of women to choose an abortion. In other words, by formally publishing the document as a Resolution on its website ISPPM would be endorsing a policy against abortion.

There is a respectful polarizing between ISPPM members who endorse abortion & members who stand against abortion. The problem is that because of the overarching need to fulfill its professional mission:

‘The aim of the ISPPM in research & practice is the improvement of the quality

of life of the human being. The prenatal stage of life represents a unique

opportunity for primary prevention of psychological, emotional & physical

disorders in later life.’,

the question of abortion had simply never actually been directly addressed. The proposed Resolution offered to the membership has brought the question of abortion to the forefront. A specific problem emerged in that the German version of the document differed from the English version. Simon House of theUK, simplified the English document and offered it as a compromise suggesting that a Professional Society like the ISPPM should not publish two different versions of a position paper.

President Linder in an email to the ISPPM Board Members & to National Education Chairpersons brought to our attention ‘the importance to discuss in our society the rights of the unborn children & how we deal or find solutions with the conflict about the rights of women to get abortions – a certainly difficult question’. As Troya & I suggest, should a reasonable solution to this conundrum articulated below, it could profoundly influence a reduction in the polarization between those for & those against abortion worldwide.

Even in the rational, reasonable call for discussion by Dr. Linder, we see the difficulty which can arise in translation. In his quote above, we see the words ‘unborn children’. The words ‘Prenatal Children’ in the title of the Budapest Resolution below are clearly anti-abortion. The neutral word in English would be simply ‘the unborn’. The word ‘children’ could suggest that the unborn is already ‘a child’, therefore a human being, and if aborted, a murdered human being. We do not know Dr. Linder’s position for or against abortion but the authors of the Resolution are clearly against abortion. We only point out that the words ‘unborn children’ or ‘prenatal children’ suggest support for the sincere, anti-abortion polarized group which believes that life of ‘the child’ begins at conception.

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It also is important to recognize that Ludwig Janus did not suddenly put this document to the members for approval. This Resolution about the Rights of the Unborn has been on the ISPPM website www.isppm.de for three years. We urge you to go to the website & read the proposal for a Resolution which was to be presented at the XVI International ISPPM Congress in Heidelberg 2005. Ludwig Janus was fulfilling this directive. We take the liberty to quote from the Introduction to:

Budapest Resolution 2002

Towards a resolution on ‘The emotional rights of prenatal children & newborn babies                  A proposal for a resolution of the ISPPM in Heidelberg 2005

                                                          By Gaby Stroecken & Rien Verdult

“Introduction.

The ISPPM (International Society of Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine) is a scientific interdisciplinary society of which the main goal is to draw attention to the field of human development, especially the prenatal and perinatal stages of life. The ISPPM also wants to promote primary prevention of physical & mental disorder in man.

It is from this perspective that the ISPPM board has decided to organize a worldwide discussion platform on the human rights of the prenatal and newborn child. Scientific research and psychotherapeutic findings have shown that human life begins in the womb. The prenate has a psyche and that it is very sensitive for outside influences.”

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This is correct, – human life begins in the womb. But, again, we have another conundrum with semantics in the words ‘… human life begins in the womb.’ Perhaps an analogy would be illustrative: Planting a seed in a garden will result in a plant growing and producing a bloom. But, it would not be correct to call a seed a bloom. In the same way, does it seem imprudent to declare a fetal mass or even a fetus, a human being implying that a human ‘psyche’ is fully functioning in the mother’s womb? This question is certainly open for discussion.

Is There Fetal Pain?

As most people, including a majority of Catholics, are for a woman’s right to abortion, a proposed law in theUSAbeing advocated by anti-abortion advocates is that doctors must tell a pregnant woman that the fetus can feel pain beginning from conception, and, that if she is considering abortion she is causing the fetus pain. The Wednesday, August 24, 2005 edition of the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) offered a scientific review of questions about fetal brain development. Researchers at theUniversityofCalifornia,San   Franciscoreviewed dozens of studies & medical reports. It wrote that ‘the data indicate that fetuses likely are incapable of feeling pain until brain development around the seventh month of pregnancy, when they are about 28 weeks old’.

A Whole-Self Hypothesis

At our Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute, we accepted Dr. Linder’s suggestion for discussion by dividing the question into three parts:

a)    What are the rights of the unborn?

b)    What are the rights of the pregnant woman?

c)    To what degree can intelligent discussion protect the rights of both.

Because rights can be suggestive instead of objective for both unborn & the pregnant woman, we thought it best to focus at the third part – how to protect mutual rights.

It seems important to be clear about two words. It is very simple to say the rights of ‘an unborn’ and the rights of ‘a mother’. In semantics ‘mother’ is a charged word. We realize that there are those who would say that from the moment of conception the woman’s identity is transformed from ‘woman’ to ‘mother’. This brought us to a discovery we had made guiding people through our Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix©. We offer this information in the form of a question’:

What if a woman is already pregnant with the consciousness

of a baby before physical conception?

In over 20,000 cases worldwide, we discovered that baby’s consciousness is not miraculously created at the moment of conception. We discovered that baby’s pre-existing consciousness is energetically attracted to its future mother, at varying lengths of time, extending sometimes even years, before she is physically pregnant. We have written about a colleague, near Milton Keynes in theUK, who had a dream about a little girl introducing herself as a new daughter. The husband had had a vasectomy. It had reconnected & the little girl was born two years later. For brevity, in this document, we also suggest that, at least in spirit, most women do to not consider themselves ‘a mother’, with all the commitments & responsibilities that role implies, until she holds her baby in her arms.

This discussion document is based on our paper presented in the International Journal of Prenatal and Perinatal Studies (1990) pages 241—243. As it is interesting that the following Introduction makes note of national historical changes in politics and consciousness sweeping the world in the last half of the 1980s, some 25 years ago, we thought it appropriate to keep them in this presentation because they illustrate the possibilities for extreme positions to change in unimagined ways.

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INTRODUCTION

The planet is in transformation! Nowhere in all the galaxies has redemption and rebirth so astounded so many. In the eastern galaxy led by the USSR, Poland, Czechoslovakia, East Germany, Hungaryhave each delivered its people in a natural if long overdue birth of liberation. Romaniahad a week-long bloody labor and Chinawas stillborn. In keeping with the Law of Opposition, Socialism has Democratized and Democracy has Socialized. We are on the path to an androgynous world of personal empowerment. The keynote to this shift of consciousness was visioned by Mikhail Gorbachev in his 1987 book Perestroika:

 

‘People, human beings with all their creative diversity are the makers of history.

So, the initial task of restructuring — an indispensable condition, necessary if it

is to be successful — is to ‘wake up’  those people who have ‘fallen asleep’ and

make them truly active and concerned, to ensure that everyone feels as if he is

the master of his country, of his enterprise, office or institute.  This is the main  thing.’

While nations & peoples ofEastern Europe, as proclaimed by Mikhail Gorbachev, are evolving toward more personal empowerment, the West has become more regressed through religious ideological positions which reduce personal empowerment. Religious conflict has embroiled us in one of the most painfully wrenching ethical conflicts paradoxically concentrated on the first frontier of human life — conception through birth. It is not, as some anti-abortionists have militantly declaimed, a battle between life and death – ‘pro-life’ & murder. It can actually be looked at as a much more benign yet just as meaningful issue. We suggest it is an issue of empowerment — of personal empowerment.

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Our search for a middle way

In November 1989, as Master of Ceremonies in the lecture hall at the Mind-Body-Spirit Festival atDarlingHarbor,Sydney,Australia, I introduced Mr. Richard Jones, Australian Parliamentarian. Later, Mr. Jones asked my advice addressing his concern about the forthcoming Parliamentary abortion debate. He was seeking information which he could use in bringing reason and compassion into his speech. Some of the ideas we discussed are appropriate to this discussion paper & are set out below.

Some Facts About Pregnancy

In human reproduction, medical studies show that between 50% to 75% of all pregnancies end in spontaneous abortion. Does this mean that Mother Nature, the Universe, big ‘G’ or little ‘g’ god, whoever or whatever people believe may or may not control such events, are mass murderers? Of course not! The question is who has the power. It is prudent and wise to separate religious tenets from biological realities. Religionist of many faiths give the power to an exalted external authority – big ‘G’ God; biologically, scientifically oriented proponents give the power to scientific theory and fact – little ‘g’ god. We suggest a middle way; a possibility in which power is given to the person whose body, mind, emotions and spirit is a vessel for new gestating life.

We shared with Mr. Jones that sometimes, in a sense, birth & death can be in a mystical dance. Sometimes the joy of pregnancy does end in death. We shared the following points:

1)    In early stages of gestation, the fetal mass which has been part of the future

mother’s body detaches from the wall of the womb & is expelled.

This called a spontaneous abortion.

Often women are not even aware they were pregnant unless they happen

to see the fetal mass in the WC toilet.

2)    In later stages of pregnancy, after the fetus, that part of the future mother’s body,

has developed beyond a few months, it can detach from the womb

& is expelled from her body. This is called a miscarriage.

3)    At term (9 months), when the normal, fully developed part of the future mother’s

body has sufficiently matured, it is expelled from her body.

When the little body is incapable of breathing on its own stillbirth occurs.

4)    Unexplained cot or crib death can occur up to a year after birth.

In this tragic situation the baby is found dead in bed with no apparent

cause even after extensive investigation.

All the above medical events can be viewed solely as heartbreaking human disasters. The psychiatrist Viktor E. Frankel, survivor of Nazi death camps, believed that one way to transcend human tragedy is to understand its meaning. One possible way of grasping the meaning of such loss of progeny is to realize the spiritual nature of those events.

Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education offers the following hypothesis:

For ease of recognizing & understanding the testimony of the thousands who have

explored their prebirth dimension of consciousness through their PAM© history,

for ease of understanding, we offer this information in the first person “I” .

1)    If I acknowledge that there is a part of my consciousness which continues to exist

in an ongoing sequence of lifetimes (reincarnation) for the purpose of balancing

unresolved emotional patterns or realities, this hypothesis is very logical

in my search for meaning.

2)     Following this hypothesis, when I died resisting feelings which I did not like feeling,

I needed to release myself from those reactive feelings & beliefs.

3)     Since those patterns were created in this 3-dimensional world, I need

to come back into this world to do that.

4)     Before conception, my consciousness is energetically attracted & drawn into

the energy field of my future mother’s consciousness – who is experiencing

those same feeling patterns I died resisting feeling.

 

5)     It is important to recognize that my consciousness is not the fetal mass growing

in the womb of my future mother.

6)     My consciousness is energetically attracted to those parents who potentially

offer me the possibility of having those resisted feeling patterns activated

after I am born.

7)     But what happens if at some point, as part of mother’s consciousness,

I realize that  the potential, which was the original energetic attraction

to her, has changed?

What if my prebirth consciousness recognizes that I will not get the experiences

my consciousness needs to have activated for my growth, development

& evolution?

8)     If that awareness, that I will not get what I need for my growth, development

& evolution happens early in the pregnancy, my consciousness withdraws

from mother’s consciousness, & those specialized cells of the fetus

developing as an extension in her womb are no longer necessary

& so are released from her body.

9)     When that little body, which mother’s body was beginning to grow for me to use

after birth, is no longer needed & is released from mother’s body.

This is called a spontaneous abortion.

  9)   Later in the pregnancy, if my consciousness realizes I will not get what I need

for my growth, development & evolution it withdraws from mother’s

consciousness.  This is called a miscarriage.

10)   At birth, if my consciousness realizes I will not get what I need for my growth,

development & evolution, it withdraws from mother’s consciousness

but does not enter to animate the little body which her body has grown for me

to use after birth.  This is called a stillbirth.

11)  And, within a year after birth, if my consciousness realizes I will not get what

I need for my growth, development & evolution, my consciousness leaves

that little body. This is called cot or crib death.

12)   If nature provides all those rights for me to cancel my potential life

what rights must nature provide for the potential mother?

This hypothesis, based on over three decades of reports from tens of thousands of participants in their prebirth exploration, helped us to realize again in the first person ’I’, that when I withdraw from my mother’s consciousness (or aura or bioenergetic field), nature has a built-in system for releasing those cells of my potential future mother’s body which no longer serve their intended purpose for me to use after birth.  Therefore, they are simply released out of my future mother’s womb. I do not die. I just wait for the next best potential parents who will offer me the opportunity to grow, develop, mature & evolve by offering me the conditions which reactivate previously unresolved, resisted feeling patterns. This is a frequently reported scenario in Prebirth Memory Recovery

Is Baby’s Consciousness Ever Inside My Future Mother’s Womb?

You may ask how we discovered that the conscious of the baby was residing in a woman’s consciousness. In the 1970’s, I was in Therapy Practice inBeverly Hills,California. At that time, anti-abortion advocates were waging a massive media campaign that any woman who had an abortion had murdered her baby. Very distraught women who had abortions came to our Whole-Self Institute for help. After giving these women the experience that they could project their consciousness inter-dimensionally, we asked the question:

Please allow your Whole-Self to let you connect with

any human consciousness within your womb?

Every one of them opened their eyes in surprise saying, “There is none!”

That was an amazing moment of healing for those women. But, most importantly, I discovered that the consciousness of baby is not in the womb, but in the consciousness, the bio-energetic or bio-plasmic field – the aura – of the pregnant woman. The little body growing in her womb is her body, her blood supply, her oxygen, her nutrients.

For years, it has been natural to for us to accept the four part model of being of which each of us is composed – the physical, the mental, the emotional & the spiritual. Two questions emerge from this awareness.  When does that four part nature begin? & At what point does baby attain those four parts?  Our discovery to both questions is that the four part nature synergizes when the first breath enters the little body at birth.

What we observe is that when people ascribe a full four part nature to a fetus, it is natural to also ascribe full human consciousness to that fetus. The answer to the second question can be meaningful. What we have discovered is that while mother’s body is growing that little body in her womb area, the mental, emotional & spiritual aspects of the baby are not in her womb but in her consciousness. If that is so than the whole way of perceiving a baby can be changed. Weather by spontaneous abortion or by clinical abortion, when the little physical body is released from her womb, the mental, emotional & spiritual aspects of baby do not die. They still exist. They simply separate from the potential mother’s consciousness before – in spontaneous abortion or after  – in clinical abortion & move back into the dimension of consciousness from where it existed until the next potential mother appears. So, the point is that if the fetus, from the moment of conception, is composed of all four aspects it can be considered a full human being. However, if the mental, emotional & spiritual aspects are not in the physical fetus, but in mother’s consciousness, then there is no murder in an abortion.

One argument anti-abortion advocates make is research which shows an unborn recoiling from or even batting an amniocentesis needle intruding into the womb. They say that this proves that the unborn has complete awareness & consciousness of impending threat or danger. This is an emotionally charged interpretation. But, if our discovery that the consciousness of the baby is in the potential mother’s consciousness and not in her womb is correct, we can view that recoil in another way. What we suggest is that it is not the baby which is recoiling but the natural reaction of the woman to an invasion of her most intimate physical self. An illustration would be that if she perceives a threat to her a physical body she would act to deflect that object with her hand, arm or foot. She would make use of the appendage closest to the threat. We suggest that in observation of the fetus recoiling to a needle, it is not a conscious baby volitionally acting in self-defense, but the part of the potential mother’s body most proximately at risk to what her consciousness perceives as physical danger. In other words, at a moment of perceived attack, a woman does not think about and then decide what the best defense action would be. The part of her body closest to the perceived attack would act instinctively. This is what we suggest happens to the part of her body which is growing in the womb.

Prenatal Gestalt

In our Whole-Self Practice, we have found that when a woman knows that it is not appropriate for her to have a baby, it is possible for her to talk, in a gestalt, with the baby’s consciousness. When she explains to the baby residing in her consciousness that she cannot have a baby at the time & asks it to leave, some baby’s consciousnesses leave & within 24 to 48 hours she has a spontaneous abortion. Sometimes, though, a less evolved baby’s consciousness refuses to leave. It is then that the woman has the opportunity to invoke her natural law right to release that pregnancy from her body through a clinical abortion. PAM participants sometimes report that having voluntarily, or through abortion, left the potential mother’s consciousness, they have come back to that same woman to whom they were first energetically attracted & are born through her.

Adoption

As mentioned, the consciousness of the baby is energetically attracted to its future mother. This attachment does not suddenly end with birth. It takes about 7 years of growth, development & evolution for both baby & mother to reach ‘individuation’. During gestation, baby’s consciousness is experiencing the consciousness of her/his future mother to whom she/he has been energetically attracted. Sometimes the future mother, because of circumstances in her life, after birthing is unable to keep her baby. Because the consciousness of the baby has resided in the future mother’s consciousness for at least nine months, & sometimes even longer, baby is aware of her attitude towards the pregnancy. If the mother has been loving & welcoming before & after birth, baby is aware of her welcoming attitude. At or shortly after birth, when separation from the birth mother takes place, the consciousness of the child is able to move into the adoptive parents consciousness with minimal disruption. This child, through gentle &
affectionate bonding, adapting to the consciousness of the new loving & welcoming adoptive parents grows, develops, matures & evolves in normal patterns of life.

Reactive Attachment Disorder

But, sometimes there are situations where the child is incapable of adapting to the adopting mother’s consciousness. Through our work in Reactive Attachment Disorder, we see that these afflicted children are often ‘fighting for survival’ against even especially caring & loving foster or adoptive parents. This child can go into extremely diminishing & destructive anti-social behavior if during gestation, in the consciousness of the future birth mother, the baby is aware of the animosity & rejection the future birth mother is feeling towards her pregnancy. This child is aware that the future birthing mother wants to be rid of this ‘thing’ invading her, as soon as possible. The child, aware of her/his birth mother’s or father’s rejection or even life threatening behavior such as physical, mental emotional or spiritual abuse or attempted abortion, go into ‘strategies for survival’. The child is not reacting against loving & caring adoptive parents. The child is still energetically trapped in the rejecting & life threatening consciousness of the birth parents. Unable to distinguish between birth parents & adoptive parents, they are acting out revenge against birth parents who threatened their very existence. Trapped in that terror trance, RAD children are incapable of appropriately perceiving & therefore attaching or bonding to new loving & caring adoptive parents. It is all multi-dimensional dysfunction.

Abortion Survivor Death Threat Reaction

John C. Sonne has done considerable research in what he terms ‘abortion survivors’. These are people, one or both of whose parents had even a fleeting thought of an abortion. Abortion survivors also can be people who survived a failed attempted clinical abortion. For anti-abortion advocates, Sonne’s work proves that there is a full human consciousness experiencing & remembering the prebirth death threat terror.  Whole-Self Psychology suggests that Sonne’s work shows the multi-dimensional aspects of human consciousness. We hypothesize that the consciousness of the baby is not inside the future mother’s womb but in her consciousness. In this non-physical residency, baby’s mental/emotional bodies are being educated by the future mother’s thoughts & feelings. So, when baby goes into survival mode of ‘death threat reaction’ it is not from a separate human consciousness inside the woman’s womb but by baby’s consciousness residing and experiencing the potential mother’s reaction & revulsion to pregnancy in her mind & emotions – her consciousness. Locked in the trauma trance belief that the death threat is still happening, the birth mother is the person the abortion survivor is reacting against.

Creation is basically a logic system. If nature provides my consciousness for a new life all the above mentioned opportunities to withdraw from my prebirth intention, what withdrawal rights must it offer to a pregnant woman? By natural law, nature must offer her the same rights to end an unwanted pregnancy if she realizes that motherhood is not an appropriate path for her growth, development & evolution at any particular time.

 

Being Wanted

Both Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh in behave of the ISPPM  & Thomas R. Verny in behave of

APPPAH clearly have spoken out about the tragedy of being born unwanted & the urgency of all babies to wanted & welcomed.

Sigrid Westermann, Whole-Self Co-Director forGermany, offers some cogent questions:

‘Does it make sense to look for the most possible rights for an unborn

& at the same time to ignore the needs of the woman?

What will happen after that unwanted child is born?

How will the mother, who having been against that unborn, react toward her or him

when her feelings & her situation during the pregnancy were ignored?

 For most unwanted children it forebodes the hell of earth!’

We understand that people can view spontaneous abortions, miscarriages, still births & cot or crib deaths as human tragedies; but there is equal tragedy for some who must resort to clinical abortion. We must have love, compassion & empathy for all parties.

In conclusion, we trust that the above information may help to release some of the extreme polarization of both camps regarding abortion. We trust that both extremes can come to a middle way of understanding the inter-dimensional aspects of life & abortion. As the consciousness of the baby is not inside the future mother’s womb but in her consciousness, the question of death in an abortion becomes mute. Abortion is not about life or death; good or evil; righteousness or sinfulness saviors or murderers. The issue is simply a recognition of the cosmic rights, on an equal level, of the potential baby and the potential mother to agree to or to cancel the potential birth in a way which is mutually harmonious & respectful of the spiritual, evolutionary development of both baby & woman. This is personal empowerment of the highest cosmic order! We welcome your response to this discussion paper addressed to Jon RG Turner at Whole-Self@quicknet.nl .

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Violence & Pregnancy:
A Whole-Self Psychology Perspective
2001
By Jon RG & Troya GN Turner (Doctoral Candidates)

ABSTRACT
This paper focuses on violence as pathology occurring primarily during pregnancy and explains the resulting impact on one’s life, using Whole-Self Psychology & Educational philosophy and principles. It addresses this specific theme, and does not include the violence found in some medical birth procedures, or violence generated by gender. This paper is based upon a presentation by the authors in March, 2001, at the OMAEP [World Organization of Prenatal Education] & ANEP [Association of National Prenatal Education] Congress in Puerto laCruz,Venezuela. entitled “Violence & Pregnancy.” This congress brought together leading experts from South and North America, andEurope, many of whom are also members of APPPAH. Saddam Hussein John C. Sonne strikes our keynote; Hussein’s mother attempted suicide when she was seven months pregnant with Saddam, and she tried to kill him by bumping her stomach against the wall. Saddam’s father had died just before that, and another sibling had died around this same time. So this was the prenatal environment prior to Saddam’s birth in April, 1937: an abortion minded and attempting to abort suicidal mother, no father, and the death of a sibling. (2002) INTRODUCTION Whole-Self Psychology Philosophy and Education postulates that: All experiences enter the realm of violence the instant respect is breached. This includes any and all forms of disrespect that may occur during the prenatal/inter-uterine dialogue experience. It is important to understand how these issues and dynamics contribute to violence as pathology and the significant impact it has on one’s life. Case histories illustrating typical trauma will be given as examples. We will also address how the Whole-Self Psychology Therapy is used to help heal these disasters and traumas.

Jon RG (formerly John-Richard) & Troya GN Turner are pioneers in Prebirth Memory RecoveryΣ – Prebirth Analysis MatrixΣ or PAMΣ. Co-Founders & Co-Directors of Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute, Inc., International, they have presented Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy and Education in thirty countries. They are ISPPM Life Members; JRG is an ISPPM Board Member and had been twice elected a VP. He is a co-editor of the IJPPPM and English language co-ordinator for the Neuroendocrinology Letters Medical Journal. The Turners are members of APPPAH; Honorary Members of both the Association for National Educazione Prenatale:Italia and the Russian Association of Perinatal Psychology & Medicine and members of The Scientific & Medical Network. They have over 40 papers and articles published worldwide. Communication: W-SDDI, Waterrad 92, 1613 CR Grootebroek, The Netherlands Telephone (31) 228 513 630 Email: Whole-Self@quicknet.nl Web: http://www.Whole-Self.info

HISTORICAL PERSPECTIVE ON WOMB LIFE & THE ORIGINS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
The idea of the once blissful womb proposed by Sandor Ferenzi (1913) inBudapest,Hungary has long ago been disproved. After Ferenzi, analyst Gustav Hans Graber, MD (1924), Founder of the International Study Society in Prenatal Psychology, pushed back the consciousness curtain by advocating that children experience pre-birth and well as post birth memories. Sigmund Freud (1918) developed the theoretical superstructure that inspired Otto Rank, but then reversed himself. It was Rank, MD (1924), who was the first to actually advocate and develop the psychiatric theoretical framework connecting trauma with birth. Nandor Fodor (1949) topped off Rank’s trauma theory by describing the consecutive stages of development theorized by Rank. Over a quarter of a century ago, Dutch analyst, M. Lietaert Peerbolte (1975) integrated a reposing consciousness before conception theory and the accepted analytical approach. His search questioned the etiology of consciousness and what we know. In the early 1970s, the authors of this paper pioneered Prebirth Memory Therapy (Turner, 1988; Turner & Turner, 1993) to gently recover and release traumas, including those that were violent, experienced by mother during her pregnancy. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh (1993) exhorts us to remember that the prenatal stage of life in the mother’s consciousness and womb is our first ecological position as human beings. This is our first human encounter where we, as children, found ourselves involved in a creative dialogue with our mothers and their biological, psychological and social environment. The nature and quality (peaceful, loving, nurturing, hostile, violent) of that dyadic relationship and dialogue will have a profound effect on the health and well being outcome for that unborn child after birth.

UNDERSTANDING VIOLENCE
As stated above, Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy, and Education postulates that: All experiences enter the realm of violence the instant respect is breached. This includes any and all forms of disrespect that may occur during the prenatal/inter-uterine dialogue experience. What if that pregnant dialogue is filled with verbal or physical abuse? Understanding how such abuse contributes to violence as pathology, and its resulting impact on one’s life, is critical if effective change and healing are to occur. In order to discuss violence and pregnancy, it is helpful to establish a mutual understanding to the meaning of the word, violence. According to Webster’s Dictionary (1986, Ottenheimer Publishers) the word violence is derived from the Latin violentus, which means force. Adjunct words to violence are the verb, to violate, and the adjective, violent. To violate means to profane, to treat with disrespect, to break, to transgress. There is not much emotional charge or hormonal response to these definitions. The word violent is more potent. Violent means acting with or characterized by physical force of strength, especially unlawfully so, or, produced by force (e.g. death, end). Violent can also have an emotional component. It can mean moved by strong feeling, passionate, intense (e.g. pain). These two words can evoke more emotions in us as they lead us to our focus word, which is violence. Webster says violence is the quality of being violent, force, or intensity. Within this definition, Webster leads us to vehemence, unjust force, outrage, profanation, injury, rape. These words are more potent and evoke intense emotional, and resulting hormonal, responses in us. In this document, we will be equating the word trauma with the word violence. Two other word concepts that will be used herein are diminishing in place of negative, and enhancing, to mean positive or affirming. ATTACHMENT & BONDING & THE BRAIN Thomas Verny. MD (2001), describes EXPERIENCE as the chief architect of the brain. Alan Schore, PhD (1996, 1997), defines attachment as a REGULATORY PROCESS in brain development, which determines its developmental and functional outcome. In his research, Bruce Lipton, PhD (2001), has found that experience and perception are the key factors in determining genetic and DNA outcome as relates to cellular function and memory, and relates this to the father influence/input. When the experience prenatally, as well as postnatally, is violent, then the brain develops in a different way. It becomes”wired,” for survival and responds to all life experiences, including those that are non-violent, from the fight, flight, or freeze mode, activating the adrenals and secreting the related adrenocorticosteroids and other neurohormones in response to the real or perceived danger (Perry, Pollard, Blakely, Baker & Vigilante, 1995; Perry, 1997; Schore, 1996; Schore, 1997). The FIRST Whole-Self Principle says: I cannot change something until I know what needs to be changed. From the Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy and Education perspective, VIOLENCE, itself, while abhorrent in its various shades, may not be the problem. Whole-Self Psychology suggests that violence, when connected with anger, is a learned behavior (Turner, 1990). We also suggest that the problem of violence is not the violence but the hormonal addiction created when the fight, flight, or freeze mechanism is triggered. It is this hormonal addiction which locks people into violent behavior in order to get the hormonal addiction satisfied. This happens on both sides. The violator gets a charge of adrenaline, noradrenaline, and a cocktail of other addictive hormones, resulting in a hormonal hit. The victim, because of the danger, also experiences a hormonal hit.

This may explain why abused women often attack their police rescuers and refuse to prosecute their violators. Whole-Self Psychology also proposes that when physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual violence occurs during pregnancy, the hormonal saturation gets passed through the placenta and does two things: 1) The danger hormones , adrenalin, noradrenaline, cortosol, etc., have a damaging and diminishing effect on baby’s brain and neurological development, and 2) The danger hormones addict baby to the same addictive substances which are afflicting mother. In Whole-Self Psychology, therapy starts by discovering the beginning of the emotional life of the client. These patterns are called the emotional DNAΣ [eDNA] (Turner & Turner, 1995). Through a questionnaire, consisting of 22 sets of questions, the client discovers the source of their emotional feelings, their eDNA, and the source of the reactions which they have experienced all through life. The questionnaire is called the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix or PAM (Turner, 1988). Case Example: Adrenaline to survive instead of living a life! Masochism and sado-masochism are often traceable to prenatal trauma.

This is evident in the case of Olivia, a 50 year old woman whose life pattern exhibits the belief that “Pain equals love!” The “pain = love” patterns had been active in her parents’ relationship during their pregnancy with her. World War II had begun, and her father was sent to the Russian Front during this pregnancy. In her Prebirth Analysis Matrix (PAM), Olivia sensed that in the 5th month of pregnancy her mother was tense, nervous and anxious. A message arrived that her father will not return home – he had been captured at the Russian Front and shipped toRussia for the duration of the war. When her mother got this devastating news she experienced despair and shock, sadness and insecurity. She felt abandoned and forsaken. During the PAM process, Olivia recognized these as very familiar feelings in her own life. Recovering control, her mother determined to not give up. She retreated into herself as she realized that now she had to have trust only in herself . She was responsible for all her children and must take their care into her own hands. Olivia also recognized this responsibility position in her own life as she was recalling this information. Five years later, her father returned home. The trauma was resolved for her mother, but not for four-and-one-half-year-old Olivia. She was still locked in the reality [her belief] that her father had abandoned her. Olivia is still emotionally arrested at the prenatal age (infantile) when the trauma occurred. As a result of this prenatal experience, Olivia has had the belief that men who love her abandon her, and, therefore, does not trust them to care for her, as much as she wants to have that happen. The distancing of herself from men, the want/need to be taken care of and the need to control for survival has been a familiar infantile trance pattern in her relationships, activating the survival [fight, flight, freeze] hormones. Olivia is now working to resolve the conflicts of not trusting men, the want/need to be taken care of, and needing to be in control. IN other words, she is no longer locked in pain = love; She is developing experience that pleasure = love.

The Whole-Self Four Laws of Life In Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy, and Education, there are four basic laws that define how overwhelming, diminishing patterns (negative thoughts/beliefs) come into existence, dominate one’s life, and continue to perpetuate the early prenatal trauma:
1) The Law of Opposition Whatever I am opposed to … I have to experience!

2) The Law of Confirmation Whatever I really believe about myself, I will keep proving to myself!

3) The Law of Decisions Whatever I decide creates my future!

4) The Law of Repetition Whatever I don’t learn, I have to repeat

How many times have I said I would never do something? The more I am opposed to something, the stronger I experience it. On a non-conscious level, when I resist what I am opposing, I make it stronger and more powerful, and, as a result, make judgments against myself. These self-judgment words are relegated to the unconscious and are reflected through such concepts as: Unlovable Unimportant Worthless Unfulfilled Unworthy Worthless Unacceptable Unsupportable Not Good Enough Inferior Inappropriate Irresponsible Guilty Bad Wicked Terrible Horrible Dirty Disgusting Despicable Dumb Stupid Inept Incapable Incompetent Inadequate Incomplete Unrecognized Insecure Helpless Hopeless Powerless After making any of these non-conscious self-judgments against myself, non-conscious diminishing decisions are also made. For those of us who were held upside down at birth and slapped on the bottom by a male doctor, common decisions can be: “Men hurt me!” “Men are dangerous!”

CASE EXAMPLE
Not wanting to be pregnant can lead to another form of violence in pregnancy To be wanted or not to be wanted? That is the true question! Cecile presents insecurity, a pattern carried down generations from her grandmother, mother, and aunt. Cecile is living with a partner who is eight years older. He is proud to have a relationship with “the beautiful young women.” Looking well is important for Cecile, but this creates a conflict in her when she wants to become pregnant. She fears she will lose her slim appearance. There are also issues of anorexia nervosa present in her life. This need for slimness is not just Cecile’s problem. This conflict is mirrored by her partner, who also wants a child, but does not want Cecile to grow fat. Cecile’s slim appearance is the cover-up for their co-dependent lives. Two emotionally violating traumas that were experienced during her own gestation left Cecile to deal with the question: “Do I give away my own life in order to survive?” The paradox is, ‘How can I live my life when I give it away?

In her Prebirth Analysis Matrix, Cecile discovered two traumas her mother experienced: One in the 1st month and the other in the 7th month of her pregnancy. In the 1st month of the, as yet unrecognized pregnancy, her mother discovered that her father was fooling around with other women. “It is not serious,” he would say as he went with another woman to a bar and arrived home late at night. The next day at work, although doing her job, mother felt loneliness, insecurity, fear, abandonment, and betrayal. She judged herself to be unworthy, worthless, dumb, stupid, not good enough, incapable, incomplete, helpless, hopeless, and powerless. She felt deep shame but kept up appearances, and tried to hide the sadness she was feeling. Mother determines that life is a burden, so she will just take care of her husband and he will love her, a one-sided and non-communicated contract. In the 7th month of pregnancy, mother was at a party with friends and felt uncomfortable because of her pregnancy. Her bulging belly made her feel unattractive and misplaced. In looking for her husband, mother found him behind a closed door kissing another women. She was suffused with pain and rage and declared, “I want to leave the party with or without him, just leave! This baby will be born with or without a father!” Father kissed the other women again and said that it did not mean anything, that mother was over-reacting. Mother left the party in despair, finally realizing she could no longer trust her husband! The tragedy was that because of her rage, her utter helplessness, hopelessness and powerlessness in relation to the father of her child, this mother took revenge on her daughter by becoming a child beater and abuser, including forcing Cecile under a cold shower whenever she wet her pants. In her therapy Cecile has worked to heal identified self-judgments and diminishing decisions that resulted from her prenatal experience, and is working to change her attitude towards her abusive mother.

According to the second of the Ten Commandments (Chapter 20 Verse 5 Hebrew Bible) the sins [i.e., trauma patterns] of the fathers can be passed down through four sons before they are released. Rhonda Howard Corio informs us seven generation in the Native American Tradition before they are released . Sigrid Westermann of Hamburg, Germanyhas also studied the influence of previous generations on prenatal patterns (1996, 2000). Related to this, Sauci Bosner, ofAmsterdam, The Netherlands, is a world authority working with KZ – Konzentration Kamp Syndromen . Sauci is using Whole-Self therapy in working with fourth generation KZ survivors who exhibit prison camp syndrome. This syndrome originated before the concentration camps of the Third Reich of Nazi Germany and the Japanese during WW II. These camps were creations of the British Government during the Boer War inSouth Africa.

CASE EXAMPLE: Anna, aged 39, is a woman and mother who represents two generations of trauma. She encoded the traumas of her mother, and then froze them within the birth trauma she experienced in the delivery of her two sons [now of preschool age]. By doing this she passed the trauma on to them and reinforced it by naming them WIND and STORM. She has stunted her sons’ psychological development by constantly reminding them of the pain they caused her during the pregnancies and births. Her intention was to NOT allow her boys to grow beyond the violence of their names. Anna made two suicide attempts within a six months period of time. She was drinking three to six bottles of beer daily, smoking two to three packs of cigarettes per day, and using cocaine when available. After starting a new study in Information Technology and meeting a man with whom she is developing a relationship with him, Anna came to work with Sauci. She had two goals she wanted to achieve in therapy: 1) I want to finish something for the first time in my life! (referring to her IT study) 2) I don’t want to make the same mistakes in this relationship which have destroyed my relationships in the past.

Through her PAM session, Anna experienced her mother’s internment in a Japanese Prison Camp. Conditions in those Far East Camps were just as horrendous as in the Nazi Konzentration Kamps. Anna discovered that her mother had been sexually abused by her biological father and semi-abandoned by her biological mother in the Jappen Kampe. Upon liberation, Anna’s mother was reunited with a Dutch school friend, who later became her husband. The two returned toHollandand started a family, having five other children prior to Anna’s s conception and birth. Her mother’s trauma happened years before Anna was conceived and born. Yet, the trauma trance which locked into mother during her imprisonment years still had an affect on Anna’s life. From the Whole-Self Psychology point of view, we say that, years later, Anna, emotionally like her mother, was destructively living as if she were still in that Japanese prison camp. Of her five siblings, Anna was the child who most precisely replicated her mother’s survival behaviors from the Japanese imprisonment. What were the prebirth emotional patterns and behaviors Anna received as a psycho/spiritual inheritance from her mother? During the pregnancy with Anna, her mother smoked two to three packages of cigarettes per day and exhibited a pattern of alcohol abuse, which still continues. Her mother took painkillers throughout the pregnancy with Anna, and was in labor for 32 hours before she was born. After delivery, her mother lost two liters of blood. Because of this medical crisis, Anna was not placed on her mother’s breast to nurse. She was isolated from both her mother and father until the next day. Bonding did not occur. Anna also told Sauci that she had lost her virginity at the age of 11 years. She had been raped while living in a squatter’s community inAmsterdam. This replicated her mother’s sex and survival life in the Japanese prison camp when she was also in puberty and entering adolescence.

After having discovered the source of her self-destructive behaviors as replicating her mother’s history, Anna chose to take a break from therapy to process what she had learned thus far. As a consequence, she is still living a life of Wind and Storm. Anna’s case illustrates that simply becoming aware of traumas does not release them. This is where therapy actually begins.

A COMPUTER ANALOGY
How do mother’s feelings become symbiotically encoded in my new consciousness? An analogy to explain the encoding process is to imagine that mother is a desktop personal computer and the preonate is a laptop notebook connected to mother. As this little baby body grows and develops in utero, it is basically functional by the end of the first trimester. This is why some micro-premature infants can survive in NICU, even as young as 4 months gestation and weighing at l pound (450 grams) or less. The second and third trimesters are, in general, practice and rehearsal time so that at birth the little body has is computerese – a warm start.

Here is a hypothesis supported by research conducted by Russian Prof. Grigori I. Brekhman (2000) : (Given in the first person for ease of understanding.)

1)Just as my little unborn body, as part of mother’s body, is being educated

during the second and third trimester so that it can function independently after birth,

2) My emotional/mental body is likewise being educated. (My eDNA)

3) My emotional/mental consciousness resides in my mother’s energy field and becomes educated through her feelings and attitudes. This is necessary for putting the whole life I will live into perspective. I need this emotional/mental training in order to experience and to resolve my own challenging emotional/mental patterns after birth. Italian researcher, Gino Soldera (2002) calls this the Individual Life Project.

4) I experience my mother’s enhancing or diminishing feeling patterns and continually experience life through her thoughts and feelings. They become the emotional basis or foundation through which I interpret and respond, or react, to in my new life. In other words, as my mother experiences her emotions and her mind, while residing in her aura, I am also experiencing them and being educated as to how these feelings and thoughts will potentially function in me after my birth.

In Whole-Self Psychology, this dynamic is described in the following way:
1) Mother’s physical body is the instrument of her experiencing everything that she experiences in this 3-Dimensional world.
2) As mother exercises her emotional/mental bodies, her physical body is effected by specific thought patterns.
3) The stronger mother’s thought and feeling patterns, the more powerful the trigger that can send adrenaline and noradrenaline hormones surging through her body in reaction.
4) That little body is growing as part of her body. As mother has feelings and thoughts, they reactively trigger hormones in her body. Those hormones passing through the connecting placenta are also saturating and encoding the little body with hormones. In the first person again:
5) This is why I can use my body now as a port or threshold — an access to reconstruct my mother’s emotional/mental patterns that dwell within her from the time she was pregnant.

MOTHER & UNBORN CHILD ATTUNEMENT

 
The transmitter (mother) & the receiver (baby) must be attuned to each other. A key to understanding the true nature of violence in pregnancy is to explore the nature of consciousness during pregnancy. At the 13th International Congress of the International Society for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine [ISPPM] held in Cagliari, Sardinia, Italy in June, 2000, Prof. Grigori I. Brekhman, Head of the Obstetrics & Gynecology Department of the State Medical Academy, Ivanovo, Russia, presented a paper entitled, “THE CONCEPTION OF THE MULTIPLE-LEVEL COORDINATED ACTION BETWEEN THE MOTHER AND HER UNBORN CHILD: THE METHODOLOGICAL APPROACH AND THE METHODS OF RESEARCH, ” in which he explained how such dialogue occurs. Prof. Brekhman suggests a multi-level concept of the relationship between mother and her unborn child, which includes these particular emotional / mental aspects. Prof. Brekhman said: Nowadays a lot of data obtained has confirmed the hypothesis that the psycho-emotional inter-relationship between the mother and her unborn child is the reality. … We [Brekhman] offered to examine the mother-unborn child relationships based on the idea of a permanently functioning multiple-level polyphonic system. It has been assumed that, if mother is a multiple-system embracing such levels as biological, energetical, astral, mental, etc, to have intimate and fruitful interplay between her and the unborn, baby must already possess

the same levels beginning with the zygote. Such a methodological approach proved to be fruitful. The subdivision of this system into the various levels is very relevant for baby since it is only able to live and develop harmoniously if all its components properly interact. In this last sentence the word only is the operative word. The significant concept Prof. Brekhman addresses is: if there is a process such as a mother-unborn child dialogue, there needs to exist complementary resonant cohesive media systems in both mother and her baby which can recognize each others messages, e.g. the radio transmitter analogy mentioned above.

In other words, mother and baby must be able to communicate with and understand each other on all levels with the same symbols/language. It is a model which, for 30 years, Whole-Self Psychology had been describing as where symbiosis begins. Whole-Self Psychology has hypothesized that just as each of us is the synthesis of our parent’s genetic coding, which gives us our physical characteristics, there is also a synthesis of the emotional / mental patterns of our parents from the nine months of their pregnancy, our individual eDNA, as mentioned above. This eDNA is precisely the mutuality system which Prof. Brekhman has demonstrated in his laboratory.

ROLE OF PERSONALITY
One of the basic functions of my personality is to keep me from feeling pain. This is why my personality does not want me to remember past traumatic events. Therefore, actual violent events may not remembered, . . . but the feelings I experienced when they happened are remembered. This includes feeling any feelings of violence toward, or by, my mother during her pregnancy, in whatever form they may have happened. One type of violence can be a wished for, or failed, clinical abortion. Abortion survivors are a clearly defined group, according to John C. Sonne, MD (1994a, 1994b, 1996). Dr. Sonne says that even a thought of abortion in mother’s or father’s (through mother’s energy field) emotional bodies is perceived by my developing personality as life threatening. This is not because of my intelligent consciousness, but because of mother’s reactiveness to the thought of abortion and its resonance through our mutual symbiotic energy fields. Dr. Sonne’s landmark analysis of two mass murderers (2000), who profile as possible abortion survivors, is an example of what can result from an unwanted pregnancy, an incomplete abortion. In his analysis of the two boys responsible for theColumbineHigh School [Colorado,USA] massacre in 1999, Sonne hypothesizes that they both bore the clinical profiles of being abortion survivors. Among Sonne’s listed anti-social profile patterns we find the second Whole-Self Law of Life, Self-judgment, which, for them, included being outcasts, unwelcome, unloved, undeserving, unlovable, unattractive, and worthless. It was the Whole-Self Third Law of Life, the boys’ diminishing decisions, that led to the massacre. A year before that tragic event, one of the boys posted his diminishing decisions on a website: “I don’t care if I live or die in the shoot-out, all I want to do is kill and injure as many of you pricks as I can, and — god damnit. DEAD PEOPLE DON’T ARGUE! God damnit, I am pissed!” (Sonne, 2000 Fall; Affidavit: Columbine Shooter Posted Threat on Web April 10, 2001) CNN Web posted at: 3:55 PM EDT (19:55 GMT) Sadly, it is the statistics about the massacre that makes big news: twelve students dead, twenty-four students injured, one teacher dead, and the two shooters suicided. The prebirth dynamics that were the causal factors of their mental / emotional state is not even addressed, much less viewed as tragic or problematic. The pain these 2 two boys experienced within themselves was definitely acted out, causing great pain in their community and to society at large.

Whole-Self Psychology maintains that simultaneously, while my personality makes every attempt to block painful memories to avoid feeling pain, my Whole-Self wants me to remember and release those diminishing memories and feel connected to those patterns I may have encoded into my personality self from my mother. By remembering and non-emotively releasing those memory symbiotic feelings, I come into alignment with my Whole-Self level of enhanced consciousness. For over thirty years, the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix (Turner & Turner, 1991) has demonstrated that each person is the synthesis of the charged emotional/mental patterns that their mother and father experienced during their pregnancies with them.

Through the Whole-Self PAM, everyone is able to discover that they not only have the eDNA synthesis, but also have their mother’s emotional experiences available for recovery. By discovering those memories and recognizing that each of us has been repeating our mother’s patterns, both we and our mothers can be released from them, often at the same time. In releasing or transforming those diminishing patterns of self-judgments and personal decisions I had made early in life, I create the converse of the Four Laws of Life, so that if: I don’t oppose what I am experiencing, I don’t make non-conscious diminishing self-judgments against myself, I don’t make non-conscious diminishing decisions against myself or life, Then . . . I don’t have to Try It Again !! RISING ABOVE !

It is important to remember that trauma patterns are not the only ones that become encoded. Neutral, even enhancing patterns, can be found to overlay the diminishing patterns. It is important to discover these neutral and enhancing patterns and integrate them when resolving the diminishing patterns.

CASE EXAMPLE Psychologist Smilja Janjatovic Pugliesi, a Whole-Self Facilitator inRome,Italy, reported a case in which the mother of her client confirmed every detail the daughter had discovered in her PAM work. The client, Donna, had a growth on her nose. Her mental attitude in life, which in Whole-Self Psychology is called her “reality pattern”, was, “no matter the obstacles, no matter her fear, no matter her fatigue, she would sleep and when she awoke, she had the determination to work through the challenges of her fear”. In her work, Donna discovered that from the third month of pregnancy, her mother’s emotional patterns were the result of the continuing concern about a hard growth on her nose. In her PAM recapitulation, Donna sees her mother at her doctor’s office. The doctor is examining her mother’s nose. She is worried because she doesn’t know what it is. The worry increased. Donna experienced her mother’s feelings of horror and desperation. Donna says, “I have a feeling of hardness – like a rock – and then I fall asleep”. First, Donna experienced some kind of battle to overcome the fear, then fatalism, ‘Things will go as they have to!’ This is a familiar decision for her. Then suddenly, in the regression, Donna said that she can no longer feel or imagine her mother’s emotional reactions. She says, “I fell asleep, so I don’t know. I slept for a while and then I woke up happy, at ease. It was towards the end of the pregnancy. It was dark. And, at first, I felt a bit afraid, but then, even with fatigue, I went ahead, because I needed to see, to check.” Donna’s mother confirmed that this event had happened, and these were the feelings and behaviors she had in the latter part of her pregnancy.

ORIGINS of CONSCIOUSNESS

Where does consciousness come from is one of life’s unfathomable questions. One possibility which comes to mind is reincarnation. Whole-Self calls this possibility the Past Life Dimension of Consciousness (Turner & Turner, 1995). Winafred Blake Lucas (1993) has published a two-volume anthology, Regression Therapy: A Handbook for Professionals, which explores extensively this concept of continuation of consciousness. For over 40 years we have been researching this hypothesis in Whole-Self Psychology.

Our findings show that when a person dies in one of these Past Life Dimensions of Consciousness with charged unresolved emotions, the consciousness is locked into these emotions. Since these emotions were created in this world, the consciousness must come back into this world to activate these emotions in order to resolve them. This process is possible through the concept of Symbiosis.

SYMBIOSIS: are those feeling patterns mother’s or mine?
We propose that symbiosis begins before conception, when my consciousness is energetically attracted to my mother’s consciousness because she and/or my father are feeling the same feelings I was feeling at the time I died in a previous existence. My emotional/mental matriculation takes place in mother’s emotional/mental bodies during the nine months of gestation when my consciousness is attached to my mother’s aura. I am unable to discern my feelings separate from my mother’s feelings. Whole-Self Psychology has discovered that, in therapy sessions where people are emotively acting out birth trauma, what this behavior they are actually expressing is not the memory of their own pain of labor and birth, but the physical as well as emotional/mental resistance patterns of mother’s labor (Turner 1989). Later, this symbiotic magnetism can be acted out in life as psychological symbiosis pathology. When I am unresolved in my prebirth Symbiosis with my mother, I then transfer into co-dependant relationship with others.

The Whole-Self hypothesis is that there are two memory tracks: The cellular memory of that little body growing inside mother’s womb; and The psycho-spiritual memory of my consciousness residing in mother’s consciousness.
1. “I,” my consciousness, my sense of myself, is not inside my mother’s body during gestation, but in her auric field, her consciousness. The memories of trauma which I am able to reconstruct are not just stored in the cellular memory in what will become my body after birth, but are also the remembrances of mother’s emotional/mental bodies simultaneously shared (Symbiotically) by me during her pregnancy and labor.
2. If it is correct to state that everything that mother’s body is experiencing is effecting all the parts of her, including her emotional/mental bodies – then everything she is experiencing is also effecting my developing physical and emotional/mental bodies.
3. Therefore, in psychotherapeutic systems that address birth trauma, what is being reconstructed is not my own, not yet individuated experiences, but the recreation of my mother’s pregnancy and labor pain patterns.
4. If my consciousness was never inside my mother’s body, then there are some very significant hypotheses about emotive therapies in which people are urged to fight to get out of the womb that need to be rethought. Are these therapeutic modalities facilitating and enhancing resolution of trauma or reinforcing the fantasized false memory trauma patterns and further entrenching the adrenaline addictions [“hormone ‘hit'” need] within the person?

VIOLENCE & PREGNANCY & THE MASS MEDIA
Whole-Self suggests two kinds of violence in pregnancy: subjective violence in which I am either the perpetrator or the victim, and objective violence where I am the observer of the violence. Because the very essence of violence is diminishing to the body, mind, emotions and spirit both kinds of violence are damaging. For some 2000 years Mass was a key ceremonial word of the Catholic ritual commemorating the crucifixion throughout the world. Today, the same word, Mass, is also a power word in the consciousness of human communication. While there are many forms of violence, special concern needs to be directed towards the Mass Media and its role in propagating violence in the world. Mass Media is a leading edge factor in the evolution of society. Its impact on pregnant women and their mates is part of the forging factors in the development of the body, mind, emotions and spirit of each future human on earth, and, with the Mier Space Station, possibly including our vast planetary system. Impact of Entertainment Violence on Children The United States has been plagued with children murdering children. In 2001, a 15 year old boy in the State ofFlorida, was sentenced to life imprisonment for murdering a little girl. He said all he was doing was imitating a wrestling move he had seen on television. Her little body could not withstand the action, and she died. (CNN) While shocking, this kind of violence is not unknown to health care professionals, in both mental and physical health fields.

On July 26, 2000, at the United States Congressional Public Health Summit held inWashingtonD.C., The American Academy of Pediatrics and five other prominent medical groups issued a Joint Statement on the Impact of Entertainment Violence on Children, citing the connection between media and violent or aggressive behavior in some children (AmericanAcademyof Pediatrics, 2000). Because Mass Media is such an important factor in the atmosphere of violence, including during the time of pregnancy, their declaration is relevant here: We, the undersigned, represent the public health community. As with any community. there exists a diversity of viewpoints – but with many matters, there is also consensus. Although a wide variety of viewpoints on the import and impact of entertainment violence on children may exist outside the public health community, within it, there is a strong consensus on many of the effects on children’s health, well-being and development. Television, movies, music, and interactive games are powerful learning tools, and highly influential media. The average American child spends as much as 28 hours a week watching television, and typically at least an hour a day playing video games or surfing the Internet. Several more hours each week are spent watching movies and videos, and listening to music.

These media can, and often are, used to instruct, encourage, and even inspire. But when these entertainment media showcase violence – and particularly in a context which glamorizes or trivializes it – the lessons learned can be destructive. There are some in the entertainment industry who maintain that 1) violent programming is harmless because no studies exist that prove a connection between violent entertainment and aggressive behavior in children, and 2) young people know that television, movies, and video games are simply fantasy. Unfortunately, they are wrong on both counts. At this time, well over 1000 studies – including reports from the Surgeon General’s office, the National Institute of Mental Health, and numerous studies conducted by leading figures within our medical and public health organizations – our own members – point overwhelmingly to a causal connection between media violence and aggressive behavior in some children. The conclusion of the public health community, based on over 30 years of research, is that viewing entertainment violence can lead to increases in aggressive attitudes, values and behavior, particularly in children. Its effects are measurable and long-lasting. Moreover, prolonged viewing of media violence can lead to emotional desensitization toward violence in real life.

The effect of entertainment violence on children is complex and variable. Some children will be affected more than others. But while duration, intensity, and extent of the impact may vary, there are several measurable negative effects of children’s exposure to violent entertainment. These effects take several forms. · Children who see a lot of violence are more likely to view violence as an effective way of settling conflicts. Children exposed to violence are more likely to assume that acts of violence are acceptable behavior. · Viewing violence can lead to emotional desensitization towards violence in real life. It can decrease the likelihood that one will take action on behalf of a victim when violence occurs. · Entertainment violence feeds a perception that the world is a violent and mean place. Viewing violence increases fear of becoming a victim of violence, with a resultant increase in self-protective behaviors and a mistrust of others. · Viewing violence may lead to real life violence. Children exposed to violent programming at a young age have a higher tendency for violent and aggressive behavior later in life than children who are not so exposed. Although less research has been done on the impact of violent interactive entertainment (video games and other interactive media) on young people, preliminary studies indicate that the negative impact may be significantly more severe than that wrought by television, movies, or music.

More study is needed in this area, and we urge that resources and attention be directed to this field, We in no way mean to imply that entertainment violence is the sole, or even necessarily the most important factor contributing to youth aggression, anti-social attitudes, and violence. Family breakdown, peer influences, the availability of weapons, and numerous other factors may all contribute to these problems. Nor are we advocating restrictions on creative activity. The purpose of this document is descriptive, not prescriptive: we seek to lay out a clear picture of the pathological effects of entertainment violence. But we do hope that by articulating and releasing the consensus of the public health community, we may encourage greater public and parental awareness of the harms of violent entertainment, and encourage a more honest dialogue about what can be done to enhance the health and well-being ofAmerica’s children. Donald E. Cook, MD President American Academy of Pediatrics Clarice Kestenbaum, MD President American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry L. Michael Honaker, PhD. Deputy Chief Executive Officer American Psychological Association Dr. E. Ratcliffe Anderson, Jr. MD Executive Vice President American Medical Association American Academy of Family Physicians American Psychiatric Association (Reprinted with permission – March 2003)

The prenatal and perinatal psychology education, health, and medicine communities need to also declare that the concerns given above puts the unborn child at risk when their pregnant mother is exposed to these views of violence. Mother’s also have a responsibility to not expose their unborns to fearful and disastrous Mass Media. And what about the tens, perhaps hundreds of thousands of babies carried by mothers who are the victims of natural disasters, wars and terrorism throughout the world? The task is massive . . . but the goal is clear, and the benefits to society are monumental. A hopeful sign is that the Mass Media is beginning to carry story of pregnancy and birth research.

To complete, let us share again the Whole-Self Principle mentioned near the beginning: All experiences enter the realm of violence the instant respect is breached. So RESPECT is one key to overcoming violence. It is necessary to address healing violence in pregnancy by healing the addictions to the danger hormones. One of the most ancient principles of pregnancy is that mothers must be protected from not only scenes of violence but also thoughts of violence. However, more immediately, we can begin to attend to this simple statement: All experiences enter the realm of violence the instant respect is breached. Let us respect ourselves as we respect our pregnant parents and our societies will respect us!

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Simon: Thanks Jon!

Can you say How the Whole-Self Psychology & Prebirth Analysis Matrix works?© 2005

by Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

Dear Simon,

You ask a powerful question. We trust the following may give you an answer you find of value.

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The Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix is a Transpersonal diagnostic tool which I discovered in 1970.  I was working as a psycho-therapist at the Santa Monica Holistic Health & Medicine Clinic inLos Angeles. The Director, Dr. Richard Ferman, asked me to create a public education workshop for the Clinic. In the workshop, entitled ‘Birth, Life & More Life!’, I had been inspired with 22 sets of questions which formed, and in some cases, impacted on the mental & emotional structure of the developing fetus. In English, ‘impacted’ indicates that there is a considerable force in the mother/baby inter-communication. So, ‘impacted’ is a stronger word. The consciousness of the baby, in the mother’s consciousness, is being educated & ‘influenced’ in its development by all mother’s mental & emotional ‘responses’ to her life’s streams® or flow of life experiences. In the Whole-Self Psychology model, it is the charged mental & emotional reactions – like a car hitting a person crossing the road – which has a more powerful pathology creating hurt or injury against the pedestrian. So, the more charged the mental & emotional reaction of mother to the trauma event, the more strongly the effect on the education of the baby’s mental & emotional development – the more impact it has on baby’s development. It is with these trauma event reactions that baby is born. And, these reactions are the source of the potential pathological patterns which need to be resolved during her/his life.

With the first 60 workshop participants, we discovered that not only is each person a synthesis of the genetic DNA coding of our parents which gave us our physical characteristics, but, we are also the synthesis of the ‘charged’, that is, the strongly impacting emotional reactions & deeply held realities, or belief, experienced by mother & father during the nine months of their pregnancies.

In human reproduction, parents are pregnant, baby is in ‘gestation’.  What we are wanting to say in this last sentence is that it is not just the mother who is pregnant. The father is also pregnant. In English grammar‚ mother is a singular noun. If I only am writing about mother, I would use the word ‘her’. If I am writing about father, I would use the word ‘his’. Because I am writing about mother & father together, they become a plural possessive word ‘their’.

In our Whole-Self model, we say that the consciousness of the baby is in mother’s consciousness. And, because father’s charged mental & emotional patterns are impacting mother, baby is also being impacted by father’s behavior. For example, if the father is mentally or physically abusive to the mother. Mother emotionally experiences fear, terror, panic (emotional) & the belief her baby will die (mental). Baby is born with those emotional & mental patterns impacted by father on mother. One other common trauma impacting mother happens when the father has an affair with another woman, especially in the last trimester. His behavior impacts mother with a pattern of  ‘betrayal’.  Baby is born with the pathological pattern of betrayal & is unable to align in a committed relationship.

Later, I was invited to work in the Clinic of noted Psychiatrist Walter D. Hofmann and had the opportunity to refine that same matrix of questions. Then, in therapy practice inBeverly Hills,California, I started getting patients who were referred to our Siddhartha Foundation    (the forerunner of our Whole-Self Institute) by their psychiatrists or psychologists having declared those patients as ‘incurable’. I knew that these patients had spent five, ten, fifteen, even twenty years in various therapies with minimal success. I was sitting at my desk thinking to myself, ‘What I could do to help the people?’. The inspiration came that as their pathology had not been resolved by extensively therapeutically probing events from their present lives, those diminishing patterns must have come from somewhere else. If the pathological patterns were not from a trauma during the person’s lifetime, the next logical time frame would be the nine months of gestation before birth. In fact, the thought was so powerful, I realized that if that prebirth source could be recognized, it could be released and these patients would reach homeostasis very quickly.

Specifically, what was discovered was that the ‘unresolvable feelings’ which had haunted these patients all their lives were not from some trauma which had happened to them.

These feelings were actually innate echoes of reactions to trauma experienced by one or both their parents shortly before conception, during gestation or shortly after birth. The Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix was the key to unlocking & freeing these debilitating patterns.

About the same time, some 6,000 miles to the east, in Amsterdamthe Netherlands, nurse Troya G.A.M. Groot received almost the same matrix of questions which enabled her to heal herself of anorexia & bulimia nervosa.

With that history, the first point in responding to the question asked by Simon ‘How does the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix work?’ is to define the terms in the first person:

My Whole-Self is the totality of me which knows everything my consciousness

has ever experienced.

My Prebirth Analysis Matrix© or PAM© is a transpersonal diagnostic instrument

of 22 sets of questions which enable to discover the innate prebirth

emotional & mental patterns of my parents with which I was born.

The second point is to distinguish the difference between Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy

& Education & most other therapeutic systems.

Most therapies work with the personality of the client patient on the assumption that

3)    pathology is lodged in the personality

4)    & specifically. only from events which have occurred during the client’s life.

There are two fallacies in these two assumptions:

Firstly:

9)    My personality is not where my pathology is lodged. My personality is the ‘expressing

aspect’ of my Whole-Self where my pathology expresses its unique sense of power,

or more significantly, my non-conscious sense of my lack of power.

10)  One of the main functions of my personality is to keep me from feeling pain.

11)  The stronger my personality, the more talented & skilled my personality is in keeping

the cause of my pathology from being recognized. This is why most therapies fail.

12)  When a pathology creating event occurs, my personality goes into an hypnotic trance

& exists, from that moment on, as though that traumatizing event is still

continuing to happen – even to the present moment.

13)  This energy resides in all aspects of myself :

–   My physical – through my cellular memory

–   My mental –  through my beliefs, my realities

–   My emotional – through my reactive trauma trances

–          My spirit, through my Whole-Self.

6)   Since one of the primary functions of my personality is to keep me from feeling pain,

my personality does everything it can to keep me from remembering the painful

causative event. It blocks this memory because it holds that

if I remember that event, I will feel even more pain.

14)  In Whole-Self Psychology, the traumatizing principle is that even when I do not

remember the causative event, my personality is non-consciously behaving

under the hypnotic trance that the causative event is still happening.

15)  The feelings my personality, non-consciously, believes are still happening to me

create my behaviors. One strategy for my survival is to block me from remembering

the painful causative event. Michael Mendizza calls personality a defense structure.

16)  So, the conundrum is, that even when my personality is blocking me from seeing

the causative event, I am still at the effect of the belief that the event is still

happening. I am non-consciously living as though that event is still happening

to me at this moment.

17)  While my personality wants to block me from seeing the causative event,

my Whole-Self knows that the only way to break my hypnotic trauma trance

is to return, recognize, review, revise & release myself

from my trauma trance reality.

This switchover for transfer from the control of my personality

to the guidance of my Whole-Self is the beginning of my healing process.

This healing is constructed on the recognition of the impact of the Whole-Self Four Laws of Life. These Whole-Self Four Laws of Life helped lock me into my pathology. This is based on my conscious &  non-conscious belief – my reality – that the causative events is still happening at this moment.

As I give these Whole-Self Four Laws of Life below, I emphasize the word ‘non-conscious’

because this is how my feelings stimulate & cause my behaviors.

1) When I am, consciously or non-consciously, resisting my feelings, I trigger

 the Whole-Self First Law of Life – The Law of Opposition which says:

                      ‘Whatever I am opposed to I have to experience.’

So, as my personality is opposing my seeing the causative traumatic event,

this law keeps me locked in my trauma trance pattern.

When I resist my painful feelings, on a conscious or non-conscious level, I make

judgments against myself not against others. Some Self-judgment words can be:

Unlovable  Unimportant  Worthless  Unfulfilled  Unworthy  Worthless  Unacceptable

Unsupportable  Not Good Enough  Inferior  Inappropriate  Irresponsible  Guilty

Bad  Wicked  Terrible  Horrible  Dirty  Disgusting   Despicable

Dumb  Stupid  Inept  Incapable  Incompetent  Inadequate  Incomplete

Unrecognized  Insecure  Helpless  Hopeless  Powerless

The most frequently recognized & mentioned are ‘Helpless, Hopeless & Powerless’.

2)   These self-judgments trigger the Whole-Self Second Law of Life

            –  The Law of Confirmation which says:

‘Whatever I really believe about myself I will keep proving to myself

                                             (through my life’s experiences).’

3)   When I consciously or non-consciously resist my feelings

& consciously or non-consciously make judgments against myself,

I consciously or non-consciously trigger the third Whole-Self Law of Life

 –  The Law of Decisions which says:

       My conscious & non-conscious diminishing decisions determine or create my future.

4)   When I keep consciously or non-consciously opposing my feelings,

making diminishing judgments about myself,

making diminishing decisions about my life, I trigger

the Whole-Self Fourth Law of Life

–  The Law of Repetition which gently says:

Try It Again!  Try It Again!  Try It Again!

When through my Whole-Self instead of my personality, these Whole-Self Four Laws of Life

are recognized within the context of my life experiences,

I no longer need to consciously or non-consciously keep opposing my feelings,

making diminishing judgments about myself,

making diminishing  decisions about my life.

So, subsequently, I do not have to Try It Again!

Regarding the second fallacy mentioned above:

Most therapies hold vehemently that pathology can only come from events which have

occurred during the client’s life.

Fortunately, this fallacy is being corrected by Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine.

Over the last 35 years, there are now increasing numbers of National & International

Associations & Societies; the most recent the Hellenic Union of Prenatal & Perinatal

Psychology & Medicine. Some of these, The International Society of Prenatal & Perinatal

Psychology & Medicine, The Association of Pre & Perinatal Psychology & Health, The

Association of National Education Prenatal of Italy, offer Professional Journals which

contribute to the thousands of scientific studies already published proving the importance

of innate emotional patterns from gestation, birth, infancy & early childhood.

As mentioned above, since 1970, beginning with the Siddhartha Foundation on to the

Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute International, Troya & I have pioneered

in Prebirth Memory Therapy© research & practice through the Prebirth Analysis Matrix©. This therapeutic model discovered that clients & patients, who in other therapies had been

rejected as incurable, found that their pathology was actually a replication of mother’s,

& sometimes father’s, charged reactions to traumas during their pregnancies were able to

heal themselves.

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Dear Simon,

Having to give thought to what to write to you has been a profound challenge. One

consideration is that there are many research papers exploring the impact of the events

before, during & after conception & gestation, but there are far fewer theories & practices

on how to change the innate patterns of behavior encoded in babies.

What it has brought to our attention are several individuals amongst many, many colleagues

who have been particularly significant in the 35 years we have been on this quest.

Firstly, Prof. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh, Life President of ISPPM, who originally named our

work ‘Prebirth Memory Therapy’. Prebirth Memory Therapy is a simple, effective system for

identifying, then nullifying or balancing these innate diminishing patterns.

Secondly we are appreciative to ISPPM President Ludwig Janus. On entering our website www.Whole-Self.info, see the quote from him:

“The Whole-Self© Model has the potential to change the course of human evolution”

               

Thirdly, for the Scientific proof of our hypothesis we are indebted to Prof. Grigori I. Brekhman in his paper presented at an ISPPM Congress in Sardinia & published in the IJPPPM: The conception of the multiple‑level co‑ordinated action between the mother & her unborn child: the methodological approach & the methods of research.

Quoting Brekhman:

Nowadays a lot of data obtained has confirmed the hypothesis that the

psycho-emotional interrelationships between the mother and her unborn

child is the reality… we (Brekhman) offered to examine the mother-unborn

child relationships based on the idea of a permanently functioning multiple-

level polyphonic system. It has been assumed that if mother is a multiple-

system embracing such levels as biological, energetical, astral, mental, etc,

to have intimate and fruitful interplay between her and the unborn, he

(the unborn) must already possess the same levels beginning with the zygote.

Such a methodological approach proved to be fruitful. The subdivision of this

system into the various levels is very relevant since baby is able to live and

develop harmoniously only if all its components properly interact.

In this last sentence the word “only” is the operative word. Dr. Brekhman states that if there is such a process as a mother-unborn child dialogue – long advocated by Prof. Fedor-Freybergh – there needs to exist ‘complementary resonant cohesive media systems’ which can recognize each other’s messages. In its very simplest terms, the analogy is that for communication between them to exist, the unborn baby’s radio frequency is tuned to mother’s same radio frequency. Prof. Brekhman has proven that it does. Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education is confirming that just as each of us is the synthesis of our parent’s genetic coding which gives us our physical characteristics, there is also a synthesis of the emotional-mental patterns of our parents from the nine months of their pregnancy. This is exactly the multiple system Brekhman’s research proved to exist.

Why are Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education such powerful

& effective tools  for individual Discovery & Development?

.As in familial diseases, there can be psycho—spiritual generational patterns inherited in families as well. I value the answers to the Whole-Self PAM Questions & their meanings because they help me to understand the ‘parable’ or ‘mythos’ of my family psycho-history. The key to my Life’s Streams® of Consciousness is found in the simple Whole-Self discovery that not only did I inherit my parents’ DNA, which gave me my physical characteristics, but I am also the synthesis of their charged mental & emotional patterns during the nine months before my birth which gave me the emotional DNA© (eDNA©).

Did Mother have a Trauma?

Perhaps you would like to experience a simple example how this Whole-Self PAM works.

Read the Question below & close your eyes to hear the answer. ‘Yes’ or ‘No’.

‘Please allow your Whole-Self to let you know if your mother

                        experienced any trauma or continuous diminishing circumstance

                                    &/or feelings during her pregnancy. YES or NO?’

In the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix exploring this question in some detail

helps me to discover the innate non-conscious source of

                        my most frequently felt reactive feelings,

                              my most frequent diminishing self-judgments,

                                     & my most frequently diminishing decisions in my life.

The familiar, even pathological patterns, feelings, self-judgments, conclusions

& decisions that I have repeated all through my life, may in fact,

have been inherited from my mother’s ‘emotional DNA’.

 

One final point: Studies in behavioral medicine show that it takes 21 consecutive days to

change a belief or a behavior. At the completion of the Whole-Self PAM we instruct in a

simple technique called the Whole-Self 4th Dimensional Balancing to facilitate change.

Usually reinforced after my birth by living in that family, my Whole-Self PAM Patterns are the

charged beliefs, the mindsets & emotions with which I was born. It is these charged reactive

mental & emotional patterns which have consciously & non-consciously controlled my life.  Because feelings create behaviors, the Whole-Self Prebirth questions are particularly valuable

to develop when dealing with Reactive Attachment Disorder & other disruptive behaviors.

Completing with Michael Mendizza again:

‘We inherent our skin, hair & eye color from our parents, along with allergies & a

million other past life traits. The key to the whole past life business is that these

obvious qualities & related behaviors are not past lives, they are expressing now.

There is no past life. It is all happening now. You & I are expressing traits that

fade off like a very long tail to the first spark of life on the planet & we are

expressing all this right now.’

 

These innate charged patterns are precisely what I come into life to change.
* Whole-Self Discovery & Development is an active process to Discover & Develop myself.
* My Whole-Self connects on my physical, mental, emotional & spiritual levels

all at the same time.
* Whole-Self Discovery & Development helps me to immediately identify my problems.

* Whole-Self Psychology helps me to discover my conscious & non-conscious

diminishing beliefs about myself. Diminishing beliefs about myself inhibit my energy &

block me from success in relationships, work & life.
* Whole-Self Discovery & Development offers me effective tools to help me to change

my diminishing beliefs.
* Whole-Self Philosophy is a continuous inspiration for my individual growth, development

& evolution as a Whole Person!

We close with a simple fact: Mother Nature gives my little body – which is part of mother’s body – the ability – with support – to survive after three months, the next six months of my gestation is for my little body to practice & rehearse so that after birth it can live on its own.

We close with a simple question for you: How can Mother Nature provide

practice & rehearsal for my little body as part of my mother’s body

& not provide practice & rehearsal of my mental body inside her mind

& not provide practice & rehearsal of my emotional body in her emotions?

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Information on the Whole-Self model is available on www.Whole-Self.co.uk  &  www.Whole-Self.info , www.whole-self-methode.de  ,  www.ionianet.gr/cosmoanelixis
‘If I want to change my life, my Whole-Self is waiting to support me!’

Much Peace & Much Love! Jon RG & Troya GN Turner (Email: Whole-Self@quicknet.nl)

 

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WHOLE-SELF DISCOVERY & DEVELOPMENT

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            Jon RG & Troya GN Turner, Co-Founders / Co-Directors

Waterrad 92, 1613 CR  Grootebroek, NL

Tel:  (31) 228 513 630

Email: Whole-Self@quicknet.nl

                                                  International Medical Director: Dr. Ruth Medvedovsky

                                              Website: www.Whole-Self.info & http://www.Whole-Self.co.uk

UKCo-Director: Michael Reginald Whitley

                                                           GermanyCo-Director: Sigrid Westermann

Greece/Cyprus  Co-Director: Olga Gouni

                                                                                                 ItalySerbia/Croatia Co-Director: Smilja Janjatovic Pugliese

MexicoCo-Director: Maria de Leon Crowhurst

Discoveries in Cyprus June 2006©2006

                                     by Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

I have just returned from another two weeks working inCyprus& was able to reach by telephone the two women mentioned in the second part of this email to get exact details from them. And, last night, a powerful question came to me regarding the story of the second woman below.

A Spirit Speaks

I was guiding a group through a Past Life Regression Session. At the end of the exercise, I asked if anyone would like to share what they had experienced. A man in the class said that he was halfway through the exercise when suddenly his   daughter who had been killed in a bus accident 12 years ago appeared to him & they talked for about 10 minutes. He shared that he had been in profound grief all that time & now that she had spoken to him, for the first time, he was at peace with her passing. Apparently she had been trying to communicate with him all these years & that by doing a past life exercise it was the first time he had been in a state of consciousness to be aware of her.

The Diminishing Dilemma

The other interesting discoveries were with two women:

One had a 7 years old boy who has been causing a lot of problems. He could not make any decisions. He was opposed to any affection or hugging.

Last time I was inCyprus, I had asked her to tell him what had happened to her during his gestation. Finally, last week she did. She told him that in the first month of her pregnancy there was danger of losing him (from bleeding). Her doctor wanted her to stay in bed the entire 9 months. She was in constant conflict for the entire 9 months of her pregnancy

torn between should she save her business or save her baby. It was this conflict over such a decision which was the basic pattern her son was born with & had acted out his whole 7 years of life.

When she told him the total truth, her boy started crying, went to her & hugged her for the first time in his life. He was able to sense, even at this early age, that his diminishing

dilemma causing him the inability to not make any decision was her pattern not his.

But most important was the recognition that because he had been experiencing  her conflict that she was even considering saving her business & not him, as a defense, he had been born with the behavior of not letting himself get close to her. Now that he understood she ultimately had chosen him, he could, in trusting safety, connect with her.

What is interesting is that symbiosis between baby & mother normally completes by the age of 7. In this situation both will have the opportunity to ‘Try It Again!’ It should take much less than 7 years this time.

Born With Hatred

The second woman had a son 32 years of age. When I met him in Limassol, he mentioned that he could not understand his very strong burning hatred for Turks. Later, I asked his mother what had been happening during her pregnancy. She told me that in 1974, the year of his birth,Turkeyhad invadedCyprus.    The Greek community ofCypruswas deeply traumatized. I asked her if she had felt any hatred toward the Turks while she was pregnant. She said “No!”. I knew that answer was coming from her personality. So, I asked her if we could work with her Whole-Self. She agreed.

When I invited her Whole-Self to take her back to 1974 to sense if she had felt any hatred for the Turks for the invasion, specifically for her, she realized that the husband of her first cousin –    her son’s godfather – had disappeared. She said that she had searched frantically for him & to her surprise recognized that she was feeling great hatred toward the Turks.

When she was able to tell her son what had happened to her during his gestation & the hatred she had not realized she was feeling, he understood his hated was her hatred

not his hatred & was able to start to shift it.

Whole-Self Psychology hypothesizes that baby’s consciousness, being in mother’s consciousness – her mind & emotions – is in symbiotic ideation with mother. As baby is experiencing everything mother is experiencing in her mind & her emotions, baby’s mind & emotions are being educated to be able to function independently after birth. But, since symbiosis totally segues & morphs their mental & emotional bodies, & as baby is still not matured enough to distinguish a separation between mother’s experience and baby’s own experience, baby is born believing whatever happened to mother is still happening

to baby. Since, in baby’s reality, both are one, baby creates the reality extension that whatever trauma happened to mother is his or her fault. Thus, baby is born with those debilitating diminishing patterns as its own.

When we look at the situation of the son not understanding why he had such charged hatred for the Turks we discover the mother’s hatred for them while she was pregnant.  It certainly makes sense that the son was born with the charged hatred mother was feeling towards the Turks for the invasion ofCyprus& specifically the disappearance of her cousin

while she was pregnant

In both situations, by telling their sons the total truth, the symbiosis was able to begin to be released. This is more support to our theory that all mothers should tell their children what was happening to them both during their pregnancies.

 

Postscript:

 

Could the son, being born with the hatred his pregnant mother was feeling against the invaders in this example, give us a clue as to how hatred & prejudice could be innately encoded into mass populations overwhelmed by regional, national & international conflicts? 

Your thoughts are most welcome!

Much Peace & Much Love! Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

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Aspects of Love in Prenatal Psychology©2004

                                                                      by Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

3rd International Conference on Prenatal Psychology & Medicine

June 2004, Saint-Petersburg, Russia. Prof. Natalia Kovalenko: Chair

At the end of April 2004, the United Nations offered a vote for unification inCyprus.

We asked Olga Gouni in Athens, our Whole-Self Co-Director for Greece, to please give us a Prenatal & Perinatal evaluation of the Greek Cypriots with whom she has been doing Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education for the last 5 years. Olga begins by asking the following profound question:

       Is it the broken spirit of the island that reflects on the Cypriot

   or is it the broken spirit of the Cypriot that reflects on the island?

 

          Olga sees the issue as a matter of trust: 

                 A trust issue in which universally a Cypriot does not trust anyone.

For example, business people do not expand their businesses because they do not share the information/knowledge of how the business works with their employees. This is because they are afraid that as soon as the employees find out how the business works, the employees will betray them by opening their own business thereby stealing their customers. Even more extreme is that businesses even employ people of not the highest intelligence for the same reasons.
When Cypriots receive friends or relatives at home they say they have foreigners visiting them. This is profound alienation & separation.

In Cyprus, almost no mother has held her child just after birth.

As a result of this not being held, this not bonding there is

1)    increased Reactive Attachment Disorder.

2)    Cypriots are very cold/difficult to express their feelings/difficult to

communicate.

3)    Their intimate relationships suffer.

4)    There is no commitment in their relationships.

5)    Cypriots get married young; they divorce or separate after a while;

6)    or, if they stay together, it is often with ex-marital relationships.

7)    Lots of Cypriot men have abandoned their homes to follow Romanian girls

who are beautiful & warm in communications.

8)    While, the dream of the Cypriot women is to get married to a mainland

Greek so that she can leave the island.

9)    Almost everyone, men & woman wants to escape theislandofCyprus

10)  Children are very reserved. Their vocabulary is very poor. They have

great difficulty to  express themselves or their feelings.

11)   A high percentage of the children are dyslexic. But, the state education

authorities do not recognize dyslexia as a learning disability.
12)   There is a great need for people in the field of psychological support

especially prenatal & perinatal specialists.

13)      Very few psychology supporters are trusted because Cypriots fear gossip

if others see they are talking with a psychologically trained person.

Olga reports that Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education can help towards:

1) restoration of confidence & trust thereby removing the communication barriers;

2) facilitate the bonding within the family & improve the intimate relationships

as well as the child-parent relationships;

3) facilitate the learning process;

4) & above all, heal the betrayal syndrome restoring the people with their sense

of power so that they can ask for outside help to save themselves.

The Cypriots, as well as the peoples ofIraq& other culturally devastated peoples, because of their cultural sufferings, have an incredible challenge to learn to be loving, empathetic & compassionate in their lives. This is the main mission of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology.

The Power of Bonding

In our presentation inSt. Petersburg, last year, Troya & I wrote that:

“The most essential formational patterning or bonding as reported by Dr. Michel Odent is when baby & mother exchange recognition through their eyes which opens mother’s abilities & baby’s abilities to experience love, compassion & empathy for each other & for every other human being. There is now ample evidence that not bonding is an emotional/ psychological deficit for all of us, even young children, which could be leading to the large numbers of murders, even by children, reported in the news. These children simply do not have the innate ability to experience love, compassion or empathy for themselves or for any other human beings.”

These words, spoken last year, help us to understand the most important sentence made by Olga Gouni about the Cypriot people:

     In Cyprus, almost no mother has held her child just after birth.

COMMUNICATION STARTS PRENATALLY ON ALL LEVELS

Three years ago, in the first official recognition of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine, the Ministry of Public Health of theRussian   FederationIvanovoStateMedicalAcademypresented an All-Russia Conference entitled The First Russian Congress on Prenatal Psychology & Medicine, Psychosomatic Disorders in Obstetrics, Gynecology, Pediatrics & Therapy.

That Congress was conceived at the initiative of ISPPM member Professor Grigori I. Brekhman, Doctor of Medical Science, Head of the Obstetrics & Gynecology Department & at that time, President of the Ivanovo Perinatal Psychology & Medicine Association. The Chairman of the Conference, Professor Rudolf R. Shilayaev, Rector of theIvanovoStateMedicalAcademywas assisted by the Vice Chairmen – Professor Sergey B. Nazarov, Professor Grigori I. Brekhman and Professor Tamara S. Polayatykina. The Executive Secretary of the Conference was Nina P. Lapochkina, now President of the Ivanovo Perinatal Psychology & Medicine Association.

In our paper at theIvanovoMedicalAcademy, Troya & I wrote:

“But before that dynamic moment of physical bonding, for nine months, our baby bodies have been growing, developing & maturing in mother’s womb. And, as Prof. Grigori I. Brekhman of theIvanovoRussiaMedicalAcademyresearch has proven that our emotional/mental/energetic bodies also have been growing, developing & maturing, being educated through communication on all levels through the pregnancy experiences of our mothers. This is one of the basic principles of Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education. Namely, that each person not only inherits the genetic coding which gives each of us our physical characteristic, but we are also the synthesis of the charged emotional/mental/energetic patterns of our parents from the nine months of our gestations.

   It would be very strange for “mother nature” to give our little bodies six months of practice & rehearsal in utero so that after birth our bodies could live functionally, &, for Mother Nature to throw us out into the world with no experience of emotional/ mental existence. The Whole-Self Psychology model of the Prebirth Analysis Matrix which offers clear understanding of the significance of psychological development in the nine months of gestation – the time when symbiosis begins for everyone & either becomes pathological or blossoms with the amazing qualities to develop respectful, human abilities to feel love, compassion & empathy is initiated.”

THE WHOLE- SELF PREBIRTH MODEL OF PRENATAL PSYCHOLOGY

In this paper we would like to share specific examples from the Prebirth Analysis Matrix© which is the key to Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education©.

It seems to us, that the primary challenge to changing realities – the beliefs which people are living out in their lives – is to be sensitive to the energies & exactly what are the appropriate catalyzing frequencies they generate in the creative & co-creating act.

We can view human reproduction as an especially appropriate co-creativity model.

For example, we can observe conception, pregnancy & birth as a creative idea

– a creation – & more accurately, a co-creation between father & mother

&, of course, the new baby.

One possibility is to observe the willingness of the active agents to allow the co-creative process to initiate & to gestate & to complete itself.

1) In prenatal psychology, if there is simply a sexual act for narcissistic pleasure, the Whole-Self model would likely project, that in life, the child of such a unioning would be narcissistically inclined to begin creation projects simply as a pleasurable exercise.

There would also likely be ease in co-operative co-creation with a partner or partners. The serious challenge would be to finish or complete the creation.

2) If there is indifference or no connection between the energies of the man & woman it will be a challenge, even a struggle, for the child to activate any co-creative energies with any passion or enthusiasm especially with any partners or even single partner. Again, the serious challenge would be to finish or complete the creation.

3) If there is abuse, rape, violence, resentment, hatred & even active opposition to

its unborn presence, the child is born with these same diminishing patterns of self-rejection, anger & rage & is likely to develop with anti-social, even violent criminality against society. Pathology resulting from damaged or non-bonding is called Reactive Attachment Disorder.

 

4) If there is mutual respect, affection, passion & love in the initiating act of love by the mother & father, the child, because of the welcoming & continuing dialogue between the three principles, knowing it is welcome & wanted, can come into the world filled with wonder, joy & delight – a transformative inspirational co-creative being. A truly human being is born.

In Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education, our hypothesis states that the consciousness of the baby is ‘energetically attracted’ to a father & mother who are experiencing the same vibrational patterns – the same feelings – the baby’s consciousness was experiencing when she or he died in a previous life.

The point of this ‘energetic attraction’ is that no baby’s consciousness is ever inside her or his mother’s body, but is in her bio-energy field. There are some therapies which hold that if there is long, hard labor it is because the baby is not letting, even resisting, to let itself to be born. This is simply not true because the consciousness of the baby is not inside mother’s physical womb but in mother’s consciousness – in her bio-energy field, her aura, which is around her body.

The little baby body is basically ready in three months. But, nature provides six months of practice & aerobic rehearsal so that, at birth, baby can physically function on its own. Nature cannot give that amount of time for the physical baby body to practice & rehearse & ignore the emotional & mental bodies of the gestating baby.

So, baby’s emotional & mental bodies are energetically lodged inside mother’s    emotional  & mental bodies, being educated, as well, so that at birth also are practiced & rehearsed for life function.

Labor is initiated by a physical hormonal signal that the little body is ready to be born. The timing of the birth begins when an hormonal interaction between the little baby body & mother’s body is signaled to each other. Since baby’s consciousness is lodged inside mother’s emotional & mental bio-bodies both mother & baby consciousnesses are catalyzed by these hormonal interactions.

There is no volitional control by the baby’s body as to the birth moment. The little baby body developing in the womb is totally part of mother’s body which she is preparing for baby to use after its birth – it is her blood supply, her oxygen, her nutrients growing the little baby body.

The release of the little baby body from the womb is basically determined by the energy of mother’s willingness to let the baby body out. It is the power of mother’s willingness, based on her non-conscious beliefs of what will happen to her if she lets the baby be born which determines the force & effectiveness of her contractions to initiate & to complete the birth.

It is long labor which dissipates the mother’s & baby’s power & energy, available to their co-creative act & their mutual abilities to bond appropriately. If mother truly wants to be holding her baby in her arms, birth can be completed in 20 minutes instead of 20 hours.

As stated above, the key to human & planetary transformation is every baby, being wanted & knowing it is wanted, able to willingly participate in Conscious Co-Creative Human Evolution.

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Now let us share some case histories: Remember the most important new perspective is that the consciousness of the baby is in mother’s bio-energy field where it is being educated through mother’s charged feeling & thoughts.

Troya GN Turner-Groot is Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute Co-Founder & Co-Director. Troya wants to bring to your attention that in Whole-Self Psychology, we have discovered that – for clarity, we say this in the first person ‘I’ that when I experience a trauma:

1)    I resist the feelings I am feeling;

2)    I make non-conscious judgments against myself;

3)    I make non-conscious diminishing decisions which control my future.

Troya has four cases she would like to share with you:

 

Case 1 Sandra

Sandra, 42 years of age, feels misplaced in the world. She does not allow herself to be supported while her main complaint about society is that they do not respect her nor her needs. During her Prebirth Analysis Matrix, Sandra discovers there were three traumas which her mother had during her pregnancy. These traumas were in the 5th, 7th & 8th months.

In the first trauma in the 5th month of her pregnancy, Sandra sees her mother walking relaxed in the sunshine. She suddenly realizes that she has to be home before her husband returns from his work. When she arrives home she finds her husband crying, because he has learned his father has died. When she sees her husband so distraught Sandra’s mother judges herself to be incapable, helpless & powerless. And, her non-conscious one-sided decision is that she will be the replacement of his father so her husband will be strong again to support her. That is a paradox.

In the 7th month, Sandra visualizes her mother making the beds. She senses that her mother feels very lonely, sad & insecure. Mother judges herself to be incomplete.

Mother’s non-conscious decision is that she has to be strong & that she will focus on the bright side of life.

In the 8th month, Sandra senses her mother feeling tired & irritated. She walks into something & falls. Now she is frightened & full of fear for her baby. She judges herself to be incapable & not good enough. Mother’s non-conscious decision is:  ‘I am lost, down, passive & dependent.’

The above situations illustrate clearly how mother is denying her need for support, judging her feelings & emotions, & decides to be lost, passive & dependent for the rest of her life.

Sandra, feels how her sense of being misplaced in the world relates to not allowing herself to be supported. That her willingness to support others is based on her own need for support to find her place in the world. Sandra recognizes mother’s self-judgments of lonely, sad & insecure. The feelings which trigger her to focus even more on the needs of others & attempt to fulfill them to make the world bright. She now understands that after those efforts for others she ends up complaining about the world not respecting her nor her needs.

Case 2 Sally

Sally, 43 years of age, does not know what is happening in her life. When asked if her mother had experienced a trauma Sally got the answer ‘No!’ But later when Sally

mentioned this ‘no trauma’, her mother confirmed that there had not been a specific traumatic event, but her mother shared with Sally that most of the pregnancy she suppressed the community held fear that the end of the world was coming.

‘No trauma’ was an answer based on denial of upcoming disaster. This was recognized by the client, in fact, throughout her marriage, when there were problems, she got pregnant again hoping for a better future.

When her oldest daughter was 18 years of age, she mirrored the same denial of her feelings of disaster by looking into & wanting the experience of a pregnancy. When the daughter did not find a solution of her problem in a pregnancy, she chose to abort.

Both women did the PAM & are supporting each other in their individual growth to understand perceived danger as a challenge to be faced & understood in order to grow & evolve.

Case 3 Fran

Fran is 50 years of age & presents with depression & low energy. She sees her mother in the 6th month of her pregnancy in the kitchen cooking. Her little daughter is with her & chattering away – talking her head off as some little children like to do. But, mother is exhausted & just wants her little girl to stop talking – to leave her alone… Mother wants the world to stop.

Mother feels tired & angry… She has discovered that her husband is seeing another woman & she does not want to share her husband with another womanMother judges herself to be worthless, terrible, incomplete, insecure, helpless, & powerless. Mother’s non-conscious decision is that the pregnancy is too heavy, ‘I cannot breath anymore! I do not want to live alone!’ Note that her children do not count ‘to not be alone’.

Fran now understands that she has been experiencing exactly the same depressive feelings her mother had been feeling during most of her pregnancy.

Case 4 Tanja

Tanja is 40 years of age. Tanja has just married & is amazed that she feels she is loosing control of her life. Her control is to not experience feelings & emotions. Her

Whole-Self shows her mother in the 7th & 8th months.

In the 7th month, Mother is in the bedroom. As she bends over to pick up something she spontaneously she starts crying. She feels empty & a victim. Suddenly, she is startled to realize why she is crying!  She does not want the pregnancy.

Tanja’s mother had not been aware of her resistance towards being pregnant.  And, for her, at that late stage, there were no means to prevent or stop a pregnancy. Mother cries inside. She judges herself to be unlovable, unimportant, unworthy, not acceptable, not supported, not good enough, guilty, bad, incapable, incompetent & powerless. Mother’s non-conscious decision is: ‘I am not allowed to feel those feelings! I should be happy!’

In the 8th month, mother is in the kitchen. She feels sad, trapped & imprisoned. She wants to go out & to meet people; to work in a café (alcohol) would be satisfying.  Mother judges herself to be unlovable, unworthy, not good enough, incompetent, incomplete, helpless & powerless. Mother’s non-conscious decision is ‘to stay imprisoned; to give up’.  And, ‘I will not tell anybody!’

These are exactly the patterns Tanja had been controlling to not feel in her life.

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Sigrid Westermann, Whole-Self Psychologie und Unternehmensberatung

gives us an excellent example of the non-conscious control which the prebirth patterns have over us. In this case the relationship focuses on sexuality.

Case Presentation Doris

Dorisis married with a man who does not have sexual desire for her.  And so, she has found a lover. But she knows that if her husband finds out that she is having a lover, he would divorce her.

The problemDorishas is that she wants to stay together with her husband, but now, she does not know how to say good-bye to her lover. Her conflict is that she still enjoys the sexual experiences with that other man. And, she likes the feeling to be wanted, & the feeling that he has a lot of desire for her.

In the Prebirth Analysis Matrix (PAM), Doris discovers that when her mother was having intercourse with Doris’s father, which resulted in Doris’s conception, mother was having two opposite feelings: ‘Happiness’ & ‘Loneliness’.

Dorisdiscovered that these two conflicting feelings were familiar feelings in her own life; desire to experience happiness yet, at the same time, feeling lonely?

While this insight gave her understanding there was more. In the symbology of the Prebirth Analysis Matrix, as mother’s ovum is being surrounded & engulfed by the sperms which have survived their long journey,Dorissenses that the ovum is ‘Not feeling well! Unwell! She feels fear – fear, that something is happening; something  she is not wanting to happen.’

Dorisalso recognizes exactly what she has discovered about the sexuality with her lover. He used every trick he knew to let her feel a big libido. And then, he took her. She did not want him! But, he said: ‘You made me feel hot! Now you have to do it.’

He gave the responsibility to her & she experienced something, she did not want. But she does not know how to change the situation. Believing that she has no option,Dorisfeels she a victim.

The feelings of the egg are exactly whatDorisis feeling in her sexuality with that lover. She believes it is necessary for her to continue with her lifestyle; to live with sexuality by betraying her husband. That is a sexuality she does not want.

Dorishad not known that in nature, in the prelude to the moment of conception, that the egg has the choice to open herself for that special sperm which she chooses.

Knowing that, & to realize, that she is allowed to say ‘NO!’ to her lover, even when her body wants to have sex, gave her the power to separate from that lover & the creativity to attract her husband to have more sex with her.

Confronting her with the feelings of the egg & explaining the symbolic meaning of that Prebirth question, showed Doris her actual feelings with her lover; in her mind she has happiness; but inside, she feels lonely exactly as her mother felt during the intercourse which result inDoris’s conception. And,Dorisunderstood that her ‘feeling unwell’, was precisely what her mother’s egg was feeling as she was engulfed shortly before the conception takes place.

Sigrid Westermann asked us to please mention another example of the severe psychological trauma which can happen when there are multiple births – three, four or more births.  Multiple births are often a side effect of IVF – In Vitro Fertilization.

Sigrid reports that when there is a TV news story about such multiple births, the TV shows that the babies are immediately taken away to another room even if there is no medical reason. Not only are the babies deprived of bonding with their mother but not even the father is allowed to hold his babies. This separation from father & from

mother & siblings which the babies have intimately shared in their mother’s consciousness for over 9 months is the actual trauma of birth.

THE PSYCHIC CONNECTION IN MULTIPLE BIRTHS

We can look at the prebirth psychic connection of twins as another aspect of prenatal & perinatal psychology. For this we can report on a case from Olga Gouni inAthens.

Case Study called Yannis & the Ghost Twin

The man, let’s call him Yannis is 45 years old, Armenian in origin, his father died soon after his birth. With his wife Maria, 43. they were unable to conceive a baby even after six attempts with in vitro fertilization.. Having failed all six times they came to Olga a 1½ year ago to see if there was a psychological reason why they could not conceive. After four months of Whole-Self Psychology work, Maria became pregnant

& is now in the  8th month of their pregnancy.

Last week, Yannis appeared with an inexplicable worry. Although Maria’s pregnancy goes well & Maria stays cool & has a faith that everything is going to be alright, Yannis is very worried. His words:

‘I fear that all this wonderful dream of having our baby is going to fall apart.

I worry that something may go wrong & that the pregnancy will come to an end.

I count the days & I subtract that number from the total days the doctor predicted

for the birth date. And, with every day I subtract, I get a bit more relaxed.’

When working with the Whole-Self Discovery Steps his Whole-Self took him back to when his mother is 3 months pregnant. Yannis says:

‘I feel a brother beside me. I love this brother but he looks sad. He feels that

he is not going to complete his cycle to be born. He thinks that there is space

only for me. Somebody else has decided that he is not going to come to life.

He knows this somebody. It’s our mum. Our father’s wish is for our mother

not to give birth to any child. He forces mum to do something.  An injection

finds my twin brother. Even though father does not want any children at all,

my twin brother feels that he will die. He has accepted the death sentence.

His body does not develop properly. His soul hurts. He wants to get out & be

together with me. He loves me! I love him, too!’

Yannis makes a vow to his twin brother: ‘Even if you go, I’ll still love you. You will be apart of my child!

At this point, Yannis makes the comment: ‘That’s why I have always loved babies. I have always thought of all babies as the brother I never had!’

And, Yannis continues his prebirth vow to his brother: ‘Don’t be sad now! Since father has his way, I will be born & a part of you will be with me again: The moment I will

have my child, you will be born within my child!’

Olga asked Yannis to get from his twin brother where he was before getting beside him. Yannis got the answer that his twin brother was up, wandering in an immaterial form, lost in space. Yannis got also the information that his twin brother will go back there & stay there until it is decided & he comes down as Yannis & Maria’s child.

Olga asked Yannis, who is it that makes such a decision. Yannis answers: ‘We are two copies. For some reason, we have been separated but have to be united again! With this second coming down of my  brother, the reunion will take place.’

Yannis continues the vow to his brother: ‘You can live! A part of your soul is united with my child to be born: my daughter. You live what my twin brother has not lived: to get out in life & grow & you will live on in her after I have died!’

When Olga asked him what he meant by saying that ‘a part of his soul is united with the daughter to be born. Yannis reports that his twin brother will be beside her soul. He will be hosted in her body without bothering the girl. Her body will be used by both.

Yannis also commented that he bears two names. The second name is Stilianos after a Christian saint who is considered to be the protector of babies.

This case received from Olga Gouni has many important aspects about this mystery from the point of view of Whole-Self Psychology: First, we see that Yannis has incredible guilt that he survived when his brother died even before the birth. The consequence of Yannis’s guilt was his infertility in six unsuccessful attempts to get pregnant. Then, when his daughter was conceived all his prenatal psychological positions came out.

Olga Gouni brilliantly set up a dialogue between Yannis & his dead twin. In similar research Troya & I have frequently had reports of the unborn consciousness being in space – often traveling at great velocity. Perhaps this is where ‘warp speed’ was created in Star Trek science fiction. What Yannis failed to recognize is that his twin brother’s consciousness or soul was still alive. The conclusion to that is that Yannis did not have to feel guilty that he had lived & his twin had died.

Because of his guilt, Yannis’ personality created the scenario that his daughter would have to share her body with her dead uncle. By Universal or Spiritual Law this is wrong. Anytime an outside or second consciousness moves into the body of a person this is called ‘a possession’ or more modernly ‘an attachment’. So, it is important for Yannis to accept that his twin was not dead; that his twin must allow his consciousness to be energetically attracted to a mother & father who offer him the opportunity to activate & release from unresolved errors.

Troya mentions another point here: One of the statements Yannis makes is ‘…… you will live on in her after I have died!’ It is important to work with Yannis to discover if he has an intention to commit suicide after his daughter is born. Does he hold any belief that by dying he is balancing that his brother died while he lived? This would be ironic because it would continue to keep the two brothers separated.

Finally, there is one possibility about the brother being born in the body of Yannis & Maria’s daughter which would be within a Natural or Spiritual Law: that is if the twin reincarnates in the female child’s body. In other words, there would be no little girls consciousness that would be sharing the one body.  And, the uncle’s consciousness  would just have his own new body.

But this case was not finished. In the next session, Yannis reported that he had experienced a very good week. He had no fears at all for the baby. He was very relaxed. When I saw his wife, she mentioned that she had noticed a change in the way Yannis addressed the baby. Before, he used to say ‘baby’, now it was ‘my girl’ (The gender of the baby is known). Then Yannis asked to work on a sort of uneasiness at his work.

An Incomplete Completion

When his twin brother died in utero, Yannis blamed his mother for not allowing completion. He re-experienced this anger in his childhood when mother or other adults did not allow him to complete playing games or interrupted something – a process he was doing. Then as an adult, the pattern continued by those in authority not allowing him to do what he wanted to do or having to do what the authorities ordered him to do.

Anyway, in those instances, Yannis had non-consciously judged himself to be: unlovable, insignificant, unsupportable, helpless & insecure. His decisions were: ‘I’ll grow up & I’ll do to you what you do to me!’ (However, this growing up is never ending). ‘I’ll punish myself for doing what the others want to do! (Mother also did what the father wanted to do and has suppressed anger). And, ‘The punishment will be my suffering by imposing on myself to do what I have to do or am told to do!’

‘I’ll open the door & leave to get away from this environment that makes me do what they want me to do!’ ‘They do not allow me to live my life!’

In a gestalt, when he asked his twin brother why he was not born, Yannis got the answer that it was not the right environment for his brother to live. His brother explained that he liked Yannis’ company, but he wanted to live a life when he could make choices, not have others controlling him. He chose to wait until the proper parents came who would provide him with this opportunity. Now, Yannis realized that the brothers had the same life theme: Yannis chose to come & lived a life in which he had to do what the others told  him to do & his twin brother chose not to
come so that he would not have to live a life in which controlling decisions were made by others.

Yannis commented, ‘It’s not worth living the kind of life I have lived!’.  When he realized that it was his brother’s choice to not come to life he relaxed. He offered his brother a gift of around ball as a symbol of being wherever he wished to be, intact. Then, it was easier for Yannis to see the truth of his anger towards his mother for killing his brother & also, the anger of his mother against him. Mother blamed him, even to this day, that he had killed his brother in her womb – an endless battle between mother & son all these years accusing the other of the same supposed  murder. Now, it will be easier to see the futility of that lifelong enmity over the decision of the brother not to come to life.

Next, Yannis realized that he also had options in the place of the pattern:

‘I was angry for the interruption of completion!’

‘I shouted because I believed my process was interrupted!’

‘The battle is useless!’ ‘I quit!’ ‘I do not have to react anymore!’

‘I do not have to shout!’ ‘I can express what I want/think!’

‘I can do what the others tell me to do!’

Finally, because he was small & believed himself to be powerless, Yannis, realizing that he has always wanted to grow up in order to have revenge, had always lived his life in the future, never enjoying the present moment. Now, he can see options to stay in the present, complete what he starts, & ask others to wait until the process of what he chooses to do is finished.

Case Study 2 is called isBattlefor Survival

The lady, let’s call her Mary, came to me 1½ years ago for the first time. She had a phobia that she was ill despite all the medical tests that were OK. She also suffered from depression. She wanted to work on these issues & she was doing good work for about six months. Then she stopped her sessions.

A couple of months after our then last meeting she called Olga & said that she was pregnant. ‘I expected to see her. She didn’t come up until much later towards the end of the 3rd month of pregnancy. I was very surprised to see her very thin, black circles under the eyes, looking exhausted & with no energy. She explained that she could not sleep at night. And, when she did sleep, she woke up having the idea that something was choking her or that the baby was to choke her in her sleep. She also refused to eat, she had lost weight. She could bear nothing in her stomach.’

Mary declares: “There is battle for survival going on! It is either me or the baby!” 

Doing the Whole-Self Discovery Steps, Mary realized that it was the same as when she broke up with her ex-boyfriend who had loved her in a very possessive way. She described that relationship as: ‘Something was choking me! It was him! Just with his presence….! He pushed me to have sex with him! He choked me with his love! He             was like a second father. He wanted to possess me. To turn me into his possession. I was so afraid that I would loose control of my life …!’

Mary’s Whole-Self helped her to discover that what triggered the feelings at the moment was the prospect of giving birth to a baby son who would have to be named with the husband’s father’s name – who, coincidentally, had the same name as the    ex-boyfriend. The prospect of having to call the name everyday triggered the anxiety.

At the end of the session, Mary realized that it was not the baby that was choking her – that she had been trying to starve to death. Mary realized that it was the mix of unresolved issues with her then lover, her father & her having to make the decisions of her life …. Suddenly,  Mary felt hungry & she asked for some juice & for something to eat. Her face started to glow.

Olga continues: ‘I expected to see Mary again. But she disappeared. Then, a few days after Easter she called. She was so sad.’ Mary explained: ‘I visited the obstetrician on the 38th week of pregnancy for my usual check. The doctor was upset. The baby was stuck at 35th week. There were no nutrients, the sack was dry. The doctor hurried me into caesarian. I was afraid that I wouldn’t bear it. I was amazed to see myself going though the caesarian with local anesthesia. When I woke up, the baby was not there.

The doctor said that he had a problem with the lungs; the hands, palms were clinched tight; he refused to receive food; he was very tense.’

Mother & baby boy were kept apart for 40 days. The hospital rules didn’t allow her to be with the baby for longer than one hour a day. After 40 days, or so, the baby was allowed to go home. He refused to receive food. Mary was in panic. The body of the baby is always tense, choking & when he did that, mother went into panic & then the baby gets into further panic & stares at her in despair & with a question mark WHY?

Mary did not breast feed her baby because after the shock when she learned about the problems of her baby, she had a nervous breakdown & was on medication by the doctor. (No one had advised her to start breasting the baby when the medication was not necessary & her milk safe. Again, the issue, she refused to feed the baby.

Mary remembered what she had felt in the 3rd month of pregnancy. Olga asked Mary to hold her baby with love; to massage her baby; & talk to him looking deep in his eyes. When the baby choked, Olga taught Mary to stay calm & to encourage her baby that he can do it at his pace. To lull him & play relaxing soft music for him. In the 20 days that followed, the baby gained 800 grams. Mary seems to realize a lot of things, & enjoy motherhood although she has a long way to walk. By the way, the baby boy is going to be given the name of Panayiotis, after Christ’s mother.

Discussion: This is such profound illustration how the extreme tension patterns Mary was feeling during the first three months of her pregnancy & the patterns of starvation were exactly the patterns which her baby was replicating after his birth.

Olga was able to help Mary to develop love & patience with her baby.

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Dutch Whole-Self Facilitator Petra van Schuppen shares an important point reported extensively by John Sonne, MD in studies on abortion survivors. Just the mother having emotionally charged thoughts can have profound impact on the consciousness & developing personality of the baby being educated in her emotional/mental bodies.

Case Study of Abortion Thought

 

Whole-Self Psychology Research shows that the consciousness of the baby is not

killed in an abortion.  But, because the mother feels or thinks she is harming or killing her baby this can have a profound impact on the new consciousness being educated in her emotional/mental bio-energy field.

Karin is 40 years old of age. She has two children. She presented as having experienced a lot of fear in her life & had difficulty to surrender into relationships, even contacts with anyone, in her life. This was because she was afraid to get pain in her life if she was in contact with people. Basically, Karin had rejection problems. As a result of her psychological state she abused her children. She had heard from her mother that she tried to abort her.

In the Whole-Self Prebirth session, Karin discovered that in the first month of pregnancy, because she was not yet married, her mother had a thought of abortion.

Karin also became aware of the real truth. Her mother’s thought about abortion was not because Karin was not welcome but that her mother was not married. It was a great healing to realize that her mother had not rejected ‘her’. The subjective guiding experience Karin had been living all her life had been through her innate belief ‘I am rejected or will be rejected!’ Mother also ignored herself.

Through her Whole-Self, Karin could experience freeing herself of her reactive negative thoughts. And, she could experience joy that her mother decided to keep her. She finished with her anger against her mother & could experience joy for the first time in her life. But most importantly, she could experience love with her children instead of abusing them.

Karin’s discovery came five days after she had visualized her mother’s egg & her father’s sperm merged together (conception). As she became accustomed to feelings of happiness & joy, she was no longer controlled by the old feelings & anger & sadness. Karin concluded, ‘Mother had not wanted to feel her feelings! She had thought of an abortion as an option because she was not yet married!’

All recognized authorities, in Prenatal Psychology, hold as a basic universal principle that the greatest tragedy in humanity is the birth of an unwanted baby.

As we said above, if there is mutual respect, affection, passion & love in the initiating act of love by the mother & father, the child, because of the welcoming & continuing dialogue between the three principles, knowing it is welcome & wanted, can come into the world filled with wonder, joy & delight – a transformative inspirational co-creative being. A truly human being is born.

Postscript: We are minded of a remarkable cassette tape ‘I Love You!’ produced by

Binnie Dansby.

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Do Babies Feel Pain?©2006

by Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

1. What are the effects of violence on a baby prenatally?

JRG&T: There are two effects on an unborn baby – an emotional

reaction & a physical reaction on the yet to be born little

body. In the first person, on the emotional encoding, as

my mind & emotions are residing in mother’s mind &

emotions, my mind & emotions are being educated by

mother’s charged thoughts & charged feelings & reactions.

This is where & how I, & every human being, begins life in

symbiosis with mother.

When a pregnant woman experiences violence directly,

or indirectly by news reports, she can be reacting with

depression, fear, terror & panic. These emotions, especially

fear, terror & panic, can trigger massive rushes of adrenaline

& noradrenaline. These are called catecholamines & are

traced in her blood. When mother experiences such trauma

she goes into an emotional hypnotic trance non-consciously

believing that those trauma events continue to be still

happening to her for the rest of her life. The emotional

trauma trance triggers reactions in her body of adrenaline &

noradrenaline hormones which are then passed from her body

through the placenta to her baby.

After the 9/11 assault on theWorldTradeCenterin New

YorkCity, women who were pregnant during that attack

subsequently birthed their babies. Months after birth, those

babies still carried high saturations of those catecholamine

hormones.

So, I am born with mother’s no-conscious belief that those

events are still happening & with her hormonal saturation which

cause specific feelings throughout my life. Such feelings are the

core source of my pathological feelings which may then be

reinforced by events in my life.

2. What is the outcome of stress on a baby prenatally.

JRG&T: Depending on the intensity of the stress, as with violence,

mother can be pumping the catecholamines adrenaline

& noradrenaline. As these hormones circulate through her

body, they pass through the umbilicus to the little body

she is growing for me to use after my birth.

The more continuous & pervasive the stress, the more

my developing body is conditioned to these hormones during

gestation. The most common diminishing pattern is a low

grade depression which defies discovery in therapy from

events in my life because my depression comes from the

symbiotic period before birth from being in mother’s mind

& emotions. And, as shown in the 9/11 trauma, baby is born

with those stress hormones which circulate in his or her

bloodstream for many months even years. These hormones

create feelings of fight, flight or freeze which generate

behaviors which in Whole-Self Psychology we call ‘strategies

for survival’.

3. Can trauma happen prenatally?

JRG&T: Yes! Trauma can happen prenatally! When I was in practice

inBeverly Hills,Californiain theUSA, I was getting referrals

to our Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute for

patients who had been declared as incurable. I knew that

those persons had spent years in therapy trying to discover

the source of their pathology – their unresolved feelings

controlling & often debilitating those persons. The discovery

we made was that their pathologies were actually the feelings

their mothers had experienced as a reaction either to a

trauma or to a pervasive, diminishing stress pattern such as

betrayal, physical or mental abuse, poverty or war during their

pregnancies. These reaction feelings were exactly the same

feelings, which had controlled & debilitated the patients all

through their lives. By discovering that the feelings that they

had been feeling all through their lives were actually their

mother’s reactions to trauma or stress during her pregnancy,

we were able to help those persons to de-hypnotize themselves

from the trauma trance which had been passed on to them

from mother during her pregnancy.

4. Can learning occur prenatally?

JRG&T: Prenatal learning comes through two channels before, during

& after birth. First, education happens naturally & normally to

every baby during gestation. This first classroom is mother’s

mind & her emotions.

Here is a simple experiment viewers can experience:

‘With eyes closed, please allow your Whole-Self to let

you experience precisely where your consciousness,

your sense of yourself, is located just before your birth.’

Pause keeping eyes closed:

‘Now please allow your Whole-Self to let you experience

what happens to your consciousness when the first breath

enters the little body.’

What you have just experienced is the most important

discovery of your whole life. What you have discovered, has

been universally reconfirmed in almost 40 years of Whole-Self

practice in over 30,000 cases worldwide. In Whole-Self Prebirth

Psychology, participants have discovered their consciousness

or soul was not inside their mother’s body but in her mind &

emotions. As mother’s mind is thinking charged thoughts &

mother’s emotions are feeling charged feelings, baby is being

naturally educated. This is proven by the fact that babies are

born with a full menu of emotions as seen on their faces & by

their behavior especially in the first hour after birth & beyond.

The second channel of prebirth learning is through intentional

audio programs such as heartbeat, music & vocabulary. This

research was pioneered by Brent Logan. Over 20 years of

research & experimentation pioneered by Rene Van de Carr,

at hisPrenatalUniversity, instruct parents-to-be to “teach”

their fetuses by touch & words. Visit www.babyplus.com .

5. Can bonding with parents happen prenatally?

JRG&T: Prenatal bonding is a most important part of prelearning.

If attachment & bonding, that is a welcoming connection

between baby & parents, does not take place severe

pathology can propel baby to a life of pain & suffering for

the child & all people with whom he or she comes in contact.

When baby’s consciousness knows, through mother’s &

father’s mind & emotions, expressed through her & her

mate’s thoughts, words & actions, that baby is wanted &

welcomed as a part of the new family, baby is given the

most important message of welcome to a warm & loving

family & to a wonderful world, too. This is called Mother-

father-baby dialogue as defined by Prof. Dr. Peter G.

Fedor-Freybergh of the International Society of Prenatal

& Perinatal Psychology & Medicine.

8. Do babies have feelings and emotions prenatally?

JRG&T: Speaking in the first person, I do not choose my mother.

Mother does not choose me. My consciousness, or soul, is

energetically attracted to my mother & father, months &

even years before mother is pregnant, precisely because

of the thoughts & especially the feelings that she, & father

through her, are feeling before, during & after conception

& birth. What the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix© has

shown is that there are 22 specific moments in pregnancy

when feelings & emotions become encoded in the

consciousness I will live out in my life.

My consciousness does not go into the fetus or the little

body mother is growing for me to use, as you discovered,

when consciousness enters the little body with the first breath.

There can be two channels of memories connected with my

prenatal feelings. One is cellular memory, information encoded

in the cells of developing fetus & little body. Analyst Joanna

Wilheim inBrazilhas hypothesized that I can be carrying cellular

memories of conception being energetically pre-challenging

to my life.

What is important to realize, is that while my little body is

gestating in mother’s body, my consciousness is being

educated in her mind & her emotions by her charged thoughts

& her charged emotions. The interesting point in that education

process, is that my consciousness does not distinguish between

my feelings & my mother’s feelings. I perceive that what is

happening to her is happening to me. This sense of symbiosis

should be dissipated by the age of seven. If this separation does

not happen by seven, my inability or her inability to distinguish

our feelings from each other can become pathology.

 

9. Do babies feel fears prenatally?

 

JRG&T: I can feel fear prenatally if mother is feeling charged fear during

her pregnancy. But, again, because of symbiosis, I believe that the

fear is mine, this is how the pattern of mother’s fear becomes an

opportunity for my own growth, development & evolutions to be

activated by subsequent events in my life after my birth. The

challenge is for me to distinguish what precise patterns are mine

or someone else’s.

6. Do babies suffer prenatally?

 

JRG&T: This is a very profound question which totally depends on how

I view the word ‘suffer’.  There can be physical pain as a

result of impact through the nerves of my physical body. But

to suffer there must also be a mind to perceive the pain &

emotions to judge that the pain is severe enough to be

perceived as suffering.  If I hold that there is a complete

person composed of body, mind, spirit & emotions, in other

words, total personhood from the moment of conception,

then it could be projected that I might suffer prenatally. But,

that is not what the evidence shows. It is a scientific fact

that starting from about 8 weeks gestation there may be

neurological systems beginning to function in my little body.

That is exactly what gestation is for – practice & rehearsal.

It does not mean that I suffer. My little body, which mother

is growing in her womb for me to use during my life, is

basically functional, with life support, in about 3 months.

Nature provides six more months for my little body to

practice & rehearse so that, as you just experienced, my

consciousness which has been being educated in mother’s

mind & emotions enters my new born little body with my

first breath. That is when my life begins as my responsibility.

 

7. Do babies suffer prenatally if her mother wants an abortion?

JRG&T: No, Baby does not suffer if mother wants an abortion.

Dr. John Sonne has hypothesized, baby’s consciousness can

be aware that it’s existence is being threatened which then

can be translated into reactive, aggressive, antagonistic

behaviors toward that mother or father or both or the world

after birth. But, while baby does not suffer if mother is

suffering baby can feel her suffering.. Again, we have seen,

prenatally baby’s consciousness is in mother’s mind &

emotions. What baby is being prenatally educated to is not

baby’s own feelings but the charged feelings & anguished

thoughts mother is feeling because of her discovering that

she is pregnant. Such threat to survival may be the precise

pattern which energetically attracted me to my mother,

not to keep acting it out but to learn about by living my

life responsibly.

We are most grateful to Victor Lopez for giving us the opportunity

to clarify our hypothesis in a concise manner.

We trust this will give you a simple model for sharing this essential

discovery & hypothesis of Whole-Self of Whole-Self Psychology,

Philosophy & Education.

We welcome your comments &or suggestions.

Much Peace & Much Love!  JRG&T.

Prebirth Dynamics

in the Formatting of Relationships

& Reactive Attachment Disorders

©2005  By Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

Presented at the 16th International Congress of the ISPPM

The Anthropology & Psychology of Pregnancy & Birth

Heidelberg, Germany 2-5 June 2005
[abrreviated]

Attachment & Bonding are critical in human development. When a newborn enters the world & healthily attaches to mother/father during infancy & toddlerhood, the effects generate essential neurological development, as well as appropriate social skills & behaviors & emotional balance. Such early attachment relationship creates health & trust – yielding lifelong, safe & appropriate & supporting  relationships & success.     [Developmental psych theory]

Increasing numbers of infants & children are floundering in a sea of neurological underdevelopment, dysfunctional & uncontrollable emotions which can generate various degrees of inappropriate, unsocial even anti-social behaviors. We are shown news reports of children murdering their classmates or families because of inappropriate or non-existent attachment in the infant & blocked bonding in the parents.

The American Psychiatric Association DMS-IV identifies this pathology as Reactive Attachment Disorder of Infancy & Early Childhood – RAD. The authors hypothesize & describe a benign parallel system which they call Reactive Attachment Order – RAO.

An imperative in Prenatal Psychology is that baby be wanted & welcomed into the family, even before conception, but minimally, during pregnancy. That is the beginning of appropriate Attachment. When the child is not wanted; when mother is emotionally unavailable during pregnancy & through the first 3 years of life; when there is separation through early hospitalization & adoption; when there is early abuse on any level – such failures can result in anti-social, abhorrent, destructive even murderous behavior in these afflicted children & teens. Starting with the same Dysattachment, RAO children are dedicated to enhancing humanity.

Now, Attachment & Bonding Theory is recognizing that healthy, trusting behaviors are not just conditioning after birth but can be traced back to pregnancy. Life begins symbiotically in the parent’s physical, mental, emotional & spiritual ecologies.

In Whole-Self Psychology, baby’s health & balance of body – particularly essential neurological development – mind & emotions come together, making gestation, not only the first, but also most vital environment.

 

What is Prenatal Psychology?

As an introduction to our paper it is appropriate to know some definitions & parameters of Prenatal Psychology  & the arena of humanity it serves to heal.  For this, we quote from the website of the International Society of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine ( www.isppm.de )

“ISPPM is devoted to the initial phase of human development  – prenatal & perinatal life. ISPPM considers this earliest stage of life as the first ecological position of the human being & the womb as its first ecological environment.  Pregnancy is perceived to be a period of active & continuous dialogue between the prenatal child, the mother & her psycho-social environment.

From a holistic view, human life is recognized as an indivisible entity & continuum of all human functions, both physical & psychological in which no division between “body” & “mind” can be made.  This comprehensive & holistic approach is also reflected in the interdisciplinary character of the ISPPM membership.”

 

In a simple sentence, Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology is dedicated to assisting those who have experienced diminishing gestation & birth & early infancy to recognize & release dysappropriate early experiences in order to live an enhanced & balanced life.

 

What is the Meaning of Formatting of Relationships?

 

Formatting means the blueprint, the matrix, the setting, in this paper the precursor for relationships to be able to be set in life.  Primal patterns are what set the course for the experiences in relationships each person will activate during life.

 

Primal Relationship Patterns Exist Before Birth!

 

These primal relationship abilities begin in the symbiotic connection between baby & mother when baby is energetically attracted to mother’s consciousness even before conception.  When baby’s consciousness is energetically attracted to mother by her mental & emotional patterns  particularly the ‘charged’ mental & emotional patterns –   baby’s mind & emotions begin a process of being educated in mother’s mental & emotional consciousnesses weeks, months, sometimes years before conception takes place.

Since the beginnings of motherhood, mothers have reported being contacted by a baby before conception.  This was often through the dimension of dreams during sleep.

As Ludwig Janus Past President of ISPPM states on www.isppm.de :

 

 “Research in the field of prenatal psychology has extended our life-history back to conception & beyond – right back to our parents’ thoughts & plans for a child of their own.”

    

Mother does not get pregnant & mysteriously baby’s consciousness is created. Baby’s consciousness already exists & is relating with mother before conception!

Primal Relationship Patterns are forged by the charged mental & emotional experiences in the relationships of mother, (& father as impacting mother,) & through all other relationships impacting both of them in their lives during the 9 months of pregnancy with baby.

Specifically, in over 35 years of clinical practice, Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education has discovered & developed the hypothesis that the ability or inability to not create any relationships;

or   b) create relationships & to keep destroying them

or   c) create relationships & to sustain those relationship for extended periods (life-long friendships)

are already locked into baby’s developing personality for this life during the 9 months of her/his gestation.

And, Why Are Relationships Important?

‘Everything that happens in the world happens through relationships. Whenever two people come together, even for a moment, they exchange looks, feelings, thoughts, ideas & energy. In the mirror of another person we see ourselves more clearly – our gifts & our limits, our desires & our needs.’  Linda Marks

Relationships are important because each relationship is a mirror reflecting back to me the most engrained diminishing beliefs (my realities) & behaviors I came into life to change. 

What is Reactive Attachment Disorder of Infancy & Early Childhood?  The American Psychiatric Association defines RAD in its DSM IV 313.89:

A.        Markedly disturbed & developmentally inappropriate social relatedness in most contexts, beginning before age 5 years, as evidenced by either (1) or (2):

(1)     persistent failure to initiate or respond in a developmentally appropriate fashion to most social interactions, as manifested by excessively  inhibited hyper-vigilant, or highly ambivalent               & contradictory responses (e.g., the child may respond to caregivers with a mixture of approach avoidance, & resistance to comforting, or may exhibit frozen watchfulness);

(2)     diffuse attachments as manifest by indiscriminate sociability with marked inability to exhibit appropriate selective attachments (e.g., excessive familiarity with relative strangers or lack of selectivity in choice of attachment figures).

Pathogenic care as evidenced by at least ONE of the following:

(1)       persistent (continuous) disregard of the child’s basic need for comfort, stimulation & affection.

(2)       persistent disregard for the child’s basic physical needs;

(3)       repeated changes of primary caregiver that prevents formation of stable attachment (e.g., daycare, foster care).

What is Attachment?

“Attachment is a reciprocal process by which an emotional connection develops between an infant & his/her primary caregiver. It influences the child’s physical, neurological, cognitive, & psychological development. It becomes the basis for development of basic trust or mistrust, & shapes how the child will relate to the world, learn, & form relationships throughout life. Healthy attachment occurs when the infant experiences a primary caregiver as consistently providing emotional essentials  such as touch, movement, eye contact & smiles, in addition to the basic necessities such as food, shelter, & clothing.”  Kate Moss

Attachment & Bonding

Prof. Dr. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh gives a keynote: “Remember that the prenatal stage of life in the mother’s consciousness & womb is our first ecological position as human beings. This is our first human encounter where we as children found ourselves involved in a creative dialogue with our mothers          & their biological, psychological & social environment.”

Attachment & Bonding are totally natural in indigenous cultures. Jean Liedloff described these millennia old patterns most eloquently  in her book The Continuum Concept: In Search of Happiness Lost  (Classics in Human Development).

As civilizations advanced & medical imperatives took control of birthing, maternal knowings about Attachment & Bonding all but disappeared. In the mid 20th Century, Attachment & Bonding were ‘discovered’. 

First hypothesized by Sir John Bowlby, Attachment defines baby’s ability, after birth, to develop safe & secure relationship abilities.  But these ability parameters do not begin after birth. As stated by Ludwig Janus, we concur that such relationship abilities begin before birth –  begin through a psycho-spiritual symbiosis even before conception.

Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education refines slightly Attachment as focused on the prenatal psycho-spiritual communication between baby & mother when baby’s consciousness energetically, symbiotically contacts mother.  Bonding can focus the physical as well as psycho-spiritual processes of communication & loving connection between mother & father & their baby. 

Peter Fedor-Freybergh defines this communication as ‘the mother/baby dialogue (father included)’ as essential even before the beginning of the new life. As mentioned, Attachment & Bonding begins symbiotically for every human being when baby’s consciousness is energetically attracted to mother’s mental & emotional consciousnesses. It is mother’s charged emotions & mental attitudes which magnetically draw baby’s consciousness to her

Relationships are the most valuable tools I have for my individual & group growth, development & evolution!  My child, natural or adopted, is also my mirror. What images are my child reflecting in me that I need to balance?

In parent/baby relationships, there must be communication on many levels. Grigori I. Brekhman has shown that there exists a communication system between mother & her unborn child on all levels during pregnancy.

In the book Phenomenon of Violence, in his multi-entitled paper “Mechanisms & Ways of Interaction Between Mother & Unborn child.   Mother as a “Transmitter” of Violence to the Child. Violence Against  Women – Violence Against a New Generation of Humanity” Brekhman states:

“The zygote becomes a new resonant mass, generating already on its own frequency, an Electro Magnetic wave. When the zygote appears, the EM situation changes: two energo-information subsystems (the mother & the child) take place in synergism & joined by one range of frequencies.  Zygote with its own frequency range instantly intersperse in the “multiple-voices of chorus” of mother’s genome (“The gene is an orchestra and chorus…” Lubischev A.A. wrote) & other structures, organs & systems sounding in mother’s organism,   bringing in its own information, its own “solo”, which begins to subordinate to itself the mother’s bio-rhythms, metabolic processes, emotions & mentality.

  In the process of expansion of the genetic program according to the wave holographic plan of development the new multiple-cell organism forms new wave communications between its cells, their sub-cell elements, & genes. Simultaneously, with the fetus, within mother’s organism, there is a search for similar structures having the same range frequencies.

 After the establishment of the wave communication between them from the fetus’s structures to the appropriate structures of the mother, the information is constantly directed by the processes of the fetus.”

Symbiosis

Are these feelings mine or yours? or yours or mine? Every human being begins this life in symbiosis with her or his mother by being psycho-spiritually energetically attached to her mind & by sharing feelings & emotions even before conception. This symbiotic relationship should begin to separate into individuation by the age of seven. When individuation does not occur in childhood it becomes pathological.

        

In Whole-Self Psychology, Energetic Communication begins between mother & baby on all levels (Brekhman)through their symbiotic relationship initiated before the moment of conception either through mother’s desire to become pregnant or baby’s need to become educated through mother’s & father’s charged mental & emotional experiences – or both.

     

It is at the moment of symbiosis not the moment of conception when the consciousness of baby can begin communicating with the mother to whom baby is energetically attached.  When this process is interrupted Reactive Attachment Disorder locks into the child, & as we see in the news, develops into today’s child & adult sexual & murderous preditors & terrorists.

The Frayed CordÓ: Unraveling of Attachment & Bonding Process

Kelduyn R. Garland describes, “parent & child attachment as a biological & psychological need — rooted in thousands of years of evolution since the development of the mammalian brain. This bonding is critical for healthy emotional, social & physical development.  The fraying of this attachment & bonding process spawns violent temperament, personality & behavior, & is a causal dynamic underlying Reactive Attachment Disorder.

This fraying is a dynamic phenomena that knows no cultural, status or socio – economic boundary, & underlies the violence that is increasingly pervading societies throughout the world to global impact proportions.”  

Garland concludes, “The bio-physio-emotional relationship between a preonate/neonate/infant & his/her mother significantly influences brain/neurological development & establishes the foundation for personality & temperament, & development of life relationships.”    

 

Expressions of Attachment & Bonding include eye contact, holding, talking, mental, emotional & physical nurturing. It is all in the eyes!  Michel Odent tells us that when there is a lack of eye contact bonding within an hour of birth a DNA packet in mother’s brain fails to trigger & she is deprived of her natural knowing of mothering.  At the same time, baby is deprived of the DNA packet giving her or him the ability to feel love, compassion or empathy for her/himself, for mother or for any other human beings.

One of the most tragic presenting patterns many therapist are faced with in today’s world is the mother who comes to session saying, ‘I have this beautiful baby, but I do not feel any love for this baby!’  She says ‘…this baby’, not ‘…my baby’ because she has no feelings with or towards ‘this baby’.

As Grigori Brekhman has shown, there exists a communication system between mother & her unborn child on all levels during pregnancy.  For mothers who have no feelings towards their babies, it is because at then birth of their babies they were deprived  of opening those channels of  mutual emotional communication or connection with their babies.  In this worst aspect of not having feelings, RAD children have no conscience. These are the children who kill other children, their families or strangers.

In this paper, we hypothesize that Reactive Attachment has two faces: Reactive Attachment Disorder – RAD & Reactive Attachment Order – RAO.  Both RAD & RAO babies lack healthful bonding & attachment patterns. Both have diminished emotional capacities of not having feelings. Both strongly develop their mental capacities  (even when there is initial mental deficiency)  to compensate for their diminished emotional capacities.

RADs, without conscience, go into dyslogic & aberrant behaviors.  RAOs, with conscience, go into logic & beneficent behaviors. In RAD & RAO pregnancies this communication system may not  be functioning, first, in the mother, then, consequently, in baby.

In RAD parents this non-communication can be because they are against having a baby & they may even

try to violently abort what they judge to be ‘a thing’. In RAO parents this can be because even though not wanting a baby  – say for medical reason – they are resigned to the birth.

As Thomas Verny has pointed out, some mothers & fathers are ‘managers’ & some are ‘parents’. The RAO mother who feels no love her baby mentioned above is ‘a manager’. She can take care of the physical needs of ‘this baby’  but she has no emotional capacity to love ‘her baby’.

 

When for whatever reason, rational/logical or irrational/dyslogical, baby believes s/he is not wanted

it is only the degree of mental & emotional charge or discharge, as well as emotional instability or stability of the parents, who birth an RAD or an RAO baby.

Does being wanted or not wanted really matter? In Whole-Self Psychology, when we have patients who have been told or confirm through the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix that mother or father did not want them, their personality gets locked into the belief – their reality  – that ‘… mother or father did not want me!’

This belief can be very disconcerting even for RAD & RAO people who do not have feelings. For people who have feelings the belief becomes a painful reality. Whole-Self Psychology has a simple exercise for neutralizing this reality. If you carry a sense of early parental prenatal rejection, perhaps you would like to experience this Whole-Self healing moment. If so, after reading the question below, please close your eyes & sense the answer to this question given in the first person:

‘Please allow your Whole-Self to let you experience did mother or father not want me, or did they not want a pregnancy?’ (Pause for a moment.)

Inevitably, I discover that one or both did not ‘not want me’.  They may not have wanted a pregnancy. (Pause to reflect.)

The simple truth is that they could not have ‘not wanted me’ because they did not know me. Their rejection could have been because of medical advice to not get pregnant. It could have been their self-doubt or thought of not being able to provide for a baby which guided them into the thought of not wanting a baby.  Even though after birth, parents may be very loving toward their new baby, baby is already programmed diminishingly into Reactive Attachment Disorder or enhancingly into Reactive Attachment Order.

 

Following up on Michel Odent’s research on the importance of eye contact to open the communication DNA packet in mother which informs her about mothering & baby about love, compassion & empathy we come to the debate about nature or nurture as more formative.  In this arena, Cell Biologist Bruce Lipton in the APPPAH Journal

   writes that it is both:

“Leading research in cell biology reveals that ‘environmental  signals’ are primarily responsible for selecting the genes expressed by an organism. A new perspective is in direct contrast with the established view that our fate is controlled by our genes. The new emphasis on nurture (environment) controlling nature (genes) focuses special attention on the importance of the maternal environment in fetal development.  In addition to the established role of maternal physiology, it is now recognized that maternal behaviors & emotions profoundly impact the child’s physical development, behavioral characteristics, & even its level of intelligence.”

Prenatal & Perinatal Causes of RAD Patterns

Thomas Verny clearly states a profound truth about Birth & Violence:  ‘It takes much neglect, rejection, humiliation, physical maltreatment & sexual abuse to transform a tiny, trusting, innocent human being into a callous, cruel & vicious youth & adult.’ It is exactly this destructive action by sometimes well intentioned parents, as well as obviously psychotic or socio-pathic fathers or mothers, which are the stated histories of the predatory & murderous behaviors described by violent offenders in prisons.

There is one main cause of RAD which is hardly ever acknowledged.  These are the whippings, beatings, punishments, verbal or abuse inflicted on children by sincerely religiously convicted parents who have believed the misconception by some in the Freudian & religious communities that babies are born little monsters & that if the parents do not tame the wild beasts,  the beasts will devoir them.

The following lists are some diminishing patterns experienced by mother,  & through her charged emotional & mental reactions, by baby during pregnancy & by baby after birth.

1)   Mother’s sudden &/or traumatic separation from loved

     ones & for baby primary caretaker through 

     illness, hospitalization & death.

2)   Physical, mental, emotional, or sexual abuse pre or

       perinatally.

3)   Neglect of her needs &/or abandonment of mother

       during pregnancy & by baby after birth.

4)   Illness with unrelenting pain in both mother & baby. 

5)   Frequent moves &/or temporary foster family

       placements.

6)      Inconsistent or inadequate care at home or in day

      care. Mammals need safe nests.   Tragic Romanian

       Birth Policy.

7)     Chronic depression by parent or caregiver.
After birth RAD children can exhibit ‘child from hell’ patterns:

1)  Hyper alertness to counter terrors of destruction &

      survival reactiveness.

2)  Refusal to make or hold eye contact

3)  False charming acting out.

4)  Inappropriate feel goods with strangers.

5)  Inappropriately demanding & clinging with strangers.

6)     Revenge by refusal to receive or give affection or

      respect with parents or caregivers.

7)  Continuous talking & annoying stupid questions.

8)  Poor peer contacts.

9)  Extreme overt &/or sneaky control patterns.

Because of neurological deficiencies RAD Children

         

1)  Do not have conscience nor fear consequences for bad

      actions.

2)  Do not perceive consequences for wrong actions.

3)  Can have learning disabilities & development delays.

4)  Can have critical inability to control reactive impulses.

5)  Can  have hyperactive behavior.

Because of disturbed emotional development RAD Children can display:

1)  Infantile fear & outrageous rage.

2)  Incoherent &/or confusing speech patterns.                    

3) The speech center seem to be miswired.

4) Aberrant patterns around food & feces.

5)  Sneaky stealing of objects & hoarding of food.

6)  Stupid crazy lying.

7)  Harming self & others, or property.

8)  Abusing, torturing & killing helpless animals.

9)  A strong attraction to fire, blood, & gore including Video

      Games.

Cultural & Sociological Prebirth & Birth Patterns

Universally, each culture has its unique characteristics & practices about pregnancy & birth. It is profound that Middle Eastern cultures understood  that the experiences of mother during her pregnancy had impact upon the baby she was nurturing.  She was protected from any negative influences.  This is where the word ‘Confinement’ during pregnancy comes from.

 

Abortion Thoughts

 John C. Sonne has reported that even a mother or father’s fleeting thought of wanting an abortion can precipitate baby’s developing personality into terror & survival – hyper-vigilant mode.  After birth the RAD baby is simply incapable of allowing any trust towards truly loving, caring & supportive parents. In its worst aspect, these are children innately bent through bad & destructive behavior to force their parents to prove their love.

In Reactive Attachment Disorder, Darth Vader babies, as modeled in Star Wars, come into life dedicated to supporting the dark force by moving into abhorrent behavior.  Whereas, in Reactive Attachment Order,  little Mr. Spock babies, as modeled in Star Trek, come into life innately mentally dedicated through logic  to enhancing the world & other human beings.  This enhancing quality in RAOs is interesting because even though  lacking feelings of love, compassion & empathy for others, RAO children are intellectually dedicated to supporting the enhancing qualities of life.

Through acute logical mental functioning, without emotional overlays, RAOs logic is often amazingly clear & correct. And, RAOs have a talent for foreseeing & avoiding problems. They are keen observers & ‘learn’ how people who have emotional  capacities would function & so can innately put on ‘a good act’. We say this in a very enhancing way.

A Golden Apple for an RAO Baby

 Steve Jobs describes a perfect example of an RAO baby. Rejected by his mother; rejected by his first possible adoptive parents;  almost lost to his adoptive parents;  is a perfect recapitulation of his rejection beginnings.   After founding Apple Computers, he was popped out – fired by his Board of Directors.      This moved him on to found the amazingly successful Pixar Animation Studios.  Another enhancing recapitulation of his early rejection patterns ‘popping out’ to an enhancing life for people. Rehabilitated, as in his adoption, back to Apple Steve Jobs newest priceless baby is the Apple iPod a computer product which bring great enhancing pleasure to millions.

Did Mother have a Trauma?

As in familial diseases passed down through generations, there can be psycho-spiritual generational  patterns inherited through family lines as well families as well. I value the answers to the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix questions & their meanings because they help me to understand the ‘parable’ or ‘mythos’ of my family psycho-history.

The key to our Life’s Streams® of Consciousness is found in the simple Whole-Self discovery that  ‘Not only did I inherit my parent’s DNA, which gave me my physical characteristics,          but I am also the synthesis of their charged mental & emotional patterns during the 9 months before my birth which gave me my emotional DNA© (eDNA©).’

Perhaps you would like to experience a simple example how this Whole-Self PAM works. Read the Question below & close your eyes to hear the answer – ‘Yes’ or ‘No’.

‘Please allow your Whole-Self to let you know if your mother experienced any trauma or continuous diminishing circumstance &/or feelings during her pregnancy. YES or NO?’

In the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix exploring this question in some detail helps me to discover the innate non-conscious source of  my most frequently felt reactive feelings, my most frequent diminishing self-judgments, & my most frequently diminishing decisions in my life.

 

The familiar, sometimes pathological patterns, feelings, self-judgments, conclusions & decisions that I have repeated all through my life, may in fact, have been inherited from my mother’s ‘emotional DNA’.

Mother’s emotional DNA (eDNA), as discovered in Whole-Self Psychology, is a key in the development of Reactive Attachment Disorder  & Reactive Attachment Order.

Observations about prenatal sources of RAD children

1)  When we look at RAD children with aberrant, even murderous behavior because they have no conscience, parents of these ‘little devils’ can be in great anguish because they believe that their child is acting against them.

 

2)     RAD children who are belligerent against the adoptive parents are non-consciously acting out (more accurately lashing out) against the birth parents they believe rejected & abandoned them.

3)     Because RAD children cannot feel feelings in any normal sense they cannot know what the words ‘I love you!’ mean because they cannot know or feel what love is. Love is simply ‘unknowable’! But RADs do know revenge!

4)     In RAD children, while they are not feeling normal feelings, through hyper-vigilance they are acutely, destructively reacting out non-conscious ‘strategies for survival’.

 

Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education is resonating that just as each of us is the synthesis of our parent’s genetic coding which gives us our physical characteristics, there is also a synthesis of the charged emotional-mental patterns of our parents from the 9 months of their pregnancy.

Conclusion:

Usually reinforced after my birth by living in my family, my Whole-Self PAM Patterns are the charged beliefs, the mindsets & emotions with which I was born.  It is these charged reactive mental & emotional patterns which I have consciously & non-consciously controlled my life.  Because feelings create behaviors, the Whole-Self Prebirth questions are particularly valuable to develop when dealing with       Reactive Attachment Disorder & other disruptive behaviors.

 

Most therapies hold vehemently that pathology can only come  from events which have occurred during the client’s life. Fortunately, this fallacy is being corrected by Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology Education & Health & Medicine.

Over the last 35 years, there are now increasing numbers of National & International Associations & Societies.  Some of these offer Professional Journals which contribute to the thousands of scientific studies already published proving the importance of innate emotional patterns from gestation, birth, infancy & early childhood.

Since 1970, through the Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute  International, Troya & I have pioneered in Prebirth Memory Therapy©  research & practice through instrument of the Prebirth Analysis Matrix©. This therapeutic model proved that clients & patients, who in other  therapies had been rejected as incurable, found that their pathology was actually a replication of mother’s, & sometimes father’s, charged reactions to traumas during their pregnancies & were able to heal themselves.  

My parents charged patterns which migrated into me are precisely what I come into life to change.
*  Whole-Self Discovery & Development is an active process to Discover & Develop myself.

*  My Whole-Self connects on my physical, mental, emotional & spiritual levels all at the same time.

*  Whole-Self Discovery & Development helps me to immediately identify my problems.

*  Whole-Self Psychology helps me to discover my conscious & non-conscious diminishing beliefs about myself.

            

*  Diminishing beliefs about myself inhibit my energy & block me from success in relationships, work & life.

*  Whole-Self Discovery & Development offers me effective tools to help me to change my diminishing beliefs.

*  Whole-Self Philosophy is a continuous inspiration for my individual growth, development & evolution as a Whole Person!

We close with a simple fact: Mother Nature gives my little body –  which is part of my mother’s body – the ability – with NICU support – to survive after 3 months.  The next 6 months of my gestation is for my little body to practice & rehearse so that after birth it can live on its own.

We close with a simple question for you: How can Mother Nature provide practice & rehearsal for my little body as part of my mother’s body & not provide practice & rehearsal for my mind inside her mind & not provide practice & rehearsal for my emotions inside her emotions?

APPENDIX

In Whole-Self Psychology healing is constructed on the recognition of the  impact of the Whole-Self Four Laws of Life. These Whole-Self Four Laws of Life helped lock me into my pathology.  This is based on my conscious & non-conscious belief – my reality – that the causative events are still happening at this moment. As we give these Whole-Self Four Laws of Life below, we emphasize the word ‘non-conscious’ because this is how feelings  stimulate & cause behaviors. In the first person:

1)      When I am, consciously or non-consciously, resisting my feelings, I trigger the Whole-Self First Law of Life – The Law of Opposition which says ‘Whatever I am opposed to I have to experience.’  So, as my personality is opposing my seeing the causative traumatic event, this law keeps me locked in my trauma trance pattern.  When I resist my painful feelings, on a conscious or non-conscious level, I make judgments against myself not against others. Self-judgment words can be:

Unlovable                        Unimportant            Worthless                 Unfulfilled 

Unworthy                         Worthless                 Inferior  

Stupid                              Irresponsible            Guilty                      

Bad                                                  Inappropriate           Dumb                       Inept

Wicked                            Terrible                   Horrible                   Dirty        

Disgusting                         Despicable               Unacceptable          

Incapable                         Incompetent            Inadequate 

Incomplete                      Insecure                   Helpless

Hopeless                          Powerless                Not Good Enough

Unsupportable                                 Unrecognized 

The most frequently recognized are ‘Helpless, Hopeless & Powerless’.

 

2)   These Self-Judgments trigger the Whole-Self Second Law of Life  –  The Law of Confirmation which says: ‘Whatever I really believe about myself I will keep proving to myself (through my life’s experiences).

      

3)   When I consciously or non-consciously resist my feelings & consciously or non-consciously make judgments against myself,  I consciously or non-consciously trigger the third Whole-Self Law of Life  –  The Law of Decisions which says:   My conscious & non-conscious diminishing decisions determine or create my future.

  4)   When I keep consciously or non-consciously opposing my feelings, making diminishing judgments about myself, making diminishing decisions about my life, I trigger the Whole-Self Fourth Law of Life  –  The Law of Repetition which gently says: Try It Again!  Try It Again!  Try It Again!  When through my Whole-Self instead of my personality, these Whole-Self Four Laws of Life are recognized within the context of my life experiences, I no longer need to consciously or non-consciously keep opposing my feelings, making diminishing judgments about myself, making diminishing  decisions about my life.  So, subsequently, I do not have to Try It Again!

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Based on their workshop presented at the 16th International Association for Treatment & Training in the Attachment of Children (ATTACh) in October, 2004, the Turners discussed the link between Reactive Attachment Disorder, Reactive Attachment Order & Prebirth Memory. They describe the formation of the emotional DNA (eDNA©), its influence & the possibilities to balance innate prebirth relationship patterns in RAD & RAO children & adults.

Contact: Jon RG & Troya GN Turner,

Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute (W-SDDI)

Waterrad  92   Grootebroek, NL   Tel: + 31 228 513 630

Email:  Whole-Self@quicknet.nl ; Websites: www.Whole-Self.info

      & www.Whole-Self.co.uk ; www.ionianet.gr/cosmoanelixis –  + 30 210 272 0015

      

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This paper is dedicated to our friend Bernard Mindlin, whose father & mother came fromRussia. In his 90th year Bernard graced us with sharing his spirit leave his body. It was a perfect gift, as we prepared this paper, to recognize again, the truth that the last breath is the perfect mirror of the first breath. The space between is called life!          JRG&T

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The Prenatal Child & Society:

Why Prebirth Psychology, Philosophy &Education?:©2006

                                                                                       by Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

Plenary Address at the World Congress

PRENATAL CHILD & SOCIETY: ROLE OF PRENATAL PSYCHOLOGY IN OBSTETRICS,

NEONATOLOGY, PSYCHOLOGY & SOCIOLOGY 20-24 May 2007 Moscow, Russia

VII International Congress of the International Society of Pre- & Perinatal Psychology

& Medicine (ISPPM) & VI All-Russia Congress for pre- & perinatal psychology,

perinatology & psychotherapy of the Russian Association for pre- & perinatal

development (RAPPD)  http://www.congress2007.perfectbaby.ru/index_eng.shtml

Key Words:  prenatal child; Prenatal Psychology; Prebirth Psychology; tyrants; dictators; 9/11; spontaneous abortion; fetal pain; world population; hatred in pregnancy; prebirth memories of slavery; colonialism; malnutrition; symbiosis; prenatal violence; caesarean deaths; nature or nurture; cellular memory; Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix; prebirth trauma; adoption; Reactive Attachment Disorder; imagination; play; Whole-Self Psychology; DNA; emotional DNA; eDNA

Abstract: This paper begins with reference to John Sonne’s landmark paper On Tyrants As Abortion Survivors sources the prebirth disasters which conceived terrible tyrants & diabolical dictators of the 20th Century. In human reproduction, medical studies show that between 50-75% of all pregnancies end in spontaneous abortion. The question of fetal pain is discussed. World population is now over 6½  billion human beings; by 2050 it will be 8½ billion. From Greece to Spain, across the northern shore of the Mediterranean, a tide of Africans is surging northward. From a case history on Cyprus, the authors discover how mother’s hatred during pregnancy gets passed on to her child can lead to racial prejudice & hatred. Sauci Bosner describes a project entitled Prebirth Memories of Slavery & Echoes of Colonialism. Professor Michael A. Crawford Chair of the McCarrison Society describes how malnutrition before birth saps intellectual strength. Cell biologist Bruce Lipton discusses the child’s physical development, behavioral characteristics, & even its level of intelligence’.

When a pregnant woman experiences violence, she can be reacting with depression, fear, terror & panic. Babies born by Caesarean is reported in a new study.  Reference is made about psycho-spiritual familial/generational patterns inherited through family lines. The answers to the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix© help us to understand the ‘mythos’ of family psycho-history. The key is the Whole-Self discovery of the emotional DNA© (eDNA©).

   Prof. Grigori Brekhman’s research atIvanovoStateMedicalAcademy explains how a multiple level communication system between baby & mother exists.

   In Adoption & in some children with Reactive Attachment Disorder, we see that these afflicted children are often ‘fighting for survival’ against even especially caring & loving foster or adoptive parents.

   The Daily Telegraph of London reports that Junk Culture Is Poisoning Our Children & that experts blame fast food, computer games & competitive schooling for rise in depression.

   Examining the topics of play & imagination, Michael Mendizza the founder of Touch the Future, defines play. We discover a quote from the Greek Philosopher Plato who sums up the importance of play with the dictum ‘You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.’

   Laura Uplinger, Chair for the APPPAH Congress in Los Angeles, California, USAin February 2007 shares a vision in her poem I KNOW A PLANET. Attention is given to the theme of individuation & society. Through prenatal education

     I possess the actual possibility to recreate that spark for life that has been suffering;

     I possess the actual possibility to prevent dysfunction, disease, disaster & destruction;

I possess the actual possibility to stop being a revolutionary but, most essentially,

     I possess the actual possibility to become an evolutionary.

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Ludwig Janus, on the website www.isppm.de gives us our keynote:

Research in the field of prenatal psychology has extended our life-history back to

conception & beyond – right back to our parents’ thoughts & plans for a child of their own.

The topics of human Psychology, Philosophy & Education are so vast, we do not presume to cover every possible aspect. Our intention is simply to offer some touch points which may cause us to pause in order to discover & develop what might be done. These three Sciences Psychology, Philosophy & Education seek to break down barriers & frontiers through research & understanding.

The question posed in this paper is, ‘Why Prebirth Psychology, Philosophy & Education?’ In beginning to answer this question, it is appropriate first to acknowledge the ‘wise women’ who birthed humanity & passed on that knowledge through a continuous stream of a 100,000 generations. It is a little over a hundred years since with the medicalization of birth, when man took over, that birthing wisdom was almost lost to western society. For the last 35 years, the pioneers of prebirth & birth education, some of whom are here today, by joining together all branches surrounding pregnancy & birth, have striven to regain & take forward truth & knowledge about the psychological as well as physical beginnings of human life.

Another question which may be asked is,

‘What is the psychological content about pregnancy & birthing information

needing to be passed on to present & future generations?

Some of our esteemed co-presenters may offer some suggestions as to why & how we might best use contemporary sciences to bring both common sense & wisdom to the debilitating, dysfunctional disasters overshadowing humanity.

Small & sometimes large neighborhood gang battles, sectarian & non-sectarian religious fanaticism, civil, regional & international wars exist. But most pathetic, in a descending precipitous cascade from humanness are the genocides emotionally dysfunctional leaders & dictators inflict on their citizens.

                                              Terrible Tyrants & Diabolical Dictators

Where do terrible tyrants & diabolical dictators come from? In his landmark paper On Tyrants As Abortion Survivors in the International Journal of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine John C. Sonne, M.D. advanced the thesis that

Murderous sibling rivalry, one of the psychological & social consequences of the threat

of being aborted, is a major dynamic operative in  “ethnic cleansing,” eugenic

movements, racial, religious & international conflict, mass murders, serial killings, & sometimes even in marital & parenting behavior.

In 2006, the world marked the 5th Anniversary of the 9/11 World Trade Center attack. Some religious fanatics would change the word ‘marked’ to ‘celebrated’. Sonne’s hypothesis is that denotables like Adolph Hitler, Francisco Franco, Joseph Stalin, Benito Mussolini, Slobodan Milosevic, Saddam Hussein, & Osama bin Laden were not wanted & all faced horrendous conditions during gestation & early childhood. Sonne notes that

The themes of tyrannical siblings are,

‘No one can have what I didn’t get –

what is rightfully mine that has been taken away from me.’

‘I will psychologically or physically destroy these persons,

& also anyone who gives or gave to them or supports them.’

‘Revenge is what I want more than anything else,

& this is more important to me than being loved or cared for.’

‘I hate others, but I also loathe myself so much that if I die

in seeking this, I will only have gratified my own wish for suicide.’

Exploring the prenatal histories of tyrants, Sonne found that Adolph Hitler’s mother, Klara, his father’s grandniece, was 24 & pregnant when she married in 1885. She gave birth to two boys & a girl, all of whom died before Hitler’s birth. Hitler’s father beat his wife while she was pregnant with Adolph. He frequently beat his children, including Hitler.

Slobodan Milosevic’s father committed suicide when Slobodan was around five years old.  Then his mother & a maternal uncle, Slobodan’s favorite, also committed suicide.  As a child, he resisted being touched, & he had no friends.

Saddam Hussein’s mother attempted to abort Saddam by running into a wall & even tried to suicide herself & him when she was seven months pregnant with Saddam. His father & another sibling had died around that same time.

Of contemporary tyrants, Osama bin Laden was born of Hamada one of his father’s eleven wives.

He grew up in a family of 54 children, the 17th of 24 sons.  His father, Mohammed

bin Laden, a wealthy businessman, usually kept four wives at a time, divorcing one

to add another. Bin Laden’s mother was scorned by the other wives as ‘the slave’

& him as ‘son of the slave’. He grew up isolated shy, & withdrawn, & did not get

along with his 53 siblings. When he was ten, his father died in an airplane crash…

In 1984, he joined the Taliban, a group of fanatic & militant Muslims engaged in

battling the Russians.  A few years later, he formed a group called Al Queda, a

terrorist organization that ultimately bombed the World Trade Center on 9/11/01.

Death, destruction & dissolution of life itself have all been the ultimate goals of these men.

Sonne concludes with a dire diminishing theme marking these prenatally afflicted tyrants:

‘If my caretakers don’t respect & love me while I am in utero, I will take

my revenge later in life, not necessarily against them, but against all of

society, a society that has been in collusion with them to my detriment.’

Thomas Verny has clearly articulated the definitive profound imperative about

‘Birth & Violence’:

It takes much neglect, rejection, humiliation, physical maltreatment & sexual abuse

to transform a tiny, trusting, innocent human being  into a callous, cruel & vicious

youth & adult.

It is exactly this destructive abuse during gestation & after birth, ranging from overly strict, often culturally or religiously fanaticized parents, to obviously psychotic or sociopathic fathers or mothers, which are the stated histories of the anti-human, predatory & murderous behaviors described by violent offenders in prisons.

A Reproductive Reality

In human reproduction, medical studies show that between 50-75% of all pregnancies end in spontaneous abortion. Does this mean that Mother Nature, the Universe, or a divine creator god, who may or may not control such events, are mass murderers? Of course not! In this paper we suggest that it is prudent & wise to separate religious tenets from biological realities.

Speaking in the first person, I do not choose my mother. Mother does not choose me. My consciousness, or soul force, is energetically attracted to my mother & father months & even years before mother is pregnant. The attraction is precisely because of the energy of the thoughts & especially the feelings that she, & father through her, are feeling before, during & after conception. What the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix© has shown is that there are 22 specific moments in gestation when feelings & emotions become encoded in the consciousness I will live out in my life.

Is There Fetal Pain?

What is important to realize, is that while the little body is gestating as part of mother’s body, my consciousness is being educated in her mind & her emotions by her charged thoughts & her charged emotions. As I, my consciousness, am in mother’s consciousness & am feeling mother’s feelings & she is feeling emotional conflict & possible pain, I am simultaneously feeling her possible mental & emotional pain. That is part of my prebirth education in mother’s mind & emotions.

As most people support a woman’s right to her reproduction choices, a proposed law in the USA being advocated by anti-abortion advocates is that doctors must tell a pregnant woman that the fetus can feel pain beginning from conception.  And, if she is considering abortion she is causing the fetus pain. This is one of the issues we mentioned concerning  religious & scientific evidence. The Wednesday, August 24, 2005 edition of the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) offered a scientific review of questions about fetal brain development. Researchers at the University of California, San Francisco reviewed dozens of studies & medical reports. It wrote that

‘The data indicate that fetuses likely are incapable of feeling pain until brain development

around the seventh month of pregnancy, when they are about 28 weeks old.’

In discussing fetal pain, it is helpful to distinguish between physical pain & emotional pain. The findings published in the JAMA report concerns fetal perception of physical pain. On mental/emotional levels, my consciousness is experiencing mother’s charged thoughts & emotions. From a prenatal psychology perspective, if mother is told that she will cause her fetus pain from the moment of conception – even if she chooses not have an abortion – she already will have experienced a reality of horror. And, most horrendously, as I am being educated by her charged thoughts & charged emotions, I will be born encoded with her horror in my personality. Those thoughts & feelings will then create ‘strategies for survival’ which will control my behaviors especially in personal & business relationships in society.

Are These Your Feelings or My Feelings?

In Whole-Self Prebirth Psychology, we hypothesize that during pregnancy mother & myself are linked in a state called symbiosis. In this symbiotic relationship, my consciousness is aligned with my mother’s mind & emotions.  What mother experiences mentally & emotionally are experienced by my developing mind & emotions as my realities & felts. Such feelings are the innate core source of my pathological feelings which may then be reinforced by events in my life. The interesting point about such symbiotic education processes, is that my consciousness does not distinguish between my feelings & my mother’s feelings. Because of our shared symbiosis, I perceive that what is happening to mother is happening to me. After birth, this sense of symbiosis should naturally separate & should be dissipated by the age of seven. By this age of 7 individuation is usually complete. If this separation does not happen by seven, my inability or her inability to distinguish our feelings from each other can become pathological.  Also, I may carry this symbiotic patterning into my relationships with other women or even men in my society, until through non-emotive therapy ‘I Grow Up!’.

Prenatal Violence

Recently, we received a request from Dr. Victor Lopez in Columbia asking nine questions on prenatal consciousness for a video he was preparing. Here is our response to one question:

What are the effects of violence on a baby prenatally?

There are two effects on an unborn baby – an emotional reaction & a physical reaction on my yet to be born little body. On the emotional encoding, speaking in the first person, as my mind & emotions are residing in mother’s mind & emotions, my mind & emotions are being educated by mother’s charged thoughts & charged feelings & reactions. This is where & how, I, & every human being begins life in symbiosis with mother.

When a pregnant woman experiences violence directly, or indirectly by news reports, she can be reacting with depression, fear, terror & panic. On the physical level, these emotions, especially fear, terror & panic, can trigger massive rushes of adrenaline & noradrenalin. These are called catecholamines & are traced in her blood. These hormones generate feelings & behaviors of fight, flight or freeze which in Whole-Self Psychology we call ‘strategies for survival’. When mother experiences such trauma or stress she goes into an emotional hypnotic trance non-consciously believing that those trauma events continue to be still happening to her for the rest of her life.

As just mentioned, mother’s emotional trauma trance trigger instant releases in her body of adrenaline & noradrenaline hormones which are then passed from her body through the placenta & umbilicus to the little body she is growing in her womb for me. So, in the first person again, I am born with mother’s non-conscious belief that those events are still happening as well as with her hormonal saturation which cause specific feelings triggering fight, flight or freeze behaviors in my relationships in society throughout my life.

Studies show that after the 9/11 assault on the World Trade Center in New York City, women in the vicinity who were pregnant during that attack subsequently birthed their babies. Months after birth, those babies still carried high saturations of those catecholamine hormones in their blood.

Mother’s emotional trauma trance triggers reactions in her body of adrenaline & noradrenaline. These hormones are then passed from her body through the placenta to the little body she is growing in her womb for her baby. So, in the first person again, I am born with mother’s non-conscious belief that those events are still happening, as well as with her hormonal saturation. These hormones cause specific feelings throughout my life. Such feelings are the innate core source of my pathological feelings which may then be reinforced by events in my life. This core source is essential if any therapy is to bring homeostasis.

The Pregnant Paradox: World Population

When we consider symbiosis let us extrapolate upwards through all humanity. World population is now over 6½ billion human beings. By 2050, there I will 8½ billion people. In 1994, Troya & I were invited to Athens to give a paper at an international meeting organized by Mrs. Ioanna Mari for the Greek Chapter of OMAEP. For some 15 years, Troya & I had been presenting at Congresses around the world. The underlying theme at all of those meetings was how to limit population growth. As we sat in the War Museum Congress Hall of Greece in Athens, we experienced a profound amazement. One of the speakers, representing the Greek Government, announced that the meeting was being supported by the Government in order to find a solution to the growing problem of fewer & fewer babies being born to Greek women. As women become more educated, they were choosing careers over motherhood or limiting the number of babies they were having. At the same time, in Turkey, women were birthing 7 or 8 or more babies. Will the ancient conflict between Greece & Turkey ultimately be won on the birthing bed?

But what began in Greece in the early 1990s, has now become a serious problem spreading westward across the northern shore of Mediterranean countries as a monumental tide of Africans flood into them. Will Prenatal Psychology, Philosophy & Education be able to assist to stem this unrelenting tide of immigration?

Future Wars Over Female Bodies

In Far Eastern countries where boys are prized over girls, female infanticide is causing nature’s balance of 50% of each gender to be seriously altered. There will simply not be enough females for the over balanced males needing mates. Will wars of the future be fought over female bodies?

The Greek Chorus

As in an Ancient Greek Tragedy, the conflicts being played out in the Middle East today pale when through prebirth psychology & epigenetics we know that future generations are even now being afflicted. War & dislocation continue to be the weapons of the Grim Reaper.

The Role of Cyprus

In August 2006, Cyprus played a pivotal role in bringing people escaping war from The Lebanon. A month before that when in Cyprus, I met a man of 32 years. He could not understand his burning hatred for Turks. Later, his mother told me that in 1974, the year of his birth, Turkey had invaded Cyprus. I asked her if she had felt any hatred toward the Turks while she was pregnant. She thought for a moment then said “No!”. When I invited her to close her eyes & let her Whole-Self take her back to 1974, she realized that the husband of her first cousin – her son’s future godfather – had disappeared. She had searched frantically for him & to her surprise recognized feeling hatred toward the Turks. When she was able to tell her son what had happened during his gestation & the hatred she had not realized she was still carrying within her, he understood his hated was her hatred not his hatred. He was able to start to shift it. This case gives us a clear example as to how racial prejudice & hatred can be passed on through generations & why humanity needs Prebirth, Philosophy & Education. Various cultures hold that these patterns can go down anywhere from 4 to 7 generations.

A Diminishing Dilemma

Another case there was a 7 years old boy who had been causing a lot of problems. Mainly, he could not make any decisions. He resisted any affection or hugging. Last time I was in Cyprus, I had asked his mother to tell him what had happened to her during his gestation. She told him that in the first month of her pregnancy there was danger of losing him from bleeding. Her doctor wanted her to stay in bed the entire 9 months. She was in constant conflict for the entire 9 months of her pregnancy, torn between should she save her business or save her baby. It was this dilemma, this conflict over such a decision which was the basic pattern her son was born with & had acted out his whole 7 years of life.

When she told him the total truth, her boy started crying. For the first time in his life he went to her & hugged her. He was able to sense, even at this early age, that his diminishing dilemma causing him the inability to not make any decision was her pattern not his. But most important was the recognition that because he had been experiencing her conflict that she was even considering saving her business & not him, as a defense, he had been born with the behavior of not letting himself get close to her. Now that he understood that she ultimately had chosen him, he could, in trusting safety, connect with her. As mentioned above, what is interesting is that symbiosis between baby & mother normally completes by the age of 7. In this situation both will have the opportunity to ‘Try It Again!’ It should take much less than 7 years this time.

Global Conflicts

Iraq, Afghanistan, Palestine, the former Soviet Republics, genocide in Dafur… can we now understand how prejudice & hatred begins before birth initiated by the tragic events experienced by those pregnant mothers. Those desperate horrors will be carried to future generations. The native Americans say the patterns are carried down through 7 generations. It is most tragic that prejudice & hatred are most often based on religious beliefs. If humanity is to survive, it needs prebirth wisdom applied to every aspect of human studies – psychology, sociology, genetics, epigenetics, law, philosophy, ethics, life, medicine, politics, etc., especially religion.

Prebirth Memories of Slavery & Echoes of Colonialism

But the Middle East is not the only venue of conflict. In Amsterdam, Sauci Bosner, a Whole-Self Psychology Therapist, is working on a project entitled Prebirth Memories of Slavery & Echoes of Colonialism focused on Central & South America.

Such horror patterns have impregnated in stagnated identities of survivors, witnesses,

victims, collaborators & perpetrators of atrocities.  Irregardless of age, but children &

the elderly, class, gender & race, all too often socio-economic & political interests of minorities  have cast giant shadows of atrocities, devastation, destruction & death on

countless victims mostly in the southern hemisphere:

victims who were never offered options in their personal or professional evolution;

victims who did not know that ‘NO!’ was also an answer;

victims entangled in the human treadmill of helplessness, hopelessness & powerlessness;

victims who have transferred these patterns onto their children & their children’s

children (Epigenetics) –

Without Consciousness, Without Choice, Without Hope, change & personal & professional

growth remain unrecognized birthright & destiny.

And, what about the kidnapped children trained to mutilate & kill in Africa?

Malnutrition Saps Intellectual Strength Before Birth

Malnutrition & preventable diseases are whole areas of concern in Prebirth Psychology, Philosophy & Education. Professor Michael A. Crawford of Mother & Child Foundation, London, & Chair of the McCarrison Society, Dr Michael Crawford PhD CBiol, FIBiol, FRCPath. writes

Until McCarrison’s message of the importance of real food for health, is learnt, the globalization of Western disease will continue unabated with developing countries

facing the dilemma of ‘out of the frying pan into the fire’.  It is not adverse social

conditions on their own that breed violence & mental disorder. It is not just poverty

on its own that breeds disease. We now understand that human nutrition is special

& it contains essential elements responsible for the development of the brain &

mental health, the heart & blood vessels as well as the immune system.  The

experimental evidence on this matter is now very robust. It is not our genes that

are altering. It is the way nutrition is affecting their behavior that matters. The

priority now has to be to address the issue of good nutrition & health world wide,

as the most urgent challenge of this new century.

We need only to look at the severe obesity in the USA & Europe. Is obesity because of lack of nutritious foods people are over eating to overcome feelings of starving?

On Nutrition & Health

Simon H. House concurs:

To establish principles for generating healthy people we need to focus on the essence

of both nature & nurture, the DNA (deoxyribonucleic acid) whose formation dictates

the development of the human form, & also ‘nurture, the DNA’s immediate

environment which enfolds & nourishes it.

As in cells generally, the man’s DNA is replicated as he generates sperm complete

with sustenance including energy for the journey. A healthy sperm depends on the

man’s nutrition status & general health.  The woman’s DNA for reproduction has

already been replicated while still in her mother’s womb & therefore depends on

the health of the offspring’s grandmother at that time, as well as mother’s own

from the moment that the oocyte ‘wakes up’ within her & resumes development.

Is it Nature or nurture?

Following up on Michel Odent’s reporting on the importance of eye contact to open the communication DNA packet in mother’s brain which informs her about mothering & baby’s brain about love, empathy & compassion, we can look at brain & neural development during gestation. Before, at & after birth, we come to the debate about ‘nature’ or ‘nurture’ as being more formative.

Cell Biologist Bruce Lipton in the APPPAH Journal writes that it is both:

Leading research in cell biology reveals that ‘environmental signals’ are primarily

responsible for selecting the genes expressed by an organism. A new perspective

is in direct contrast with the established view that our fate is controlled by our

genes. The new emphasis on nurture (environment) controlling nature (genes)

focuses special attention on the importance of the maternal environment in fetal

development. In addition to the established role of maternal physiology, it is now

recognized that maternal behaviors & emotions profoundly impact the child’s

physical development, behavioral characteristics, & even its level of intelligence.

More deaths for Caesarean babies

But all problems are not on battlefields. Moving to another growing issue in Prenatal Psychology, we bring Caesarean births to your attention. Psychologically, caesarian birthed baby’s have a propensity of

not completing whatever they are doing. But, there is also a physical reality as well. On 7 September 2006, BBC published news of a study:
Babies born by Caesarean are nearly three times more likely to die in the first month

than those born naturally, US research shows. The findings, based on over 5.7 million

births, are particularly important given the growing trend of women opting for

Caesareans, say the authors. More than one in five of all British babies are now born

by Caesarean. In the USA it is much higher. The Birth Journal study included women

with no obvious medical risks who had elected to have a Caesarean.

In the UK, planned Caesarean sections are performed after 39 weeks’ gestation

because it is known that deliveries earlier than this carry a higher risk to the baby.

However, the risks of both types of delivery are still extremely small.

The researchers suggest that the process of labour helps prepare the baby for life

outside of the womb. As well as squeezing fluid out of the lungs, it may promote

the release of hormones that encourage healthy lung function. Dr. MacDormac said:

‘Labour is an important part of the birthing process because it

    gets infants ready to breathe air & function outside the womb.’

Belinda Phipps of the National Childbirth Trust said:

‘I think that the study does need to be taken pretty seriously.”

She said that earlier studies had already hinted that babies born by Caesarean are more likely to experience breathing problems.   Story BBC NEWS: © BBC MMVI

So, we understand the meaning of The Breath of Life!

Did Mother have a Trauma?

As in familial physical diseases passed down through generations, there can be psycho-spiritual familial/generational patterns inherited through family lines as well. The answers to the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix© questions & their meanings help me to understand the ‘parable’ or ‘mythos’ of my family psycho-history. The key to my Life’s Streams® of Consciousness is found in the simple Whole-Self discovery:

     Not only am I the synthesis of my parent’s physical DNA, which gave me

     my physical characteristics, but  I am also the synthesis of their charged

     mental & emotional patterns during the 9 months before my birth which

     gave me my emotional DNA© (eDNA©).

 

In other words, we discovered in 1970, that if mother experiences trauma in the form of a specific event such as betrayal by her husband with another woman; or, a continuous pervasive circumstance such as poverty, terror, war or genocide, her baby is born with those same charged feelings & charged thoughts mother had been experiencing during the pregnancy.

 

Where do my prebirth memories come from?

 

Specifically, prebirth memories come from the experiences my mind & emotions experienced while in symbiosis being educated in my mother’s mind & emotions during the minimum 9 months of my gestation. This is sometimes described as one example of mother baby dialogue long advocated by Prof. Fedor-Freybergh.

 

Prof. Grigori Brekhman states that if there is such a process as a mother-unborn child dialogue

there needs to exist ‘complementary resonant cohesive media systems which can

recognize each other’s messages. In its very simplest terms, the analogy is that

for two way communication to exist between them, the unborn baby’s radio sender

& receiver frequency must be tuned to mother’s same radio frequency in her sender

& receiver. And, these electro-magnetic wave signals are almost instantaneous.

This hypothesis became even more clear in his paper Mechanisms & Ways of Interaction Between Mother & Unborn Child. Mother as transmitter of Violence to the Child. Violence Agaiunst Women Violence Against the New Generation of People. Prof. Brekhman’s research at Ivanovo Medical Academy in Russia helps us understand how this multiple level communication system between mother & myself could exist. In this sense, communication is not just on a verbal level. It is on sensing, knowing or feeling levels as well. Brekhman’s profoundly important research helps us to understand the Whole-Self Psychology prebirth hypothesis that my consciousness is in my mother’s consciousness – mother’s mind & emotions forming mother’s bio-energetic field. It is in her mind & emotions where my consciousness is being educated, practiced & rehearsed for at least 9 months.

It is the charged events which happened to my mother before my birth which are the source of my prebirth memories. In other words, my developing mental & emotional faculties remember what happened to mother, & simultaneously to me, during my gestation. After birth, those charged events become memories for mother, & now, separately, memories for me. The problem comes when I believe that whatever diminishing or traumatic events that happened to mother are still happening to me & are my fault. This infantile perception is the actual source of my pathology. This is why all therapies need to include prebirth discovery.  Any events I experience in my life are primarily replications of the charged events which happened symbiotically to me with mother before my birth.

Some theorists hypothesize that these prebirth memories are lodged in the cells of my body. Joanna Wilheim, San Paulo, Brazil Analyst in her paper in the IJPPPM Cellular Memory: Clinical Evidence expands on the meaning of cellular memory, explaining that it

refers to the imprints that exist in the human mind of the whole process of the

biological experience from preconception to birth. These early imprints, initially

stored as sensory impressions, will later gain a mental representation when a

mental apparatus will be available.

Whether these memories are stored in cells directly or in my symbiotic mental/emotions matrix offers a rich area to be researched. We have already described our Whole-Self Psychology hypothesis.

In Roy Ridgway’s classic book The Unborn Child, updated & extended by Simon H. House in 2006, there is a salient quote from Frank Lake who wrote in Tight Corners in Pastoral Counselling:

What we … have become firmly convinced about, is the vulnerability of the fetus

to all that is going on in the mother, particularly in the first trimester. Affliction

in its worst form strikes in the first three months after conception … Any severe

maternal distress, whatever its cause, imprints itself on the fetus. These damaging

experiences are now accessible to consciousness without undue difficulty.

What is significant is to apply these ideas with the Whole-Self principle that in gestation my consciousness is not so much impacting on my fetus as being educated in my mothers mind & emotions.

 

Kelduyn R. Garland summarizes,

The bio-physio-emotional relationship between a preonate/neonate/infant & his/her

mother significantly influences brain/neurological development & establishes the

foundation for personality & temperament, & development of life relationships.

Being Wanted

In our world, one of the greatest tragedies is epidemic, unwanted teen pregnancies. In some cultures, even intentional pregnancies among children whose arranged child marriage, pregnancy & birthing in undeveloped bodies destroys organs & any hope of a normal life. Sigrid Westermann, Whole-Self Co-Director for Germany, offers some cogent questions:

Does it make sense to look for the most possible rights for an unborn & at the

same time to ignore the needs of the potential mother? What will happen after

that unwanted child is born? How will that mother, who having been against that

pregnancy, react toward her baby when her feelings & her situation during the

pregnancy were ignored? For most unwanted children it forebodes a hell of earth!’

‘To Be Wanted or To Be Not Wanted? That is the Question!’

Paraphrasing the conundrum posed by the Bard of Stratford, we know that for some pregnant people there can be happiness when a pregnancy is wanted. The tragedy comes when there is a pregnancy which is not expected (most of the time) or not wanted by one or both potential parents. In nearly four decades of the existence of contemporary Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology there is one point which almost everyone agrees. As spokesmen, Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh of ISPPM & Thomas R. Verny of APPPAH & Marie Bretin of OMEAEP have clearly articulated, the worst thing for a human being is to be born ‘not wanted’. This is the most telling tragedy creating in the extreme the Terrible Tyrants & Diabolical Dictators described by John Sonne.

Adoption

As stated, symbiosis happens when my consciousness is energetically attracted to the consciousness of my future mother & communication is established between us. In adoption, the communication links can be tragically severed. This separation can be because of teen pregnancy, or pregnancy from rape, or pregnancy in a female who is abused or trapped in drug or alcohol addiction. This attachment does not suddenly end with my birth. It can take about 7 years of growth, development & evolution for both myself & mother to reach ‘individuation’. During gestation, my consciousness is being educated by experiencing the consciousness of my future mother to whom I have been energetically attracted. Sometimes because of circumstances in her life, my birth mother is unable to keep me. Because my consciousness has resided in my birthing mother’s consciousness for at least nine months, & sometimes even longer, I am aware of her attitude towards her pregnancy – &, I believe towards me. If mother has been loving & supportive before & after birth, I am aware of her welcoming attitude. At, or shortly after birth, when complete separation from my birth mother takes place, my consciousness is able to move into my adoptive parents consciousness with minimal grieving disruption. I am, through gentle attachment & affectionate bonding, adapting to the consciousness of the new loving & welcoming adoptive parents. Together we grow, develop, mature & evolve in normal patterns of family life.

Reactive Attachment Disorder

But, sometimes there are situations where the child is incapable of adapting to the adopting mother’s consciousness. Through our work in Reactive Attachment Disorder, we see that these afflicted children are often ‘fighting for survival’ against even especially caring & loving foster or adoptive parents. The most tragic example of this birth policy is what was happening in Romania in the 1980s. Those untouched, unattached & unbonded babies & children had severe emotional dysvelopment. They have found it almost impossible to attach or bond with adoptive parents. This is because as infants they simply were hardly being touched or talked to. These babies had no modeling of love, compassion or empathy.

Being Not Only Unwanted But Hated

In the extreme, these severely damaged children can go into diminishing & destructive anti-social, even murderous behavior.  If during gestation, in the consciousness of the future birth mother, the baby is aware of the animosity & rejection the birth mother is feeling towards her pregnancy baby is trapped in self-loathing. This child is aware that the birthing mother because of rape, drugs, unbearable circumstances or political imperatives wants to be rid of this ‘thing’ invading her, as soon as possible. In some places, the mother is trapped because abortion is not an option. The child, aware of her/his birth mother’s or father’s rejection, or even life threatening behavior such as physical, mental, emotional or spiritual abuse or attempted abortion, goes into extreme reactive ‘strategies for survival’. The child is not reacting against loving & caring adoptive parents. The child’s consciousness is still energetically trapped in the rejecting & life threatening consciousness of the birth mother. This is perhaps the greatest proof of the impacting connection between prebirth events & the emotion’s of which the pregnant mother & her yet to be born baby are victims. After birth, the child is locked in the birth mother’s destructive consciousness – her mind, her emotions, their shared symbiotic cycle. Baby is unable to distinguish between him/herself & damaged mother. RAD children are acting out revenge against one or both birth parents. Theses RAD children, consciously &/or non-consciously, are symbiotically entranced in mother’s reality – their belief – that their very existence is still being threatened. Adoptive parents or any other human beings are the enemy to be resisted, punished even destroyed.

Darth Vader Babies

In Reactive Attachment Disorder, we might call such children Darth Vader babies. Darth Vader was the champion of the dark force in the Star Wars movies. These babies come into life entranced &  dedicated to supporting the dark force by moving into abhorrent behavior. After birth, trapped in a terror trance, hyperalert RAD children are incapable of appropriately perceiving, & therefore, attaching or bonding to new loving & caring adoptive parents.  They are simply incapable of allowing any trust towards truly loving, caring & supportive parents. Bizarrely, these children, innately bent through their destructive behaviors, are trying to force their new loving parents to prove their love for such a despotically damaged child. It is all multi-dimensional psycho-spiritual dysfunctional disaster. Prenatal Education is an effective possibility for prevention of disastrous Reactive Attachment Disorder

Teching Out Our Children

While it has only been possible to mention some topics impacting on the Prenatal Child in Society, here is another challenge. The lead article on the front page of The Daily Telegraph of London September 2006 read:

                                                Junk Culture Is Poisoning Our Children.

Experts blame fast food, computer games

& competitive schooling for rise in depression.

 

110 teachers, psychologist & others, including Sir Richard Bowlby, have appealed to the UK Government to act to prevent the death of childhood. They have made a heartfelt plea:

We are deeply concerned at the escalating incidence of childhood

depression & children’s behavioral & developmental conditions.

In the 1960s, I attended a Congress in New York City where a scientist from NASA prophesied:

 ‘The end of civilization is at hand when children can no longer imagine!’

Play involves imagination!

The Greek Philosopher Plato sums up the importance of play with this dictum

You can discover more about a person in an hour of play

                                                than in a year of conversation.

Michael Mendizza     the founder of Touch the Future, & author of

Magical     Parent-Magical Child with Joseph Chilton Pearce says,

Original     play is both an all embracing vision of reality & a practice

of     kindness which permeates all of one’s relationships.

Play is to be     in touch & to be touched deeply by our authentic

human     nature & the natural world.

Play     cultivates an ever renewing sense of enchantment
engagement with the world.

It develops     calmness, awareness & a flexible ability to                                  handle     stress, surprise or challenges without aggression.

                 Play begins before birth in the relationship fun between mother     & father &

the baby they     are inviting to be together in joy & creativity as a new family.

With escalating high tech fast food consumption, addictive computer games & excessive competitive schooling, childhood is filled with depression instead of imagination. For many years Prebirth & Birth

practitioners have been advocating a return to more natural pregnancy & birthing.  Acknowledging technological advances in birthing emergencies, these advocates are simply asking for less routine reliance on excessive & unnecessary high technology which do not enhance birthing for mother or baby. We are now seeing how the technology has overlapped into childhood.

So, Why Prebirth Education?

We have touched on many ideas needing deep & intelligent thought & measured action. In the Prebirth Period, mental/emotional systems forged in my mother’s mind & emotions become the non-conscious foundation of my personality. This is now commonly defined as my ‘emotional intelligence’. My personality reacts to life as built on past events. Through Whole-Self Prebirth Memory Recovery, I can very simply & safely discover that my personality, as designed during the prenatal & perinatal periods, has really to do with the intelligence of my emotions & thoughts.  And, having perceived the world either as safe or threatening, these define my emotional & mental capabilities to deal with myself; with relationships at all levels; with society; with my abilities to communicate; with my self-esteem & empowerment dynamics to succeed in my challenges & endeavors in my life.

All these energies, all these encoded emotional/mental modalities, eventually become the source of my conscious & non-conscious belief systems, my realities creating my place in my society. That is precisely the point. Society is not some objective abstract. Society is my subjective experience of the world I am creating for myself & every other human being.

This is my character! This is my personality! This is who I am!!

If I consider myself as a bio-energetic field surrounding & animating my physical body, as mentioned by the scientific research & confirmed by Prof. Grigori Brekhman, I can say that my bio-energetic field – my consciousness – vibrated in mutual dialogue with the frequency & energy of my mother. I can discover that in most of my childhood & adulthood I have been trying to fulfill what was encoded in my prenatal period from my parents. And, when I understand where my belief systems & my emotional reactions come from, I can stop non-consciously trying to create personal situations & environments in my life in the non-conscious effort to reactivate & re-experience my innate & inherited diminishing patterns – the challenging patterns I really believe about myself. When I transcend those beliefs, all of society is transcended to a higher level of consciousness.

The Whole-Self Model

As stated before, the primary hypothesis, the main model of Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education is

Not only am I the synthesis of the genetic DNA coding of my parents

which gave me my physical characteristics,  but in a parallel track, 

I also am the synthesis of my parents’ charged thoughts & charged

emotions from the nine months of my gestation.

As keynoted by Ludwig Janus, my parents’ thoughts, & emotional feelings (felts) about events as they perceive them through their own charged emotions & controlling thoughts are encoded in the growing emotional & mental bodies of their child – of me. These experiences are more powerfully impacting when they are traumatic/dramatic, adrenalin triggering events. My consciousness is first lodged in my mother’s mind & emotions, being educated by her consciousness, so that after birth, I can experience for myself those charged thoughts & those charged emotions. Through my parents, transgenerational emotional patterns can have been encoded.  Some patterns, as is seen above in passed down familial disease patterns, become a sort of familial genetic/emotional psycho-history of my family. The patterns of the country of origin, race, religion, culture, etc. were encoded into my parents & thus were passed down to me, their child.

What practical tools do I have to educate in prenatal awareness?

                           Which tools do I have to uncover the diminishing aspects, as well

as talents, that are the building blocks of my personality?

One of the most simple, effective tools for prenatal awareness is the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix©. With this Whole-Self process, I can also scan my childhood & adulthood to see how & when & where a prenatal encoded pattern moved from being prenatally potential to becoming activated in my life.  And, I can follow the repetitive cycles of its trance inducing presentation in my postnatal life up to my actual age.

For future parents, those that do not yet have children, experiencing

      the structure of their prebirth emotions becomes the key experience

      to conscious conception, conscious pregnancy & conscious parenting.

As a future parent, when I know my diminishing & enhancing emotional prebirth patterns & their inter-relationship & interaction with those of my partner, I can work on them so that the coagulating energy of our future child, being energetically attracted to us, creates an enhancing foundation. During the pregnancy, I can be aware & alert to the feelings & emotions that trigger my emotionally encoded trances & reactions. Through this process of awareness, I can communicate with my child & convey appropriate information about what had happened, & what is happening now, that can be changed. One of the most important discoveries of Whole-Self Discovery & Development is that:

     When mother is able to look honestly & truthfully into the eyes of her

     baby, child, even her adult child, as illustrated by my example of that

     man’s innate hatred of the Turks in Cyprus, the whole reactive pattern

     changes for mother & child, family, community, all of society.

What if the basic research & the basic principles of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology were to be universally accepted? Laura Uplinger, Chair for the APPPAH Congress in Los Angeles, California, USA in February 2007 shared a vision in her poem I KNOW A PLANET:

I know a planet

where nations live in peace,

& nature is respected,

where science & philosophy

are never used to enslave,

to limit, hurt or spread terror…

 

There, each person is conceived

& gestated consciously.

In that world reigns

a true spirit of kinship with all life,

& pregnant women are treated in a very special way:

the arts & crafts of each community

are made available to them.

They admire trees, statues & fountains,

as they walk through beautiful parks

filled with flowers.

 

By day, the birds’ songs embrace them.

By night, the stars

entice them to visit distant worlds…

In these parks there are houses

where the mothers can take part in many activities:

they sing, weave, sculpt, embroider, draw…

There are also theaters, libraries & cinemas,

& they can study, teach, meditate, laugh & cry.

In the schools of this planet

adolescents study the importance

of conception, pregnancy, birth & breastfeeding

for a happy humanity.

Couples approach knowingly

the moment of fecundation,

understanding the physiological,

psychological & spiritual dimensions of a pregnancy,

prepared to welcome the mystery of life with serenity.

***

Societal Transduction

One enhancing image comes to my mind. In The Netherlands many school buildings have the public school pupils at one end & Catholic Parochial pupils at the other end of the same building. The students study & grow with no sense of separation & otherness or prejudice in their society.

The discovery of my innate, prebirth, trance inducing, diminishing, emotional constructs, as well as my enhancing talents, is not just important for myself.  When I move from my individual & parental levels to my social level, I see how important, even critical, it is to understand my own, my family, as well as, communal belief systems. Society is not an entity in & of itself. Society is not an abstract construct. Society is a psycho-historical entity created by the mutuality of separate individuals. It is the joining of beliefs, thoughts, decisions, wishes, desires, creative visions & dreams of a better future for all. What is most profound is that societies – groups, families, communities & society itself – have as their familial foundation, primarily, shared beliefs, patterns traceable back to humanity’s prenatal period.

And, what happens when the primary shared beliefs of individuals are diminishing? What happens when low self-esteem & diminishing depression infect individuals as reported is happening to our children?  All society suffers. I can discover the common shared beliefs that I have with all people in my environment (from the microscopic – family & friends – to the macroscopic – social class, job, nation). By changing myself, as an individual, I can trigger a catalytic process of restructuring more powerful than the wings of the proverbial butterfly creating a typhoon on the other side of Mother Earth. When my beliefs about myself are innately enhancing because I was wanted by my parents, the behaviors of all people around me shift.  Because there is no longer the need for inappropriate, even diminishing, destructive realities such as prejudice, hatred, genocide & wars to be supported or mutually mirrored to all of us.

The importance of knowing & understanding my Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix is that, then I can break the cycle of diminishing dependency that was created among individuals who built my society. When one or more of us breaks this descending diminishing cycle, this recessive loop, people all around me, & others, are simultaneously effected. I can break free & people around me can break free.

As a prenatal educator, when I help people to discover & transform their prenatally encoded diminishing beliefs about themselves, other peoples of all races & persuasions, society, the world itself is transformed. And, even better, when I can prevent a diminishing seed from being implanted during pregnancy as part the new emotional & mental education of baby, I am, then, energetically attracting an amazingly enlightened baby into society.

Why do I want to educate people in prenatal awareness?

To answer this question Troya & I are grateful to Prof. Isabella Barajon for inspiration. Through the insights coming from prenatal & perinatal psychology we are defining a new concept of human consciousness, & by doing this, we are advancing our evolution as human beings into new perspectives. All that we are learning about the prenatal period points to the fact that prenatal education is not only for pregnant women & parents & those directly involved in the reproductive & birthing environment. Prenatal Education is for every human being. As human beings, we are trying to understand where we come from, who we are & where we are going on this extraordinary journey called life. For all of us trying to understand our longing for becoming  & our deepest wish to manifest the best we can, hear more words from that great dreamer William Shakespeare:

 ‘We are made of the same stuff that dreams are made of.’

Therefore, again speaking in the first person, my awareness & understanding about Whole-Self Prebirth Psychology, Philosophy & Education is not enough. Let me take up the clarion call from Thomas Verny to proactively bring Prenatal Psychology, Philosophy & Education to public awareness. This really means truly working in a proactive way in the shaping of my individual consciousness with all our collective consciousnesses. By doing so, I am creating, therefore, as a result, new & more enhancing vectors of forces for healing society.

Through prenatal education

     I possess the actual possibility to recreate that spark for life that has been suffering;

     I possess the actual possibility to prevent dysfunction, disease, disaster & destruction;

I possess the actual possibility to stop being a revolutionary but, most essentially,

     I possess the actual possibility to become an evolutionary.

We close with a final imperative from another great dreamer, from Goethe:

Until one is committed, there is hesitancy,

the chance to draw back;

always ineffectiveness!

 

Concerning all acts of initiative & creation;

there is one elementary rule – the ignorance of which

kills countless ideas & splendid plans!

 

That moment in which one definitely commits oneself,

then Providence moves, too!

 

All sorts of things occur to help one that would

never otherwise have occurred.

 

A whole stream of events issues from the decision,

raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen

incidents & meetings & material assistance

which no person could have dreamed

would have come their way.

 

Whatever you can do or dream you can begin it!

Boldness has genius, power & magic in it.

 Begin it now!

Information on the Whole-Self model is available on www.Whole-Self.info

& www.Whole-Self.co.uk , in Greece – www.ionianet.gr/cosmoanelixis

 

Jon RG (formerly John-Richard) & Troya GN Turner are Co-Founders/Co-Directors of the Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute, Inc. Internatinal USA/Holland. A Past VP of the International Society for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine, Jon RG is on the ISPPM Executive Board and the Editorial Board of the International Journal for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology & Medicine. Troya GN is Founder of the ISPPM:Netherlands Chapter. They are Founding Members Hellenic Union  of Pre & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine – H.U.P.P.P.M. They are also members of Association of Pre & Perinatal Psychology & Health – APPPAH; the Association National Education Prenatal:Italy – ANEP:ITALIA ; Russian Assoc. of Prenatal Medicine – PPM); International Institute of Psychology & Administration – St. Petersburg, Russia; Association for Treatment & Training in the Attachment of Children – ATTACh; & The Scientific & Medical Network.

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An Wholistic Holistic Approach©2006

                                                                                                 by Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

To be Holistic or not to be Holistic? That is the question.

 

Whether it is nobler in mind, body & spirit

to suffer the outrageous side effects of drugs,

burns & cuts of allopathic medicine

or to be treated with the subtler energies of holistic practitioners?

By opposing my diseases or dysfunctions

do I give them the power to kill me?

To die! To sleep no more in this body!

Or by taking responsibility for my selected disabilities:

by the subtle energies of homeopathy to heal my body?

by the balancing of polarity do I come into stability?

by the rub of reflexology do I strengthen my organs?

by the touch of metamorphic technique do I heal my fetus?

by connecting with my Whole-Self

do I discover my inherited emotional synthesis

& the purpose of my life?

Do I choose to live (w)hole & well?

Based on Soliloquy from a renowned Prince of Denmark.

Holistic approaches to healing & health have existed throughout human history. From the time when human consciousness was emerging on the planet, shaman’s – wise women & men, observed that using certain plants or barks, crystals & stones could take away pain, make wounds better & childbirth more bearable (natural remedies). Hunters recognized that certain plants could make people feel happy (intoxicants) & could create visions which foretold the future (where the herds would be found).

In ancient times, a mere three to ten thousand years ago, temples (healing  centers) used waters, color, sound, dream states, diet & massage among many natural practices to bring people to homeostasis. Of course, life spans of 20 to 30 years were common even till a hundred or so years ago. It really only has been slightly more than that centuries span that science & medicine have extended life expectancy & in so doing come to dominate western society.

But why the swing back to more holistic & natural forms of healing?

There are many reasons:

In the West the outrageously high cost of medical training often puts                                      physicians into decades of debt to repay their school loans.

Dehumanizing forms of treatment, often unnecessary,

in the name of ‘professional approach’ but actually

for legal protection are diminishing to patient & doctor.

The power & domination of the drug companies:

doctors often being major stock holders in these drug corporations.

The skyrocketing costs of administering & administrating medical

treatment.

But one of the most significant factors has been DEATH!

Allopathic medicine is facing a checkmate. In England, an epidemic  was sweeping hospitals which was called by one medical authority the Doomsday Bug. The bug is staphylococcus – the scourge of hospitals commonly called staph infection. Back in the 1930s staph was difficult to treat but treatable through surgery or amputation. Then with the development of antibiotics medicine thought it had the magic bullet to destroy staph forever. Now just 60 years later the magic bullet has turned into a lethal dart of death called MRSA. The microbe is so intelligent it is able to counteract & even teach non-related neighboring bacteria how to become resistant to each generation of antibiotics which the drug companies develop. There is only one anti-biotic left in the medical arsenal. VRE bacteria is already totally immune to antibiotics. What caused this devastating situation? Overuse of the magic bullet. Because of widespread use of antibiotics the staph infection played Kasporov against the IBM Big Blue in a deadly chess game. Each move by the drug companies is countered & we are literally approaching checkmate. MRSA is not just a British epidemic but is poised to join AIDS as a major incurable worldwide epidemic.

As with AIDS, holistic approaches may be an answer. Holistic medicine began over 30 ago in California, Dr. Everts Loomis realized the statistically startling reality that there was something essentially wrong with the state of medicine at the time. He looked at the inordinately high numbers of expensively trained doctors who were addicted to alcohol & various drugs; men (there weren’t many women doctors at that time) who were prematurely dying & committing suicide at the very time when they should have been most productive & satisfied with their work & their lives. Dr. Loomis was determined to find the exact cause of this devastating phenomenon. His conclusions were startling. He found that among the major causes of high rates of addiction & suicide among medical professionals at that time included:

the hypothesis that death was the enemy;

doctors were given or had taken the total responsibility for

their patient’s health;

the search for & reliance on magic bullet approaches in which                                           synthesized drugs where a panacea to attack & overcome

all disease in spite of side effects.

With the saving of doctor’s as well as patient’s lives of major foci, Dr. Loomis formulated an Holistic philosophy. These included that:

death is not the enemy

but a natural progression of life;

doctors & patients share responsibility

for the balancing of dis-ease or dys-function;

the use of a range of complimentary approaches

with as few side effects as possible need to be arrayed;

food & exercise(body) were keys to health,

mental responsiveness (mind) through relaxation/meditation

instead of reactiveness patterns (emotions)

& lifestyle approaches (spirit) combined

which enhance vitality are effective approaches to prevent                                                                                   disease & early death in both doctors & their patients.

The important point here is that there need not be a struggle for survival between allopathic or holistic approaches. Over 45 years ago, when I first practiced aura healing in the USA, I was so inspired by the remarkable healings which took place in patient’s who had been given up by doctor’s. Suddenly, one day, as anger charged adrenaline coursed through my body, the thought crossed my mind: I would show those doctors how healing should be done. At that instant, my Whole-Self very graciously showed me a picture right in front of my eyes. It was Picasso’s famous print of Don Quixote, the muddle brained Man From La Mancha, who fought the dragon windmill & was defeated. I got the message. I made a vow that everything I learned about healing I would share with the medical profession. That vow has served well. Even without a medical degree, I have lectured at hospitals and medical schools. Some years ago, I was even invited to give the Keynote Address for the American Medical Student’s Convention at the prestigious Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota.   I have been twice an elected Vice President of the International Society for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine, am on the ISPPM Executive Board  & serve as one of the co-editors of the ISPPM Medical Journal.

The second most important realization I had was that I had worked with many people who would not have been alive to do the Whole-Self work if they had not been healed or kept alive by allopathic medicine.

One of the most healing moments for all of us in the healing professions is when, as is happening now in many places, we recognize that neither of the two medical camps is the enemy: that each method is there to serve & make people better, creating wellness, wholeness & holism for everyone including the practitioners.

Jon R.G. (formerly John-Richard) Turner, Co-Founder of the Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute Inc. now lives in The Netherlands with his Co-Director/wife Troya. Jon RG earned his BA degree in Greek/English from the College of the Holy Cross in Worcester, Massachusetts, USA. He is a Board Member & twice has been elected a Vice-President of the International Society for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine & serves on the ISPPM Executive Board. He is on the Board of Editors of the International Journal of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology and Medicine & for several years English language co-ordinator editor for the Neuroendocrinology Letters Medical Journal. For five years, he was Consultant to the Board of Directors of the Villaggio della Madre e del Fanciullo (Mother & Child) in Milan, Italy.

He has been listed in Who’s Who & Leaders of Achievement.

A New Englander, Jon RG has been a journalist & a pioneer broadcaster in the exploration of human consciousness with over 300 interviews at WBUR Boston University Radio On the Path to Higher Consciousness & at KPFK-Pacifica Foundation Holistic Viewpoints: Expanding Consciousness in Hollywood, California.

In the 1960s, Jon RG was one of the first to teach safe & gentle Regression Therapies in the USA & Canada.  While in practice in Beverly Hills, California, Jon RG discovered that:

     Not only do I inherit the genetic coding from our parents

          which give me my physical  characteristics,  but,

    I am also the synthesis of their charged emotional & mental patterns

         from that nine month’s of my gestation.

The Turners call this the Emotional DNAÓ  or  eDNAÓ.

The Turners are:

  • Life Members:  The International Society for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine (ISPPM);
  • Members: The Association for Pre & Perinatal Psychology & Health (APPPAH);
  • Founding Members: Hellenic Union of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine;
  • Honorary Members: The Association for National Educazione Prenatale:Italia;                                                                                                                       
  • Honorary Members; The Russian Association of Perinatal Psychology & Medicine;
  • Honorary Members: The International Institute of Psychology & Administration – St. Petersburg, Russia;
  • Members: The Scientific & Medical Network.
  • Members: Association for Treatment & Training in the Attachment of Children.
  • They have over 40 articles & papers printed in specialist & medical publications including: The Journal of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Health; The International Journal of Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Medicine; Educazione Prenatale Italy; The I-Breathe Healing Breath Online Journal; & British Holistic Medical Association Journal. A complete list is available.

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Discoveries in Cyprus June 2006©2006

by Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

I have just returned from another two weeks working in Cyprus & was able to reach by telephone the two women mentioned in the second part of this email to get exact details from them. And, last night, a powerful question came to me regarding the story of the second woman below.

A Spirit Speaks

I was guiding a group through a Past Life Regression Session. At the end of the exercise, I asked if anyone would like to share what they had experienced. A man in the class said that he was halfway through the exercise when suddenly his   daughter who had been killed in a bus accident 12 years ago appeared to him & they talked for about 10 minutes. He shared that he had been in profound grief all that time & now that she had spoken to him, for the first time, he was at peace with her passing. Apparently she had been trying to communicate with him all these years & that by doing a past life exercise it was the first time he had been in a state of consciousness to be aware of her.

The Diminishing Dilemma

The other interesting discoveries were with two women:

One had a 7 years old boy who has been causing a lot of problems. He could not make any decisions. He was opposed to any affection or hugging.

Last time I was in Cyprus, I had asked her to tell him what had happened to her during his gestation. Finally, last week she did. She told him that in the first month of her pregnancy there was danger of losing him (from bleeding). Her doctor wanted her to stay in bed the entire 9 months. She was in constant conflict for the entire 9 months of her pregnancy

torn between should she save her business or save her baby. It was this conflict over such a decision which was the basic pattern her son was born with & had acted out his whole 7 years of life.

When she told him the total truth, her boy started crying, went to her & hugged her for the first time in his life. He was able to sense, even at this early age, that his diminishing

dilemma causing him the inability to not make any decision was her pattern not his.

But most important was the recognition that because he had been experiencing  her conflict that she was even considering saving her business & not him, as a defense, he had been born with the behavior of not letting himself get close to her. Now that he understood she ultimately had chosen him, he could, in trusting safety, connect with her.

What is interesting is that symbiosis between baby & mother normally completes by the age of 7. In this situation both will have the opportunity to ‘Try It Again!’ It should take much less than 7 years this time.

Born With Hatred

The second woman had a son 32 years of age. When I met him in Limassol, he mentioned that he could not understand his very strong burning hatred for Turks. Later, I asked his mother what had been happening during her pregnancy. She told me that in 1974, the year of his birth, Turkey had invaded Cyprus.    The Greek community of Cyprus was deeply traumatized. I asked her if she had felt any hatred toward the Turks while she was pregnant. She said “No!”. I knew that answer was coming from her personality. So, I asked her if we could work with her Whole-Self. She agreed.

When I invited her Whole-Self to take her back to 1974 to sense if she had felt any hatred for the Turks for the invasion, specifically for her, she realized that the husband of her first cousin –    her son’s godfather – had disappeared. She said that she had searched frantically for him & to her surprise recognized that she was feeling great hatred toward the Turks.

When she was able to tell her son what had happened to her during his gestation & the hatred she had not realized she was feeling, he understood his hated was her hatred

not his hatred & was able to start to shift it.

Whole-Self Psychology hypothesizes that baby’s consciousness, being in mother’s consciousness – her mind & emotions – is in symbiotic ideation with mother. As baby is experiencing everything mother is experiencing in her mind & her emotions, baby’s mind & emotions are being educated to be able to function independently after birth. But, since symbiosis totally segues & morphs their mental & emotional bodies, & as baby is still not matured enough to distinguish a separation between mother’s experience and baby’s own experience, baby is born believing whatever happened to mother is still happening

to baby. Since, in baby’s reality, both are one, baby creates the reality extension that whatever trauma happened to mother is his or her fault. Thus, baby is born with those debilitating diminishing patterns as its own.

When we look at the situation of the son not understanding why he had such charged hatred for the Turks we discover the mother’s hatred for them while she was pregnant.  It certainly makes sense that the son was born with the charged hatred mother was feeling towards the Turks for the invasion ofCyprus& specifically the disappearance of her cousin

while she was pregnant

In both situations, by telling their sons the total truth, the symbiosis was able to begin to be released. This is more support to our theory that all mothers should tell their children what was happening to them both during their pregnancies.

 

Postscript:

 

Could the son, being born with the hatred his pregnant mother was feeling against the invaders in this example, give us a clue as to how hatred & prejudice could be innately encoded into mass populations overwhelmed by regional, national & international conflicts? 

Your thoughts are most welcome!

Much Peace & Much Love! Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

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ECHOES FROM HELL@2005

                                                                                              by Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

HELL IS WHERE MY EVOLUTION STOPS!

 

I WANT TO DISCOVER THE TRUTH OF MY REALITY

INSTEAD OF LIVING MY REALITY AS THOUGH IT WERE TRUE! JRGT

 

*****

Twelve years ago, Blanche was diagnosed as having total all-energy syndrome ME, the 20th century environmental disease which made her painfully reactive to almost everything in life:

I could barely walk, let alone think or imagine going out. My body’s

immune system had collapsed. I was living in hell. A meal would

knock me out for hours; walking down a street caused my glands

to enlarge in pain & my breathing to become asthmatic; crowds

terrified me, travel the same. In dark moments & there were many,

filled with confusion, pushed down & groveling on my hands & knees,

I would sob over & over again `Mother, Father, Sister, Brother!

Where are you? Who is this imaginary family? What is happening to

me? Why am I so terrified of trains, of crowds, of people?

               

A three month hospitalization only confirmed my disabilities. It was

not till I attended Turner’s lecture on Prenatal Psychology that the

realization dawned that there is more than just the awareness of

this lifetime. I was given the opportunity to experience for myself

another reality locked deep in my psyche sobbing & grieving to be

released from an unflinching hell.

 

MY PAST LIFE ECHO

I was a child running on a train platform. Crowds of people being

herded into boxcars. Chaos & panic permeated the air pierced with

sirens. The skyline, cold gray, sheared with black smoke. I’m a five

year old boy who has lost his mummy. I run backwards & forwards

jostled amongst the mass of bewildered people. I spot my mother’s

black hat with the peacock feathers. As I run towards her along

the frostbitten platform uniformed soldiers emerge out of the

crowd. Menacingly they shout orders. I must get to my mother &

her warm protective body. Suddenly, I reel as searing cold steel

glances across my temple. I feel sick & strange. A man scoops me

up as he runs along the platform. All goes black. I’m on a train,

swaying, jostling, dizziness, coldness, blackness. Then no clothes!

Where are my clothes? Where is my mommy?

‘ HURRY! YOU MUST GO QUICK! YOU ARE TO BE CLEANED!

HURRY! NOT MUCH TIME!’

 

The stone floor is so cold. I’m shoved along crowded together

through a concrete underpass into a room – a shower room. The

door seals shut. The water taps with the warm water we’ve been

promised don’t work; that yellow mist coming down must be

steam but everything is still cold. I cough! I choke!

 

During that past life echo session with Troya Turner in October

1991 every single symptom I’d become familiar with all through

my life was triggered. The feeling of dying was so a part of me,

I had known no other way of being! From that day my symptoms

dropped away. What is interesting is that I’d taken the lid off a

scenario I’d feared but had never allowed myself to see. For almost

a year, I was in an amazing recovery mode; eating what I wanted;

going on tube trains; busy crowds not the least concern; no longer

obsessed with loneliness; winter not even a bother. The memory

had been brought to light & released. The miracle I had hoped

for had come.       

               

Then recently my allergies began to remerge. I did another

Whole-Self Therapy session in which I realized that I was reflecting

patterns from my mother. & my daughter Jade was replicating the

same patterns. I also came to the awareness that a part of me was

being reactive to the specter of nazis rising again like damned spirits

out of their World War II bunkers. Once I recognized that the images

of the nazis returning to Germany were re-stimulating my patterns I

could release them & my whole life is now changed. My symptoms

dissolved back into their hell-place. I have balanced my relationships

& feel I am beginning a new & healthy life.

*****

One of the most powerful declarations made in this 20th Century was during the Cold War. United States President John F. Kennedy stood shoulder to shoulder with besieged Berliners & spoke out against communism’s intimidation: `ICH BIN EIN BERLINER!’ Kennedy’s simple statement not only leapt over the Berlin wall but soared through the minds & hearts of freedom loving patriots as an inspiration across the globe. In early December 1992, his nephew, Congressman Joseph Kennedy flew to Berlin. He stood in his uncle’s place in a Berlin threatened with an even greater menace – the re-emergence of nazism. With even more telling aim he declared  `ICH BIN EIN AUSLANDER! I am a Foreigner!’

At that moment, Congressman Kennedy stunned the German people & the German government. Kennedy felt moved to cry out in the name of the 28 million human beings who had died as a result of the nazi holocaust. Many died in the struggle to eradicate nazism & it’s horrors from the earth. His mission was not to erase memories of those atrocities but to give voice to the voiceless that such a movement could not again infect & contaminate humanity as it seeks to for a second time within the 20th century. In cities across Germany hundreds of thousands of citizens demonstrated to this same purpose.

The influx of refugees was a serious concern coming on top of the unemployment problems facing Germany following reunification. That the German government had allowed the nazi goons to spearhead the movement against the auslanders was untenable. Joseph Kennedy felt compelled to declare him-self a `foreigner’ to place himself shoulder to shoulder not only to Berliners but also to the refugees. Mr. Kennedy was trying to draw attention of the German government to take action against nazi thugs crawling out of their cesspools all over that country. But perhaps the most disturbing fact was that more generations of Jews were being threatened with yet another pogrom. Jews who survived the holocaust & even Turkish families which had lived in Germany for three generations were being branded foreigners – auslanders, in the fires of a resurrected nazi Valhalle.

THE PSYCHOLOGICAL IMPACT OF HORRIFIC IMAGES

From the Summer of 1992, & intensifying to year’s end, there was a marked increase in the number of people presenting symptoms to therapists of overwhelming fear, horror, terror, panic, guilt & death. These feelings were often accompanied by a sense of extreme loneliness reaching levels of immobility & wishing to be dead. It could be said that these patterns were being stimulated because television & the media were filled with images of ethnic atrocities & starvation. That is exactly the point. Those images, be they nazi attacks against refugees & Jews in Germany, Serbian ethnic cleansing against Croates against Muslims & vice versa, or starvation in fleshless, skeletal children & adults in Somalia, & Dafur in Sudan, were non-consciously stimulating emotions in a region of human consciousness which is called in Whole-Self Psychology is called the past life dimension.

The pathologies could have been caused by recollecting memories from childhood fears in this life of people over 50 years of age. Under 50 year olds could be recalling pictures which emotionally scarred their mothers during WWII & were emotionally encoded into their babies. But, the cause of emotional crises most often given is past life echoes.

Past life memories could be:

recalls of a book, movie, TV show, any scenario;

genetic memories somehow passed down from ancestors;

tapping in to what C. G. Jung called the collective unconscious;

a symbolic language which metaphorically describes

deeply buried or blocked images or emotions;

or in fact, non-conscious memories described as echoes from a past life.

From a therapeutic point of view it does not make any difference what past life echoes are. What really matters is that they are VIRTUAL REALITIES which when people articulate the story, the drama, the trauma can be released. Two countries have professionally accredited status for Past Life Therapy: The Nederlands Society of Reincarnation Therapists & in the USA the Association for Past Life Research & Therapies. Both have published professional journals.

So, what does past life therapy have to do with the 1992 surge in patients presenting acute feeling patterns of fear, terror, horror, panic, guilt, death, extreme loneliness & the wish for death? Those patterns were screams for help & were clues which trained past life therapists had found are therapeutically traceable to past lives & specifically stimulating & resonating to that moment in human history. Helping those psychically wounded persons to recognize the source of their overwhelming emotions requires the highest level of skill, patience, care & compassion. Because the atrocity scenario is so horrendous & the pain ‘endured unto death’ so deeply etched in the consciousness, it usually requires touching in on three or four other past life echoes over a number of centuries before the patient is able to come to the crucial life in the late 1930s to mid 1940s. It should be noted that although we are focusing on the nazi concentration camps, millions have non-conscious memories of death in Japanese & other such death camps throughout history.

Modern concentration camps were created in the Boer Wars in South Africa early in the 20th Century. Memories of deaths in any other camps are also being stimulated by the chaos & dehumanizing events being reported in so many parts of the world. The name for the psychological condition of people who have survived concentration camps is called the KZ Syndrome from the German Koncentration Zentrum. We are also using KZ to mean concentration camp whenever & wherever it existed in this or any other lifetime.

Once the personal history of World War II memories are linked into, often with great resistance as just mentioned, the person clearly describes circumstances & events endemic with KZ terrorism. These past life echoes are most often directly connected with detailed descriptions of having endured & died in concentration camps. Details are given which are not usually available through the media. In fact, the patients almost always state without reservation their absolute abhorrence & avoidance of exposure to anything German & especially concerning the holocaust.

I recall one case. Suzanne was waiting at the Berlin Bahnhof (railroad station) for the train back to London when it began to snow accompanied by an announcement from the loudspeaker. She froze in terror stimulated by the Past Life Echoe of being herded onto a train to a Concentration Camp & her death. She could not get on the train to London. Hours later, she was finally able to get on the next London train. It was this incident which motivated her to seek therapy.

While, as mentioned earlier, most KZ people avoid any references to World War 11, Suzanne read everything she could about KZs. In this life, from the age of three till she was 16, she had been sexually abused by her father. But an even more traumatizing was horrific beatings from her mother. She is very bound to her mother because this kind of pain binds people. In a PLE Regression Suzanne saw herself in 1944 as a 9 years of age Jewish child hiding with her family in a Berlin house. Not understanding the danger to her & her family, the child ran through the snow from the house. Her mother caught her & whipped her legs. They were caught by the SS. In the snowfall, she was herded onto a train to Pol&. As she was walking into the Auswitz Koncentration Zentrum she was terrorized by the German Shepherd guard dogs & still is. She was shoot in the back. Then in an interesting ‘Near Death’ type experience she looked down to see her mother walking into the gas chamber which she saw as being underground & in fact one side is bermed. The child’s consciousness was filled with overwhelming guilt for having caused their deaths by running away. When the Berlin wall came down she felt moved to go there. That was when returning to London she had been re-traumatized by the sight, sounds & smells at the Berlin Zoo Bahnhof.

OTHER KZ TRAUMA REPORTS

Past Life Echoes can also describe nazi atrocities outside KZ camps. Patients painfully confess to having been storm troopers outside as well as KZ guards. Their PLEs are equally traumatizing & need resolution. Hans Ten Dam, author of several books on Reincarnation Therapy in Holland, tells me that he intermittently gets patients with KZ past lives. He was interested to recognize that he just had three such cases in one week. He found guilt as a most prominent complaint. Mr. Ten Dam was reminded of a case involving American past life therapist Morris Netherton. During a PLE demonstration regression in San Paulo, Brazil a young woman was describing her KZ lifetime. As she spoke numbers began to appear on her arm like a rash. Checking with the Yad Vashem Holocaust Museum & Registry in Jerusalem, Israel it was confirmed that a woman with that number had existed & had died in the concentration camp she had described.

It is possible that the present generation of nazis may have died early in WW II & did not know that their movement was defeated so they have to keep trying. On the other h&, some could have been defeated & were so fanatical they need to try it again in this life until they finally realize that their fanaticism is a dead end. True believers, fanatics for evil or for good seem to have to keep coming back into the world to `try it again’ until they recognize all fanaticism for what it is – a cosmic cul de sac.

Never before had therapists we contacted in England, the USA, the Netherlands, Germany & Australia seen the frequency & intensity of the above mentioned presenting pathology of KZ Syndrome. The patterns are not confined to people of Jewish heritage but are found across a spectrum of ethnic & cultural backgrounds. In Australia many KZ victims we have regressed there say that they have reincarnated downunder because it is the furthest earthly point from Germany.

*****

 

Winifred Lucas, Ph.D. prominent Los Angeles Jungian Psychologist just reminded me (we had not spoken in 15 years) that she became interested in past life regression therapy when she attended an energy healing workshop I was giving at a conference of the Association for Humanistic Psychology at Marymount College in 1977. She had been propelled into a PLE in which her throat was slashed. It was so clear & meaningful she has worked with PL therapy ever since. She had also seen a BBC-TV program in 1977 or 1978 in which Arthur Gurdham traced a patient to a place in London which matched the details of her regression. One of Dr. Lucas’s patients screamed when he saw himself as a doctor doing medical experiments on people in a concentration camp. We have had a number of cases where physical disabilities in this life were tracked back to when the child or adult were victims of KZ medical experiments. These are indeed very painful & need the utmost compassion to work through & release. Dr. Lucas published a 1200 page definitive anthology Regression Therapy: A Handbook for Professionals on past life therapy published by Deep Forest Press.

*****

 

Rob Bontenbol, Regression Therapist in Amsterdam associated with the Stichting (School) Reincarnation Therapy Nederland & the Nederlandse Vereniging (Society) voor Reincarnatie Therapeuten, reports that most of their students have KZ lives.

*****

Tineke Noordegraaf, medically trained, & Dutch Past Life Regression Therapist recently worked with a woman in Germany who has twice attempted suicide `to get out of Germany’. The KZ patient had committed suicide because that was the only way she could `get out of Germany’. She now realizes suicide is not the only way to get out. Noordegraaf also reported: many children she works with who were KZ victimizers are first born in a family; KZ victims are born second or third. Many KZ who were medically experimented on have skin conditions, allergies or eating disorders. Noordegraaf agrees with Ten Dam about fixed feelings of guilt. These are often covered up in intelligent people even children through cynicism & sarcasm. Sub-cultures (Hells Angels) have rigid pecking orders, discipline & punishment (torture) in which the victim feels guilt. In student initiations in Holland where heads are shaved as in the KZs, spontaneous regressions occur.

Dutch Whole-Self Therapist Beryl Borel Mathout adds that these students have their hands bound behind them as them are humiliated on their knees. These initiates join the ranks of an elite, best characterized as arrogant, proud with such bad manners they don’t know how to behave except by suppressing, shaming & humiliating like many SS. Borel also described a report which estimates that one third of such people have allergies, hypoglycemia &/or candida albacans. Candida can cause swollen bellies as a psychological pattern of feeling rotten inside as the body starving of protein begins eating her or himself.

In Switzerland, I once had been brought to do emergency work with two women who broke down when they had to undress in a group re-stimulating KZ memories. Noordegraaf has found that ALL her AIDS patients have died as KZ victims. The moment at which they are informed that they are HIV positive they replicate their shock going into the KZ PLE realizing that ‘there is no way back form the KZ!’ Most fascinating of all her research is her discovery that in other lives many of these AIDS patients were religious priests or nuns who had taken vows of celibacy in which sex was forsaken & denied. So maybe AIDS is not so much a punishment by god as some Fundamentalists claim for people having too much sex but is a balancing for having once vowed against an essential creative act.

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Dr. Ellis Snitcher, London psychoneuroendcrinologist, is Whole-Self Medical Director of  W-SDDI lecturer in Holistic Medicine & a Trustee of the Beaumont Trust. He reports many patients undergoing hormonal sex change therapy tracing sexual dysphoria believing that they are in the wrong gender body to KZ sex abuse or KZ medical experiments in Past Lives.

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Sometimes people can be suffering from physical as well as emotional distress. A letter from one of our interns Emmeke Janssen described an 8 year old girl suffering from an undiagnosable illness said:

This girl was very anxious that she would loose her mother & there

was `no reason’ at all for this.  Two years ago she was very ill without

any   explanation. Now, she is ill again. The RIAGG – the Dutch

psychological network could not find a psychological disorder & referred

her to me (Janssen).

Having had her own past life echo in a KZ, Ms. Janssen recognized the girl’s syndrome. Tuning in psychically, she discovered that the child had become ill at the same ages she had been when a child in World War II when she was separated from her mother & when she died. The child recovered & the RIAGG plans to refer other unsolvable cases.

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A very common behavior connected with KZ echoes is eating disorders. Alannah, a beautiful Irish mother of three became a PLE therapist after discovering that the control issue of anorexia nervosa she had been fighting all her life was from having starved to death in a KZ. Psychological release from that woman allowed her to no longer need to live as though that starvation was still happening. Bulimia nervosa in its two forms: overeating or overeating & vomiting are the other extremes of KZ starvation. She married a man who had been her KZ guard. In his PLE training he reports that in that life she had looked him in the eyes asking,     “How can you do this to human beings?” Her eyes so touched his soul in shame & humiliation he went out & shot himself in the heart. He’s had a heart condition all this life.

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When Howard another PLE Therapist was in Munich several years ago, he decided to visit Dachau KZ. Getting out of his car he was suddenly overwhelmed with oppression & weakness. Recently, in a PLE he saw himself as a woman starving to death in desolation & loneliness after being separated from her husband at the Munich rail yard.

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Martin experienced a PLE in which he was a young soldier in Pol& in 1943. Nazi SS invaded his house. His Grandmother was raped & killed. There was a water well by the house. His little sister, Maria, resisted & a soldier picked her up by the ankle & held her twisting over the well torturing her. Martin was helpless, hopeless & powerless. Recently in Munster, Germany, Martin told Sauci Bosner, a world recognized KZ survivors therapist & Whole-Self Psychologist about that life. Sauci confided that all her life she had been gripped in extreme fear at the thought of going to Germany. It was not till they met & he invited her to work together that she felt safe enough to go there. While talking, Sauci drew a picture of the house & the well: `I was your sister in that life!’ Martin replied, `I was your brother who could not protect you from the nazis!’

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While many people live in total denial of KZ PLE there are a great number of people who have lived their whole lives somehow sensing that there is ‘something there’, & that as terrifying as it may be, must be looked at & released. These are the people whose best hope for help is Past Life Regression Therapy.

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A British woman described to me that when she was 4 years of age in Berlin:

Father had been taken away & my mother was gone. I was in a

section of the camp where children were experimented on by

doctors. I never wanted to see or read about KZs.  I’d always denied

Hitler ever had anything to do with me. Last year, when I finally

allowed myself to see that life, the images were more than a

human being could bear. I was in shock for a week.

Within a month, I was stronger. I‘d always been very afraid of

anything connected with Germany. Since that Past Life Regression

I don’t feel that fear anymore!

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In his book  ‘Reincarnation & the Holocaust – a Karmic View’   Prof. Dr. Eli E. Lasch repeatedly encountered souls whose previous lives were connected with the holocaust. His greatest surprise was the discovery of Germans, even high-ranking Nazis, who reincarnated in Israel. Even more surprising was the fact that most of them served in the Israeli army. He also discovered Jewish souls who had reincarnated as non-Jews. There were, of course, also Jews who had been Jewish in their previous lives & came back as such. Many of the people examined had died as victims either in concentration camps or in ghettos & the like. His book is a summary of the therapeutic experience gathered over many years, mainly in Israel & in Germany.

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In conclusion, the acute KZ diminishing patterns are there; in past life regression therapy people create a VIRTUAL REALITY which helps them to understand & non-emotively release from unexplainable & undiagnosable feelings & behaviors. When asked the specific thought which is creating their overwhelming feelings, patients refer to the nazi resurgence in Germany in the early 1990s; the ethnic cleansing of the Serbs; & the starvation scenes in Somalia in the media as the trigger or catalyst for their overwhelming feelings & reactions of total & absolute helplessness, hopelessness & powerlessness. In Whole-Self Past Life Regression Therapy, patterns from the past life dimension are re-visioned without emotively acting them out to re-trigger adrenaline. Thus the patterns can dissolve benignly into dreamlike scenarios of time-space & creation is a little closer to cosmic harmony.

Postscript: What about the people who are perpetrating atrocities around the world today? Wars & retributions will not be able to stop them. While many religions hold to the soul continuing to exist in a heaven dimension, the Turners have discovered that while promised heavenly rewards, suicide bombers are actually the only people who annihilate their souls.   It is a simple principle:

WHAT EACH OF US IS DIMINISHINGLY DOING TO OTHER HUMAN BEINGS

WILL HAVE TO BE BALANCED IN THIS LIFE OR IN ANOTHER VIRTUAL REALITY!

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Jon RG (formerly John-Richard) & Troya GN Turner are Co-Founders & Co-Directors of the Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute, Inc. International. Some 40 years ago, he was one of the first therapist to teach Past Life & Prebirth regression without hypnosis in the USA & Canada. He had a private practice in Beverly Hills, CA. He produced & hosted On The Path To Higher Consciousness on WBUR-FM at Boston University & Holistic Viewpoints: Expanding Consciousness on KPFK-Pacifica Foundation Radio in Hollywood. Prenatal Psychology is becoming more recognized in the medical community. Several professional societies have published thousands of scientific studies which prove what the Turners were discovering & developing four decades ago. They have taught Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education in 30 countries.

Jon RG has been a two term elected vice-president of the International Society of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine headquartered in Heidelberg. (www.isppm.de). He is an ISPPM Executive Board Member & one of the co-editors of the ISPPM Journal & for two years served as English Language Consultant to The Neuroendocrinology Letters Medical Journal. Troya, a Social Psychiatry Nurse, is Founder of the ISPPM:NL Chapter & is International Consultant to a Dutch Birth Education Society.   Her book Seeking a Miracle  has been translated into several languages.

The Turners have over 40 paper published in psychological journals. They are also members of APPPAH – the Association for Pre & Perinatal Psychology & Health, the SMN – Scientific & Medical Network & Honorary Members ANEP:Italia – The Association of National Education Prenatale & the Russian Association of Perinatal Psychology & Medicine. They are Co-Founders of the Hellenic Union of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine – HUPPPM. The Turners both lecture internationally, write, teach, train & do individual sessions in Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education. They can be reached at W-SDDI, Waterrad 92, 1613 CR Grootebroek, The Netherlands.

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                                                    Italy Serbia/Croatia Co-Director: Smilja Janjatovic Pugliese

Mexico Co-Director: Maria de Leon Crowhurst

Preface: Dr. Victor Lopez in Columbia, South America, emailed us that he is preparing a TV show in behalf of babies & small children including Prenatal Psychology. He sent us ‘Nine  Questions’. Troya & I realized that this was a wonderful opportunity to articulate essential discoveries in Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education.  Our answers have been recorded on a DVD also are available through Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute above. The following text of answers are a greatly expanded forum of the DVD.

Maria de Leon Crowhurst is Whole-Self Co-Director for Mexico. She has a school teaching music prenatally & perinatally. She is a marvelous music therapist as well. Maria responded to these ‘9 Questions’ from her experience with Whole-Self Psychotherapy aligned with her expertise in Music Therapy.

Here is the whole exposition between Victor Lopez, Maria de Leon Crowhurst & Troya & myself.  Much Peace & Much Love & Much Health! Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

Do Unborn Babies Feel Pain?©2006

                                          by Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

1. What are the effects of violence on a baby prenatally?

For ease of understanding, it is a basic principle of Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education to speak & to answer questions in the first person ‘I’. That principle is followed throughout this document.

 

JRG&T: There are two effects of violence on me during my gestation – an emotional reaction on my developing mind & emotions, & a physical reaction on my yet to be born little body which mother is growing for me in her womb.

On the emotional encoding, as my mind & emotions are residing in mother’s

mind & emotions, my mind & emotions are being educated by mother’s

charged thoughts & mother’s charged feelings & resonating reactions.

This is where & how, I, & every human being, begins life in symbiosis with mother.

When a pregnant woman experiences abusive violence directly to her body, mind, emotions &/or spirit, or indirectly, say by news reports, she can be reacting with depression, fear, terror & panic: a plethora of emotions & reactions.

On the physical level, triggered by her perception, her belief, her reality of what is happening to her, mother’s emotions experiencing especially fear, terror & panic, can trigger massive rushes of adrenaline & noradrenaline. Her reaction can be to a specific event or to a continuing pervasive situation or circumstance such as war, poverty, betrayal or physical, mental emotional or spiritual abuse. Released from her pancreas these hormones called catecholamines are traced in her blood. The pancreatic hormonal release causes mother to fight, to flee or to freeze into helplessness, hopelessness & powerlessness. When mother experiences such trauma she goes into an emotional hypnotic trance non-consciously believing that those trauma events continue to be still happening to her for the rest of her life. The emotional trauma trance triggers reactions in her body of adrenaline & noradrenaline hormones which are then passed from her body through the placenta to the baby body she is growing for me in her womb. After the 9/11 assault on the World Trade Center in New York City, women who were pregnant in lower Manhattan during that attack subsequently birthed their babies. Months after birth, those babies still carried high saturations of those catecholamine hormones.

So, I am born with my mother’s non-conscious beliefs that those events are still happening to her, as well as with her hormonal saturation which those non-conscious beliefs triggered in her. It is the purpose of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology to recover & release mother & child from those trauma trances.

Mother’s beliefs encoded into her body by those hormones, cause specific feelings throughout both her life & my life after my birth. Such prenatal events can be the core source of my debilitating, pathological feelings. These prenatal patterns are then reinforced by subsequent events in my life.

Mother’s labor to birth me can also be a form of trauma which can affect both of us for the rest of our lives. There had been a principle in Prenatal Psychology called ‘The Trauma of Birth ‘.  In some prenatal therapies, the client is connected to reacting to birth pain on the theory that the pain is their own. Theoretically, such replay should release me from that pain. But, even years of such replays often do not release me. They actually reinforce the pain patterns in me. Whole-Self Psychology has discovered that what is actually experienced in those psychotherapies is not the memory of the trauma of my own birth, but the memory of my mother’s labor. We explain that further below in this document. The recognition & separation of my feelings from mother’s feelings is the key to releasing & healing for both of us.

Maria de Lion Crowhurst: I was re-reading your email to Victor Lopez & here are some comments about these questions.  Everything I am sharing with you comes from the experience of others, mothers & some children I had in my music school for babies & young children. I wrote my comments below each of your answers to each question.

1. What are the effects of violence on a baby prenatally?

Maria: I worked with a woman who had been physically abused by her husband when she was pregnant. He used to hit her on the womb – shouting at her & giving her hell.  She divorced him when she was seven months pregnant because, as she said to me, she didn’t want the baby to know what a horrible person his father was. This boy was born ‘healthy’, & as a matter of fact, a very handsome child.  Well behaved until around 4 years of age, he began being horribly aggressive towards his mother. He started to hit her on the womb (as his father had done) & on her legs. When he could, he would grab her by her hair (She had long curly blonde hair to her breasts). He began to be disruptive in class. When I asked her if there had been changes in his house or something was different, she said things were the same. She had remained single so there was no way of having a negative male figure there. I then asked her about the pregnancy and there is where everything came out about how her husband had physically, mentally & emotionally abused her.

In the same year, this was back in 1999, I remember a case of another woman who got pregnant while she was single. She used to beat herself on the womb cursing that she was pregnant & sending messages to the unborn baby that she didn’t want him. In spite of her effort to abort him, he was born ‘healthy’. Again, at 4 years of age, he began beating his mother without any compassion; kicking her & shouting & screaming at her.

What I think is that babies gestating in such dire situations develop aggressiveness that most of the time they do not even know what is going on with themselves or the people who surround them. I agree 100% that if these symptoms are not healed immediately after birth or during the first three years of life, without expecting to see any signs of such aggressive behavior, these children will develop future problems in their relationships.

Right now, I have an almost three year old girl who was born from a 17 years of age teenager who used to take drugs. When she discovered that she was pregnant, she rejected the gestating child. But the worst aspect was that as soon as her baby girl was born she used to beat the baby.  Apparently, she stopped doing this when the baby was 18 months old.  That is when she came to my school. Many times this little girl comes to school angry, sad, irritated, not wanting anyone to hug her & aggressive.

Over time her diminishing reactiveness has been less & less, but, she still has outbursts from time to time. Today, for example, she urinated on purpose near the lunch boxes. She is two years & ten months old, so she already has sphincter control. When I asked her why she had done it, she just answered me in a very challenging way, ‘I want my mother!’. She was not crying, not weeping; she was raising her head & glaring at me in defiance as if to say ‘Do what you want with me!’.  So imagine all this violence in the prenatal & early postnatal periods of the baby’s life with these problems. It is horrendous!

JRG&T: These three cases are Illustrative of typical sources of Reactive Attachment Disorder when there is no Attachment or Bonding between baby & mother. In the first two children, their RAD started to be expressed at about the age of four; in the third case, near the age of three. This was when these children began to realize that they had some power to act out the aggressiveness that had been beaten into them even during gestation. The simple fact is that in all three cases the main problem is the prebirth emotional rejection followed by aggressive physical modeling.

When there is danger from the rejecting hatred & the physical beating both mothers & unborn babies became addicted to adrenalin & noradrenalin. As described above, when the physical, mental, emotional &/or spiritual abuse was happening mother has a massive release of these catecholamines. These hormones pass through the placenta to baby. Mothers & babies are still addicted to these hormones. They can only go so long before they act out abhorrently to get their fixes of the adrenalin & noradrenalin cocktail. The children act aggressively to test if their mother’s can prove their love to the children even when the children’s behavior is abhorrent.

You are correct about the urgency of earliest psychotherapeutic intervention. It is interesting that I just realized again the meaning of ‘psychotherapeutic’ – it means healing the consciousness or soul. There are two patients in these three families: mother & baby. The longer the situation goes on by both the mother & child without healing intervention, the more diminishing both their behaviors become themselves, each other & ultimately society.

You know how to do the Whole-Self work with the mother. What is urgent that you sit down with the mother & child to start to heal these abhorrent beliefs & behaviors. The mother must look into her child’s eyes & explain to the child what had been happening during the time before the child was born. The key to this is for both mother & the child to understand that mother, even if she was not aware of it at the time, was not against the child but against the pregnancy. This is an extremely important discovery for people living in the belief that they were not wanted. Mother has to speak the words even if she thinks that her child does not understand the words. Even a new born can understand integrate mother’s words spoken from her heart. Communication between mother & child is more importantly on an energy level than on physical level to effect healing.

Maria: In response to your request as to what form of Whole-Self Therapy I did with the first woman mentioned above. Here is my report. By the way, I had continued doing them now with certain variations according to what I had learned.

The First Whole-Self Therapy:  Mother is 44 years of age & her son Fernando (not his real name)is four years of age. He had been beating her on her abdomen & her legs acting badly, disobeying her & shouting at her that she does not love him.

JRG&T: This is such a profound truth that the unborn child was aware of his mother’s rejection. He had every proof & evidence that she did not love him. This is because he was in his mother mind & emotions during his nine months of gestation. In those circumstances, it was not only the trauma of mother’s instant, initial diminishing reaction to the discovery of her pregnancy, but it was the continuing all consuming rejecting bombardment of his fledging consciousness for that whole period of time. Fernando knew then, knows now & now has discovered how to have reactive revenge against the hatred his consciousness had been at the effect of from his first teacher – his mother.

Maria: I spoke to Fernando & told him that we were going to invite his mom to a music lesson in order for her to see how much he has learned. As you know, we begin music lessons prenatally during pregnancy with mother & any siblings singing & playing musical instruments. By the age of four, students can be quite accomplished. As a reward to Fernando for ‘playing’ the music for her, I told him I had a special exercise just for him instead of the usual fairy tale that sometimes I used to tell the children at the end of a lesson. I told him that this was going to be a private music lesson so none of his classmates could distract him.

We began playing different melodies on different percussion instruments. Then I asked him to hold hands with mom to play a ‘rondeau’. We continued singing & learning the notes & he would tell mother how he could sing them & she would repeat them. With these exercises, I began ‘touching’ & ‘caressing’.  After half an hour, I suggested he sit on his mother’s lap so he could hear her heart beating. (It was the moment of ear training.) When he had this ‘powerful ear’, he was going to stay there on her lap to continue listening to five orchestra instruments. I had chosen soft ones, i.e. violin, harp, bassoon, cello & clarinet. While both mother & son were listening, his mom began & continued caressing him. After that, mother cuddled Fernando while she told him a wonderful story that was made just for him. As background, in the past, I used to play andante, adagio or slow movements of flute, clarinet, piano or harp concertos of Mozart. Nowadays, I have more music that supports me to do this exercise. I began the story saying something like this:

‘Once upon a time, there was this little baby boy who had come

    to this lady so that she could be his mother ….’

I leave mother to add her history. Previously, of course, I had spoken to mother & explained to her what we would do. So, she tells the story of her pregnancy to her child; the music is running & I keep it in measured balance. I am very careful to observe the reactions of both of mother & child. I am sensitive on the chance that I might have to intervene or adjust the volume of the music. In this case, the child began to adopt the fetal position while she was in gentle tears telling him how the mother in her story felt about the pregnancy; that mother had not expected a baby; that mother was scared; that mother got violent with herself; that mother wished him to be out of her womb. But, after all that, mother realized she loved him very much. The problem was that she already had two children of 19 &18 years of age. This pregnancy disrupted all their lives which were organized in a different tempo, etc. Then mother asked him to understand what she had gone through. By this time, Fernando was already asleep. Mother looked at me asking if she should stop. I encouraged her to continue. In a way, she felt more free to continue telling her story to her sleeping son. Without speaking, I just left them there in the energy of her words & in the music.

It was only one session but it worked for the time. I lost track of them when I left to live in England. Last year, I found her again.  Fernando is now 11 years old. The mother is better than in 1999.  Unfortunately, she doesn’t have the father’s support in regards to his son’s education & Fernando is lazy & often lying. Anyway, what I believe is that if these therapies would be given at least 4 sessions maybe the results could be different.

A recent case I had was with mother Lucia & her 15 years old daughter Juanita. In this case, Lucia was pregnant again for the third time & she was not very happy. So, I realized that the therapy was for the ‘three’ of them. The teenager is ok & apparently the relationship between her & her mother has been improving. They bring baby Victoria to me twice a week for three hours each time. At the beginning, Baby Victoria vomited milk, now that has diminished. She is three & a half months of age. I do ‘healing’ with her every time I can when I am feeding her or changing her diaper; telling her how beautiful she is; that mom had a tough time during the pregnancy but that every day she was going to be feeling better; that her mother was in therapy with me & my husband John Vivian when she discovered her pregnancy & until one month before baby was born. Victoria is a smiling baby & I look forward to help her more.

 

JRG&T: Dear Maria, there are several points here which so important in Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education. First, you will notice that we have changed the words you spoke to Fernando’s mother. Originally what you said was,

‘So I began the story saying something like this: Once upon a time there was

this little baby inside mother’s womb & he was so happy there, everything

was so & so ………. & then mother says ….’

We changed this to,

‘Once upon a time, there was this little baby boy who had come

to this lady so that she could be his mother ….’

 

Why would we do this?, you ask. There are two essential reasons:

First, as you have learned, the most important discovery of Whole-Self Psychology, repeated many times in this & other documents we have written, is that the consciousness, the soul, the beingness, the essence of every human being is in mother’s consciousness, in her mind & her emotions, not inside the little body growing in mother’s womb. Even knowing this truth, you see how easy it was for you to slip into the old way of saying baby was in mother’s womb.

Ludwig Janus, Past President of the International Society of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine on the website www.isppm.de says:

Research in the field of prenatal psychology has extended our life-history back to

conception & beyond – right back to our parents’ thoughts & plans for a child of their own.

As we have shown many times, the key to releasing from any possible prebirth & birthing trauma is to help the person we are working with to realize, from within their own consciousness, that he or she was not inside mother’s body during gestation.

In any reprieve back to the prebirth period it is possible to reactivate perceived trauma & act it out. The simple fact is that for most people such therapies often do not release people from their perceived trauma. Replication reinforces the perceived reality that the person was inside their mother & each reprieve locks that belief more deeply as a reality. We are able to say this because reprieving & reacting is often needing to be repeated & people, even after years of such therapies, can still believe she or he is inside mother’s body – perhaps ‘a bad womb’. In other words, while reprieving can stimulate reaction & purported catharsis it is simply a reactivation of a perceived reality that part of the consciousness of the personality was, & still keeps believing, that she or he is still inside mothers’ womb. This is a consummate symbiotic pathology. While there can be value in reprieving the points of trauma as a starting place, Whole-Self has discovered that the key to termination of pathological symbiosis is by the absolute clarity in the therapeutic process when the personality discovers, recognizes & acknowledges that he or she was not inside mother’s womb but in her mind & emotions.

Secondly, we changed your words because while there can be a happy womb, that only can happen when the prospective mother & father prepare their minds, emotions, bodies & spirits as welcoming vessels for their truly wanted baby. The concept of the happy womb for everyone, one of the early hypotheses of Prenatal Psychology, was discounted decades ago. The fact is that the person is coming for therapy precisely because womb time was far from happy time.

2. What is the outcome of stress on a baby prenatally?

JRG&T: Depending on the intensity of the stress, as with violence, mother can be

pumping the catecholamines adrenaline & noradrenaline. As these hormones circulate through her body, they pass through the umbilicus to the little body she is growing for me to use after my birth.

The more continuous & pervasive the stress, the more my developing body is conditioned & becomes addicted to those hormones during gestation. A common diminishing pattern presented by patients is a low grade depression which defies discovery in therapy from events in life. This is because the depression comes from the symbiotic period before birth while I am residing in mother’s mind & emotions. Any traumatic event in my life itself is only a reprieve, a replication of mother’s reaction to the trauma of discovering she is pregnant or other traumas in her life. As mother experiences those patterns, I am simultaneously experiencing mother’s charged thoughts & felts.  And, as shown in the 9/11 trauma, baby is born with those stress hormones which circulate in his or her bloodstream for many months even years. These hormones create feelings of fight, flight or freeze which generate behaviors which in Whole-Self Psychology we call ‘strategies for survival’.

2. What is the outcome of stress on a baby prenatally.

Maria: Exactly as you say, the sad thing is, that for these children are born with such great difficulty to relax.  It is as if they need these hormones to be able to function.  The worst, I think, is when they freeze & everything they have learned seems to ‘disappear’.

JRG&T: You observed the hyper-vigilance of these children. The catecholamines keep pumping fight, flight or freeze hormones feeding the childrens need for them. This addiction makes them act more aggressively to get their addiction satisfied if only for a short time. 

 

3. Can trauma happen prenatally?

JRG&T: Yes! Trauma can happen prenatally! When I was in practice in Beverly Hills,

California in the USA, I was getting referrals from doctors to our Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute for patients whom they declared as incurable. I knew that those persons had spent years in therapy trying to discover the source of their pathology – their unresolved feelings controlling & often debilitating those persons. The discovery we made was that their pathologies were actually the feelings their mothers had experienced as a reaction either to a trauma such as just mentioned discovering her pregnancy, or to a pervasive, diminishing stress pattern such as betrayal, physical or mental abuse, poverty or war during their pregnancies. These reaction feelings were exactly the same feelings, which had controlled & debilitated the patients all through their lives. By discovering that the feelings that they had been feeling all through their lives were actually their mother’s reactions to trauma or stress during her pregnancy, we were able to help those persons to de-hypnotize themselves from the trauma trance which had been passed on to them from mother during her pregnancy.

3. Can trauma happen prenatally?

Maria: Yes, it can happen.  John Vivian & I also discovered this with our clients in reading their Cognitive Profiles. When these clients realize that their trauma comes from the nine months of gestation, they hardly can believe it.  Here in my country (Mexico), poverty & violence in families are the two main issues that can cause trauma. Also, non-belief & non-trust toward men happens a lot due to men’s betrayal behaviors. Women who suffer from their husbands or partners cheating on them when they are pregnant bring children into this world who are very insecure: boys who do not know how to be real men; & girls who do not trust their own value & choose husbands who are messes.

JRG&T: What you describe about poverty & violence is endemic through all cultures worldwide. This year in Cyprus, we discovered that when mothers have even non-conscious hatred for an invader during her pregnancy, her baby is born with those same non-conscious hatreds. This is the psycho-spiritual mechanism for perpetuating prejudice & hatred generations after generations. It all begins prenatally. This is why we are committed to bringing prenatal & perinatal education to as many cultures & countries as possible.

4. Can learning occur prenatally?

JRG&T: Prenatal learning comes through two channels before & during birth. First,

education happens naturally & normally to every baby during gestation. This first classroom is mother’s mind & her emotions.

Here is a simple experiment viewers can experience. There re two questions:

With eyes closed, please allow your Whole-Self to let you experience precisely

where your consciousness, your sense of yourself, is located just before your birth.

Pause keeping eyes closed: then do the next question:

Now please allow your Whole-Self to let you experience what happens

to your consciousness when the first breath enters the little body.’

What you have just experienced is the most important discovery of your whole life. What you have discovered has been universally reconfirmed in almost 40 years of Whole-Self practice in over 30,000 cases worldwide. In Whole-Self Prebirth Psychology, participants have discovered their consciousness or soul was not inside their mother’s body but in her mind & emotions. As mother’s mind is thinking charged thoughts & mother’s emotions are feeling charged feelings (or as David Bohm calls feelings in the past felts,) I am being naturally prenatally educated. This is proven by the fact that I am born with a full menu of emotions as seen on my face & by my behavior in the first hour after birth & beyond.

The second channel of prebirth learning is through intentional prelearning audio programs such as heartbeat, music & vocabulary. This research was pioneered by Brent Logan. Over 20 years of research & experimentation pioneered by Rene Van de Carr, at his Prenatal University, instruct parents-to-be to ‘teach’ their fetuses by touch & words. Visit www.babyplus.com .  What is experienced in these techniques is actually mother’s responses to the practice passed through her mind & emotions creating responses in the little body she is growing for me to use after my birth.

4. Can learning occur prenatally?

Maria: Of course!  That I have seen very clearly with my prenatal music lessons. Pregnant mothers & siblings come & sing & play simply instruments. The babies are born with wonderfully enhanced musical abilities. We have helped form two children’s orchestras which give public concerts in churches in Mexico. Also, children who had been ‘listening ‘ to their mother’s lessons (languages, computations, art, etc), being their mothers’ students & at the same time their teachers, are fast learners in that precise subject.

JRG&T: We have received a delightful tape cassette of one of children’s orchestras & often play it when we have guest for dinner.

5. Can bonding with parents happen prenatally?

JRG&T: Prenatal bonding & attachment are most essential parts of both prelearning & parenting. If attachment & bonding, that is a welcoming connection between my parents
& myself, does not take place severe pathology can propel me to a life of pain, aggression & suffering for me & for all people with whom I come in contact.

When my consciousness knows, through my mother’s & father’s minds & emotions, expressed through her & her mate’s thoughts, words & actions, that I am wanted & welcomed as a part of the new family, I am given the most important message of welcome to a warm & loving family & to a wonderful world, too. This is called Mother – Father – Baby Dialogue as defined by Prof. Dr. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh of the International Society of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine.  It is proven scientifically by Prof. Grigori I. Brekhman of the Ivanovo State Medical Academy in Russia.

5. Can bonding with parents happen prenatally?

 Maria: Yes, & prenatal bonding is the best thing to happen. Although, if the baby has no father & the mother marries again later in life, baby can develop bonding with the new parent. Not easy, but it is possible. I have a case also of a boy whose biological father was an alcoholic, used to beat mother, etc. etc. When he was four years of age his mother divorced her husband.  Having that negative experience, but a loving mother, the behavior of the child was not too damaged.  She remarried when the boy was around 6 years of age & her new husband, as a matter of fact, a homeopath & healer, is the very best friend of the now teen-ager who is 15.

6. Do babies have feelings & emotions prenatally?

JRG&T: I do not choose my mother. Mother does not choose me. My consciousness, or soul, is energetically attracted to my mother & father, months & even years before mother is pregnant, precisely because of the thoughts & especially the feelings that she, & father through her, are feeling before, during & after my conception & birth. What the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix© has shown is that there are 22 specific moments in pregnancy when feelings & emotions become encoded in the consciousness I will live thru in my life. My consciousness does not go into the fetus or the little body mother is growing for me to use on life. As you discovered, consciousness enters the little body with the first breath.

The second channel of memories connected with my prenatal feelings is sometimes called cellular memory, information encoded in the cells of developing fetus & little body. Analyst Joanna Wilheim in Brazil has hypothesized that I carry especially cellular memories of conception being energetically pre-challenging to my life.

What is important to realize, is that while the little body is gestating in mother’s body, my consciousness is being educated in her mind & her emotions by her charged thoughts & her charged emotions. The interesting point in that education process is that my consciousness does not distinguish between my feelings & my mother’s feelings. I perceive that what is happening to her is happening to me. This sense of symbiosis should be dissipated by the age of seven. If this separation does not happen by seven my inability or mother’s inability to distinguish our feelings from each other can become pathology. I may carry this symbiotic patterning into my relationships with other women or men in my life until through Prebirth Memory Therapy© ‘I Grow Up!’.

6. Do babies have feelings & emotions prenatally?

Maria: I think mother’s feelings are often taken as the child’s feelings. That is why, as you say, with Whole-Self Psychology Prebirth  Memory Therapy, we learn to be conscious of what patterns belong to our parents & to rid of ourselves of what are not our patterns.

JRG&T: The Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix© is the most simple, direct way to discover the patterns which energetically attracted me to my mother’s consciousness. By making this discovery, I learn that I can give mother appreciation for all she offered me at that time. And, through that appreciation, I free myself of her patterns.

7. Do babies feel fears prenatally?

JRG&T: Because my consciousness is in my mother’s mind & emotions, I feel fear prenatally if mother is feeling fear or anxiety during her pregnancy. But, again, because of symbiosis, I believe that mother’s fear or anxiety is mine. This is how the pattern of mother’s fear or anxiety become opportunity for my own growth, development & evolution to be activated by subsequent events in my life after my birth. The challenge is for me to distinguish what precise patterns are mine or mother’s or someone else’s & to not hold myself guilty of them.

7. Do babies feel fears prenatally?

Maria: The same as above.

JRG&T: The same as above.          

                 

8. Do babies suffer prenatally?

JRG&T: This is a very profound question which totally depends on how I view the word ‘suffer’.  There may be some physical pain in the later months of my gestation as a result of impact on the nerves of my developing physical body. But to suffer there must also be a mind to perceive the pain & emotions to judge that the pain is severe enough to be perceived as suffering. If I hold that there is a complete person composed of body, mind, spirit & emotions, in other words, total personhood from the moment of conception, then it could be projected that I could suffer prenatally. But, that is not what the evidence shows. In California, in a review of the scientific literature, the fetus cannot feel suffering pain. It is a scientific fact that starting from about 8 weeks gestation there may be neurological systems beginning to develop in my little body. That is exactly what gestation is for – practice & rehearsal. Nonetheless, the August 24, 2005 edition of the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) offered a scientific review of questions about fetal brain development. Researchers at the University of California, San Francisco reviewed dozens of studies & medical reports. It wrote that

The data indicate that fetuses likely are incapable of feeling pain until brain development  

          around the seventh month of pregnancy, when they are about 28 weeks old’.

Again, this does not mean that I suffer. My little body, which mother is growing in her womb for me to use during my life is part of mother’s body prenatally. It is mother’s blood supply; mother’s nutrients; mother’s oxygen. The little body is basically functional, with life support, in about three months. Nature provides six more months for the little body to practice & rehearse prenatally.  As you just experienced, consciousness which has been being educated in mother’s mind & emotions enters the new born little body with the first breath. If there is suffering, it is mother’s suffering. When there is joy, it is mother’s joy. Both extremes are mother’s, & because I am symbiotically in her mind & emotions, mine as well. When that first breath sweeps my consciousness into that little body that is when my life begins as my responsibility.

8. Do babies suffer prenatally?

Maria: I think the baby does not perceive ‘suffering’ as we do. What is to suffer?  These experiences are what we can call ‘learning experiences’.

JRG&T: As above.

 

 

9. Do babies suffer prenatally if her mother wants an abortion?

JRG&T: No, I do not suffer if mother wants an abortion. My consciousness has a higher awareness in which I perceive that if I am not born through this mother I will be energetically attracted to another mother. I know I do not die. ‘Lower’ souls, such as the terrible tyrants &  diabolical dictators, because they have a selfish desire to have a body through which to exercise their evil can feel mother’s repulsion to pregnancy & are born repulsing themselves.

Again, as we have seen, prenatally, my consciousness is in mother’s mind & emotions.  While I do not suffer, if mother is suffering, I can simultaneously feel her suffering. What I am being prenatally educated to are the charged feelings & anguished thoughts mother may be feeling because of her discovering that she is pregnant. Such threat to survival may be the precise pattern which energetically attracted me to my mother, not to keep acting out the threat but to learn about taking responsibly for my life.

9. Do babies suffer prenatally if mother wants an abortion?

Maria: I don’t think so. I believe baby develops the anxiety, anger, or aggressiveness that mother feels. Eventually, baby may feel certain rejection towards her, at the beginning not knowing why.  We also have seen this in our cognitive readings for people.

JRG&T: As above.

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We are most grateful to Victor Lopez & Maria de Lion Crowhurst for giving us the opportunity to clarify our hypothesis in a concise manner. We trust this will give you a simple model for sharing this essential discovery & hypothesis of Whole-Self of Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education. We welcome your comments &/or suggestions.

Much Peace & Much Love!  JRG&T

Appendix: When she offered us these observations, Olga Gouni, Whole-Self Co-Director Greece & Cyprus, brought up the distinction between being ‘Welcomed’ as quite different from just being ‘Wanted’. We asked her to expand on her concept. (Words in parenthesis at the end of each example are ours. JRG&T)

 

Why Welcomed & Not Just Wanted Children

Some thoughts from Olga Gouni at www.cosmoanelixis.gr

To ‘want’ implies the existence of a need that yearns to be satisfied.

When asked “Why do you want a child?”, parents who say they want children usually give very self-centered answers. In October 2006, we made a small study with some of our students. We asked women – mothers, expectant mothers & not yet mothers why they wanted to have children.

Here are some of the answers:

1) ‘Of course I want to have a baby because I need to seal my relationship. My marriage with a child who will be the creation of our love.’ (Insurance & Reward)

2) ‘We already have two children. Both of us wanted to have children and I feel we have not made the wrong decision.’ (Does a double negative make a positive?) ‘When they grow up they will help us with the work.’ (Justification & Insurance)

3)  ‘I’d very much like to have children. I want to have my own child; to look after him/her; to teach him things; to help him study, to help him become really important to society. I will offer him anything he asks. I won’t deprive him of anything. He will be a king… ‘

The idealized role to support the making of a possibly selfish & demanding king which this adult projects reveals the unsatisfied need of the woman for the support or attention she never received as a child; for her need to be important – to be the Queen with a Capital ‘Q’. (Support & Capitulation)

4) ‘Yes, because a child completes a circle of life.’ (Fulfillment)

5) ‘Yes, because I was in love with my husband.’ (Fulfillment)

6) ‘Yes, I wanted to have babies. My daughter has filled me with emotions and she has changed my life for the better.’ (Gratitude & Growth)

7) ‘Yes, I have always wanted to have boys because I think that they suffer less in life, e.g. they don’t have a monthly period.’ (Female self-rejection)

8) ‘Yes, I want to have children because the existence of a child defeats death.’ (Eternalist)

9) ‘Yes, I’d like to have a child. It’s a way to go beyond the finite of the human experience. It’s a kind of immortality, since all your elements (thoughts, pieces of character) are transferred to my descendants.’ (Another Eternalist)

10) ‘Yes, I wanted to have children. My father was old and I wanted him to have grandchildren. My family used to tell me that if I had children and especially boys, I wouldn’t need to worry about anything. (Eternalist & Insurance)

And, from a father:

11) I thought I could not have babies. When my wife learned about her pregnancy I thought this child was a gift from her to me. (Gratitude)

We could continue with many more examples.

Speaking in the first person ‘I’ -When I come to life in such circumstance of being ‘wanted’ but not necessarily ‘welcomed’, I also seem to carry a non-conscious program. The program may be to fulfill my parents’ needs; otherwise I may fear that I may not be wanted. Or I may feel sad, fearful, angry, resentful or even revengeful for not being unconditionally welcomed … and I may oppose my parents for their attitudes towards my presence.
If I have to carry out a task, a directive such as satisfying the needs of my parents, then I may forget about my own soul purpose. Maybe my parents do not respect my soul, or its purpose for coming into this family; maybe my parents use me to satisfy their needs; maybe my parents teach me how not to respect the soul purpose of another human being; maybe they model how  I should use others to satisfy my needs; maybe I dissociate, and my true self goes away or fades away leaving a false self in the front; maybe I lose my identity and identify with my mask self.

So, what seems to happen is that my primal needs are not satisfied (Trauma of Omission), or as a child, I, my true identity was rejected by needing to be the way others wanted me to be to the satisfy their needs. This satisfaction factor can be enforced on me by any forms of abuse – physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, for example, sexual abuse. Then, I tend to repeat, re-experience or reinforce my prebirth & birth trauma coming into this family either by doing exactly the same the pattern or doing the opposite pattern – the opposite polarity.

This is where Whole-Self Prebirth Therapy can be so valuable. When my parents heal their own pre & perinatal traumas before my conception & birth, who I am is already lovingly, consciously, welcomed and not just wanted. My parents will be healthy adults, being in the position of welcoming a new arrival. As Jon RG & Troya GN have discovered,

I do not choose my mother & mother does not choose me.

My consciousness is energetically attracted to a mother &

father who will offer me the potential to grow, develop,

mature & evolve as a Whole Person.

Laura Uplinger wrote so inspiringly to Jon RG & Troya GN about parents acting consciously & welcomingly:

 

Many scenarios are possible; they range from the couple

who consciously prepares to attract a certain kind of soul

coming on earth with a higher purpose, to the couple who

just have sex unaware of the universal law of correspondence.

True, as a mother, I don’t choose my child, but my energy

level and the energy level of my partner will attract a soul

in resonance with who we are.

Thus, my consciously welcoming parents:

  1. Respect      my soul qualities & intention to grow & evolve
  2. Do      not burden me with their egoistic demands
  3. Do      not oblige me to become their prenatal/life therapist
  4. Support      me in my life purpose & goals
  5. Bond      us but not bind us
  6. Appreciate      each other’s presence & support to evolve

When I asked my little nephew the question ‘Why do you love your mum?’, he shrunk his shoulders and said nothing. He couldn’t find a reason.

When I have a need to ‘love’ somebody, for example my baby, I still have a way to go before being able to experience true love and to welcome my progeny lovingly & most importantly – respectfully.

Athens Greece 2006

 

Whole-Self Discovery & Development

    

Institute, Inc. International

Jon RG & Troya GN Turner, Co-Founders

                                                       Waterrad 92, 1613 CR  Grootebroek, NL

Tel:  (31) 228 513 630

                                                                   Email: Whole-Self@quicknet.nl

                                     Websites: www.Whole-Self.info & Whole-Self.co.uk   

                         International Medical Director: Dr. Ellis Snitcher

                                                UK Co-Director: Michael Reginald Whitley

                                   Germany Co-Director: Sigrid Westermann

                                                                                                      Greece/Cyprus  Co-Director: Olga Gouni

Italy Serbia/Croatia Co-Director: Smilja Janjatovic Pugliese

                                        Mexico Co-Director: Maria de Leon Crowhurst

 

Educating in Prenatal Awareness:

A Key to the Development of the Individual & Society:

The Whole-Self ApproachÓ2001 by Troya GN & Jon RG Turner

Presenter: Troya GN Turner Amsterdam & Grootebroek, The Netherlands

Co-Founder of Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education

Founder: International Society for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and  Medicine: Netherlands Chapter

and  Honorary Member of ANEP: Italia  Presented at

ANEP:Italia Congress June 9-10, 2001 Milano, Italia

Keywords: Whole-Self; Prenatal; Prebirth; Prebirth Analysis Matrix; Prenatal Educator; Mother – Father – Unborn Baby Dialogue; Birth; Birth Psychology, Philosophy; Education; Trauma Trance; Abortion Survivors; Emotional DNA; Human Evolution; Symbiosis; Cyclic Vomiting Syndrome (CVS);.

Prof. Drr. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh gives our keynote thought:

Human life should be considered as an indivisible continuum

where each of the developmental stages is equally important;

all stages interdependent & inseparable from the whole

individual’s life continuum. The physical, biochemical,

endocrinological, immunological &  psychological processes

represent a whole which cannot be divided. In this continuum,

the individual represents  an indivisible entity of all functions on

both physiological or physical, & psychological and social levels.

Prof. Fedor-Freybergh gives us the key to the Development of the Individual & Society. It is the indivisible continuum, the interdependence and inseparability of the individual as a whole.

Our intention today is not on traumatic births such as William Emerson discusses in his Birth Shock but on the therapeutic aspects of trauma trances of mothers during pregnancy & how those trauma trances have impacted on their unborn babies.

The Birth House At Stork & Crow

Recently, Jon RG & I received an email from Zuzana Stromerova a midwife in Prague. Let me share it with you because it speaks so much from her heart the challenge we are facing:

I am working on a project called  The Birth House At Stork & Crow,

an independent birth house.  The more I am working on it the more

I find out how much needs to be done about the Spiritual State of
Society; how much we must do about the approach to birth itself;
&, how strong & negative is the power our decision makers hold.

Sometimes, I feel so weak.

Zuzana has stated so clearly the task facing Prenatal & Perinatal Education, Psychology and Medicine.  Let me say, that her words also reflect the intention of the Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute International. Our Institute is committed to ANEP:Italia in bringing to the world education for new consciousness about birth. This is why Whole-Self DDI  is so honored to be part of this meeting in Milano. We understand that this Congress is laying a foundation for the transformation of the next generations of people …of all humanity.

This midwife Zuzana, felt weak because of all the forces which hold the power against common sense birthing practices. This is exactly why Prenatal Education is the key – the imperative to the enhancing development of the individual & society. Prenatal Education is not against: Prenatal Education is for empowering midwives, doctors, nurses, mothers & fathers, all of society in honoring their responsibilities of Bringing Babies to the World.

This last phrase Bringing Babies to the World was the theme of the 4th International Conference on Natural Birth which Zuzana Stomerova chaired last February in Prague. 700 people attended from over 20 countries.  Prof. Fedor-Freybergh & Jon RG & myself had the honor of being the Keynote Presenters. There was support from national health officials – some even spoke at the congress. Several of us appeared on Czech National Television One. Yet, there is still an incredible amount of Prenatal Education needed to make “The Birth House At Stork & Crow” a standard for birthing in Prague & the Czech Republic. We mention this not in a diminishing way but to let you know that there are women in our ranks who are totally & unselfishly doing what needs to be done.

When, your ANEP:Italia President, Gabriella Ferrari, invited me to come here to Milano to share with you, the first question which came to my mind was, ‘Why do I support the idea to educate people in prenatal awareness?’ The answer is because through the insights coming from Prenatal Psychology, I discover & support the next step in the development of human consciousness into the 21st century.

Prenatal education is for everyone who is born

& is traveling the road of life.

Prenatal Educators have a special calling to assist others on this odyssey we call life. Just some recent Prenatal Educators who are pioneers in Human Evolution include Peter Fedor-Freybergh, Ludwig Janus, Marie Andre Bretin, Thomas Verny, David Chamberlain, Jenö Raffai, William Emerson and John C. Sonne. Jon RG Turner entered this pioneering group in Prenatal Education in the 1970s in Los Angeles when he was asked to develop a workshop at the Santa Monica Holistic Health & Medicine Clinic where he was working. He was inspired by what he recognized as the three, most fundamental experiences every human being shares: Birth, Life & More Life!  In 1970, Jon RG pioneered Prebirth Memory Therapy. As a Prenatal Educator myself, training prenatal educators means more than just providing them with theoretical background about birth & birth psychology.

The Whole-Self Model

Allow me to define the Whole-Self in the first person I: The Whole-Self is the totality of me which knows everything I have ever experienced & wants me to remember. All that I am discovering, through Whole-Self about the prebirth period, & learning here this weekend, points to the fact that Prenatal Education is a universal tool to help pregnant women & men, as well as all of us committed to better birthing on all levels. Whole-Self, as part of Prenatal Education, is a universal instrument which can most directly help each one of us to comprehend – to understand our common humanity. After visiting us in The Netherlands several years ago, Dr. Ludwig Janus has said it beautifully:

‘The Whole-Self© Model has the potential

to change the course of human evolution.’

Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis MatrixÓ

My most basic tool for this self-understanding is the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis MatrixÓ or PAMÓ. The Whole-Self PAM is a simple questionnaire of 22 sets of questions which helps me to discover specific patterns from my gestation. These include the charged emotional patterns which my mother & father are experiencing during the nine months of their pregnancies. It is my parent’s specific emotional patterns which compose the foundation of my emotional/mental capacities. When I have worked on myself discovering this foundation, I can fully participate & inspire other people. In Whole-Self, the principle is

‘I only can change myself  & by doing so

 I may inspire others to change.’

Therefore, talking today about Educating in Prenatal Awareness; bringing prenatal education to the public awareness, really means working in a proactive way in the discovery of the innate, individual & collective, what we can call, Psycho-spiritual inheritance. By doing so, I am participating & enhancing a new & ongoing development of humanity.

Prof. Isabella Barajon, MD, has a wonderful description of the Whole-Self PAM:

When I look at the blueprint of my Whole-Self PAM,

it is like looking inside a kaleidoscope.

I see many levels from different perspectives:

there is the individual perspective,

which contains my soul urge,

my parents’ perspective,

my trans-generational perspective,

my evolutionary perspective.

I can recognize the history of an emotional or physical pattern

in my family through several generations

& follow its prebirth encoding.

I may not immediately know what the biological substrate of this encoding is

but I can find the replication of its presence in my family psycho history.

How can there be changes in the development & evolution of humanity

when I go through my Whole-Self PAM?

When I, as a part of humanity, through my Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix discover the source of my non-conscious patterns, bringing them to my conscious mind in an appropriate way, I am able to understand & release &  transform them. I am no longer reactive to those patterns with others in my family or society. When I can see my emotional, reactively charged patterns, I can recognize which of my patterns where reflected or mirrored to me by my parents, by my partner, by my children or by my society. My symbiosis to my clan can be released. That means, my patterns no longer resonate or stimulate the same patterns in other people around me. When that happens, a deeper understanding, a compassionate patience, a dynamic bonding & mutual respect is discovered & alive! That is evolution in action.

Our Mentor, Prof. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh, Honorary Life President of the International Society for Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine teaches that each one of us is the product, the result, first of our grandparents. This is because whatever ethical & moral values our parents have passed to us were first instilled in our parents by their parents. This is the continuum of life we all pass down from generation to generation & share in common.

Primary to be a Prenatal Educator must be my own willingness to experience simple & safe tools by which I can release myself from my own innate diminishing challenges. It is the basic ethical & moral values inherited from all my previous progenitors whom you see before you at this moment. Often, I am told how much I look like my mother’s mother. My mother has strong Dutch values which I recognize in myself. But, why starting in my mid-teens, had I passed through 12 years of being anorexic & bulimic? It was actually that question which initiated me into Prenatal Education. One day, thinking about why I was using food as an instrument to end my life, I got the idea that the answer might be found in how my life began. Sitting in my chair, with a deep feeling of wanting to go back, I closed my eyes with the idea of visualizing my birth. To my amazement, I was my mother sitting in her doctor’s office. I could feel her joy in knowing that after four years & an operation she was finally pregnant. What happened next was shocking. I could hear the doctor saying that because of the operation to her uterus it would be wise for her to prepare herself for the possibility that this first baby could be born dead. I felt her joy dissolve into devastation, into helplessness, hopelessness & powerlessness. Exactly the same reaction I had experienced all my life when something joyous was about to happen. And, I understood that the reason I was using eating disorders as a way to end my life was, because based on my trauma trance, I was trying to fulfill that doctor’s prophecy that I could be born dead.

The #1 Whole-Self Principle

In Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy and Education we have a number of Principles which help us to understand & progress in life. The number one Whole-Self Principle says,

I cannot change something until I know what needs to be changed

This can be expanded to also mean,

 

When I know something, I can make the decision to change it.

So, in my meditative state, I had discovered what actually needed to be changed. But insight does not create change. I needed to make a decision to change. This story is told in the little book which our Whole-Self Facilitator in Rome, Smilja Janjatovic Pugliesi has beautifully translated into Italian. Thank you Smilja!

Let me share with you a request which came by email from a young mother we will call K who had read one of our papers Prebirth Memory Therapy: Including Prematurely Delivered Patients on the APPPAH – Association for Pre- and Perinatal Psychology and Health website. This mother has a three years old daughter, we can call C, suffering from Cyclic Vomiting Syndrome (CVS). The vomiting spells happen every 28 days & last for about 48 hours. Mother reports that all medical tests show C as normal. Medication, homeopathic remedies & herbal medicine have had no effect to arrest the child’s periodic vomiting. K had recognized that the cyclical nature of the CVS episodes matches the 28 day emotional biorhythm. So she suspects that there could be an emotional cause to her daughter’s illness.   K reports that she actually has twin daughters born at 35.5 gestation. The sister we can call B is larger at birth & has normal development without any CVS symptoms.

When asked about her pregnancy, K presents that during her pregnancy, she was depressed & suffering from hyperemisis & was hospitalized for nausea & vomiting. After the birth of the twins, C, the smaller twin, spent 10 days in hospital; the first five in an incubator because of jaundice & eating problems.

Because vomiting is a form of rejecting, Jon RG asked K who or what she may have been rejecting during the pregnancy. K replied that maybe she was rejecting the reality that she was pregnant with twins. She was locked in depression & extreme nausea that lead to profuse vomiting. K was in so much pain in her groin; very tired; overwhelmed & just wanted the pregnancy part finished.  She wanted to eat again. She wanted her body back.

Regarding her feelings about having twins, K admitted that she was plain scared because her first daughter, A, was very difficult to handle. A was active & spirited; very close to her mother; had strong separation anxiety; nursed until she was two years old: & still slept with her parents. K could not imagine having two new babies as active as A. She just did not have the strength to deal with two babies. She was extremely upset that she was having twins. She dreaded having to take care of them. Then she confessed that she had made comments about taking the other away – aborting one of them. She was upset that she was so sick. She was so nauseated that she could not eat. And, she took hot, hot baths three times a day to relieve her nausea. She had to take medication to prevent early labor.

Abortion Survivor

‘I made comments about taking the other away – aborting one of them!’ This then, is the core issue of the case. John C. Sonne & some others have written about Abortion Survivors. There is the possibility that C may be demonstrating Abortion Survivor behaviors. The most important point Sonne reveals are the diminishing self-judgments typical of Abortion Survivors. From the Whole-Self Psychology point of view, all of K’s emotional trauma & self-judgments during her pregnancy were being encoded into C’s consciousness. C was conditioned with her mother’s thought & intention that she should be taken away – even though an actual abortion did not happen. K did not know how her thought of rejection could be affecting one of her unborn babies. Twin B never identified herself as being unwanted.

Whole-Self Psychology proposes that during that pregnancy, C was resident in her mother’s consciousness being emotionally/mentally rejected by her experiences so that after birth ‘rejection’ would be the foundation upon which C would build her life. C has been more reactive against life because she symbolizes the part of K which was rejecting herself. C is the child who believed herself to be the child that K wanted taken away – to be aborted. This is a thought she cannot stomach.

K reports that she has recently talked to her mother & learned that she, herself, had a difficult gestation & post-birth. Her bilirubin got above dangerous levels & she needed a manual blood transfusion. Her blood was tested so many times that her fingers & toes were black & blue when she got home.  As K did with the twins her mother, too, had to take a drug to stop contractions starting at 5 months…..

And so life goes on generation after generation. As stated before, the number one Principle in Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy and Education says:

I cannot change something until I know what needs to be changed.

Now K knows what she has to work on in her Whole-Self Therapy – the patterns of her own gestation & birth. As she heals herself, her daughter C, will no longer need to mirror those patterns for her mother & both can be healed. She is working to resolve these prebirth patterns. K presents just one example of Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education linking together to support Prenatal Education.

Mother – Father – Unborn Child Dialogue

For three decades, Prof. Fedor-Freybergh has advocated the importance of the mother, father, unborn child dialogue. One key to understanding the true nature of pregnancy is to explore the nature of consciousness during pregnancy. In June 2000, the 13th International Congress of the International Society for Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine was held in Cagliari, Sardinia, Italy. Prof. Grigori I. Brekhman, Head of the Obstetrics and Gynecology Department of the State Medical Academy, Ivanovo, Russia, presented a paper entitled:

The conception of the multiple‑level co‑ordinated action between the mother

& her unborn child: the methodological approach & the methods of research.

In his paper Prof. Brekhman suggests a multilevel concept of the relationship between mother & her unborn child which includes this particular emotional/mental aspects. It is a model which Whole-Self Psychology had been teaching for 30 years. Referring to a promise he made at an ISPPM Congress in London Prof. Brekhman said:

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Nowadays a lot of data obtained has confirmed the hypothesis that the psycho-emotional inter-relationship between the mother and her unborn child is the reality…. We (Brekhman) offered to examine the mother‑unborn child relationships based on the idea of a permanently functioning multiple‑level polyphonic system. It has been assumed that if mother is a multiple‑system embracing such levels as biological, energetical, astral, mental, etc, to have intimate and fruitful interplay between her and the unborn, he (baby) must already possess the same levels beginning with the zygote. Such a methodological approach proved to be fruitful. The subdivision of this system into the various levels is very relevant for baby since it is only able to live and develop harmoniously if all its components properly interact.

In this last sentence the word ‘only’ signals the operative word. In its very simplest terms, mother and baby must be able to communicate with & understand each other on all levels with the same symbols or language. The significant concept, Prof. Brekhman, says is that if there is a process such as a mother-unborn child dialogue long advocated by Prof. Fedor-Freybergh, there needs to exist complementary – matching systems in both mother & her baby which can recognize each other’s messages. An analogy is to a matching & tuned radio transmitter (mother) sending the message & a matching radio (baby) to receive the message.

emotional DNAÓ or eDNAÓ

 

Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education has hypothesized that just as each of us is the synthesis of our parent’s genetic coding which gives us our physical characteristics, there is also a synthesis of the emotional/mental patterns of our parents from the nine months of their pregnancy – our individual ‘emotional DNA’ or eDNA. This eDNA is precisely the system which Prof. Brekhman has defined. There is a whole field dedicated to this kind of study which Ludwig Janus is bringing to the attention of Prenatal Educators called Psycho-History.

The Trauma Trance

In Whole-Self Psychology, when a trauma happens it puts a person into a hypnotic trance. Whole-Self calls this a ‘trauma trance’. I mentioned how trauma trances can be passed down through generations. Recently, I had a case were two generations of the ‘trance patterns’ of ‘unworthy’ & ‘inferior’ were presented.

Trauma Trance Case 1

A young woman of 34 years I call Jenny, was on sick leave from her work. Jenny cannot sleep with any other person in her bedroom. Unmarried, she had been in a 12 year relationship with a man who hit her twice a year each of those years. The relationship broke up because Jenny finally hit him back. She stood up to the bully & he backed down.

Although Jenny is the stronger person in a relationship, she has been afraid of & paranoid of man. She chooses to be stronger – in control out of fear to fall in love because if she is in love she will become vulnerable! Jenny’s possible paranoia is related to her fantasy about the magic of being powerful! Jenny takes a holiday to Tunisia. She is deeply disappointed when she realizes her non-conscious set-up to be in a country that holds such a diminishing attitude to women to sustain her ‘trance pattern’ of unworthy & inferior by expecting the impossible.

Jenny did the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix & discovered that in the fourth month of her mother’s pregnancy, her mother is visiting her sister. It is a difficult visit for mother because she feels guilty because she is pregnant but that her sister cannot have children. Mother promises her sister that the child, Jenny, will be hers too. Mother’s sister is happy when she hears these words but, her mother cries & feels unworthy & inferior for giving her baby away. And, mother decides that the child is unworthy & inferior, too.

The trauma dynamic in the this case is mother’s feeling of unworthy & inferior which is the basis of her feeling guilty about being prosperous because she can get pregnant while her sister is barren. To be less prosperous, she ‘gives’ the (unborn) child to her sister who feels enhanced & happy while mother feels diminished by again having triggered her ‘trance pattern’ of being unworthy & inferior.

Jenny lives the same ‘trance pattern’ of unworthy & inferior only in a different way. She cannot sleep/be vulnerable with anyone else in the same room/close otherwise she is either given away or she will give herself away. Jenny also has troubled relationships/friendships with women because of her unworthy &inferior ‘trance patterns’.

Experience has proven that when the mother has diminishing feelings about herself, the father will probably get his energy, too, from the adrenaline triggered by his diminishing feelings. In her 12 year relationship, allowing that man to abuse her  – seemingly, ritually twice a year, Jenny was playing out an unresolved pattern with her father & symbolically her own male aspect whom she is controlling. Therefore, Jenny’s past relationship fits the same description of a mutual need for adrenaline & the fear to be powerful or successful. The abusive 12 year relationship broke up after she had used her power!

Jenny does not know her father in the sense that she has not figured him out. When she really would be interested to know him, she would recognize some of his characteristics in herself; she would get to know herself as well!

Trauma Trance Case 2

My next case illustrates two generations of three ‘trance patterns’ of ‘inferior’, ‘irresponsibility’ & ‘rejection’. Mary, 38 years of age, just ‘dry’ from alcohol abuse recovery, is getting married. Her husband has been married with children. Sometimes the children visit them & ‘takeover’ her house. Mary is ambivalent about setting boundaries. She does not want to reject the children because she believes that they are more important & worthy than she is. In the past, Mary just took a drink when ‘it’ – the stress – became too much. Now because she is getting married to the father of those very exuberant children, instead of alcohol she seeks therapeutic help.

In her Prebirth Analysis Matrix, Mary discovers two trauma events; in the first & seventh months which help her to understand her diminishing patterns:

The first trauma locks into Mary’s mother when she discovers that she is pregnant. She feels terror, panic & devastation. Her extremely strong reaction is because of her domestic situation living with the parents of her husband. Mother judges herself as ‘stupid’ & ‘inferior’. She believes her only solution to abort the situation is to abort the baby. But she does not. We mentioned John Sonne’s extensive writings about the dynamics of Abortion Survivors.

In the seventh month of mother’s pregnancy, mother is cleaning her mother-in-law’s house. Her husband’s mother verbally communicates the message that because the cleaning is not good enough, her daughter-in-law is not good enough. Mother’s husband does not defend her which makes mother feel inferior, helpless & powerless.

When mother discovers that she is pregnant, she is stricken with terror, panic & devastation, Mother feels stupid & inferior & tries to get rid of her pain by wanting to undo/abort the situation/baby. But, she is unsuccessful again, proving to herself how stupid & inferior she is. In the second event, the mother-in-law mirrors her diminishing self-beliefs & her husband does not ease her pain by defending her & standing up to his mother. The next step is for mother to demand her own place to live with her husband & their baby.

Mary lives in the same trance pattern of inferior, irresponsible & rejection as her mother had, only in a different way. Her mother was against being pregnant & Mary is against becoming an instant mother. In the past, Mary used alcohol to escape the unbearable situation of appropriately controlling her husband’s children. Her challenge is to further develop herself by becoming a worthy & responsible stepmother to the children of her partner. Mary has to declare her boundaries in an appropriate way so that she does not have to repeat her mother’s pattern of wanting to flee from the house. Through the information she has received from her Whole-Self PAM, Mary can recognize two facts: that she does not have to reject the kids & that she is as important & worthy as the children are.

Family Trauma Trance

My final example of trauma trance patterns is very connected with Italy. Two weeks ago, I was watching a TV program which brought together lost family members. I became very excited because it so clearly illustrated two generations of ‘trauma trance patterns’ – trance patterns of ‘longing’ & ‘belonging’.

Mario, 28 years of age, was celebrating the birth of his second son. Mario was the son of a Dutch women who as a singer had a short relationship with an Italian man temporarily working in Holland. The man was deeply in love with her – as only Italian men can be – & he wanted to commit to her. But she was not interested in a commitment & finally she made him leave. He went back to Sardinia & only saw his son, Mario, once, when the child was about 18 months of age.

Mario’s mother, her parents & her partner raised the boy. Then, when he was 14 years of age one morning at breakfast, his mother told Mario that his present father was not his father and that was it. The boy was terribly lost, based on his pattern of wanting to be wanted – wanting to ‘belong’. The longing for his real father became stronger & stronger. The years passed. Mario married & he himself became the father of two handsome sons. With the birth of the second boy, Mario’s longing to meet his true father became even stronger.

The TV program was able to connect Mario with his father, who first was a bit withholding, not knowing how his present family would respond to a lost son. The father was clearly deeply hurt by the loss of his Dutch love & was extremely happy when he met their son.

Eventually, the two men glowed with happiness & fulfillment. Even though the Dutch man did not speak Italian, they both understood each other without any translation. There was a family party for the ‘lost son’ where the grandmother accepted him as another one of her other grandchildren.

It was amazing to see how the man in his beautiful Dutch home looked like a stranger while in the company of all his Italian relatives was totally at home. The reunion was undoubtedly a healing event for the father & the son. And, Mario’s children will not have to go through the longing & belonging trance patterns experienced by their father & grandfather.

From Single to Society

In these cases, we have shared with you about single individuals. But as each single individual is healed of their Prebirth Patterns, society too, is healed. We began our sharing today with the words of Prof. Fedor-Freybergh. We said that he gives us the key to the Development of the Individual & Society. That key is the indivisible continuum, the interdependence & inseparability of the individual as a whole. That is the Whole-Self. Through the discoveries & developments of Prenatal Education we can discover & develop the Whole-Society. Thank You!

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HOW TO RECOVER MEMORIES FROM BEFORE BIRTH!

 

DISCOVERING THE EMOTIONAL DNA

THROUGH  PREBIRTH MEMORY THERAPY©1994

                                                                by John-Richard (Jon RG) & Troya GN Turner

Presented at the 2nd World Congress of Prenatal Education (ANEP)

under the authority of the Ministry of Health & Providence

under the theme

THE PRENATAL EDUCATION:

FROM ANCIENT GREECE TO THE 21ST CENTURY

1994 The UN Year of the Family

Athens, Greece 12 -14 May 1994

First, Troya & I would like to thank the honorable Chair, Dr. Thomas R. Verny & all the conveners of this Congress. We are most grateful to be here in historic Athens, Greece. We extend greetings to all of you from Professor Dr. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh, Honorary President and Professor Dr. Rudolf Klimek, President of the International Society for Prenatal &  Perinatal Psychology &  Medicine.

In school, we learned that the Olympic Games were born in Greece & that Greece is the Cradle of Democracy. It is interesting that the words born & cradle are innately attached to this land. It is entirely appropriate that the Ministry of Health & Providence should be granting its blessing to this gathering of people from all over the globe concerned with birth & health. And, we are especially appreciative to the lecturers from Greece who have given us the opportunity to learn so much about the wisdom & rich heritage concerning Greek Prenatal Education from ancient to contemporary culture.

Troya:

When I was working as a psychiatric nurse at the Valerius Clinic of the Free University of Amsterdam, a colleague went to our Director and said, “I would like a day off from work. My wife is going to have a baby!”  “Fine!”, said our director, “You should take two days off.”  Three days later when the colleague returned to work the Director asked him, “Well, was it a boy or a girl?”  My Colleague replied, ” We don’t know yet. We will let you know in 9 months!”

A boy or a girl? This story illustrates the uncertainties to be found in the nine months preceding the birth of a baby. Last month, Jon R & I took part in a Touch The Future conference in Ashland, Oregon in the USA convened by Mr. Michael Mendizza. It was based on the Dialogue process developed by Physicist David Bohm.  We were gathered together in an attempt to explore new ways of creating a future free of violence & destruction. At that first Touch The Future meeting you would be amazed at the uncertainties we all experienced. We are pleased to report though, that a large percentage of the participants were directly involved in prenatal & perinatal practices including Dr. David Chamberlain who gave us such an inspiring presentation last year at the ANEP meeting in Granada.

Today, we would like to touch briefly on some hypotheses, some ideas which we believe could take some of the uncertainties out of what is going on emotionally & mentally during that nine months. Some of you may have already seen these in your work; others may find them interesting concepts to explore.  The history of how Jon RG & I became involved in prebirth discovery is an important part of our development.

Jon RG:

Our paper is entitled ‘How To Recover Memories Before Birth’. Two questions come to mind. What are these memories before birth? Why is it important to recover them? The memories we are working with are the charged, that is high energy or impacting feelings experienced by mother and father, in the nine months of the pregnancy. Some are called traumatic. It is important to recover them because as in most charged events we are non-consciously living at the effect of them. That is, we are living & reacting emotionally as if the event is still happening. To release from the impact of the event it is necessary to return, revision, & release from it. This is the basis of our Whole-Self Psychology model. Perhaps the easiest way to answer these questions is by giving you some examples of cases we have worked with. I can begin to by telling you how I became interested in Prenatal Psychology.  My case began many years before my birth. My mother was a stricken with tuberculosis when she was in her early teens. This was very common in the waves of immigrants going to America at the turn of the century. Because of her slight build my mother was told by her doctor that she should never have any children. Years later, she married & ultimately I was conceived & born. Birth was with forceps & my aunt confirms that my head was quite damaged. As a result I did not begin speaking till I was over 3 & a half years of age. I had learning disabilities, short term memory disorder, dyslexia and reading deficiencies & I was hyperactive. I have often said that my brain just did not give me anything to say.  Our number one Whole-Self Principle says, I cannot change something till I know what needs to be changed.  By exploring my prebirth memories I was able to discover my non-conscious belief that it was inappropriate for me to have been conceived & born. I’m am sure my parents must have wished they had taken that doctor’s advice. I was able to heal those psychic wounds which I had inherited or perhaps borrowed from my mother.

In the 1970’s, I had a therapy practice in Beverley Hills, California. I started getting patients who had been given up by their therapists. I knew that those people had spent five, ten, twenty years exploring their lives attempting to discover the cause of their emotional and/or mental problems. “How can I help these people?”,   I thought. The inspiration came to me that if I could take them back to explore the emotional & mental patterns which their mothers & fathers were experiencing during their pregnancy with the patient, the patient would experience a very rapid recovery. What we did was to discover that each of us is not only the synthesis of the genetic coding of our parent’s DNA, but that we are also the synthesis of the charged mental & emotional patterns being experienced by our parents during that nine months period. We call it the emotional DNA or EDNA.

Through 22 specific moments in their gestation those patients were able to recognize from within themselves that the unresolved & non-productive patterns they had been living were actually the effect of charged emotions & reactions they had borrowed from their parents. Whatever charged emotions mother, & father through mother, are experiencing become part of the offspring’s emotional repertoire. That is how, we propose, babies have emotions when they are born.

The baby’s body as part of mother’s body is basically developed in about three months; the remaining six months is rehearsal for living independently. The emotions which are part of mother’s consciousness are also being developed so that at birth there is a considerable range of emotions for baby to feel and express when it takes charge of that little body with it’s first breath.

But this may have been a little theoretical & I said we would give more cases. I would like to invite Troya to tell her story which illustrates our point about the importance or recovering prebirth memories. What is interesting is that as I was starting the prebirth work in Los Angeles almost 6,000 miles away in Amsterdam, Holland, Troya was getting the same inspiration.

Troya:

I mentioned earlier that I was working as a psychiatric nurse. I was assigned to a section attempting to treat anorexia & bulimia nervosa eating disorders. I could not understand why my colleagues were having such difficulties dealing with those women. I totally agreed with those women. Suddenly, I realized that I was agreeing with them because I had spent the previous12 years with those same eating disorders. I knew that the treatments we were giving did not work. I had started to meditate & got the idea that perhaps the cause of my eating & control behavior might be connected with my birth.

            I was sitting in my living room with my eyes closed expecting to see myself as a little baby. You can imagine my surprise when I saw my mother sitting in the doctor’s office. I heard him say, “Because of this problem with your tipped uterus this first baby could be born dead!” I instantly realized that the expectation of my life was that I should be born dead. I experienced my mother’s emotional shift from happiness to fear, terror, panic & disaster. Mother’s reaction to his words had been very familiar feeling reactions in my life. Most startling was the realization of the source of my self-sabotaging behavior when some good thing was about to happen in my life. I projected back several times into my prebirth period & made many more correlations.

You are probably asking was it true. Jon RG asked me the same question ten years later when I told him about the experience. I had not asked my parents anything about it because I had not wanted to upset them. So, on our next visit, I told them what I had seen in my meditation. Father laughed & said it had been a great pregnancy. Mother calmly asked, “How did you find out? I never told anybody, not even your father, what the doctor had said.”

So, my mediation was confirmed. The anorexia & bulimia nervosa were my non-conscious ways of fulfilling a prophecy that I should be born dead. The thought which had triggered mother’s charged reaction created my pathology before I was born.

Jon RG:

It is so profound when we are able to help people identify the prebirth source of their continuing pain & suffering & to release from it. The most common reaction is “I did not do something bad or wrong! I am not guilty!”

We are reminded of a case of a 57 year old woman in London who had felt totally rejected as a child. As an adult she experienced total obsession resulting in torturous agony if her male friend did not call her every night.  She continuously chose men who could not take her out in public. She remembered that her father’s first wife had died & he had remarried eight weeks later. Although her father had a Fish & Chips shop he kept her mother hidden in the background. All this patient’s male friends did exactly the same thing. Her mother was so despondent she threw herself down the stairs in an attempt to abort the pregnancy. This was a typical case of the tragedy of the unwanted child from before birth living out the rejection in shame and humiliation throughout life. Remember I said her father remarried eight weeks after his first wife died. I wonder if that had any correlation to this woman being born eight weeks prematurely?

In another case, a 57 year old man born in England in 1943 during World War II had lived his whole life in a sense of disconnectedness, of having no place. He discovered in his Prebirth Analysis Matrix© or PAM© that in the fifth month of her pregnancy his mother was stricken with an overwhelming fear for the safety of her husband who was in a war business in Bristol which was being bombed. Beside feeling disconnected & cut off from her husband, his mother became suddenly terrified when she realized that her two previous pregnancies had disconnected in miscarriages.

Since I’ve mentioned two cases related to WWII, I remember another. This woman was born in 1939 just before war came to England. She came for a session because she had been feeling depressed. In her PAM she discovered that her mother had been suffering a chronic depression because of her anxiety & fear that her husband would be drafted into the British army. Correlating it to the present she described it as a kind of bleakness; a feeling of powerlessness; no choice; things just happening to her. She has a choice now of staying in the pattern or taking responsible action to move from victimness to self-empowerment regarding the circumstances of her life.

We have given a number of cases in which the mother’s trauma or chronic feeling during the prebirth period had a profound & lasting affect on her child. We thought that it might be valuable for those who wish, to experience how to recover prebirth memories from your own lives. Before we begin, we should explain that when doing this exercise we are not working with your personality. The reason is we have found that one of the basic functions of people’s personality is to keep them from feeling pain, so personality keeps painful memories suppressed. Today, as in all of our Whole-Self Therapy work, we will be inviting your Whole-Self to let you experience the answers. This process is very simple.

For those who would like to explore a memory before birth, please think of a familiar thought or feeling which may feel discomforting or unpleasant, or has created a non-productive behavior. We realize that all of you may not have such patterning so just go along as best you can with the questions.  If it feels comfortable to do this please close your eyes & keep them closed until I finish the complete series of questions.

Please think of the thought or feeling for a moment (pause) & feel how it

feels in your body. The first question is answered with a yes or no.

Please allow your Whole-Self to let you experience:

during her pregnancy did mother experience any traumatic feelings?

There may not have been a specific incident

but there could have been a pervasive situation or circumstances.

Next Question:

Please allow your Whole-Self to let you experience even if you heard

no if mother had experienced a trauma or circumstance would it

have happened during the 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th 8th 9th

month of her pregnancy?

Even if you had heard no, if a number had popped out,

Please allow your Whole-Self  to take you to the place

where your mother is in that month.

Please allow your Whole-Self to let you see

what mother is doing just before the event strikes.

Please allow your Whole-Self to let you feel the feelings,

mother is having just before the event strikes.

Please allow your Whole-Self to let you experience

what happens & to feel mother’s instant emotional reaction to the event.

As mother experiences the situation & emotionally opposes her feelings,

on a non-conscious level she makes judgments against herself.

Judgment words can be: unlovable, unimportant, unworthy, worthless,      unacceptable, unsupportable, not good enough, inferior, inappropriate,

bad, wicked, terrible, horrible, dirty, disgusting, despicable,

dumb, stupid, inept, incapable, incompetent, incomplete,

insecure, helpless, hopeless, powerless.

Please allow your Whole-Self to let you experience

are these familiar feelings in your life?

are these familiar self judgments in your life?

Now you know where those familiar feelings & those non-conscious self-judgments

come from! Please thank your Whole-Self for that information & because you have

been very conscious & very wide awake,  when you want you can gently open your

eyes.

A very common answer is that mother is feeling happy, good, relaxed & these

feelings dramatically change at the moment the event strikes. Do you know anyone

who shuts off their happiness just when things are going well? It is a form of

protection from prebirth memory. Mother’s happiness was shut off by someone else.

So my personality shuts off happiness now so that no one else can shut it off for me.

This is just one of 22 sets of questions in the Prebirth Analysis Matrix or PAM.  We

trust that even in this single experiment you may have discovered one component of

the emotional DNA or EDNA which you inherited from your mother while you were

still an unborn within your family.
Thank you for letting us share with you.

Much Peace & Much Love! JRG&T

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HOLISTIC DEATH & BEREAVEMENTÓ2001

                        By Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

“I had never been sure whether I was afraid to die.

But I had concern because I had such doubts about how to do it.

After this weekend, I now know how easy it will be. Thank you!”

These were the words of Elizabeth, one of the older  participants, after a recent Whole-Self Death & Bereavement Workshop inHamburg,Germanywas completed. The workshop was being held at the oldest Buddhist Centre inGermany. A survey of the members had shown that the topic they were most interested in learning about was Death & Bereavement. The program was presented by myself Jon RG (formerly John-Richard) Turner Co-Founder of the Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute Inc. International of Santa Fe, New Mexico, USA andAmsterdam, NL assisted by our Germany Co-Director Sigrid Westermann ofHamburg.

I became interested in the subject of death after two separate personal experiences of dying and being reanimated in hospital. Some years later, I was working at the Santa Monica Holistic Health & Medicine Clinic in Los Angeles, Californiawhen the Medical Director asked me to create an educational program for the general public. Los Angelesis the Meccaof workshops so I would need to offer something very different. The question came into my mind, What are the most common experiences all human beings share? The answer: We are all born, we all live and we all die. But, having died twice I knew it was not death, but more life. So the title of the workshop most naturally became Birth, Life & More Life. That was the beginning of an odyssey which has taken we around the world helping people to feel at ease about being born, living and dying –

The Art of Gently Letting Go

Letting go is about MORE LIFE! I have permission to share this event with you. During a Whole-Self therapy session with a woman I call Jill, it was revealed that the mother was in a hospice just outsideLondon. All her life this mother had been very stubborn and additionally very bullying towards her daughter Jill. In fact, she was so stubborn that she was refusing to die. As a consequence, the hospice had requested that mother be moved to a nursing home. This was causing Jill a considerable problem to find a nursing home her mother would approve of.

Creative Visualisation

I invited Jill to visualise her mother in her bed in the hospice.  We have a very simple visualisation procedure called the Whole-Self Death & Bereavement Exercise which can be very helpful in assisting people to gently release. When we finished the W-S Releasing Exercise, continuing to use her imagination, I asked Jill to invite her mother to look to her right. She reported that her mother said that her (the mother’s) father was there. He was telling her that she needed to stop bullying her Jill. He told her that many relatives and friends were waiting to welcome her. All she had to do was stop resisting and pass over. Then, I asked Jill to ask her mother to please look to her left. Mother reported that there was an angel sitting at the foot of her bed. He said that she was being stubborn and bullying towards her Jill and needed to let go.

The Fisherman

After our session, Jill went to the hospice. Her mother was sitting up in bed smiling eating heartily. She said that she had a dream that a man was sitting at the foot of her bed telling her that she was being bullying towards her daughter and stubborn and that she needed to let go. She asked him who he was and he replied, “The Fisherman!” This is often a pseudonym for Jesus. At that moment, the mother confessed to Jill that when her husband had died filled with morphine he had been screaming for people to open the door and let him in and no one would. She had been terrified to die because she was sure the same refusal and rejection would happen to her. She continued that after her dream that morning, she had no more fear of dying. She died peacefully a week later.

Holistic Medicine Founder

Over a quarter of a Century ago,Californiaphysician, Dr. Everts Loomis realised the statistically startling reality that there was something essentially wrong with the state of doctors and medicine at that time. He looked at the inordin­ately high numbers of expensively trained doctors who were addicted to alcohol and drugs and others who were committing suicide. Often death came at the very time when they should have been most productive and satisfied with their work and their lives. Dr. Loomis discovered a number of causes of this devastating phenomenon including:

*  Doctors had taken or were given the total

responsibility for their patient’s health and death;

*  The search for and reliance on magic bullet

approaches in which synthesised drugs were a

panacea to attack and  overcome  all disease in

spite of side effects.

Medicine had been made death the enemy; ultimately doctors were the dying. With the saving of doctor’s as well as patient’s lives his goal, Dr. Loomis formulated an Holistic Medicine philosophy.  Among his principles are:

1)   Death is not the enemy but a natural development in the progression of life and can be received without extraordinary intervention.

2)   Doctors and patients are partners who share responsibility and must agree to a plan for the balancing of disease, dysfunction and death.

3)    When medical intervention is called for,

to use a range of mutually agreed upon holistic and complimentary and allopathic approaches with as few side effects as possible.

4) Commitment to preventative practices and lifestyles to enhance and sustain health instead of trying to repair diseases:

Food and exercise (body), mental (mind)

responsiveness instead of out of control

Reactiveness  patterns (emotions) and

lifestyle approaches (spirit)  combined which

enhance vitality.

In other words, commitment to significant approaches to avoid disease and untimely death by life extending living.

Death Is Not the Enemy

The most important factor of Dr. Loomis’ work was the simple acknowledgement that death is not the enemy but the natural progression of life. Dr. Loomis’ model also suggests that instead of trying to kill intern’s human sensitivities, it would be more beneficial for patient and doctor to open, to develop and to strengthen their common humanity and compassion. In that way, the patient can feel emotional and spiritual support in their sufferings instead of cool professional scientific

rationality which had been destructive to both parties in

the struggle against disease and death. As a result of his

insightful work, significant healing started to take place in both doctors and patients.

Survivor’s Pain

Let us relate another highlight of the Death & Bereavement Workshop at the Buddhist Centre inHamburg. One of the women, aged 38, in the class had been unable to release her pain at the death of her husband whom she had known since they were

15 years of age.  With her eyes closed, I asked her:

JRG:  What do you believe will happen to you

if your husband leaves you?

G:  If my husband leaves me I will not be able

to stand on my own two feet!

JRG:  Is it your reality that, if your husband leaves

you, you will not be able to stand on your

own two feet?

G:  No!

This was repeated several times with a “No!” answer.

G was in what Whole-Self Psychology calls a “trauma

trance”. I asked her  to open her eyes and I repeated back

original statement to her. It was such a wonderful

example to the participants in the class how the

trauma trance works. She was able to see herself

locked in that dyslogic. After some discussion,

I asked the question again.

JRG:  Is it your reality that if your husband leaves

you, you will not be able to stand on your

own two feet?

G:  Yes!

JRG:  Is it true that if your husband leaves you,

you will not be able to stand on your

own two feet?

G:  No!

JRG:  What is the objective truth about what will

happen to you if your husband leaves you?

G: (Long pause) I will have freedom!

A palpable wave went through the room and her face looked 10 years younger. This was the last part in the Saturday session.

JRG:  Thank your Whole-Self for this healing.

And, do you know what?

You might even have fun tonight!

The next morning she appeared absolutely radiant.

JRG:  What did you do? You look 20 years

younger! (Everyone agreed.)

G:  I went to a disco with Angela and we danced

for hours. It was the first fun I had since my

husband died.

JRG:  Someone said that was 6 months ago?

G:   No! It was 6 years ago. I have been in therapy

for six years. Yesterday, in 20 minutes, was the

first time in 6 years that I am free of the pain.

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                                                            International Medical Director: Dr. Ellis Snitcher

                                               Website: www.Whole-Self.info &http://www.Whole-Self.co.uk

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                                                           GermanyCo-Director: Sigrid Westermann

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  Whole-Self Perinatal Psychology TherapyÓ2001

By Jon RG &Troya GN Turner-Groot

7 June, 2001 Keynote Address for

The All Russia Conference Perinatal Psychology & Medicine:

Psychosomatic Disorders in Obstetrics, Gynecology, Pediatrics &Therapy

Ivanova   State Medical Academy, Russian   Federation

6 – 8 June 2001

Keywords: Whole-Self; Prenatal; Prebirth; Prebirth Analysis Matrix; Prenatal Educator; Mother – Father – Unborn Baby Dialogue; Birth; Birth Shock; Bonding; Perinatal; Psychology, Philosophy; Education; Trauma Trance; Abortion Survivors; Psychosomatic Medicine; Behavioral Medicine; Emotional DNAÓ; Human Evolution; Cyclic Vomiting Syndrome (CVS); Symbiosis.

ABSTRACT

There are beginning to be marked changes in attitudes towards birthing in Eastern &Western cultures. Some medical technology practices are being genuinely questioned not just because of physical impacts to tiny babies but because of demonstrable psychological damage inflicted both being-born-babies &on our parents. The very essence of being human is to experience bonded relationships with other human beings. That bonding process begins before birth, possibly before conception, as part of the mother/child dialogue called for by Prof. Drr. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh, Honorary Life President of the International Society for Prenatal &Perinatal Psychology &Medicine &Chair of Child Psychiatry at theCharlesUniversityinPrague.

Bonding initiates an attunement between us, as babies, &our parents which lasts a lifetime. Bonding naturally takes place when I, as newly emerged infant am placed on mother’s bare belly &crawl up to her breast for my first physical food. I gaze into her eyes as she gazes into mine. This instant of bonding as all of our psychic/spiritual instincts are activated, which will have the greatest singular formational patterning for life.

A brief history of Prenatal &Perinatal Psychology is also presented. The most essential formational patterning or bonding as reported by Dr. Michel Odent is when baby &mother exchange recognition through their eyes which opens mother’s abilities &baby’s abilities to experience love, compassion &empathy for each other &for every other human being. There is now ample evidence that not bonding is an emotional/psychological deficit for all of us, even young children, which could be leading to the large numbers of murders, even by children, reported in the news. These children simply do not experience love, compassion or empathy for other human beings.

But before that dynamic moment of physical bonding, for nine months, our baby bodies have been growing, developing &maturing in mother’s womb. And, as Prof. Grigori I. Brekhman of theIvanovoRussiaMedicalAcademyhas reported our emotional/mental/energetic bodies also have been growing, developing & maturing, being educated through communication on all levels through the experiences of our mothers. This is one of the basic principles of Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy &Education. Namely, that each person not only inherits the genetic coding which gives each of us our physical characteristic, but we are also the synthesis of the charged emotional/mental/energetic patterns of our parents from the nine months of our gestations. It would be very strange for “mother nature” to give our little bodies six months of practice &rehearsal so that after birth our bodies could live functionally, &, for her to throw us out into the world with no experience of emotional/mental existence. The Whole-Self Psychology model of the Rebirth Analysis Matrix which offers clear understanding of the significance of psychological development in the nine months of gestation – the time when either pathological symbiosis begins or the respectful ability to feel love, compassion &empathy is initiated.

 

Prof. Drr. Peter G. Fedor – Freybergh gives our keynote:

Remember that the prenatal stage of life in the mother’s consciousness & womb is our first ecological position as human beings. This is our first human encounter, where we as children found ourselves involved in a creative dialogue with our mothers & their biological, psychological & social environment.

I am deeply honored to be able to share some ideas with such an esteemed audience. Some of these ideas may seem difficult to comprehend, but there are thirty years of experience by Western Prenatal Psychology &Medicine to confirm these ideas. I appreciate your attention &welcome dialogue about them.

There are beginning to be marked changes in attitudes towards birthing in Western Medicine. Some medical technology practices are being genuinely questioned not just because of physical impacts to tiny babies but because of demonstrable psychological damage inflicted both on us as being-born-babies as well as on our parents &on Society itself.

Psychosomatics & Prenatal Psychology

 

The theme word of this Congress is Psychosomatic. Just this past month we were fortunate to have received an example which perfectly illustrates the connection between psychosomatic medicine & prenatal psychology.

A request came by email from a young mother we will call K who had read one of our papers Prebirth Memory Therapy: Including Prematurely Delivered Patients on the Association for Pre- &Perinatal Psychology &Health website. This mother has a three years old daughter, we can call C, suffering from Cyclic Vomiting Syndrome (CVS). The vomiting spells happen every 28 days &last for about 48 hours. Mother reports that all medical tests show normal. Medication, homeopathic remedies & herbal medicine have had no effect to arrest the child’s periodic vomiting. K had recognized that the cyclical nature of the CVS episodes matches the 28 day emotional biorhythm. So she suspects that there could be an emotional cause to her daughter’s illness. K reports that she actually has twin daughters born at 35.5 gestation. The sister we can call B is larger at birth &has normal development without any CVS symptoms.

K presents that during her pregnancy, she was depressed & suffering from hyperemisis & was hospitalized for nausea &vomiting.  C spent 10 days in hospital; the first five in an incubator because of jaundice & eating problems.

Because vomiting is a form of rejecting, Jon RG asked Kay:

JRG:   Who or what were you rejecting during the pregnancy?

K:       I’m not sure, maybe the reality that I was pregnant with twins?

JRG:   What was the situation with C’s father?

K:       We were having difficulties, lack of sexual interest on my part.

He was excited about having twins, also worried.

JRG:   What were you experiencing about your situation at that time?

K:       Depression &extreme nausea that lead to profuse vomiting, &trying

to cope with a difficult pregnancy &a very active two year old first daughter.

JRG:   What was your actual feeling about being pregnant?

K:       I was in so much pain in my groin. I was very tired. I was overwhelmed.

I just wanted the pregnancy part finished. I wanted to eat again.

I wanted my body back.

JRG:  What were your feelings about twins?

K:      I was plain scared because my first daughter, A, was very difficult.

She was active &spirited; very close to me; strong separation anxiety;

nursed until she was two years old. She still sleeps with us.

I couldn’t imagine having two babies as active as A.

I just didn’t have the strength to deal with two babies.

I had to take medication to prevent early labor.

JRG:   Where you experiencing a lot of anger during your pregnancy?

Where you experiencing a lot of sadness during your pregnancy?

K:        I was extremely upset that I was having twins.

I dreaded having to take care of them.

I made comments about taking the other away – aborting one of them.

I was upset that I was so sick. I was so nauseated that I couldn’t eat.

And, I took hot, hot baths three times a day to relieve my nausea.

My husband  & I did go through a very hard time for a while.

But I can say we both loved each other very much during that time,

although I may have felt otherwise on the surface.

Abortion Survivor

“I made comments about taking the other away – aborting one of them!”

This then, is the core issue of the case. John C. Sonne & several others have written about Abortion Survivors. There is the possibility that C may be demonstrating Abortion Survivor behaviors. The most important point Sonne reveals are the diminishing self-judgments typical of Abortion Survivors. From the Whole-Self Psychology point of view, all of K’s emotional trauma & self-judgments during her pregnancy were being encoded into C’s consciousness. C was conditioned with her mother’s thought & intention that she should be taken away – even though an actual abortion did not happen. K did not know how her thought of rejection could be affecting one of her unborn babies. Twin B never identified herself as being unwanted. Whole-Self Psychology proposes that during that pregnancy, C was resident in her mother’s consciousness being emotionally/mentally rejected by her experiences so that after birth ‘rejection’ would be the foundation upon which C would build her life. C has been more reactive against life because she symbolizes the part of K which was rejecting herself. C is the child who believed herself to be the child that K wanted taken away – to be aborted.

K:       I talked to my mother & I too had a difficult gestation & post-birth.

My bilirubin got above dangerous levels

&they did a manual blood transfusion on me.

My blood was tested so many times that my fingers & toes

were black & blue when I got home.

As I did with the twins my mother, too,

had to take a drug to stop contractions starting at 5 months…..”

And so life goes on generation after generation after generation. The number one Principle in Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education says:

I cannot change something until I know what needs to be changed.

Now, K knows what she has to work on in her therapy – the patterns of her own gestation & birth. As she heals herself, her daughter C, will no longer need to mirror those patterns for her mother & both can be healed. This is just one example of Psychosomatics & Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology being linked.

The Bond That Binds

One of the most important words in Perinatal Psychology & Medicine which I would like to introduce to you is “bonding”. The very essence of being human is to experience bonded or connected relationships with other human beings. That bonding process begins before birth, possibly before conception, as part of the mother/child dialogue called for by Prof. Drr. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh, Honorary Life President of the International Society for Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine & Chair of Child Psychiatry at the Charles University in Prague.

Bonding initiates an attunement between us,

as babies, & our parents which lasts a lifetime.

The initiation of bonding naturally starts when we, as newly emerged infants are placed on mother’s bare belly & instinctively begin to crawl to mother’s breast for our first physical food. The most essential formational patterning or bonding as reported by Dr. Michel Odent is when baby & mother exchange a recognition through their eyes. This powerful moment opens a DNA packet in mother’s & baby’s brains which give both their abilities to experience love, compassion & empathy for each other & for every other human being. This moment of bonding is the singularly most important psychological event of our entire lives. It is in that instant, as all of our most human mental & psychological instincts are activated which will have the greatest formational patterning for our lives. There is now ample evidence that when bonding is denied by entrenched hospital or other procedures, the emotional/psychological deficit for all of us, even young children, could be leading to the large numbers of murders even by children, reported in the world news. These children simply do not experience & are incapable of experiencing love, compassion or empathy for themselves or for other human beings.

For nine months before that dynamic moment when the first breathe enters the baby, mother’s body has been growing, developing & maturing that little body within her womb. &, what is just as important is that baby’s emotional/mental/energetic body also has been growing, developing & maturing; being educated, if you will, through the emotional/mental/energetic experiences of mother, & father through mother’s experiences of him. This is one of the basic principles of Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education; namely, that each person not only inherits the genetic coding which gives each of us our physical characteristic, but we are also the synthesis of the charged emotional/mental/energetic patterns of our parents from the nine months of gestations. It would be very strange for “mother nature” to give our little bodies six months of practice & rehearsal so that after birth our bodies could live functionally, &, for her to throw us out into the world with no experience or competence of emotional existence. We will share the Whole-Self model of the Prebirth Analysis MatrixÓ or PAMÓ which offers clear understanding of the significance of our psychological development in the nine months of gestation – the time when our ability to feel love, compassion & empathy is generated.

Some of you may ask why prenatal psychology is important. In this short time, allow us to offer some possible answers. While birth, & wisdom about birth, goes back a very long way, through all of human history, in fact, Prenatal Psychology is actually a Twentieth Century phenomenon. Thousands of studies have been published in the medical literature. There is absolute scientific proof of what some of the horrific practices in the birthing are doing to our next generation. And, we wonder why violence is increasing even among children. If someone asked medicine to create a generation of violence much of the last 125 years of ‘modern’ medical procedures would be the perfect answer. We referred to John Sonne’s analysis of Abortion Survivors in our first case. William Emerson has described the ‘shock’ experienced & remembered by newborns as they enter a terrifying world. We will give you a very brief history of this new science. But the intent of our presentation is to give you case histories to illustrate what we most want to share with you about these last three aspects: the Psychological beginnings & the development of baby’s mind, & emotions.

Resistance to take Responsibility for Life

 

Our theme is the therapeutic aspect of Perinatal Psychology. Here is a case which supports Dr. David Chamberlain when he describes babies who have an amazing amount of awareness & control. We would like to share a case from a Whole-Self Facilitator Sigrid Westermann in Germany.

The life of my last client Ursala, 26 years of age, working as a physiotherapist was ruled by fear. She presented anorexia nervosa which gave her a great need to be in control. The paradox was that she was consumed with fear of everything. Fear to be liked; fear to be seen; fear not to be able to live very long. But most debilitating was her FEAR TO BREATHE. Ursala had never been able to take full deep breaths. We went through her PAM – her Prebirth Analysis Matrix questionnaire of 22 points regarding gestation to shortly after birth.

 

A few days later. Ursala returned & told me that in our session when she had taken the first breath, she discovered that her consciousness had resisted taking responsibility for her life in that little body. She discovered that her first thought – her belief – her reality had not allowed life to fully fill her body. Having recognized that resistance to take responsibility for her life & by changing that belief & allowing a full breath, from that moment on, Ursala felt she could take breaths to the full capacity of her lungs. She did not want to tell Sigrid that had happened on the session day because she was not sure that she would be able to continue breathing deeply. The fact is Ursala’s ability to breathe deeply has stayed with her & she was very happy.

Ursala’s case illustrates that at the very moment of the first breath, consciousness is able to begin to control the physical functioning of baby’s little body. How many times have you found yourself holding your breath in a moment of crisis or trauma? How many times have you looked into the eyes of the baby you have just assisted into life & were sure it was thinking something? Prebirth Psychology as David Bodella has described, is able to recover non-verbal awareness even from birth & before.

Historical Beginnings of Prenatal Psychology

 

One of the first moments in the development of what was to become prenatal & perinatal psychology, occurred in 1924 when Sandor Ferenzi looking at the faces of some newborns perceived a resistance to life & a wish, he interpreted, to return to the peace & happiness they had experienced in the wombs of their mothers. Even this year, as described in the case above, we discover the kind of resistance to take responsibility for life described by Ferenzi. While the happy womb & good mother theories have since then been disproved, we must still honor Ferenzi’s bravery at that time. After Ferenzi, Analyst Gustav Hans Graber, pushed back the consciousness curtain by advocating that children experience prebirth & well as post birth memories. Graber founded the International Studysociety in Prenatal Psychology.

The foundation connecting trauma with birth was laid by Otto Rank. Theoretical superstructure supporting Rank was built by Sigmund Freud. And, Nandor Fodor topped off Rank’s trauma theory by describing the consecutive stages of development theorized by Rank. Over a quarter of a century ago, Dutch analyst, M. Lietaert Peerbolte integrated a reposing consciousness before conception theory & the accepted analytical approach. His search questioned where consciousness comes from & what we know. In the 1970s, the authors of this paper pioneered in Prebirth Memory Therapy.

In 1986, in Badgastein, Austria, through the vision of Prof. Peter Fedor-Freybergh, Graber’s ISPP was transformed into the trans-disciplinary International Society of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine. After the ISPPM was birthed in Badgastein, Dr. Thomas Verny in Toronto, Canada founded the Pre &Perinatal Psychology Association of North America later renamed the Association for Pre- & Perinatal Psychology & Health. Verny made the first major step in public awareness of babyhood with his book The Secret Life of the Unborn Child. Dr. David Chamberlain progressed this impact with his book Babies Remember Birth republished as The Mind of Your New Born Baby,

 

The transmitter (mother) & the receiver (baby)

must be attuned to each other

Through thousands of studies, early prenatal & perinatal psychology theories about pregnancy & birth have been proved or corrected. We must gratefully acknowledge those pioneering theories conceived during the last century. Now in the 21st Century Prebirth & Birth theory & practice are advancing rapidly. At the 13th ISPPM Congress held in Cagliari, Sardinia, Italy in June 2000, Prof. Grigori I. Brekhman of the Ivanovo State Medical Academy, Russia Federation described his research on The conception of the multiple-level co-ordinated action between the mother & her unborn child. Brekhman described that the relationship between her unborn child & mother exist on the physical, mental, emotional & energetic levels. Brekhman’s pioneering research confirmed Prof. Fedor-Freybergh’s original hypothesis of nearly three decades ago when he advocated the importance of the mother/father/unborn child dialogue. Brekhman’s research also validated what Whole-Self Psychology has been teaching for 30 years.

Quoting Professor Brekhman:

Nowadays a lot of data obtained has confirmed the hypothesis that

the psycho-emotional interrelationship between the mother & her

unborn child is the reality…. we (Brekhman) offered to examine

the mother-unborn child relationships based on the idea of a

permanently functioning multiple-level polyphonic system. It has

been assumed that if mother is a multiple-system embracing such

levels as biological, energetical, astral, mental, etc, to have

intimate & fruitful interplay between her & the unborn, he (the

unborn) must already possess the same levels beginning with the

zygote. Such a methodological approach proved to be fruitful.

The subdivision of this system into the various levels is very relevant

since baby is able to live & develop harmoniously only if all its

components properly interact.

In this last sentence the word “only” is the operative word. Prof. Brekhman states that if there is such a process as a mother-unborn child dialogue – long advocated by Prof. Fedor-Freybergh – there needs to exist complementary resonant cohesive media systems which can recognize each others messages. In its very simplest terms, Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education is confirming that just as each of us is the synthesis of our parent’s genetic coding which gives us our physical characteristics, there is also a synthesis of the emotional/mental/energetic patterns of our parents from the nine months of their pregnancy. This is exactly the multiple system Brekhman’s research proved to exist. Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine shows that the little body growing inside mother is a part of her body which is growing & practicing so that at birth it can function independently & that baby’s mental & emotional faculties are practicing within mother’s mind & emotions so that after birth they also can function independently.

People often ask how my wife Troya & I, co-founders of our Institute, discovered & developed interest in Prenatal Psychology. Troya’s discovery of the significance of the Prebirth period dates to her teen years when she was anorexic & bulimic when she was a nurse. Wanting to stop those behaviors, Troya got the inspiration that she might find the cause of her suicidal behaviors by going back to discover if something had happened at her birth that made her not want to be alive. She closed her eyes & tried to visualize her birth. She was surprised to see her mother in her doctor’s office. She felt her mother’s joy at being pregnant & felt that joy crushed as the Doctor told her that because of previous surgery she should prepare herself for this first baby to be born dead. That was when Troya realized that her suicidal eating disorders were her attempts to fulfill his prophecy.

I asked Troya if she had ever mentioned this information to her parents. She told me she had not because she did not want to upset them. But the next time we visited her parents she told them what she had imagined. Her father laughed & said the pregnancy was fine & they were so happy that they would have a baby. Her mother was stunned, “I never told anybody, not even your father, what the doctor said!”

 

My own history began when my mother, as a teenager, contracted TB. When she recovered her doctor told her that she should never have children. Years later when she had married, I was conceived & born by a forceps delivery. This resulted in brain damage. As I grew I had learning disabilities, short term memory deficit & I was hyperactive. The main point of all this was that I was living out my mother’s pattern that it was inappropriate for her to be pregnant. Therefore, it was also inappropriate for me to be alive. It took me 50 years to overcome her patterns.

In 1970, I was in therapy practice in Beverly Hills California & was getting referrals from psychologists & psychotherapists who had given up on people they concluded were incurable. I realized that those people had spent many years – some decades exploring their lives. The inspiration came to me to lightly regress those persons to explore what their mothers, & in some cases fathers too, had been experiencing during the nine months of their pregnancy. That is when I discovered personally that not only had I inherited the genetic coding of my parents which gave me my physical characteristics but also the charged emotions of my mother when she discovered that she was pregnant – me as inappropriate.

Symbiosis: Your Feelings or Mine?

 

Symbiosis is a psychological problem in which people cannot tell if what they are feeling are their own feelings or someone else’s. For every human being, symbiosis begins with mother in pregnancy as baby’s emotional body is practicing within mother’s emotions, mind & energy field.

Troya reports a recent case. A man I call Ronald, 40, is divorced & wants a relationship with a new partner. His concern is his sexual power, his potential, his future. Ronald expects too much from his partner. This expectation is what caused the breakdown of his first marriage. His present partner makes him aware of this & therefore wants a ‘living apart together’ relationship. Because of his symbiotic neediness this is not satisfactory for Ronald. It is his neediness which creates conflict in relationship for him, too. He feels consumed! Feeling himself a victim he closes down. His is impotent to stay connected . This is also his relationship pattern with his children since his divorce.

Ronald feels responsible in life & looks forward to make new beginnings. His desire is freedom, independence & to express those in a close (symbiotic) relationship. ‘But, not today, maybe tomorrow!’

Through his Prebirth exploration Ronald discovers that:

  • He      is not conscious of himself, his emotions, his feelings, including his      feelings of lust.
  • He      admires other people, men & women, in a way that he discounts himself.
  • These      patterns appear to be based on a symbiotic relationship with his mother.
  • His      passion is handcrafts, working with his hands at home, all by himself.

Ronald’s parents where divorced & his mother raised him. He dislikes his father for leaving them. The last appears to be the most important discovery!

  • Difficulties      between his parents where present during the pregnancy causing

his mother to cling to her child Ronald from his birth on.

  • With      his mother, Ronald keeps blaming his father for their identical lack      of

self-love & self-respect. His opposition to his father leaving them set him up

for the same experience of a divorce pattern.

  • Through      the absence of his father, Ronald could not identify with any male model      leaving him impotent to erect himself seeable – to manifest himself.

Worst Traumas are Deaths &Betrayals

The most common trauma patterns babies inherit are mother’s reactions to death of a loved one or betrayal by the father of their child. Katharina Honey another German colleague shares another case. She names her Susan. Susan had cried a lot in her life & continually expressed her sadness with this crying behavior. She often went to the cinema where she could safely express her sadness watching tragic dramas. The sadder the drama, the more she could cry.

In her Prebirth exploration, Susan visualized her mother during the pregnancy receiving the news that her mother, Susan’s grandmother, had died. Susan described the very deep bereavement of her mother. She was extremely sad. Susan’s mother’s non-conscious decision was:

‘I have to deal with these feelings. This is life & life will go on!’

Susan discovered that the extreme deep sadness which had consumed her all her life was actually her mother’s reaction to the death of her grandmother at the very time she was pregnant with Susan. Like her mother Susan was not a self-judging person. Whenever she had new challenging experiences, Susan had reconfirmed the same decisions her mother had made during the pregnancy:

‘I have to deal with these feelings. Life will go on!’

Susan is very successful in her life. She is married with a kind, loving, supportive man. Both are very creative & are committed to continuing personal development. Her profession is medicine. Susan is a doctor.

Factual or Symbolic Memories Still Work

 

Sometimes information about trauma can be symbolic rather than factual. Sigrid Westermann offers another case. She gives the name Angela to her client who did the PAM – Prebirth Analysis Matrix. Basically, Angela has been happy in her life, but her work is very exhausting for her. Angela wants to find deeper insights into her life. She also is looking for personal development to make her life easier. In her PAM, Angela visualizes her mother bicycling to her parent’s house. For no apparent reason, her mother is having bad feelings & is trying to understand those feelings. When she arrives, Angela’s mother goes directly to the kitchen where she sees her sister crying disconsolately. Her sister sobs the news that Gisela, her little daughter, is dead. The two sisters are very close – just 14 month apart. In childhood, they were together almost all the time. So close, in fact, that people thought that the sisters were twins.

Angela says that little Gisela was a special, talented child with high intelligence. She was a happy & lovable little girl. Already, at the age of two & a half years, she was going with her brother to the Kindergarten where she was learning very long poems & songs. Everybody loved Gisela more than other children. Somehow, Gisela contracted an infection & was taken to the hospital. By the next day, she had recovered & should have gone home. So the doctor thought. Then without warning, for no apparent reason, Gisela died. Now Angela describes her mother’s incredible pain. She has lost her wonderful little niece.

Because they were so close physically, mentally & emotionally, Angela’s mother was very sensitive of her sister’s feelings of loss & despair. Wanting to be able to help her sister deal with her tragedy, Angela’s mother was determined to help her sister. But, unable to do so, she non-consciously judged herself to be not good enough. Not only were neither sister’s traumas released, but they were passed on to Angela. What kind of work did Angela do? She became a Psychologist.

What is interesting about this case is that after the Prebirth work, while talking about what she had seen in her visualization, Angela realized that there had been a death in her aunt’s family during her mother’s pregnancy. But consciously, Anna was sure, that it was her aunt’s husband who died. The daughter, her cousin, died just three years ago. Anna had forgotten that her mother had told her that her sister’s husband had died at the time of her pregnancy & that she was not allowed to go with the funeral because their grandmother had declared:

‘It is not good for the unborn child when a pregnant woman goes to a funeral.’

Because Anna had been working in a slightly altered state of conscious she was responding to the pain of the more recent death of her cousin. The exploration about her prenatal period showed her pictures & feelings from the imagined death of her cousin, instead of the actual death of her uncle. The reason can be that the aunt had not released her shock at the trauma of the death of her husband. This is what Anna non-consciously had carried with her all her life. When her cousin died, Angela’s personality which had been suppressing her mother’s pain was activated. In other words, for Angela’s mother because she was so close to her sister, her pain at loosing her brother-in-law & Angela’s pain three years ago loosing her cousin, were the same intensity of pain. Symbolically, for Anna’s personality the deaths were interchangeable.

As a result of her Prebirth discovery, Angela stopped her work for a while. After three month, she began working with clients again but in an easier, more relaxed way, no longer trying to take away their pain. She was relieved that her work was no longer exhausting.

We trust that these cases give you an idea about how the charged emotional patterns which mother is experiencing are implanted into the conscious of the baby. In some therapies people experience birth as traumatic & painful. In 1989. Troya & I were invited to present a paper on Prebirth Memory Recovery at the First German Rebirthing Congress at the University of Osnabruck in Germany. Up to that time, in 20 years working all over the world, we had found that very, very few people experienced having a traumatic birth. In fact, these people confirmed studies reported to us by Joseph Chilton Pearce, noted American researcher & educator, that shortly before birth, if there is no medication administered, the baby’s body is saturated with endorphins which act as a kind of anaesthetic for the actual birth. We proposed that what people experienced as traumatic was not the memory of their own trauma but the memory of mother’s labor & delivery.

For the future of humanity, as Prof. Fedor-Freybergh has urged, it is imperative that we all dedicate ourselves to create the most enhancing circumstances & conditions in which a pregnant dialogue takes place. We have offered just a sampling of cases which support the concept of Prenatal Psychology. We trust that these cases will give you pause & inspiration in understanding that many of the problems which people are dealing with are sourced in the reactions to stresses or traumas which their mothers & fathers experience during pregnancy & birth. It is these feeling patterns which continue to be lived out as pathology by their children. It is these feeling patterns which when explored in Prebirth Memory Discovery can be healed.

One incredibly simple step we can all make that can help babies, mothers & fathers, future generations, all of humanity is to allow babies to stay with their mothers for appropriate bonding. A second incredibly simple step is to allow fathers to be with their wives & babies after the birth. There is so much more to share about Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology but now we have to leave you with this important message:

     Medicine has responsibility not just for the physical condition of baby

     during gestation & birth but also psychological responsibility for how

     that baby is born & has a whole life to live! Thank you!

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Conception: A Vital Link to Relationships

                          In Prenatal Psychology©1998

                                                              by Jon RG & Troya GN Turner-Groot

This paper was presented at the 3rd International OMAEP Congress

World Organisation for Prenatal Education

 Aula Magna Universita’ La Sapienza in Rome, Italia 18-21 March 1998

Congress Theme: The Biological and Psychological Basis of Prenatal Education

It is printed in the March 1998  International Journal of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine. And in Italian in the ANEP–Italia – Assoc. Nazitonale per l’Educatione Prenatle – Educazione Prenatale Journal

Keywords: ISPPM, Whole-Self Psychology, prebirth memory, relationships, gestation, conception, emotional development, social development, emotional DNA, Rank. O, emotional surrender, complete & incomplete conception, trigger feelings.

Abstract: At the 10th Heidelberg Congress of the International Society of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine in April 1997, for the first time, the Turners presented an invitational workshop on 27 years of research on the psychological impact of conception on emotional and social development. One of the most important Life’s Streams® patterns we inherit is relationships. In this dynamic presentation, the Turners share their discovery that conception holds one of the most significant keys in our ability to create and destroy or to create and sustain relationships throughout life. We begin this life before conception in the physical, mental and emotional ecology of our parents. Their health and balance of body, mind, but very importantly their emotions, come together to create our physical, mental and emotional selves. Gestation is the first and most vital environment we will ever have. The Turners will discuss this womb-time, the formation of the Emotional DNA; it’s influence and the possibilities to change these innate inherited patterns.

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Received: February 10, 1998; accepted March 1, 1998.

Why can some people create relationships & continuously destroy them

while other people create relationships, which last a lifetime?

We suggest that the answer to these questions can be found in a hypothetical model which traces the source of these patterns. It explores metaphorically the emotional feelings of the sperm & the egg just before & at the moment of conception. We will share this with you in a few minutes.

But first, please allow us to explore the first question: Why can some people create relationships & continuously destroy them while other people create relationships which last a lifetime? What this question is asking us to focus on, is one of the most painful experiences which human beings can experience; loosing relationships. I, as have most of you, had experiences in which, for whatever reason, a relationship breaks apart. Some people keep creating relationships & destroying relationships, creating relationships & destroying relationship, creating relationships & destroying relationship, creating relationships & destroying relationship, for example, four times a year like the four seasons. &, on the other h&, I can have close relationships with friends I have known since childhood, school or university.  There are couples who have celebrated forty or fifty or more years of marriage. What is it that makes such a profound difference in people’s lives?

At first glance, it could be hypothesised that what makes the loss of a relationship so painful, is that it triggers memories of the trauma of birth, as it has come to be called. The theme that birth is traumatic was brought up in the pioneering work of Otto Rank back in the 1920s. After the birth of the Transpersonal Movement of the 1960’s in the USA, The recovery of memories of baby fighting to get out of the womb became a significant factor. In our research of almost thirty years, with tens of thousands of people, we have concluded that unless there is a medical crisis the birth itself is not so traumatic. But, being separated from mother after birth is the truly traumatising event at the beginning of life. So it can be, that it is the replication of the separation from mother which keeps being repeated in the emotional devastation at loss of relationships. In a few minutes we will explain why & how this works.

Before continuing, let us look at the second question: Why am I gripped by discomfort, insecurity, fear & even terror or panic in repeated failures in personal relationships when I truly want happiness & success in warm, loving, caring & nurturing relationships?

One of the most important life patterns  – we call them Life’s Streams® – through which I am able to grow, develop, mature & evolve is relationships – personal & business. Why? Because life is about change & my relationships mirror to me those qualities or personality traits or characteristics or behaviours, which I most need to change during my life. & how do I know what those qualities I most need to change are? I know by how my attitudes, actions or behaviours make me & how those with whom I am in relationship feel & than react or respond towards me.

The # 1 Whole-Self principle says:

‘I cannot change something in my life

till I know precisely what needs to be changed.’

 

In the next few minutes we will invite you to experience & understand precisely where these patterns come from. I say this now in the first person. Once I know where the patterns come from & know precisely what needs to be changed. I can change my pattern of creating relationships & destroying them into creating relationships & sustaining them in my life.

The Whole-Self Method

Science has proven that I am the synthesis of the genetic coding of my parent’s DNA. My Prebirth Analysis MatrixÓ or PAMÓ is a questionnaire of 22 sets of questions. It helps me to discover that am also the synthesis of their charged mental, psychological & what we call the Emotional DNAÓ (eDNAÓ). The Whole-Self PAM offers me a precise method into what may be the most meaningful exploration into self-understanding I can make. Through the Whole-Self PAM, I am able to discover the specific sources & change painful, repetitive, uncomfortable, non-productive, self-defeating & self-sabotaging patterns in work, career, creativity, personal & business relationships.

The discovery we all can make now is very simple. It is simple because on a non-conscious level we all know the information. This exercise is what constitutes a transpersonal psychology exercise – that is beyond known, conscious awareness. We will not be asking your personality nor your memory any questions. We will be asking your Whole-Self, the totality of yourself which knows everything you have ever experienced, to let you receive consciously the answer to several questions. While it is helpful to close your eyes to get the information you may then want to write down the words you hear, or even more so, feel.

Eyes closed please. Here is a visualisation: Please imagine now, as that one single sperm of your father, enters into your mother’s egg & one single cell is produced. This is called the moment or instant of conception!

9a)     Specific question # 9a:

Please allow your Whole-Self to let you experience

the feelings of this moment of conception.

(Write “Conception” followed by the thoughts or feelings you are having.)

You may have correctly answered this question;

– from the general point of view,

– from the point of view of father’s single sperm,

– or from the point of view of mother’s egg.

The next specific question # 9b has two parts:

9b)     Let us go back to just before the moment of conception & please allow your Whole-Self to let you experience the emotional feelings of your father’s single sperm just before the moment of conception …(Pause )

Now, as you feel those feelings, please allow your Whole-Self to let you experience what happens to those emotional feelings of father’s sperm at the moment of conception.  (Write “Sperm’s Conception” followed by the thoughts or feelings you are having.)

The next specific question has two parts.

9c)     Specific question # 9c:

Please allow your Whole-Self to let you experience the emotional feelings of your mother’s egg just before the moment of conception… (Pause)

& now as you feel those feelings, please allow your Whole-Self to let you experience what happens to the emotional feelings of mother’s egg at the instant of conception.  (Write “Egg’s conception” followed by any thoughts or feelings you are having.)

Question 9a) deals with the instant of conception. It reveals the great lesson of human existence. It helps me to discover my non-conscious belief of what will happen to me if I surrender into a relationship. It deals with my willingness or non-willingness to surrender into a committed relationship. This can be in a marriage, partnership or business.

Complete or incomplete conception

Incorporating the Taoist concept of the male (yang) & female (yin) aspect – the sperm represents my male aspect; the egg represents my female aspect. Conception obviously takes place on a physical level.  In 9b) & 9c) I was not asked what the next feeling was for the sperm or egg at the moment of conception. But, the question asked how their feelings shifted at the moment of conception. There are two reasons for this – & this is the core of the hypothesis we are experiencing at this moment.  It has to do with the completeness or incompleteness of the conception on a psycho-spiritual level.

Firstly, I need to discover if my conception is complete or incomplete. My conception is complete if there is no next feeling for the sperm or the egg. My conception is incomplete if either or both the sperm or egg have a distinct feeling after the conception.

For a balanced relationship to happen – psycho-spiritual conception to be complete – there must be a surrender, a joining of the male & female polarities as represented by the sperm & egg. Both the egg & sperm must surrender into each other so that neither any longer individually exists. Their combined energy fields create a synergy – an energy greater then the sum of their two individual parts – a new life.

As already mentioned, conception obviously takes place on a physical level. But, on a psycho-spiritual level it does not. I psychologically live in a reality in which my male & female aspects still exist & are not transformed into a higher consciousness – a new life – a new merged & integrated self – me! In the exercise I just experienced, I could have had an answer from a general point of view which could have been enhancing – uplifting. But, if my egg’s or my sperm’s non-conscious point of view is that either would be overwhelmed, cease to exist, disintegrate, die or be destroyed this would be the message my personality would react against.  One of the basic functions of my personality is to keep me from feeling pain. So, my personality will express through my behaviour to be guarantee that committed relationships could not succeed.  My personality would do this in order for a part of me, my male or female aspect, or both, to avoid pain & in order survive.

These terrors of destruction, of possible annihilation are realities. But the truth is found by asking two questions:

‘What will happen to the egg if she does not surrender into the relationship?’

Answer: She will die!

‘What will happen to the sperm if he does not surrender into the relationship?’

Answer: He will die!

 

THE GREAT PARADOX OF LIFE

is that, if because of their metaphorical fear of annihilation, the egg or the sperm do not physically merge into a higher state of consciousness, both will die – cease to exist. The only way for the sperm & egg to survive, is to surrender into each other. If either is incapable of surrendering & merging & synergizing into each other on a psycho-spiritual level, this disparity will impel or compel my personality to act in ways which will cause the relationship to die – the very end the sperm or egg may be feeling & fearing.

          If there is dysfunction in any relationship, not just a marriage, it can be because the synergy, which is supposed to have occurred at the moment of conception, did not.

 

Case 1:

Let us illustrate our point with a 34 year old woman presenting a difficult pattern in relationships:

It is difficult to describe the feelings of the conception.

First, I am unhappy to unite. Second, there is something to do with pain.

So her non-conscious belief is that if she unites with a man she will be unhappy & that she will experience pain. Her sperm’s feelings before conception are not feelings. She says,

Just before conception he thinks it will be a disappointment

& after conception it is a disappointment!

By saying ‘he thinks’ she indicates that her male aspect is very much in his mind. We might say trapped in his mental body. So her male aspect already believes that any relationship will be a disappointment & it is, & that it will create pain & it does. & as long as she holds on to these two beliefs any relationship will be a disappointment & will cause her pain.

My egg feels impotent & powerless before the conception. I am without

strength. I can’t do anything. This (conception) is what I do not want.

Then, I slip into submission.

So, even contemplating the possibility of a relationship from her female aspect makes her impotent, powerless & unable to do anything. All patterns her mind does not want. &, at conception, she becomes submissive, which non-consciously she believes, will happen to her if she submits to a relationship.

 

Case 2:

Here is a 40-year-old woman who cannot trust men:

The conception is a surrendering into a negative form – VICTIM.

It is passivity brought on by resignation!

No wonder she cannot trust men. Her non-conscious belief is that if she surrenders into a relationship she will become a victim – resigned to being a victim.

Before the conception the egg is feeling resistance which becomes victimness

through resignation.

Here we have a pattern of resistance because the female aspect believes that if she surrenders into a relationship she will become a victim & will not have the power or strength to overcome her victim state.

My sperm is like a car. He screeches to a halt! UGH! His heart goes back! FEAR!!!

At the conception his heart becomes more calm. It is complete but exhausted.”

Her male aspect non-consciously believes his life will come to a screeching halt. At the conception, he becomes more calm but his life force feels exhausted. Combined with the other 21 sets of questions in the Prebirth Analysis Matrix there is a complete picture to support her belief that she cannot trust men.

 

Case 3:

Very briefly, we will share the case of a 45-year-old woman who fears betrayal:

I have a yearning to have children – to give them unconditional love!

I get caught up making a living. But, I could give to children & a husband.

I have a fear of going to sleep. My jaw is tense when I waken.

I feel like there is a cloud floating over me. I wait for men to betray me.

Before the conception the sperm knows he’ll be the one even though others

are more vigorous. He has to make a last effort. A lot more effort will have

to be made ‘alone’. At conception he feels relief. The egg is feeling an

inevitability.

No matter what effort she musters she knows she will be betrayed.

What can be done if one partner, based on an incomplete conception, wants to move into synergy & the other will not or cannot surrender? Either there is no relationship because the dominant aspect will control. Or if there is a relationship one or both parties in the relationship may be suffering until they separate or both are finally able to flow into a synergy.

 

Case 4:

A 35 year old man who felt bound to his mother (symbiosis) complained that he could not find a satisfying life in relationships. They were always of short duration because he could not get what he wanted in them. He liked his job & his friends but not a relationship.

“At the conception, first there was a great explosion. Chaos!

Everything is changing to a new creation – me! I feel a bit insecure.

It’s ok but unsure. Insecure – but a great moment.

It’s the beginning of a new Universe!”

So, he believes that if he commits to a relationship his life will explode into chaos. Everything in his world will change & he will be out of control. All is dichotomy – he fears & he wants at the same time.

“My sperm feels like it is about to jump into cold water from a high tower.

At the moment of conception it is a loss of self. It is like a drop in a big new ocean.”

The allusion of plunging into cold water from a high tower indicates his fear of danger that will happen when he is subsumed into the egg’s cold emotions. He will be without any control & loose himself in her emotions. An untenable situation.

“My egg is in silence. At the conception, she is welcoming. ‘Come in!’ she says.

She is satisfied. It’s not a big feeling. It’s OK.”

So, his female aspect believes that she is satisfied but that it will be no big deal – nothing important – just OK. Hardly an impetus to merge into a relationship. One wonders how cold his mother is emotionally.

 

TRIGGER FEELINGS

We mentioned that they were two reasons for discovering the metaphorical feelings of the ovum & sperm before the conception. The second is that after I discover if my conception is complete or incomplete I need to discover the trigger feelings which could destroy my relationships. These triggers are my feelings just before I lock into what my female (ovum) &or male aspect (sperm) believes will happen to me if I surrender into a relationship. These feelings are triggers because they create behaviours.  For example, do I know anyone who feels good or happy in a relationship & cuts it off? Is this action taken before the other person leaves?

 

I’LL LEAVE YOU BEFORE YOU LEAVE ME!

It is not the memory of the pain of the trauma of having been left before which is the problem. The problem is the good or happy feeling in the superficial phase of the relationship which is the trigger to creating the behaviour to avoid what my personality has encoded as to what will happen to me when I feel good or happy. It has me cut off the relationship before the other person leaves. It does this, it believes, to help me avoid the pain of being left again. The paradox is that now I am hurting myself.

Or, how many people do I know who lived together for years & for whatever reasons decide to marry. What often happens six months after the marriage? They divorce! This happens because of the ritual of unioning or commitment. With the ritual & its accompanying good feelings, the hidden triggers – the good feelings before the previous abandonment or split in one or both parties goes off. The ritual also reminds them of the non-conscious beliefs each has as to what will happen to them if they surrender into the relationship. These two patterns, the incomplete conception & the trigger feelings signal a fight to the death – literally, a struggle for each personality to survive.

Speaking in the first person, in the earlier exercise, I may have discovered what my personality non-consciously believes will happen to me if I surrender into a relationship & I can understand why I have or have not had the ability to let down my guard & merge into a relationship. Whole-Self Marriage Counselling, with an holistic point of view before marriage or after marriage is able to help women & men come into union. The Whole-Self PAM is the key to helping both partners to discover what each believes will happen to each of them if they surrender into the relationship – to discover what non-conscious beliefs or realities from their female & male aspects need to be changed. By changing the non-conscious beliefs, the relationship can begin to develop. We want to add here that when there are enhancing feelings before the conception & no feelings after the conception the conception is complete & relationships are more likely to sustain.

APPENDIX:

Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Educational Processes offer transpersonal, gentle, loving, efficient & non-confrontational tools to help me discover & deal with my innate diminishing patterns. These are the four Whole-Self Laws of Life which many have found helpful in understanding basic patterns in their lives.

~ THE LAW OF OPPOSITION ~

One of the main reasons for being alive is to have feelings. Then, when I experience feelings which I do not like feeling, my personality tries to deny, resist, avoid &or suppress them. This creates a Natural Law which states:

Whatever I am opposed to – I have to experience’

Have I ever said I will never do that? Did I end up doing that very thing? Or, have I ever said I will never be like someone – my mother or my father? Twenty years later I look in the mirror & who is looking out at me?

~ THE LAW OF CONFIRMATION ~

At the moment I oppose my situation & the feelings which they stimulate, I non-consciously make & confirm judgements against myself. (Not others.) Please close your eyes &, as I say these self-judgement words, see if any seem to pop out. Self-judgement words can be:

Unlovable   Unimportant   Unworthy   Worthless   Unacceptable   Unsupportable

Not Good Enough    Inferior    Inappropriate    Guilty

Bad    Wicked    Terrible    Horrible    Dirty    Disgusting     Despicable

Dumb    Stupid    Inept    Incapable    Incompetent    Inadequate    Incomplete

Insecure   Helpless   Hopeless   Powerless

Please open your eyes!  Did any sound louder?  Are any familiar self-judgements?

These are just some of the innate (born with) or taught or behaviourally conditioned diminishing patterns which keep me from achieving my true personal & professional relationship potentials. Even though I can say, for example, that I am Worthy or Powerful, I can still be in situations where I feel worthless or powerless. This is because:

‘Whatever I really believe about myself, I will keep proving to myself!’

(Through my life’s experiences!)

~ THE LAW OF DECISIONS ~

When I oppose what I am feeling & make these non-conscious judgements against myself, at the same time, I make diminishing decisions about myself, about people I believe are doing things to harm me, about my parents, any authorities, against the world. Key words, which alert me to my diminishing decisions, are always or never or must or should. This Natural Law states:

‘My conscious & non-conscious decisions determine or create my future!

~ THE LAW OF REPETITION ~

When I oppose what I am feeling; when I make non-conscious judgements against myself; & when I make diminishing decisions against myself, The Law of Repetition simply says ‘Try it again!’. I keep repeating or ‘Trying It Again!’ & I am a victim until I stop opposing my feelings by looking for options or other possibilities. When I can see even one option in my situation, I stop reacting the way I always reacted, – since I first went into a reality trance pattern, & I respond in a different or better way to the situation. I can take as much time as I need or want to keep ‘Trying it again!’  Through Whole-Self Psychology I discover how I have repetitively lived patterns.

Whole-Self Psychology does not work with my personality, which wants me to not remember painful events, but with my Whole-Self, the totality of me that knows everything I have ever experienced & wants me to succeed. By sourcing & de-hypnotising of my repeated emotions, feelings, behaviours & patterns & releasing them, I learn to develop strategies to:

*  Relinquish blaming others especially parents, partners or other authority figures.

*  Recognise that life is not fate, chance or an accident.

*  Release from the diminishing self-judgements & decision patterns.

*   Respond rather than react to life by balancing these innate, detrimental patterns.

*   Receive the tools & activate methods for change.

*  Ratify full responsibility for my own life including my relationships.

*  Rejoice that the purpose of my life is not to keep doing those patterns

but to learn how to change them because:

I do not come into life to do what I know I can do!

I come into life to do what I know I cannot do!

                                                                              Jon RG Turner

References:

Rank O (1924) Das Trauma der Geburt, Fischer, Frankfurt (1989)

Turner-Groot, JRG & TGN (1997) Personal Growth in Parenting: A Vital Link to Prevention in Prenatal

Psychology. Inter. J. of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine Vol. 9 #3 Sept. p 275-286.

Turner-Groot, JRG & TGN (1996)Prebirth Memory Therapy IJPPPM Vol.8 #2 June

PPM Vol.8 #2 June

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HUMAN POTENTIAL AWAKENING MATRIX:

    Releasing Limits to Human PotentialÓ 2004

by Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

‘When I arrived for that first day of work as President

of the multinational corporation, the CEO informed me

that my new office was not quite ready & that I would

have to share his desk for a few days.

I started to get old feelings of fear, terror, panic

& extreme anxiety & guilt as I sat down opposite him.

‘Here is a little present to welcome you!’ he said.

I opened the envelope & drew out a stock certificate

for ONE MILLION KRONES! I need help. I don’t believe

I deserve all that respect & all that money!’

Most people think of human potential from the bottom looking up. Here

was human potential at the top looking down & about to crash. For this corporate president the anxiety, fear, terror, panic & guilt had become

so palpable that as a last resort he was seeking professional help to handle those feelings.

Alfred Adler would have loved this case as a painful example of inferiority complex. Although inferiority could have made this man a failure, he had used all his concentration to overcompensate. It was his very sense of inferiority which gave this man the impetuous to reach higher & higher levels of competence & achievement. We might add here, even in spite of himself. The overwhelming emotions this man was feeling have become a serious problem in businesses worldwide.

This is a true case we had in Oslo, Norway. It is the epic of a top executive who was unable to believe that he deserved all those incredible perks. In connecting with his Whole-Self, the part of him which knew the actual truth of everything he had ever experienced, this man discovered that there were very logical reasons for the CEO’s seeming generosity. He was invited to share a desk because the CEO was planning to move into a Ministerial post in government & he was grooming the new President to move into the

CEO position. The one million krones in stock was an assurance to the man that he was genuinely valued & security to keep him enthusiastic to be successful at his job. The problem was he could not accept those benefits because his reality was that he didn’t believe he deserved them.

The conflict was this man’s reality, his non-conscious beliefs about himself –

self-judgments of being unworthy, worthless, unacceptable, unsupportable, not good enough, inferior, inappropriate, dumb, stupid, inept, incapable, incompetent, incomplete, insecure, helpless, hopeless & powerless.

These non-conscious self-judgments simply did not match the CEO’s or

the world’s view of him. No matter how great his successes, on the inside

he believed that he was not that competent & deserving person. The paradox was that he always fulfilled everyone’s expectations which then increased other’s respect for him.

Emotionally, this man was experiencing the relentless accumulation of all

the times he had believed himself to be a fraud & had gotten away with the deception. It was not difficult to trace the many times in his life when he received credit & advancement he really believed he did not deserve. And, his greatest fear was that someday he would be discovered for the deceiver he believed he was. This time the ante was far beyond his personality’s capacity to cope with through his usual compensatory behavior of working harder. His potential ceiling had been shattered; his nakedness was finally exposed.

In Whole-Self Psychology treatment, the key was to bring this client’s subjective reality, his inner belief about himself, into objective truth. The method was to access the source of his basic, innate emotional reactions & responses to situations in both his business & personal lives.

The technology is called the Whole-Self Potential Awakening MatrixÓ or PAMÓ. He already understood the scientific basis for his physical body was the synthesis of the genetic DNA coding from his parents. What was new for him was the simple extension that his mental and emotional functions where also a synthesis; a combination of the charged emotional & mental reactions & responses of his parents during the nine months before he was born.

In other words, his physical body was built upon his parent’s synthesized DNA information; his mental & emotional capacities were constructed from the synthesized charged thoughts, realities & emotions of his parents from the 9 months of his gestation.

The information was elicited through a light, enhanced state of imaginative awareness. His Whole-Self allowed him to access that information, in affect to decode his emotional DNAÓ, dDNAÓ his . It allowed him to touch twenty-two specific moments during his gestation, birth & shortly after birth. He discovered that his feelings & self-judgments were actually emotion/mental patterns which he had inherited from his mother & father – their emotional DNAs. During their pregnancy with him, the patterns which his parents were registering as realities for themselves where just potential patterns for this man. At birth & shortly afterwards the patterns became activated. By recognizing & decoding his emotional DNA, he was able to understand & change his diminishing self-judgments & beliefs about himself.

There were several instinctual laws which this man also had being triggering. Since he did not like what he was feeling as part of that new position, he triggered the Law of Opposition – whatever he was opposed to he had to experience. Each time he experienced diminishing feelings & resisted them he made judgments against himself which triggered the Law of Confirmation – whatever he really believed about himself, he had to keep proving to himself. Once he recognized those patterns he was able to release himself from them. He was able to change all those diminishing self-judgments into enhancing ones. He was able to see & feel himself at the pinnacle of his self-esteem & self-worth.

The lesson this client & the Whole-Self Prebirth Memory Hypothesis taught me is that the core beliefs I hold about myself limit or increase my abilities & achievements in life. They are primarily the resonances of patterns encoded in me before & shortly after birth. The realities I live are the beliefs I experience about who I am despite what others believe or say. The patterns during gestation are only potential until activated & reinforced through repeated experiences in my life. Usually, the patterns begin shortly after birth but the main crises can be caused by a lifetime of repetition, reinforcement & accumulation of reactions to the basic pattern or patterns. These may not catalyze till decades later in my life. By discovering & decoding my emotional DNA I can significantly avoid or release from through what has been called the mid-life crisis.

*****

Billy Elliot has to Dance! Why?Ó2001

by Jon RG & Troya Turner

Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute International, Inc.

For APPPAH Newsletter

For six months now, one of our interns Paula van Asperen, has been urging us to see the film ‘Billy Elliot’. Last night, Troya & I discovered why. Billy Elliot’s mother is dead. Billy Elliot is the story of an 11year old boy whose coalminer father sends him to boxing classes. The gym is shared with a little girls’ ballet class. Billy’s soul is filled with a music which electrifies his feet, his legs, his whole body and being. The film, which earned three Academy Award nominations, chronicles Billy’s sometimes kicking, sometimes shuffling, sometimes exuberantly dancing feet from coaltown to the Royal Ballet School in London, and, ultimately to professional ballet stardom.

Billy Elliot is one of those moderately budgeted but marvelously humanly huge British films. Set in the bleakness of the 1948 coalminer’s strike against her Conservative Government, Mrs. Thatcher is symbolized by a constantly hovering Greek chorus of nameless, voiceless police constables costumed in plastic riot shields and helmets. They are captured by the lens in the foreground, in the background and in the middle ground of scene after scene goading us into the inevitable clash of desperate men and terrified officers.

There are two critical points which probably lost Billy Elliot the Oscar. Billy’s grandmother, bordering on dementia, has one line that echoes out from the closing-in corridors of her mind in support of Billy’s desire to dance “I could have been a ballet dancer!” This explains Billy’s generational inheritance. The poignant moment in their relationship comes when Billy, packed and rushing to catch the National bus to London, is captured in a last embrace knowing as with his dead mother, he will never see his grandmother again. Instead of a moment of incredible potential  light in which as he lifts his suitcase, his whole world, one line could have brilliantly touched our souls, it is smothered in a silence. Grandmother does not speak the line “I could have been a ballet dancer!” one last time.

The second and most telling possible loss of the Oscar is after a monumental build up of mental, emotional, physical and spiritual focus of energy, the adult Billy Elliot, now the star of Swan Lake makes a magnificent, godlike leap, above the Royal Ballet stage. This climax reminds the viewer of the incredible soul flight over the Russian countryside in Dr. Zhivago. The moment of ascension propels all of us heavenward in an incredible expansion of consciousness in which Billy transports all of us, captured in a freeze frame, and holds us infinitely in the tearful sky above the tragic Swan Lake. A cinematic miracle happens when there is a palpable movement upward by all of us from our seats. And then, in a moment of production overkill, instead of allowing us to hover suspended in the caress of Tchaikovsky’s magical theme it destroys the whole effect by a cacophonous reprieve to Billy’s burgeoning pubescent steps and then bleeding – here the British swear word ‘bloody’ is perfect – into the closing film credits. Were the producers afraid of the pure, heart-resonating, classical music holding us in such an uplifting symbiotic freeze frame? By blasting out at that precise moment with loud destructive noise/music, the producers simply pumped addictive adrenaline shock into the audience and missed an instant of spiritual expansion.

You might be wondering what all this has to do with prebirth psychology. The actual question has to do with why Billy Elliot has such an overwhelming need to dance. What is the link between Billy’s grandmother’s dream of being a ballet dance and Billy becoming a ballet dancer? All through her pregnancy, Billy’s mother has been transfixed watching the dancing feet of Fred Astaire in 1940’s Hollywood movies.

Much Peace & Much Love!

Jon RG & Troya Turner

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 Jon RG & Troya GN Turner, Co-Founders & Co-Directors

errad 92, 1613 CR  Grootebroek, NL

Tel:  (31) 228 513 630

Email: Whole-Self@quicknet.nl

        International Medical Director: Dr. Ellis Snitcher

      Websites: www.whole-self.info & www.Whole-Self.co.uk

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Germany Co-Director: Sigrid Westermann

                                            Greece / Cyprus Co-Director: Olga Gouni

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How Whole-Self Psychology & Prebirth Analysis Matrix Work© 2005

                                                                                                                         by Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

The Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix is a Transpersonal diagnostic tool which I discovered in 1970.  I was working as a psycho-therapist at the Santa Monica Holistic Health & Medicine Clinic in Los Angeles. The Director, Dr. Richard Ferman, asked me to create a public education workshop for the Clinic. In the workshop, entitled ‘Birth, Life & More Life!’, I had been inspired with 22 sets of questions which formed, & in some cases, impacted on the mental & emotional structure of the developing fetus. With the first 60 workshop participants, we discovered that not only is each person a synthesis of the genetic DNA coding of our parents which gave us our physical characteristics, but, we are also the synthesis of the ‘charged’, that is, the strongly impacting emotional reactions & deeply held belief or realities, experienced by mother & father during the nine months of their pregnancies. In English, ‘impacted’ indicates that there is a considerable force in the mother/baby inter-communication. So, ‘impacted’ is a stronger word. The consciousness of the baby, in the mother’s consciousness, is being educated  & ‘influenced’ in its development by all mother’s mental & emotional ‘responses’ to her life’s streams® or flow of life experiences. In the Whole-Self Psychology model, it is the charged mental & emotional reactions – like a car hitting a person crossing the road – which has a more powerful pathology creating hurt or injury against the pedestrian. So, the more charged the mental & emotional reaction of mother to the trauma event, the more strongly the effect on the education of the baby’s mental & emotional development – the more impact it has on baby’s development. It is with these trauma event reactions that baby is born. And, these reactions are the source of the potential pathological patterns which need to be resolved during her/his life.

With the first 60 workshop participants, we discovered that not only is each person a synthesis of the genetic DNA coding of our parents which gave us our physical characteristics, but, we are also the synthesis of the ‘charged’, that is, the strongly impacting emotional reactions & deeply held realities, or belief, experienced by mother & father during the nine months of their pregnancies.

In human reproduction, parents are pregnant, baby is in ‘gestation’.  What we are wanting to say in this last sentence is that it is not just the mother who is pregnant. The father is also pregnant. In English grammar‚ mother is a singular noun. If I only am writing about mother, I would use the word ‘her’. If I am writing about father, I would use the word ‘his’. Because I am writing about mother & father together, they become a plural possessive word ‘their’.

In our Whole-Self model, we say that the consciousness of the baby is in mother’s consciousness. And, because father’s charged mental & emotional patterns are impacting mother, baby is also being impacted by father’s behavior. For example, if the father is mentally or physically abusive to the mother. Mother emotionally experiences fear, terror, panic (emotional) & the belief her baby will die (mental). Baby is born with those emotional & mental patterns impacted by father on mother. One other common trauma impacting mother happens when the father has an affair with another woman, especially in the last trimester. His behavior impacts mother with a pattern of ‘betrayal’.  Baby is born with the pathological pattern of betrayal & is unable to align in a committed relationship.

Later, I was invited to work in the Clinic of noted Psychiatrist Walter D. Hofmann and had the opportunity to refine that same matrix of questions. Then, in therapy practice in Beverly Hills, California, I started getting patients who were referred to our Siddhartha Foundation (the forerunner of our Whole-Self Institute) by their psychiatrists or psychologists having declared those patients as ‘incurable’. I knew that these patients had spent five, ten, fifteen, even twenty years in various therapies with minimal success.

I was sitting at my desk thinking to myself, ‘What I could do to help the people?’. The inspiration came that as their pathology had not been resolved by extensively therapeutically probing events from their present lives, those diminishing patterns must have come from somewhere else. If the pathological patterns were not from a trauma during the person’s lifetime, the next logical time frame would be the nine months of gestation before birth. In fact, the thought was so powerful, I realized that if that prebirth source could be recognized, it could be released & these patients would reach homeostasis very quickly.

Specifically, what was discovered was that the ‘unresolvable feelings’ which had haunted these patients all their lives were not from some trauma which had happened to them. These feelings were actually innate echoes of reactions to trauma experienced by one or both their parents shortly before conception, during gestation or shortly after birth. The Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix was the key to unlocking & freeing these debilitating patterns. About the same time, some 6,000 miles to the east, in Amsterdam the Netherlands, nurse Troya G.A.M. Groot received almost the same matrix of questions which enabled her to heal herself of anorexia & bulimia nervosa.

With that history, the first point is to define relevant terms in the first person:

My Whole-Self is the totality of me which knows everything my consciousness has ever experienced.

My Prebirth Analysis Matrix© or PAM© is a transpersonal diagnostic instrument of 22 sets of questions which enable to discover the innate prebirth emotional & mental patterns of my parents with which I was born.

The second point is to distinguish the difference between Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education & most other therapeutic systems. Most therapies work with the personality of the client patient on the assumption that pathology is lodged in the personality & specifically only from events which have occurred during the client’s life.

There are two fallacies in these two assumptions: Firstly: My personality is not where my pathology is lodged. My personality is the ‘expressing aspect’ of my Whole-Self where my pathology expresses its unique sense of power, or more significantly, my non-conscious sense of my lack of power. One of the main functions of my personality is to keep me from feeling pain. The stronger my personality, the more talented & skilled my personality is in keeping the cause of my pathology from being recognized. This is why most therapies fail. When a pathology creating event occurs, my personality goes into an hypnotic trance & exists, from that moment on, as though that traumatizing event is still continuing to happen – even to the present moment. This energy resides in all aspects of myself :

–   My physical – through my cellular memory

–   My mental – through my beliefs, my realities

–   My emotional – through my reactive trauma trances

– My spirit, through my Whole-Self.

Since one of the primary functions of my personality is to keep me from feeling pain, my personality does everything it can to keep me from remembering the painful causative event. It blocks this memory because it holds that if I remember that event, I will feel even more pain. In Whole-Self Psychology, the traumatizing principle is that even when I do not remember the causative event, my personality is non-consciously behaving under the hypnotic trance that the causative event is still happening. The feelings my personality, non-consciously, believes are still happening to me create my behaviors. One strategy for my survival is to block me from remembering the painful causative event. Michael Mendizza calls personality a defense structure.

So, the conundrum is, that even when my personality is blocking me from seeing the causative event, I am still at the effect of the belief that the event is still happening. I am non-consciously living as though that event is still happening to me at this moment.  While my personality wants to block me from seeing the causative event, my Whole-Self knows that the only way to break my hypnotic trauma trance is to return, recognize, review, revise & release myself from my trauma trance reality.

This switchover for transfer from the control of my personality

to the guidance of my Whole-Self is the beginning of my healing process.

This healing is constructed on the recognition of the impact of the Whole-Self Four Laws of Life. These Whole-Self Four Laws of Life helped lock me into my pathology. This is based on my non-conscious belief – my reality – that the causative events is still happening at this moment. As I give these Whole-Self Four Laws of Life below, I emphasize the word ‘non-conscious’   because this is how my feelings stimulate & cause my behaviors.

When I am, consciously or non-consciously, resisting my feelings, I trigger the Whole-Self First Law of Life – The Law of Opposition which says:

‘Whatever I am opposed to I have to experience.’

So, as my personality is opposing my seeing the causative traumatic event, this law keeps me locked in my trauma trance pattern.

When I resist my painful feelings, on a conscious or non-conscious level, I make judgments against myself not against others. Some Self-judgment words can be:

Unlovable  Unimportant  Worthless  Unfulfilled  Unworthy  Worthless

Unacceptable Unsupportable  Not Good Enough  Inferior  Inappropriate

Irresponsible  Guilty Bad  Wicked  Terrible  Horrible  Dirty  Disgusting

Despicable  Dumb  Stupid  Inept  Incapable  Incompetent  Inadequate

Incomplete  Unrecognized  Insecure  Helpless  Hopeless  Powerless

The most frequently recognized & mentioned are

‘Helpless, Hopeless & Powerless’.

These self-judgments trigger the Whole-Self Second Law of Life –

     The Law of Confirmation which says:

     ‘Whatever I really believe about myself I keep proving to myself      

(through my life’s experiences).’

 

When I consciously or non-consciously resist my feelings & consciously

or non-consciously make judgments against myself, I consciously or

non-consciously trigger the third Whole-Self Law of Life –

        The Law of Decisions which says:

‘My conscious & non-conscious diminishing decisions determine

          or create my future.’

When I keep consciously or non-consciously opposing my feelings,

making diminishing judgments about myself, making diminishing

decisions about my life, I trigger the

Whole-Self Fourth Law of Life The Law of Repetition

which gently says:

Try It Again!  Try It Again!  Try It Again!

When through my Whole-Self instead of my personality, these Whole-Self Four Laws of Life are recognized within the context of my life experiences,  I no longer need to consciously or non-consciously keep opposing my feelings, making diminishing judgments about myself, making diminishing decisions about my life. So, subsequently, I do not have to Try It Again!

Regarding the Second Fallacy mentioned above: Most therapies hold vehemently that pathology can only come from events which have occurred during the client’s life. Fortunately, this fallacy is being corrected by Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine. Over the last 35 years, there are now increasing numbers of National & International Associations & Societies;       the most recent the Hellenic Union of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine. Some of these, The International Society of Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Medicine, The Association of Pre & Perinatal Psychology & Health, The Association of National Education Prenatal of Italy, offer Professional Journals which contribute to the thousands of scientific studies already published proving the importance of innate emotional patterns from gestation, birth, infancy & early childhood.

As mentioned above, since 1970, beginning with the Siddhartha Foundation onward to the Whole-Self Discovery & Development Institute International, Troya & I have pioneered in Whole-Self Prebirth Memory Therapy© research & practice through the Prebirth Analysis Matrix©. This therapeutic model discovered that clients & patients, who in other therapies had been rejected as incurable, found that their pathology was actually a replication of mother’s, & sometimes father’s, charged reactions to traumas during their pregnancies were able to heal themselves.

One consideration is that there are many research papers exploring the impact of the events before, during & after conception & gestation, but there are far fewer theories & practices on how to change the innate patterns of behavior encoded in babies.

What this document has brought to our attention are several individuals amongst many, many colleagues who have been particularly significant in the 35 years we have been on this quest.

Firstly, Prof. Peter G. Fedor-Freybergh, Life President of ISPPM, originally named our work ‘Prebirth Memory Therapy’. Prebirth Memory Therapy is a simple, effective system for identifying, then nullifying or balancing these innate diminishing patterns.

Secondly, we are appreciative to ISPPM President Ludwig Janus. On entering our website www.Whole-Self.info , see the quote from him:

The Whole-Self© Model has the potential

to change the course of human evolution!

               

Thirdly, for the Scientific proof of our hypothesis we are indebted to Prof. Grigori I. Brekhman in his paper presented at an ISPPM Congress in Sardinia & published in the IJPPPM:

The conception of the multiple‑level co‑ordinated action

between the mother & her unborn child:

the methodological approach & the methods of research.

Quoting Brekhman:

Nowadays a lot of data obtained has confirmed the hypothesis

that the psycho-emotional interrelationships between the mother

& her unborn child is the reality… we (Brekhman) offered to

examine the mother-unborn child relationships based on the

idea of a permanently functioning multiple-level polyphonic

system. It has been assumed that if mother is a multiple-system embracing such levels as biological, energetical, astral, mental,

etc, to have intimate and fruitful interplay between her and the unborn, he (the unborn) must already possess the same levels

beginning with the zygote. Such a methodological approach

proved to be fruitful. The subdivision of this system into the

various levels is very relevant since baby is able to live &

develop harmoniously only if all its components properly

interact.

In this last sentence the word “only” is the operative word. Dr. Brekhman states that if there is such a process as a mother-unborn child dialogue – long advocated by Prof. Fedor-Freybergh – there needs to exist complementary resonant cohesive media systems which can recognize each others messages. In its very simplest terms the analogy is that for communication between them to exist, the unborn babies radio frequency is tuned to mother’s same radio frequency. Prof. Brekhman has proven that it does. Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education is confirming that just as each of us is the synthesis of our parent’s genetic coding which gives us our physical characteristics, there is also a synthesis of the emotional-mental patterns of our parents from the nine months of their pregnancy. This is exactly the multiple system Brekhman’s research proved to exist.

Why are Whole-Self Psychology, Philosophy & Education such powerful

& effective tools  for individual Discovery & Development?

As in familial diseases, there can be psycho-spiritual generational patterns inherited in families as well. I value the answers to the Whole-Self PAM Questions & their meanings because they help me to understand the ‘parable’ or ‘mythos’ of my family psycho-history. The key to my Life’s Streams® of Consciousness is found in the simple Whole-Self discovery that not only do I inherit my parent’s DNA, which give me my physical characteristics, but I am also the synthesis of their charged mental & emotional patterns from the nine months before my birth which gave me my emotional DNA© (eDNA©).

Did Mother have a Trauma?

Perhaps you would like to experience a simple example how this Whole-Self PAM works. Read the following Question & close your eyes to hear the answer, ‘Yes’ or ‘No’.

 

Please allow your Whole-Self to let you know if your mother

experienced any trauma or continuous diminishing circumstance

&/or feelings during her pregnancy. YES or NO?’

In the Whole-Self Prebirth Analysis Matrix exploring this question in some detail helps me to discover the innate non-conscious source of

my most frequently felt reactive feelings,

my most frequent diminishing self-judgments,

& my most frequently diminishing decisions in my life.

The familiar, even pathological, patterns, feelings, self-judgments, conclusions & decisions that I have repeated all through my life, may in fact, have been inherited from my mother’s ‘emotional DNA’.

 

Usually
reinforced after my birth by living in that family, my Whole-Self PAM Patterns are the charged beliefs, the mindsets & emotions with which I was born. It is these charged reactive mental & emotional patterns which have consciously & non-consciously controlled my life. Because feelings create behaviors, the Whole-Self Prebirth questions are particularly valuable to discover when dealing with Reactive Attachment Disorder & other disruptive behaviors.

Completing with Michael Mendizza again:

      We inherent our skin, hair & eye color from our parents,

along with allergies & a million other past life traits.

      The key to the whole past life business is that these obvious

          qualities & related behaviors are not past lives,

      they are expressing now. There is no past life.

           It is all happening now. You & I are expressing traits

           that fade off like a very long tail to the first spark of life

           on the planet & we are expressing all this right now.’

      

One final point: Studies in behavioral medicine show that it takes 21 consecutive days to change a belief or a behavior. At the completion of the Whole-Self PAM, we instruct in a simple technique called the Whole-Self 4th Dimensional Balancing to facilitate change.

 

These innate charged patterns are precisely

what I come into life to change.

 

* Whole-Self Discovery & Development is an active process

to Discover & Develop myself.

* My Whole-Self connects on my physical, mental, emotional

& spiritual levels all at the same time.

* Whole-Self Discovery & Development helps me to immediately

identify my problems.

* Whole-Self Psychology helps me to discover my conscious

& non-conscious diminishing beliefs about myself.

Diminishing beliefs about myself inhibit my energy & block me

from success in relationships, work & life.

* Whole-Self Discovery & Development offers me effective tools

to help me to change my diminishing beliefs about myself or life.

* Whole-Self Philosophy is a continuous inspiration for my individual

growth, development & evolution as a Whole Person!

 

We close with a simple fact: Mother Nature gives my little body – which is part of mother’s body – the ability – with support – to survive after three months, the next six months of my gestation is for my little body to practice   & rehearse so that after birth it can live on its own.

 

We close with a simple question for you: How can Mother Nature

provide practice & rehearsal for my little body as part of

my mother’s body

& not provide practice & rehearsal of my mental body inside her mind

& not provide practice & rehearsal of my emotional body in her emotions?

 

Information on the Whole-Self model is available on www.Whole-Self.co.uk  &  www.Whole-Self.infowww.whole-self-methode.de ,    

www.ionianet.gr/cosmoanelixis

If I want to change my life, my Whole-Self is waiting to support me!

 

Much Peace & Much Love! Jon RG & Troya GN Turner

(Email: Whole-Self@quicknet.nl)

 

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